Child asked to use his tablet this morning. He isn't even allowed to use it on school mornings when he's not being a dope. I just looked at him like he had 11 heads. He said whaaaat and claimed he had no recollection of last night's events. Future politician here. Boy isn't getting shit back until he can take responsibility, even if it takes a damn year.
Child asked to use his tablet this morning. He isn't even allowed to use it on school mornings when he's not being a dope. I just looked at him like he had 11 heads. He said whaaaat and claimed he had no recollection of last night's events. Future politician here. Boy isn't getting shit back until he can take responsibility, even if it takes a damn year.
Yeah, I maintain that I’d bring the hammer down on this issue. Because your kid sounds clever and like he knows what he’s doing (or trying to do). My original verdict stands.
Child asked to use his tablet this morning. He isn't even allowed to use it on school mornings when he's not being a dope. I just looked at him like he had 11 heads. He said whaaaat and claimed he had no recollection of last night's events. Future politician here. Boy isn't getting shit back until he can take responsibility, even if it takes a damn year.
He’s crafty. My kid is like this, a real limit tester at all times, usually to her own detriment. For me the punishment lasts as long as it takes for me to know she really ‘feels it’. Part of a punishment like this for us is that she isn’t allowed to bring it up, like she usually gets her iPad back when she stops harassing me about it and proves she can entertain herself and behave without it.
Post by amandakisser on Feb 24, 2020 12:51:05 GMT -5
I don't think a week is too long, especially considering your update. Like other PPs stated, I usually have to come in pretty strong with punishments, or else they will continue to break the rules.
I basically had to take my kids' tablets away from them permanently. They don't get daily tablet time, nothing on the weekends, etc. They get to use them in special circumstances: planes, long car rides, when they're sick, or when I am forced to bring them somewhere where their silence is a non-negotiable. For my kids, if I give them an inch they will take a mile so I had to put in extremely strict guidelines in order for them to adhere to proper behavior (they were complete lunatics with daily tablet allowances).
This is not to say they get zero screen time - they watch a LOT of tv, but they also tend to keep the tv on and play or color, so it doesn't affect them as much.
Can you disable the tablet so he can't sign into the wifi at all? Only apps you download and only offline?
5 is young to fully understand the issues with electronics. I'd be inclined to set him up for success by either putting the tablet away completely until next year (or later) or at least nerf it when you return it.
Post by foundmylazybum on Feb 24, 2020 13:41:32 GMT -5
I'd take away for three days with an explanation that you were surprised|disappointed/shocked that he needed to use the tablet so badly he used deception, so we are going to take a break BC he seems desperate to use it, so a reset is in order..
Then consequence two: doing the reset: picking things to do together instead of zoning out over tablets and talking together about what you both enjoyed about the connection.
Consequence 3: he broke trust so rules change: I'd explain that we are going to keep the tablet in another area for awhile and when he uses it, he uses it in the living room, where its now mirrored.
I don’t think a week is too long at all, but I have a very sassy 5 year old and I’m a mean mom.
My kid regularly loses his iPad, mostly unrelated to iPad offenses but just because it’s his best currency. I word the the return like “You have the next week to prove to me that you can be nice/trustworthy/etc and then you’ll have the chance to EARN your iPad back.” He doesn’t just get it back for surviving a week without it. And I remind him every time he starts down that road - “Would you like to CHOOSE nicer words for your brother and continue earning your iPad back?”
And my kid absolutely understands the concept of 7 days. Last time, he did a count down every morning and night of how many days were left.