Post by DotAndBuzz on Mar 26, 2020 22:33:15 GMT -5
No, we’re not. We’re both too scared. It sucks.
I moved into the guest room, and don’t expect to move back for a while. He’s already keeping his distance when hanging out at home.
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I think we’ll ultimately both get it, simply because of where he works, and the goal now isn’t just to avoid it, so much as it is to stagger our illnesses so we can still care for the kids.
Sorry, not lighthearted as requested/intended by the post. I’m in a funk, and pretty much hate everything right now. PMS isn’t helping.
I moved into the guest room, and don’t expect to move back for a while. He’s already keeping his distance when hanging out at home.
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I think we’ll ultimately both get it, simply because of where he works, and the goal now isn’t just to avoid it, so much as it is to stagger our illnesses so we can still care for the kids.
Sorry, not lighthearted as requested/intended by the post. I’m in a funk, and pretty much hate everything right now. PMS isn’t helping.
I’m sorry:( It’s ok to vent here ((hugs)). My H saw 17 pt’s today with covid. I’m remaining optimistic b/c he is using PPE, and b/c he’s medicine he’s not intubating or doing other high risk procedures, but still, it’s a lot of known exposure.
Good news, the ones he saw today were all doing well and *should* be able to go home soon!
This makes me so happy. It's so good to hear good news in all of this.
I deal with strong emotions by wanting to have sex. Like, after sad events (finding out my brother was getting divorced, my grandmother dying, the 2016 election, etc) I’ve been particularly horny. It’s not even just sexual pleasure but also feeling close with someone. Sometimes I’m even satisfied with a naked cuddle session. Maybe that’s an unhealthy coping mechanism, but whatever. I have a safe and willing partner, so why the hell not?
My H is currently WFH but he has been doing any supply shopping (only twice in the last two weeks). I am not currently worried about having sex because of that. That may change as more cases occur in my area.
But we will not be a baby boom statistic lol. I lack the necessary parts for that!
We are. We’re also still kissing like normal, and I still kiss my kids. It subconsciously occurred to me that I shouldn’t be, but we’re very affectionate in general and that would be an added stressor that I don’t think I’m up for right now. DS is also very affectionate with DD, and I don’t want to discourage that either, especially knowing it’ll probably happen on its own soon enough.
@@ I’m also nursing, so I feel like our house is generally going to be a free for all if one of us gets it anyway at this point. I’ve been reading mixed things about HC workers quitting nursing/pumping right now, but that’s something I absolutely cannot deal with considering.
Post by Jalapeñomel on Mar 27, 2020 8:06:06 GMT -5
We’ve had more regular sex than we’ve had in a while. We just plan it for first thing in the morning, and DH hasn’t gone anyway in two weeks, so he’s fine.
I’m infertile, so I’m sure we don’t need to worry about a baby in 9 months anyway.
We aren't health care workers are out in the world but I DO NOT want to have sex right now. I haven't been away from my H or DS in 13 days. He's growing a "social distancing" beard and we're eating more starch and sugar than normal plus we're low on wine. This is not a heady mixture in my house.
I’m with those who want more sex. Per usual though, DH doesn’t have the same drive as me. Luckily, he’s not really bothering me any more than usual, so that isn’t an issue. But being cooped up with the kids 24/7 has made it difficult to act on it and by the time they’re asleep, we’re both pretty wiped out. My MIL is going to start taking them on Tuesday and Thursday next week, so I think I’ll see if we can have sex dates on those days around lunch time.
Post by followyourarrow on Mar 27, 2020 9:11:52 GMT -5
I'm single, but had been casually seeing someone. I yelled at him last night over text, so dating isn't going well lol. He deserved it and was an idiot and I'm not about to put up with that behavior, but I also know I didn't handle it as well as I should have and normally would have, simply because of the stress of all of this and my family stuff going on. Oh and his response? He's sorry I'm pissed off. WTF dude, no. I haven't even bothered to respond, because no.
