@ Sunday 3/29 COVID Chat

[Velar Fricative]

I decided to submit the deposit for DD1’s summer camp that starts June 29th since they will give full refunds if summer camp doesn’t happen. I didn’t want to be caught scrambling in June or whatever. The idea of DD1 actually socializing and being outside feels really odd right now. It’s hard to envision a return to normalcy and eventually it will happen, but it’s a little frightening to think about.

[georgeglass]

My daughter's summer camp keeps sending updates and every time, my heart stops a little. It's her favorite place in the world and she looks forward to it all year. Plus, it's a 4 week overnight camp and it does a lot for her confidence and friendships.

[bowies]

We put a deposit down for DS last month but have heard nothing. I’m concerned. It’s through the Y and they’re all basically shut down but I’d at least like to hear something even if it isn’t terribly informative.

One of the things I miss most during this emergency is consignment shopping for the kids. It’s not something I’ll trust for a while, and I definitely don’t trust directly buying anything from Poshmark or ThredUp.

[keyslover]

We start distance learning tomorrow 😳

[mala]

It looks like H has strep, but we're waiting for the final culture to come back today. He's spent the past two days completly useless. And now it's almost 10 and he's still not up so I have no hope for actual help with the girls or the house from him today. I am going to loose my motherfucking mind. This is me at the end of my rope as a mom.

[penguingrrl]

I’m sad this weekend, over stuff that’s admittedly silly in the face of this pandemic.

My older daughter’s school play was supposed to be this weekend, and we don’t know if it will happen at all (it depends on if/when school resumes).

And my younger daughter was supposed to have her first softball double header this weekend. She’s been itching to get back to softball since her last game in December and her team worked really hard during winter training.

Like I said, small things in the grand scheme, but still a little rough.

[mbcdefg]

I was reading a news story to MH about how NYC Mayor deBlasio doesn’t want to talk about how he downplayed the virus weeks ago.

Me: Boy, deBlasio really pooped the bed on this one, huh?
DD (almost 3): He pooped in the bed?
Me: Haha, yes honey, sure.
DD: That’s not nice.

[Velar Fricative]

Mar 29, 2020 9:36:45 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I was reading a news story to MH about how NYC Mayor deBlasio doesn’t want to talk about how he downplayed the virus weeks ago.

Me: Boy, deBlasio really pooped the bed on this one, huh?
DD (almost 3): He pooped in the bed?
Me: Haha, yes honey, sure.
DD: That’s not nice.

He really has been terrible, which is so far from Cuomo and since they hate each other it probably grates on de Blasio even more lol.

DH suggested we start ordering birthday decorations for DD2 in case supplies really dwindle and we are still SIP. She turns 3 on 6/10 and it’s a toss-up what things will be like by then so we should probably just prepare in case it does turn into a Zoom party.

[litebright]

I found out this week that the conference that I am supposed to be at this week, which postponed, is now scheduled for what is *supposed* to be the first week back at school this fall. I was going to moderate two panels there, and the organizers want to know if I can still commit to that. If it was any other week, I'd say hey, no problem, I'll plan to be there and we'll see if it actually happens. But I feel like I should be plan to be around when the kids finally go back to school (our schools are closed through the rest of this school year). Assuming that they do go back as scheduled, it seems like it is going to be a huge transition after having so much time without regular school. Will they be in the next grade, how is this all going to be handled? I feel like I have no idea exactly what this coming week looks like (when we officially start distance learning), much less what going back to school is going to look like. Or even, if we keep having to do waves of social distancing until there's a vaccine, if they WILL go back as scheduled and all at once like a typical school year. And I'm sure teachers/admins/BoEs don't know exactly at this point, either, so it's not like there's someone I can ask.

I will probably just say that I can't commit right now, I guess. Who the hell knows where we'll all be and what will be going down in August.

[Velar Fricative]

penguingrrl, today was supposed to be an off-campus school party for DD1 that DH was going to take her to, and I had already bought her dress and everything which is now just sitting in her closet. It’s not the most horrible thing in the world, but still a little sad. And then I think about graduating students and other milestones and the whole thing just sucks.

[nsl]

Mar 29, 2020 9:32:45 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

I’m sad this weekend, over stuff that’s admittedly silly in the face of this pandemic.

