MTBT - March 17

[pandora89]

1. How far along are you?

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?

3. Questions for the group?

4. How are you guys coping? Are you WFM or still going into the office?

[janegold]

1. 26+3

2. I am having weekly ultrasounds for a shortening cervix; next one is this afternoon and very much hoping it has stabilized. My mom has been here for two weeks to help out b/c I can't lift or be too active, but she is leaving tomorrow. Luckily H, who usually travels full-time, is home now due to COVID-19.

3. My glucose test is next week. I forget from last time - what is the best way to prepare? Just avoid carbs the day of? My test is in the afternoon.

4. I'm WFH; my office has asked that we all do. I already WFH 3 days a week so it's not too big of a change, but having a 3 year old home full-time as well is definitely a bit challenging.

ETA: My midwife just called to reschedule a checkup for next week to a phone consultation. I still have two ultrasounds and a glucose test in the meantime, but I am anxious about this pregnancy and not thrilled to be missing an in-person appointment.  I get it though.

[madDawg228]

Mar 17, 2020 11:19:49 GMT -5 janegold said:

3. My glucose test is next week. I forget from last time - what is the best way to prepare? Just avoid carbs the day of? My test is in the afternoon.

My test is scheduled in April, and my doctor told me to not have a Costco-sized Muffin for breakfast - so yes, avoid carbs and probably sugar. I would avoid sugary drinks and maybe fruits, to be "safe."

I plan to eat plain scrambled eggs day-of, but I'm taking my test in the morning. I'll probably also try to keep my dinner the night before carb-light, because I'm paranoid/overly cautious.

[madDawg228]

1. 22w, 3d

2. I'm having a very bleak-minded kind of week, it's kind of the same level of worry mindset I had early in the 1st trimester. Virus worries take up too much of my brain-space throughout the day, and I really need to try to focus on anything else.

And more petty FWP worries, like I've also been bummed out thinking that all this stuff will keep me from having a baby shower, going on a "babymoon", and from having any visitors for the first several months of the baby's life.

I know that having a baby is a really isolating time, but COVID-19 will make it even more so - even in July and leading into the next cold/flu/coronavirus season.

3. What do you currently do to make yourself happy or to distract yourself while WFH/practicing social distancing?

4. See above. I started to WFH FT on March 6th.

[anastasia517]

1. How far along are you?
17 + 4

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
Good: I started feeling movement on Saturday!
Bad: Covid-19 worries have been added onto my regular levels of anxiety and it is not good. With everything changing so fast, I don't know how to feel prepared.

3. Questions for the group?

4. How are you guys coping? Are you WFM or still going into the office?
I'm a nanny. I have this week off for March Break and then school is canceled for the next two. As of now, I will have the three kids since both of their parents have vital jobs (detective + ICU doctor). The situation is stressing me out majorly, especially since recommendations for pregnant workers seem different in a number of countries. I have a midwife appointment tomorrow morning and I plan on asking some questions then.

[jennistarr1]

18 w

I thought I felt movement but haven't since, I would feel better if I could feel movement regularly

If they offer a telehealth appointment I am saying no, I need to hear heartbeat

We shifted to working from home

I'm nervous!

[anastasia517]

janegold good luck with getting in for measurements.

jennistarr1 I am feeling similarly. I am hoping the anatomy scan is considered vital enough that in-person appointments will happen in the next couple weeks.

[kiddoc]

1. 28+1

2. I have been so touched by how concerned my coworkers have been for my safety during this COVID pandemic.  I'm in healthcare, so have to go to work, but they have been trying to keep me away from sick patients as much as possible.  I'm feeling guilty about having our nanny watching our kids as there's a shelter in place order in effect here, but we have no alternative as my husband and I are both considered essential workers.    

3. None this week

4.  I'm having some anxiety and difficulty sleeping.  Both my husband and I are in healthcare and so are at higher risk of exposure to COVID, but as mentioned above, my coworkers are trying to minimize my risk as much as possible. My husband is in Peds, but I'm nervous he's going to get asked to work with adults in the hospital as they are likely going to need more bodies to help.  We unfortunately live in one of the areas where there are a lot of cases.  

[clseale]

I think I’ll jump in with you guys now. I was here last year with my second pregnancy, but we TFMR at 14.5wks after our son was given a very severe T18 diagnosis. We thought we were going to be done after that, but then a few days after what would have been my due date, we got a big surprise! Due 8/15, and we’re just chalking this little guy up as someone who was meant to be.


1. How far along are you?
18+4

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
AW: I am consistently feeling little kicks multiple times throughout the day. A few times I have even been able to feel them from the outside, but sadly it wasn’t when DH was around so he hasn’t felt him yet. We had our anatomy scan yesterday and everything was perfect.

Vent: Not really a vent, because I have total perspective that what is going on in the world right now is waaaaay more important, but we were supposed to leave this morning for a week in Grenada to celebrate our 10 yr anniversary. Dd (3) was coming with us and we rented this amazing house on the ocean with a pool. It was going to be our last big adventure/break together as a family of three, and while I 100% know we did the right thing by cancelling (obviously) I’m still sad to miss that time together as a family.

