Post by icedcoffee on Mar 16, 2020 13:54:05 GMT -5
....and you're working from home. Are you sending your kid?
Our daycare is reopening Wed. Initially I was all "yep--we're sending you." and now they sent an email that made me feel guilty about it.
Like I guess I can keep them home, but since I have to work too it's going to really suck. They're 3.5 and 7 months so this is not an easy age for that. Today has been....really hard.
My mom could come down and help, but then I'm like how is that really better? She thinks all this social distancing is a major overreaction.
FWIW--We're socially distancing otherwise and we don't have a need to go around any immunocompromised people. Maybe my IL's could be considered immunocompromised, but we could just not see them.
Yes, DS's just sent an email that daycares do not fall under the governor's directive to "close all schools from Pre-K to college." I breathed a huge sigh of relief and will continue to send him. Other parents are clearly better at handling their toddlers at home than I am as DS's class only had around 6 out of maybe 18 kids in it today.
Post by Velar Fricative on Mar 16, 2020 14:01:15 GMT -5
Yes. I had planned to keep her home anyway because I just felt like if I could keep my kids home, I would to make their lives easier. And then shortly after I decided to keep her home, I found out DH was exposed to a confirmed case at school so that definitely validated our decision (and I told them about the exposure but I am really hoping we did not spread this before we knew anything about the case).
My work is closed through 3/31 (administration like me are still WFH though) so if we reopen on 4/1, I do plan to bring her as long as we've been asymptomatic since Friday when we found out, since we will be self-isolating the entire time. That would be almost 3 weeks so should be sufficient.
My kids are similarly aged (4 and 9m), and today they are at daycare because H and I are at work. H works for a state agency that is currently in the midst of a struggle between the union and the governor's office over WFH. When/whether he can start seems to change hourly. I'm prepared to pull the kids as soon as H can WFH with me to help me juggle, but the idea of juggling my job with both kids alone is overwhelming. So, I'm not sure.
ETA: DS was pretty much social distancing in his classroom today. There was only one other baby. I felt like #moty for sending him, but at least better than a full house?
We sent our 3 yo (and my husband & I have been on WFH for a week+). Schools in our area just announced closure for the next 3 weeks (inclusive of spring break). We're now debating whether we keep sending her or not. So...I can only speak to what we did today. Not sure what we'll do tomorrow!
I suspect we'll keep sending her this week & keep her home next week. My son goes to his dad's tomorrow (in another town) & is going to be exposed to a new crop of people anyway. We'll probably keep everyone locked down once he's back.
Oh and I want to add my 2 year old would never follow those cute schedules everyone is posting online. All the "I'm catching up on work when they nap" suggestions - well one of us has to drive him around in the car to get him to nap on the weekends so that's also no good. He is 100% a daycare baby and my mental health will be really bad if I have to wrestle him all day while knowing I have other work-ish stuff to do.
We kept our 2.5 at home even though the daycare is business as usual. Her older sister is home from public school so figured they could play together all week when not learning.
Oh and I want to add my 2 year old would never follow those cute schedules everyone is posting online. All the "I'm catching up on work when they nap" suggestions - well one of us has to drive him around in the car to get him to nap on the weekends so that's also no good. He is 100% a daycare baby and my mental health will be really bad if I have to wrestle him all day while knowing I have other work-ish stuff to do.
I would love to see all those effing schedules die. Fuck those schedules. My kid is a lunatic. LOL
Our daycare is still open but I'm planning to keep the kids home the days I work, Tues - Thur. They are almost 5 and 18 months. It will suck and I really want to send them, but since I'm home, I'm trying to do the right thing. I also really don't want to get sick, so it's really about protecting ourselves, LOL. H called today to find out if they were closing and they said they only had 15 out of their normal 80 kids, so I think most people are keeping their kids home. I'm glad they are staying open for those parents who can't WFH and need childcare, and also glad that most who can are keeping their kids home to minimize transmission.
That being said, I doubt I will be able to get much if any work done at home with an 18 month old and I hope my company can deal with it. It is going to SUCK. Being stuck at home with them already sucks.
Oh and I want to add my 2 year old would never follow those cute schedules everyone is posting online. All the "I'm catching up on work when they nap" suggestions - well one of us has to drive him around in the car to get him to nap on the weekends so that's also no good. He is 100% a daycare baby and my mental health will be really bad if I have to wrestle him all day while knowing I have other work-ish stuff to do.