My older daughter’s school play was supposed to be this weekend, and we don’t know if it will happen at all (it depends on if/when school resumes).

And my younger daughter was supposed to have her first softball double header this weekend. She’s been itching to get back to softball since her last game in December and her team worked really hard during winter training.

Like I said, small things in the grand scheme, but still a little rough.

It is totally fine to be sad about these things!  I think we do ourselves a disservice if we try to pretend like the events, occasions, and plans we had don't matter. 

For my part, I'm spending the morning still annoyed about the number of emails I got from my 3rd grader's school yesterday.  On a Saturday I received 5 messages via Class Dojo (which I have temporarily deleted from my phone) about completely trivial crap.  One of them was even soliciting photos of distance learning for the yearbook.  Every time I see one I get a spike of anxiety that I'm not doing enough to help my kids, and on the first weekend day of spring break it was just too much.  I wound up emailing the principal last night begging her to rein it in, and I don't think that I was the first one to contact her based on how quickly she responded and how strongly she agreed with me. 

[penguingrrl]

Mar 29, 2020 10:07:02 GMT -5 nsl said:

Mar 29, 2020 9:32:45 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

I’m sad this weekend, over stuff that’s admittedly silly in the face of this pandemic.

My older daughter’s school play was supposed to be this weekend, and we don’t know if it will happen at all (it depends on if/when school resumes).

And my younger daughter was supposed to have her first softball double header this weekend. She’s been itching to get back to softball since her last game in December and her team worked really hard during winter training.

Like I said, small things in the grand scheme, but still a little rough.

It is totally fine to be sad about these things!  I think we do ourselves a disservice if we try to pretend like the events, occasions, and plans we had don't matter. 

For my part, I'm spending the morning still annoyed about the number of emails I got from my 3rd grader's school yesterday.  On a Saturday I received 5 messages via Class Dojo (which I have temporarily deleted from my phone) about completely trivial crap.  One of them was even soliciting photos of distance learning for the yearbook.  Every time I see one I get a spike of anxiety that I'm not doing enough to help my kids, and on the first weekend day of spring break it was just too much.  I wound up emailing the principal last night begging her to rein it in, and I don't think that I was the first one to contact her based on how quickly she responded and how strongly she agreed with me. 

Thank you! I don’t blame you for reaching out to the principal, that seems ridiculous! I have no pictures of our remote education. I feel like I’m failing at it and have absolutely no desire to remember this later.

[penguingrrl]

Mar 29, 2020 10:05:32 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

penguingrrl, today was supposed to be an off-campus school party for DD1 that DH was going to take her to, and I had already bought her dress and everything which is now just sitting in her closet. It’s not the most horrible thing in the world, but still a little sad. And then I think about graduating students and other milestones and the whole thing just sucks.

Boo!!! We missed a similar sounding event this year for flu and it was the last year DD2 could go (and the first year we could afford to go). It was majorly disappointing.

[abs]

Mar 29, 2020 9:32:45 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

I’m sad this weekend, over stuff that’s admittedly silly in the face of this pandemic.

My older daughter’s school play was supposed to be this weekend, and we don’t know if it will happen at all (it depends on if/when school resumes).

And my younger daughter was supposed to have her first softball double header this weekend. She’s been itching to get back to softball since her last game in December and her team worked really hard during winter training.

Like I said, small things in the grand scheme, but still a little rough.

I totally get it. DD scores her first goal of the season in soccer right before spring break. Halfway through spring break the rest of the season was cancelled. She’s devastated and so am I.

[penguingrrl]

Mar 29, 2020 10:25:25 GMT -5 abs said:

Mar 29, 2020 9:32:45 GMT -5 penguingrrl said:

I’m sad this weekend, over stuff that’s admittedly silly in the face of this pandemic.

My older daughter’s school play was supposed to be this weekend, and we don’t know if it will happen at all (it depends on if/when school resumes).

And my younger daughter was supposed to have her first softball double header this weekend. She’s been itching to get back to softball since her last game in December and her team worked really hard during winter training.

Like I said, small things in the grand scheme, but still a little rough.

I totally get it. DD scores her first goal of the season in soccer right before spring break. Halfway through spring break the rest of the season was cancelled. She’s devastated and so am I.

