melmaria, its such a bittersweet feeling! I often find myself wishing DD2 will stop rooting to nurse because I'm pretty much over it, but I also don't really want it to end.
Post by farfalla2011 on Feb 24, 2020 13:20:31 GMT -5
L has been in his crib in his own room since around 6 or 8 weeks, but this weekend, I finally packed up the pack and play that we've had in our room since he was born since we never use it. But, it made me all sorts of sad since he's already getting that big! How he is growing up so stinkin' fast?
We tried oatmeal again with L over the weekend and as long as it's mixed with breastmilk, he will actually eat it! He's not a fan with formula, but whatever. It's so fun watching him grow up. Even if he protested going back to bed at 4 this morning again.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Feb 24, 2020 13:36:33 GMT -5
L is finally gaining weight! Looks like being dairy free is working.
He also had pancakes for breakfast yesterday and loved it. Tonight he ate dinner with us - chicken, sweet potatoes, and green beans. Again loved it. Looks like he’s a real food kind of dude as he much prefers this to purées.
Post by countthestars on Feb 24, 2020 13:37:04 GMT -5
DD is 6 and she has a big pimple on her labia that is driving her crazy. I don't think it rubs against her underwear but she says it hurts. It's currently white and huge. She doesn't want me to pop it but I don't know what to do for her. This is a dumb question, I know. Do I wait for it to pop on it's own?
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Update - warm compress and warm bath did nothing so I called the pedi for advice and she brought her in. DD was terrified so she gave us an oral antibiotic (10 days x 3/day) but said that if she was less traumatized, she may have just popped it there in the office.
Random: DD1 (5) lost her first tooth last night! She's growing up too fast.😢 I left her a dollar but couldn't find the tooth under her pillow (I'd intentionally left it somewhere I could easily reach it, but she apparently moved it), so I told her the tooth fairy leaves the first tooth because they know it's special to you. 🤷
Question: I know the standard advice for toddlers is to not correct their speech, just repeat the word/sentence back correctly. But does that still apply to 5-year-olds, or should I correct her more forcefully? She still says things like "goodest" and "baddest" instead of "best" and "worst", which I thought she'd have self-corrected by now.
DD has been sleeping like crap for 2 weeks. Last night she slept 12 hours, with only one quick wakeup when I fed her! H did wake me up 20 minutes before her first wake up because she hadn't woken up yet (130 am). It was her first night with a lovey and he went in to make sure she was still alive haha
This is a first. We got an email from daycare that BB wasn’t staying quiet during nap/rest time and even after warnings she didn’t listen.
I know she’s testing boundaries but this is also new territory for me. I’m a rule follower and up to know she’s been the same way.
The teacher asked us to talk to her about this tonight and of course we will. My thought is to go back to her star chart and have hear earn something for either napping or staying quiet when they have rest time. MH wanted to take something away but I’d rather have her work on her good behavior. Any other thoughts?
countthestars, I think I would have her do a nice long soak in the bathtub because that might release it. Then my answer is always Aquaphor to protect the skin from irritation.
This is a first. We got an email from daycare that BB wasn’t staying quiet during nap/rest time and even after warnings she didn’t listen.
I know she’s testing boundaries but this is also new territory for me. I’m a rule follower and up to know she’s been the same way.
The teacher asked us to talk to her about this tonight and of course we will. My thought is to go back to her star chart and have hear earn something for either napping or staying quiet when they have rest time. MH wanted to take something away but I’d rather have her work on her good behavior. Any other thoughts?
I absolutely think you should talk to her about it but if this is the first time this happened, I don't think you need to go to straight to punishments or a bigger "solution." And I kind of hate this kind of message from a daycare. I feel like these type of things need to be handled in the moment by the caregiver unless it's becoming an issue or pattern.
This is a first. We got an email from daycare that BB wasn’t staying quiet during nap/rest time and even after warnings she didn’t listen.
I know she’s testing boundaries but this is also new territory for me. I’m a rule follower and up to know she’s been the same way.