3. Questions for the group? Nothing


4. How are you guys coping? Are you WFM or still going into the office?
We’re ok. I have been a SAHM since dd was 16 mo, and DH is working from home.

[pandora89]

clseale - I wasnt here during your previous pregnancy but I followed all your posts. Congrats!! So happy to see you here.

janegold - My OB's office just told me to avoid anything super carby for breakfast, so no bagel or anything. 

[pandora89]

1. 26w2d

2. Feeling lots of movement all day and loving it! I have my glucose test in 2 weeks, not sure if thats going to go ahead as usual but I would assume so.

3. Nope

4. Okay, WFM and watching DS which is not fun. My manager told me to work from home last week as she didnt want to coming into the office (and taking transit) while pregnant. Thankfully the CEO shut us down the next day so everyone is working from home.

[seeyalater52]

1. How far along are you? 9+3

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? Our ultrasound went ahead this afternoon as planned and baby is getting so big! Waving little arms and legs around everywhere. I had some random spotting yesterday so it was a relief to see that he's safe in there. My wife wasn't allowed to come in bc they are restricting visits to patients only, but they allowed us to video conference during the ultrasound (typically that is not allowed.) Due to the virus they are reducing non-urgent appointments but they are still giving me another ultrasound mid-point between now and my NT scan on 4/13. So I'll be back on 3/30.

3. Questions for the group? I think we are going to need to put down a deposit on a daycare without going there in person. Any advice about how to handle this? We are scheduled for a tour on 4/3 but that is definitely not happening now and I really want to be sure we have a spot saved bc it's very competitive here.

4. How are you guys coping? Are you WFM or still going into the office? I've been working remotely since last week, as is my wife. We are basically self-quarantining. I am not coping well. My anxiety is through the roof and honestly I feel a bit personally attacked that we have been trying for so long and our first (so far) successful pregnancy is under these circumstances.

[jennysmitten]

1. How far along are you?
25 w

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
I could really use a massage, but that - along with any desperately needed eyebrow waxing- is off the table. Sorry H.

3. Questions for the group?
Am I  silly for hoping my baby shower could still happen on May 9? Should I cancel or try and reschedule? This is our first and likely only and I'm am feeling the self-pity, but will do what is right.

4. How are you guys coping? Are you WFM or still going into the office?
My office moved to WFH on Tuesday. I am already feeling the deprivation of human interaction, but Skype has been a godsend. DH is at home as well and I may freak out if won't pick up after himself in what I consider to be a timely manner. LOL

[madDawg228]

Mar 18, 2020 14:59:41 GMT -5 jennysmitten said:

3. Questions for the group?
Am I  silly for hoping my baby shower could still happen on May 9? Should I cancel or try and reschedule? This is our first and likely only and I'm am feeling the self-pity, but will do what is right.

I was hoping to have a baby shower in May too, but I'm not feeling optimistic about that still happening. MAYBE late-May to mid-June will be better, but the virus will still be out there. The social distancing (if enough people practice it successfully!) will "flatten the curve," and that means that the virus will be around for a longer period of time - it will mean less people will have to be hospitalized at the same time. Spring and Summer might still be cautious times in a lot of North America.

In the next couple of weeks, I plan to create 2-3 baby registries to have on hand if anyone asks if I'm registered anywhere, and hopefully there will be a couple of discounts from the stores for having those registries so I can purchase items myself for a little cheaper.

I really hope I can at least have a tiny/micro/<10 person shower in June, but I'm not holding my breath. I want to celebrate my first (and maybe only) baby with my closest friends and family, and I'm a sucker for all themed party/showers.

Pity parties are okay, there are a lot of people who are missing celebrating important life milestones right now

[jennysmitten]

Mar 18, 2020 15:26:26 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

Mar 18, 2020 14:59:41 GMT -5 jennysmitten said:

3. Questions for the group?
Am I  silly for hoping my baby shower could still happen on May 9? Should I cancel or try and reschedule? This is our first and likely only and I'm am feeling the self-pity, but will do what is right.

I was hoping to have a baby shower in May too, but I'm not feeling optimistic about that still happening. MAYBE late-May to mid-June will be better, but the virus will still be out there. The social distancing (if enough people practice it successfully!) will "flatten the curve," and that means that the virus will be around for a longer period of time - it will mean less people will have to be hospitalized at the same time. Spring and Summer might still be cautious times in a lot of North America.

In the next couple of weeks, I plan to create 2-3 baby registries to have on hand if anyone asks if I'm registered anywhere, and hopefully there will be a couple of discounts from the stores for having those registries so I can purchase items myself for a little cheaper.

I really hope I can at least have a tiny/micro/<10 person shower in June, but I'm not holding my breath. I want to celebrate my first (and maybe only) baby with my closest friends and family, and I'm a sucker for all themed party/showers.

Pity parties are okay, there are a lot of people who are missing celebrating important life milestones right now

You are confirming everything I have been thinking. I have started considering if I should suggest a virtual shower? That might just be lame and look gift grabby though. What timing we have! 