That stinks!!!!

[tessalb]

My kids have been asking when they can see their grandparents. They don’t want to FaceTime anymore with their grandparents - they want to see them. We are SAH here in N.H. until 5/4, and after seeing the crowds at hiking trails this weekend (like Mt Major - search on FB for the video), I am getting angry that we might be here longer because of others not social distancing.

[breezy8407]

I think its time to order supplies for my kids' birthdays. I have been trying to buy nothing, but with only 3 weeks, it might take that long or longer from Amazon.

Some of DD friends parents were talking about some summer camps, since they are old enough to do more this summer. I feel like its futile to sign up. I guess we will get our money back, but I don't want her to get excited for it. Or anything for that matter. I feel like I've let them down so much and even though we try to tell them why this is happening, I still feel the mom guilt.

[CloudBee]

DS was supposed to go to a week of overnight summer camp for kids with medical needs. The director had taken the time to pair him with a one on one aide. The works. But now they've cancelled every single session for the entire summer. Devastating.

He was also signed on as an official member of a local university soccer team through another organization that works with children's hospitals. They were going to have a draft day ceremony. The works. Also cancelled. But his 2 year contract kicked in a few weeks ago. So he's going to miss out on probably 6+ months of this experience. He never even had the chance to meet the team. We will be connecting through video conferencing this week, and he will likely get setup to play chess virtually with a few players, etc.

It's amazing how in the blink of an eye life can change this drastically.

[CloudBee]

Mar 29, 2020 10:34:12 GMT -5 breezy8407 said:

I think its time to order supplies for my kids' birthdays. I have been trying to buy nothing, but with only 3 weeks, it might take that long or longer from Amazon.

Some of DD friends parents were talking about some summer camps, since they are old enough to do more this summer. I feel like its futile to sign up. I guess we will get our money back, but I don't want her to get excited for it. Or anything for that matter. I feel like I've let them down so much and even though we try to tell them why this is happening, I still feel the mom guilt.

Definitely order today. A few toys we've had in our Amazon cart, including puzzles, have suddenly gone out of stock or have a delivery date a month out. They are very obviously prioritizing food and household items, toiletries, etc. 

DS had his birthday last week, and I am so happy that I ordered his gifts back in Jan / Feb.

[mandymay]

My son woke up to “leprechaun” coins all over the floor in his room, leading to a pile in our living room. He was super disappointed on St Patrick’s Day when he woke up and didn’t find any coins near his leprechaun trap (we were social distancing and couldn’t buy any coins that would get here in time). My son thought it was because the leprechaun was upset he tried to trap him so he wrote the leprechaun a letter, decorated the outside, and put it in the mail box. Lol! I forgot to take it out before our mail guy delivered mail. I’m sure he was all wtf to it. I ended up hiding the letter in the garage and my son told us “see! You don’t need an address to send a letter to a leprechaun!” Lol!

The coins were delivered yesterday and my husband scattered them about before we went to bed. It was certainly the best way to wake up, hearing my son super excitedly telling us about all the coins the leprechaun left. He was so excited his letter worked! Oh, to be 5 again!

Oh, he’s decided he’s not doing a trap next year. He doesn’t want to upset the leprechauns.

[krystee]

Mar 29, 2020 10:05:32 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

penguingrrl, today was supposed to be an off-campus school party for DD1 that DH was going to take her to, and I had already bought her dress and everything which is now just sitting in her closet. It’s not the most horrible thing in the world, but still a little sad. And then I think about graduating students and other milestones and the whole thing just sucks.

If you have the energy (I’m not sure if I do at this point!), I would totally have them get dressed up and dance in the living room (get some video) and maybe have dessert together (in the house obviously, but a special treat). But if that sounds like yet more work, don’t do it!

[ohgillian]

I got an email from DD's teacher that there's a google hangout tomorrow from 12 to 1. We are already on a schedule that works for us and lets both DH and I work full time. I don't see how I'm supposed to accommodate remote learning on the school schedule. We have the kids learning - they do an hour of math and ELA daily plus a science hour. Do I have to do the school stuff? I need to work!