The teacher asked us to talk to her about this tonight and of course we will. My thought is to go back to her star chart and have hear earn something for either napping or staying quiet when they have rest time. MH wanted to take something away but I’d rather have her work on her good behavior. Any other thoughts?
I’d remind her she should be quiet but i wouldn’t do anything other than that. There’s really not much you can do since you aren’t there. Surely they can handle it I’m not really a fan of “punishing” at home for things that happen at school - let daycare/school handle it.
If it continues I’d just work with daycare on other things she can do - i used to send a little notebook with ds1 and they let him draw in that with a pencil.
Thanks jenny1223 and dcn. When she came home she was upset but not crying. We did talk about what happened and why we need to be quiet so our friends can rest.
Considering how sad she was I don’t think she will do it again.
Daycare did handle it but also asked that we reinforce and so we did.
Question: I know the standard advice for toddlers is to not correct their speech, just repeat the word/sentence back correctly. But does that still apply to 5-year-olds, or should I correct her more forcefully? She still says things like "goodest" and "baddest" instead of "best" and "worst", which I thought she'd have self-corrected by now.
We gently correct DD (4) on grammar, but not on pronunciation really yet. So when she says "I had the bestest day!" we'll say "oh, you had the BEST day, that's great. I love to hear you had the BEST day." But we leave it alone for now when she says she wants pancakes for "breffixt."
Random: DD1 (5) lost her first tooth last night! She's growing up too fast.😢 I left her a dollar but couldn't find the tooth under her pillow (I'd intentionally left it somewhere I could easily reach it, but she apparently moved it), so I told her the tooth fairy leaves the first tooth because they know it's special to you. 🤷
Question: I know the standard advice for toddlers is to not correct their speech, just repeat the word/sentence back correctly. But does that still apply to 5-year-olds, or should I correct her more forcefully? She still says things like "goodest" and "baddest" instead of "best" and "worst", which I thought she'd have self-corrected by now.
I actually do gently correct my Kinders, but don't make a big deal about it because it really isn't one. In response to "I had the goodest day!" I'll say something like "You had the best day. Try that." Then I make a big deal about it when the say it correctly. If she's not in Kindergarten yet, her teacher will likely correct her next year anyway, so you might as well start now
raangoli, if daycare called me every time DS didn't stay quiet at nap, I'd be getting a daily call, lol. I think this is kind of annoying honestly and I agree they should just handle it in the moment and maybe mention to you at pickup, but no need for a phone call.
raangoli, if daycare called me every time DS didn't stay quiet at nap, I'd be getting a daily call, lol. I think this is kind of annoying honestly and I agree they should just handle it in the moment and maybe mention to you at pickup, but no need for a phone call.
Ditto - our daycare notes on the app if C doesn’t sleep at nap time.
Sorry you’re dealing with this. I agree with those who’ve said it seems like a little much on daycare’s part.
Thanks all. The reason daycare followed up (via email, they don’t have an app to share notes on their day; they only share photos) was because even after a few attempts to get BB settle she wasn’t able to which is very outside of her norm.
I’m fine with them letting me know and don’t take issue with that. I’m glad they gave me the details of what they tried and that yes, she did eventually settle. I’m sure today will be a better day for her and the teacher wasn’t concerned at all when we spoke this morning at drop off.
We registered DS for preschool yesterday! Registration started at 6 PM and we got there at 5:58 and there was already a line of about 15 people! I hope he gets a spot. Otherwise, he will do preschool at his current daycare which I’m not in love with.
I’m kinda laughing at myself. I can’t believe I’m this anxious over him getting into preschool. I’ll be a disaster for college admissions.
We registered DS for preschool yesterday! Registration started at 6 PM and we got there at 5:58 and there was already a line of about 15 people! I hope he gets a spot. Otherwise, he will do preschool at his current daycare which I’m not in love with.
I’m kinda laughing at myself. I can’t believe I’m this anxious over him getting into preschool. I’ll be a disaster for college admissions.
I gave up and decided to do preschool at our daycare, which does not start until they are 4, rather than 3.
When we lived in VT, it was a free program statewide--all 3 and 4 year olds got to go to free daycare every morning for 3 hours. Every licensed daycare, including home daycares, were required to offer it.