I would love to see all those effing schedules die. Fuck those schedules. My kid is a lunatic. LOL
Around 11:15 am this morning the public school moms were like "Aaaaaaah they're working through the schedule much too fast, must add more to the schedule!"
We sent them today, and I decided to stay home. NJ just announced all pre-k through 12 schools closed starting Wed but I'm still unsure if that applies to daycares. DH is WFH now too indefinitely so I think we'll start keeping them home tomorrow and hope we can figure out how to alternate to try to be productive. I will feel much better with them being home.
Our daycare is still open but we are keeping them home for now. This is an easier decision for us because DH is a teacher and he's off (until 4/27!), but we are already going crazy. I live in an apartment and there is no where to go to have a quiet phone call. I took a call in my car today. DH already seems like he's going to run away at any minute.
I would love to see all those effing schedules die. Fuck those schedules. My kid is a lunatic. LOL
Around 11:15 am this morning the public school moms were like "Aaaaaaah they're working through the schedule much too fast, must add more to the schedule!"
At 11:15 my kid was having an epic meltdown in his room with the door shut.
Yes, DS's just sent an email that daycares do not fall under the governor's directive to "close all schools from Pre-K to college." I breathed a huge sigh of relief and will continue to send him. Other parents are clearly better at handling their toddlers at home than I am as DS's class only had around 6 out of maybe 18 kids in it today.
You're in NJ?
A co-worker said her daycare quoted the governor and dept of health in why they were closing starting tomorrow.
Post by keweenawlove on Mar 16, 2020 14:28:55 GMT -5
Right now we're leaving her in as long as it's open. I'm packing up to go fully remote starting tomorrow but my H's company is still planning to have everyone in the office full-time so it would just be me and her. I spent most of Dec/Jan trying to get some form of WFH done and was mostly unsuccessful. If daycare closes, we'll deal but getting around kids her own age has been so great over the last month I'd hate to lose all the progress we've made after she's had so many changes in her life so far.
Our daycare was open today, so we sent them. I'm torn. They have less kids because they're not doing before/after-school care for elementary-age kids, so I'm glad there are not as many kids/adults in and out. That said, I'm taking it day by day as to whether to send them or not.
Post by sunflower17 on Mar 16, 2020 14:43:48 GMT -5
I kept my 2 year old DD1 home. I’m home on maternity leave with my 7 week old DD2 and I had been sending DD1 to keep her routine. But now I feel like I need to keep her home to minimize exposure. H is a teacher and will also be home now.
Yes, DS's just sent an email that daycares do not fall under the governor's directive to "close all schools from Pre-K to college." I breathed a huge sigh of relief and will continue to send him. Other parents are clearly better at handling their toddlers at home than I am as DS's class only had around 6 out of maybe 18 kids in it today.
You're in NJ?
A co-worker said her daycare quoted the governor and dept of health in why they were closing starting tomorrow.
The Gov updated to say school closure didn't apply to daycares, but I can see many closing anyway.
Still waiting to hear back from ours. We will wfh but can't get much done with a 16mo old, so we too are considering still sending him if they're open. Figure it's better than one of our parents coming, especially since they all work. If they're closing we might get one if his teachers for a few hours a day so we can at least do some work. Not the best situation but it's all lose-lose.
Yes, DS's just sent an email that daycares do not fall under the governor's directive to "close all schools from Pre-K to college." I breathed a huge sigh of relief and will continue to send him. Other parents are clearly better at handling their toddlers at home than I am as DS's class only had around 6 out of maybe 18 kids in it today.
You're in NJ?
A co-worker said her daycare quoted the governor and dept of health in why they were closing starting tomorrow.
Yes and the email said "The recent directive from the Governor is calling for curfews, changes to business hours/services and schools to close. However, daycare/childcare centers such as ours are not included in this directive."
I have another kid in first grade attached to a large daycare. No email from that school/daycare yet about what they are doing with their K & 1 kids who are in the same building as the daycare kids. I'm heading out to pick her up so let's see what they say when I get there.
We kept them both (4yo and 21m) home today while H and I worked from home. It was hard. Daycare is open. At this point I'm hoping it closes and we are able to get a discount on tuition and we can pay someone to come in and help for a few hours in the morning. I'm not sure how we'll be able to keep up with work with the kids home if this lasts weeks.
Post by cherry1111 on Mar 16, 2020 15:48:32 GMT -5
We sent the 3 year old today. 7 year old is home for Spring Break and his district hasn’t officially closed next week but I imagine they will. I feel so guilty for sending her and may keep her home going forward. It will make working from home awful but I think it’s the right thing to do.