[TamiTaylor]

My mom guilt has kicked in full gear. J is an only child and an extrovert Not getting to play with kids is hard on him. I am not worried about academics at all but more about socialization. We have done some video chats but it’s just not the same. He loves sports and baseball has been canceled. It’s hard and my heartbreaks for him.

[simpsongal]

I was a little sick Thursday so my in laws said they want to put off watching the kids Tuesday. Understandable, but I cried. But we’ve had 1 break with our 3 and 6 yr old since March 15th. And they fight. And my 3 yr old can be awful.

I’m so tired. I’m Feeling better and since I’m feeling fine I started drinking bourbon at noon. Dd is watching frozen 2 for the 5th time.

This is my life now.

[abs]

Mar 29, 2020 12:01:12 GMT -5 TamiTaylor said:

My mom guilt has kicked in full gear. J is an only child and an extrovert Not getting to play with kids is hard on him. I am not worried about academics at all but more about socialization. We have done some video chats but it’s just not the same. He loves sports and baseball has been canceled. It’s hard and my heartbreaks for him.

Same.  This has kicked up so many repressed feelings about not being able to have another child.  DD is old enough that she understands and isn't complaining but I can tell she misses her friends so much.  She has written letters to them all and is constantly on Kids Messenger.  I'm having a really hard time wrapping my head around the idea that she won't see another kid for potentially months.  

[bears]

My kids are broken-hearted that they can't play with our neighbors (who are the same age as they are). Yesterday all the kids were coloring the street in front of the driveways with chalk (about 15' apart). Adorable and heartbreaking, all at once.

Once my son's cast comes off, I'm planning to get water squirters for both sets of kids so they can have water fights over the property line.

[orval]

Mar 29, 2020 11:49:31 GMT -5 ohgillian said:

I got an email from DD's teacher that there's a google hangout tomorrow from 12 to 1. We are already on a schedule that works for us and lets both DH and I work full time. I don't see how I'm supposed to accommodate remote learning on the school schedule. We have the kids learning - they do an hour of math and ELA daily plus a science hour. Do I have to do the school stuff? I need to work!

is there any reason you need to be on the google hangouts?  Can you show her how to log on and let her do it?  

[ohgillian]

Mar 29, 2020 12:19:46 GMT -5 orval said:

Mar 29, 2020 11:49:31 GMT -5 ohgillian said:

I got an email from DD's teacher that there's a google hangout tomorrow from 12 to 1. We are already on a schedule that works for us and lets both DH and I work full time. I don't see how I'm supposed to accommodate remote learning on the school schedule. We have the kids learning - they do an hour of math and ELA daily plus a science hour. Do I have to do the school stuff? I need to work!

is there any reason you need to be on the google hangouts?  Can you show her how to log on and let her do it?  

Thanks, I don't know. Maybe not? I don't even know what a google hangout is (I mean I guess I do? it's like a video meeting?) or how to do it. Do you think it can be done on an ipad? I can google this, I just haven't yet. 

[orval]

Mar 29, 2020 13:34:46 GMT -5 ohgillian said:

Mar 29, 2020 12:19:46 GMT -5 orval said:

is there any reason you need to be on the google hangouts?  Can you show her how to log on and let her do it?  

Thanks, I don't know. Maybe not? I don't even know what a google hangout is (I mean I guess I do? it's like a video meeting?) or how to do it. Do you think it can be done on an ipad? I can google this, I just haven't yet. 

I don't know how to use it but my kid does!  It is like a chat I think. I would highly doubt a parent needs to sit there.  It might be just to get the class together for some social time.  I think you can do it on an ipad.  maybe someone else knows! 

[ohgillian]

Mar 29, 2020 13:40:55 GMT -5 orval said:

Mar 29, 2020 13:34:46 GMT -5 ohgillian said:

Thanks, I don't know. Maybe not? I don't even know what a google hangout is (I mean I guess I do? it's like a video meeting?) or how to do it. Do you think it can be done on an ipad? I can google this, I just haven't yet. 

I don't know how to use it but my kid does!  It is like a chat I think. I would highly doubt a parent needs to sit there.  It might be just to get the class together for some social time.  I think you can do it on an ipad.  maybe someone else knows! 

This makes me realize I should ask my older kid. Thanks!