I have a FWB, and we do not see each other on a regular basis; we talk every day, but distance makes it hard to actually see each other. We had plans to see each other last weekend, but we mutually agreed it was best to not see each other. We both were too nervous. It has been hard. We video chat every night and I like " seeing" him, but it actually makes it harder.
I’m finding I want it more because the intimacy helps me feel less anxious.
But I’m also mentally and emotionally exhausted every night by 7 and the kids go to bed at 8/8:30. So that conflicts a bit.
This is essentially me. Fortunately or unfortunately, whichever way you want to look at it, we're both home more right now so morning or afternoon delights are possible. Hopefully no babies thanks to my Mirena.
I'll be completely honest (and apparently naïve) since I do work in (outpatient with severely cut hours) health care, but I haven't cut down affection with DH or either of my children. It honestly didn't occur to me.
Post by Shreddingbetty on Mar 27, 2020 11:58:16 GMT -5
I’m single so no issues there although had a little virtual fling a couple of weeks ago and I admit that can be fun as well and no chance of STDs or Covid 😂😂.
My ex and I are both in healthcare so still working. I work in an outpatient family medicine clinic so at risk some but nothing like those in the hospital although our residents do work in hospital. I limit my physical exams and only do them when really needed. I have my kid 50/50 and I still hug and kiss her and snuggle up in bed with her to read at night. She’d be relatively low risk as far as how sick she would get and she’s more likely to get it from me than the other way around. With other people I keep my distance although my nurse and I share an office so are 2 ft away from each other.
Along these lines I saw a meme that both made me laugh and go "hmmm" at the exact same time. Something along the lines of "Most of you should be more worried about the STD's you could have from the unprotected sex you've had than from getting the corona virus. I know a few people like that!
Post by NewGirlNic on Mar 27, 2020 15:29:31 GMT -5
Sex has been helping both of our moods. Anytime we start getting on each others nerves, we joke that we need to have sex. And it's true. It instantly puts me in a better mood. We still kiss like normal too. We are both working from home and have been since 2 weeks ago today.
And no babies here. We are one and done and I have the Mirena. It hasn't failed me in almost 11 years, so let's hope it stays that way! LOL
Post by lexxasaurus on Mar 30, 2020 10:07:38 GMT -5
I have several shifts a week as an 'essential' worker and thankfully he isn't scared of having sex or being affectionate with me. We figure we spend so much time together in a small apartment that if I get it, he is gonna get it, so why not have fun and boost our moods/calm my anxiety at the same time? WFH for my main job so we have more time to get naughty which is great with me, since I have an annoyingly high sex drive. Haha.
My husband is a healthcare worker. We figured we should stop kissing, but everything else is still in. I'm sure that's ridiculous. I'm also sure that if he was home instead of working every day the last thing I would want to do is have sex with him. Since my son got a Nintendo Switch it's very easy to "nap" in the afternoon on the weekend. On weekend mornings my husband gets my son up and he watches television while I sleep later, and sometimes my husband comes back to bed. Since my son knows it's in everyone's best interest to never wake me up, and because he will do anything to watch TV for as long as possible, he never comes looking for us on weekend mornings. We also have a lock on the bedroom door.
Post by cinnamoncox0 on Mar 30, 2020 11:19:18 GMT -5
I’m home but dh is essential and we are having normal if not more sex now. If he contracts it we will likely catch it from him anyway I am not thinking sex will make me more likely to catch it vs regular day to day interactions.
I get it. I'm... conflicted. In the beginning, my initial reaction was that we're definitely going to get it with DH's job (firefighter). But now it's officially in the area and DH had at least 3 contacts with Covid patients, along with a coworker that just got positive results over the weekend. They have less than stellar PPE available at his department.
So now I'm a sort of turned off, lol
Yeah, we're both going to get sick. But if it could be a different times, that would be great.
I could be down with no kissing for the time being.