Then we moved and it is not required NOR is it free. I looked at the town and there is a lottery for it, PLUS it is a cooperative, and I do not have time to volunteer on top of my already busy life. Plus I would need to pay ON TOP of our daycare costs and lose work hours hauling him from daycare to preschool and back (again, preschool is just 3 hours in the mornings).
I looked at alternative private daycares and they were $4000 a year ON TOP of the daycare costs.
We decided S would be fine with just doing preschool when he turns 4 at his current daycare.
Post by farfalla2011 on Feb 25, 2020 12:13:55 GMT -5
While I was still pregnant and getting ready to go on leave, it was very apparent that my job would be different when I came back from leave since there was a bunch of restructuring happening. Well, I do have different responsibilities which is fine and I still have a job, but they announced yesterday massive layoffs and they are walking people today I already know of a few really good people that are being effected and it really sucks. Luckily our management has given the okay for everyone to work from home this afternoon. The office is very somber right now.
Random: DD1 (5) lost her first tooth last night! She's growing up too fast.😢 I left her a dollar but couldn't find the tooth under her pillow (I'd intentionally left it somewhere I could easily reach it, but she apparently moved it), so I told her the tooth fairy leaves the first tooth because they know it's special to you. 🤷
Question: I know the standard advice for toddlers is to not correct their speech, just repeat the word/sentence back correctly. But does that still apply to 5-year-olds, or should I correct her more forcefully? She still says things like "goodest" and "baddest" instead of "best" and "worst", which I thought she'd have self-corrected by now.
DS1 (will be 5 in April) says "mines" instead of "mine." DH always parrots back the correct word. I don't bother. I figure he'll get it eventually and I'm just not that concerned about it.
Question: I know the standard advice for toddlers is to not correct their speech, just repeat the word/sentence back correctly. But does that still apply to 5-year-olds, or should I correct her more forcefully? She still says things like "goodest" and "baddest" instead of "best" and "worst", which I thought she'd have self-corrected by now.
When DS started official PreK at our daycare, he had an older, super experienced PreK teacher that has been there for like 20 years. Within a week, she mentioned that she would recommend we look into speech therapy for him (or infants & toddlers type thing or whatever is available through the state at age 4). We were shocked by the suggestion, because we thought we weren’t supposed to make a big deal about this kind of thing and let them figure it out.
So I don’t know when that advice officially changes based on age. At the time, the issues with DS were mixing up the /k/ and /t/ sounds. He would say tar instead of car, etc. We started pointing it out to him, and he corrected it within a week. No speech therapy needed! I think his teacher was being a bit alarmist. But it was a super easy fix that DS was receptive to. And that might be due to age.
I have tried to correct my 3-year-olds speech ONCE. That did NOT go well! lol So somewhere around 4-5 is probably okay to bring it up to them. Otherwise I think the incorrect words do become a little more ingrained as they get older.
DD is 6 and she has a big pimple on her labia that is driving her crazy. I don't think it rubs against her underwear but she says it hurts. It's currently white and huge. She doesn't want me to pop it but I don't know what to do for her. This is a dumb question, I know. Do I wait for it to pop on it's own?
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Update - warm compress and warm bath did nothing so I called the pedi for advice and she brought her in. DD was terrified so she gave us an oral antibiotic (10 days x 3/day) but said that if she was less traumatized, she may have just popped it there in the office.
I’m not sure if your still dealing with this or if it happens again, try a lancet. It’s sterile and you can’t feel the prick. My friends dad is a dr and told her to use them on white heads instead of popping them. Just an idea!
DD is 6 and she has a big pimple on her labia that is driving her crazy. I don't think it rubs against her underwear but she says it hurts. It's currently white and huge. She doesn't want me to pop it but I don't know what to do for her. This is a dumb question, I know. Do I wait for it to pop on it's own?
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Update - warm compress and warm bath did nothing so I called the pedi for advice and she brought her in. DD was terrified so she gave us an oral antibiotic (10 days x 3/day) but said that if she was less traumatized, she may have just popped it there in the office.
