Would you still go out tonight?

[shakinros]

DH and I have dinner reservations in the city tonight as a belated Valentines Day date. DD was sent home from school on Friday with a fever. Unsure if I should cancel the babysitter and stay home or not.

Pros to going: we already canceled this date once when DH was sick and it’s not that easy to get a table at this place. We have a table tonight and he & I are both well. We have a babysitter lined up. DD does not have a fever any more. She got up at her normal time and has been playing away this morning.

Cons to going: she is definitely not recovered. Scratchy voice, watery eyes, will still need to rest midday. The babysitter is new to us and is a neighborhood teenager. I’m feeling some guilt about bringing a teen I don’t know yet into a house with a sick kid.

As I type it out I guess we should cancel. WWYD?

[mae0111]

I always fully disclose to sitters if someone is sick. Sometimes they care (if they have exams that week or something) and sometimes they don’t (if they’re already getting over a cold or something too).

I’m overly cautious because it makes me crazy when people invite us over and tell us once we’re there that little Johnny was up puking all night or something.

I’m sorry... I think you’re going to wind up canceling again...

[waverly]

Its tricky because she might spike another fever. But fever free and if babysitter was OK with it then I would go. I get that babysitter is someone you haven’t used before though, and you want their first time to be under better circumstances.

[sdlaura]

I agree with mae0111 - I would disclose to sitter and see if she’s still up for it. We have a longtime sitter who is fine with minor illness, so unless one of our kids is truly miserable and really needs mom and dad, we still go out. I think your daughter is 7 like my oldest, so it’s not like babysitter needs to cuddle her a lot and would be likely to catch it - she could just limit physical contact and wash her hands.

[shakinros]

True sdlaura she is 7 and doesn’t need (or want lol) to be held when she’s sick.

Ok maybe I will check with sitter and see how DD is doing at lunchtime. I so want to keep this dinner reservation but I also don’t want to be a jerk to a new teen babysitter!

[mommyatty]

If she’s likely not contagious and is not a clingy sick kid, I would go if the babysitter was up for it.

[supertrooper1]

shakinros, did you end up going?

[shakinros]

Feb 24, 2020 11:41:27 GMT -5 supertrooper1 said:

shakinros, did you end up going?

We did not end up going.
I think if it had been one of our regular babysitters, I might’ve tried it, but I just didn’t ultimately feel ok leaving DD with someone brand new to her. Kid ended up staying home from school on Monday too.

I did end up making an A+ dessert for us with some leftover lemon curd and ingredients from the drugstore. So the evening wasn’t a total loss!