But omg if I have to call her “mommy” all day while I have to pretend to be the kid I will lose my ever loving mind before we have made it through 1 week of this.
DD’s daycare is also staying open. They said K and 1 will continue as usual and those grades don’t apply to the governor’s directive because they are technically a childcare center and not a traditional private school. There were 6 kids absent from first grade today but we ran into a mom of one of the absent kids at pickup. She said her husband wanted to keep him home today but tomorrow she will be bringing him back because she got almost no work done today.
Post by ellipses84 on Mar 16, 2020 16:24:53 GMT -5
I did today, and I talked to the director. They prefer people only send kids if they both parents have to work and it’s absolutely necessary. They were keeping with the strategy of under 50 people. Now that the White House is saying gatherings under 10, I don’t know...they have a call with the state tomorrow, so it could change or they could be shut down...
We decided over the weekend to keep them all home. It's Spring Break here, and only today at lunch did public school close for an extra two weeks. So DD was going to be home this week, I had already been planning PTO, and coincidentally DS1 got his tonsils out last week and definitely is not recovered enough to go back to school. So basically we were deciding just to keep DS2 home, though he's the hardest.
Next week and the week after will be much harder because I am planning to work at least half days (I always work remotely anyway). So DH and I will be juggling. Fortunately, DH is unemployed. Unfortunately, he's smack in the middle of interviewing at several companies and is spending all day studying and preparing. Plus the job market is probably crashing with the stock market, though he works in tech so it might not be so bad.
And yeah, we made a schedule. It's working pretty well so far, mainly because it just helps us not get on a rut or get hangry. Play time and snack time and screen time, and time for reading and crafts, etc. Most importantly, quiet time. It's not easy, but it helps. Also the schedule doesn't always apply to DS2, he does what he wants.
Post by redredwine on Mar 16, 2020 17:18:48 GMT -5
NOPE. HARD NOPE. Our daycare is open, they serve many families who have no choice but to work and CANNOT work from home. We are lucky we both have the ability to WFH and therefore, we're helping to flatten the curve by NO contact with anyone other our nuclear family. Its day 1. We have a 2.5 year old who isn't quite an independent player and it's inconvenient and OMG It will be the longest 30, 60, + days, but oh well! Would I love her to be at daycare?? YES. Does that help flatten the curve? NO!!! We will continue to pay, we understand they need to get paid, too.
It's the little "well, if I just do it, it's fine" that got us into this mess. I have coworkers in China, cousins in Japan. The ONLY way it has stopped there is because people haven't been like "well...it's easier if I just go out or send my kid to daycare" My cousins have a ONE bedroom apartment in Tokyo with a 5 and 8 year old. A coworker in China hasn't left her house in almost SIXTY DAYS (she's able to get deliveries) Could always be worse!
Thank you to those who are keeping their kids home if they're able have the choice.
Post by sarapocalypse on Mar 16, 2020 18:17:41 GMT -5
We kept our 19 month old home today. DH ended up taking today off since he had a flex day he had to take by the end of the month. I have no idea how we’ll manage tomorrow. We’re trying to coordinate and stagger time as much as possible. I told my boss today that I’ll likely need to just get work done when I can even if that means nights and weekends.
My kids are similarly aged (4 and 9m), and today they are at daycare because H and I are at work. H works for a state agency that is currently in the midst of a struggle between the union and the governor's office over WFH. When/whether he can start seems to change hourly. I'm prepared to pull the kids as soon as H can WFH with me to help me juggle, but the idea of juggling my job with both kids alone is overwhelming. So, I'm not sure.
ETA: DS was pretty much social distancing in his classroom today. There was only one other baby. I felt like #moty for sending him, but at least better than a full house?
OT but was curious about the WFH struggle - I'm guessing it was the governor against it?? It's been blowing my mind that state offices were still open today despite him advising businesses to close 🙄
OP - our daycare is closed so we didn't have to make this decision. If they were open I was thinking I'd send DD, but after learning about potential exposures at the office I was pretty sure I'd keep her home since the daycare providers are 70+. I managed to get a full work day in, but only because H was also home and just used PTO for most of the day...
Post by estrellita on Mar 16, 2020 18:31:28 GMT -5
I can't WFH but FX I can soon (they're working on it..). In the event I do, yes, we'll send them if daycare is open. I could potentially work with the kids, but it would be pretty difficult with these needy kids! Haha.