I’m not sure if your still dealing with this or if it happens again, try a lancet. It’s sterile and you can’t feel the prick. My friends dad is a dr and told her to use them on white heads instead of popping them. Just an idea!
Thanks! I actually have some from my gestational diabetes - I may do it while she's sleeping tonight to just get us out of this.
shauni27 - Yeah if we don’t get into our town preschool (also a lottery), I think we will also have to stick with daycare. Our town preschool is actually really great for working parents because they have before and extended aftercare options, as well as “camps” during February/April/Summer vacations. It will end up costing about the same, but I’m hoping a better experience for DS.
This is a first. We got an email from daycare that BB wasn’t staying quiet during nap/rest time and even after warnings she didn’t listen.
I know she’s testing boundaries but this is also new territory for me. I’m a rule follower and up to know she’s been the same way.
The teacher asked us to talk to her about this tonight and of course we will. My thought is to go back to her star chart and have hear earn something for either napping or staying quiet when they have rest time. MH wanted to take something away but I’d rather have her work on her good behavior. Any other thoughts?
I’d remind her she should be quiet but i wouldn’t do anything other than that. There’s really not much you can do since you aren’t there. Surely they can handle it I’m not really a fan of “punishing” at home for things that happen at school - let daycare/school handle it.
If it continues I’d just work with daycare on other things she can do - i used to send a little notebook with ds1 and they let him draw in that with a pencil.
I agree. My policy is that unless it involves threats or hurting himself or others (thankfully nothing like this has ever happened), that consequences for poor behavior at school are up to the teachers. I always have a stern talk with my child about the issue though and I usually hear back from the teacher that his behavior changed for the better after that.
Post by icedcoffee on Feb 26, 2020 14:05:20 GMT -5
My 3 year old who has not woken up MOTN in over 2 years woke me up screaming and crying hysterically at 2 am because his book was caught in his sheets (he insists on sleeping with multiple books in his bed). WTF, kid? It scared the SHIT out of me and it took me a while to fall back asleep. I thought something was seriously wrong.
Also--in regards to correcting speech mentioned above my H and I always use the words DS uses. For example, he says "yike" instead of like and we'll randomly be in the kitchen and one of us will say something like "Ohh--I don't want pasta tonight. I don't yike it." LOL. We probably need to stop this ASAP before he develops a complex.
My 3 year old who has not woken up MOTN in over 2 years woke me up screaming and crying hysterically at 2 am because his book was caught in his sheets (he insists on sleeping with multiple books in his bed). WTF, kid? It scared the SHIT out of me and it took me a while to fall back asleep. I thought something was seriously wrong.
Also--in regards to correcting speech mentioned above my H and I always use the words DS uses. For example, he says "yike" instead of like and we'll randomly be in the kitchen and one of us will say something like "Ohh--I don't want pasta tonight. I don't yike it." LOL. We probably need to stop this ASAP before he develops a complex.
Haha us too! Lemonade is wem-o-wade, and we can't ask for lemonade correctly anymore...
When we read to DD before bedtime, she just talks through most of the story. If your LO did this as a toddler, when did (s)he stop?
DD1 started losing interest in bedtime books at around 2.5 and we ended up dropping story time altogether It was around when DD2 was born so our whole bedtime routine was sort of shaken up by that. DD2 goes to bed so early and DD1 stays up later than she ever used to so we haven't been able to work it back into the routine. I hope to eventually because it never became a part of DD2s routine which makes me so sad for her.
Post by dreamcrisp1 on Feb 26, 2020 17:01:32 GMT -5
We had a paediatrician appt today (peds is not the norm here but we have been referred because of our issues). After seeing her, she sent us for blood testing and we have to get a urine and stool sample. But for the blood tests they clearly were not used to such little babies. They tried 2 different spots to get blood in his arm and could not get enough. It was horrible to watch. My heart was breaking. So I have to go back on Friday and the paediatrician will take the blood using an iv method or something? Blah.
My poor boy. I just hate this all so much. And his eczema is just not healing despite tomorrow being the last day on the antibiotics. So I need to email the dermatologist because idk what else to do. All of this just sucks so much. I really wish everything would settle and start looking up for us.