[julianabixby]

Mar 18, 2020 15:49:10 GMT -5 jennysmitten said:

Mar 18, 2020 15:26:26 GMT -5 madDawg228 said:

I was hoping to have a baby shower in May too, but I'm not feeling optimistic about that still happening. MAYBE late-May to mid-June will be better, but the virus will still be out there. The social distancing (if enough people practice it successfully!) will "flatten the curve," and that means that the virus will be around for a longer period of time - it will mean less people will have to be hospitalized at the same time. Spring and Summer might still be cautious times in a lot of North America.

In the next couple of weeks, I plan to create 2-3 baby registries to have on hand if anyone asks if I'm registered anywhere, and hopefully there will be a couple of discounts from the stores for having those registries so I can purchase items myself for a little cheaper.

I really hope I can at least have a tiny/micro/<10 person shower in June, but I'm not holding my breath. I want to celebrate my first (and maybe only) baby with my closest friends and family, and I'm a sucker for all themed party/showers.

Pity parties are okay, there are a lot of people who are missing celebrating important life milestones right now

You are confirming everything I have been thinking. I have started considering if I should suggest a virtual shower? That might just be lame and look gift grabby though. What timing we have! 

With our daughter a lot of my family and friends lived out of town, so we did a virtual baby shower.  We called it an Across the Country Baby Shower. It was fantastic - in particular because everything was delivered right to my house.  I've put the wording that was on the back of the invite below so people knew what to do if you wanted to use it as an idea:

Because most of XX's family and friends live out of the area, we thought this would be a unique way to "shower" her! If you would like to participate:
- RSVP to XX by XX Date (1 April for example) via email or phone
- On 1 April:
- go to Mom's registries (list them), select a little something from the list and let the store ship it for you
- if you would rather not use the registry and shop else where, please do! You may mail your gift to Mom's home address: list.

Our goal is that all gifts will arrive to Mom during the week of 1 April.

It honestly worked so well and all of the gifts arrived over the course of the week - also helpful because if I had gone to a shower and had to put them all away at once I would have been so overwhelmed ha! I think in these uncertain times for travel and get togethers, giving something people to look forward to and celebrate - even from a distance - would be so welcome for so many people!

[weetabix]

1. How far along are you? 30+1 today

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week? Only quasi-pregnancy related - my 3 year old's daycare is still open on a limited schedule, and we've continued to send him despite concerns about it. I work in finance and my H is a fed with responsibilities related to COVID-19, so both of our jobs have been insane lately and I can't imagine trying to work with him at home too. Between job stress, COVID stress (like WTF happens if I get it while pregnant???), trying to prepare for a new baby and massive guilt about continuing to send him to daycare since that would be my primary source of exposure AND I feel like a bad citizen, I'm kind of a wreck.

3. Questions for the group? Nope

4. How are you guys coping? Are you WFM or still going into the office? I've been working from home since last Thursday, which is good. Overall, I'm not coping super well (see above), but I'm managing.

[verycontrary247]

1. How far along are you?
15w5d

2. Pregnancy-related AW/vents/randoms for the week?
We had an elective ultrasound and baby is definitely my husbands child (very uncooperative for photos😂). Last ultrasound we had was at 7 weeks and she was just a blob so it was cool to see her look like a little person.

3. Questions for the group?
Are your doctors cancelling appointments? I have my 16 week appt next Friday and I'm wondering what to expect.

4. How are you guys coping? Are you WFM or still going into the office?
My husband gets to WFH for the next 2 months at least. I'm considered alpha personnel and have to come in for the foreseeable future. I work in IT for the city, so my whole week has been prepping *other people* to WFM 😑

[weetabix]

Mar 18, 2020 14:04:41 GMT -5 seeyalater52 said:

3. Questions for the group? I think we are going to need to put down a deposit on a daycare without going there in person. Any advice about how to handle this? We are scheduled for a tour on 4/3 but that is definitely not happening now and I really want to be sure we have a spot saved bc it's very competitive here.

I think I wrote to you a few weeks ago about going with your instincts on how you felt after seeing a daycare, but things are so weird right now, I would just put down a deposit (assuming it's not prohibitively expensive to do so) and try to get in for a tour whenever *all this* calms down a bit. It's not ideal, but for me I would probably feel better knowing we had somewhere lined up. Good luck!!

[weetabix]

Mar 20, 2020 11:17:37 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

3. Questions for the group?
Are your doctors cancelling appointments? I have my 16 week appt next Friday and I'm wondering what to expect.

None of my OB or MFM appointments have been cancelled yet. Since these appointments are time-sensitive and dependent on physical exams, I'm not expecting them to be (comparatively, my dental cleaning for next week has been cancelled, and my psychiatrist has moved to telemedicine).  I have received messages from both my OB and MFM that additional people (including partners) will not be allowed into appointments though. My OB has said they'll have to wait in the lobby of the office building, and won't even be allowed in the waiting room. My MFM practice will allow support people in the waiting room, but they can't come back to the exam rooms. The disparity could partially be due to the fact the MFM waiting room is MUCH bigger and easier for people to spread out.