Post by megster20185 on Mar 29, 2020 15:33:11 GMT -5
Ok so I’ve started thinking ahead about Easter. We are definitely postponing Easter with my husbands family. We all agreed on that as my brother in law and his girlfriend both work in healthcare. We are supposed to celebrate Easter with my family on my moms birthday which is April 25. We have been in isolation for 2 weeks now except for 2 trips to the grocery store. I know that my parents have done exactly the same thing. If we were to visit with my parents as we have planned I would completely isolate all of us (as in no trips to the grocery store) for 2 weeks beforehand and I would ask them to do the same. We should be fine if we do that right? It would just be my family of 5 plus my parents. If it helps at all their main residence is New Jersey however they also have a beach house in lewes, de which is where they have been for the past week and we would have Easter there. The complex where their house is has a private beach so the only other people who would be there would be the other homeowners which wouldn’t be many as most of the other homeowners also use their houses as a vacation home. Also if it helps I live in a very rural area in Pennsylvania and so far there are only 11 cases in our county. Sorry for what turned into a long post.
Post by thebreakfastclub on Mar 29, 2020 15:54:52 GMT -5
Whatever happened with the prior post about the grad party conflict and all that other stuff with the Orthodox Easter?
Honestly I would just let Easter go this year and have a get together over the summer or when things return to normal. It's just not worth devoting much emotional energy to it, given how fluid the situation is.
Whatever happened with the prior post about the grad party conflict and all that other stuff with the Orthodox Easter?
Honestly I would just let Easter go this year and have a get together over the summer or when things return to normal. It's just not worth devoting much emotional energy to it, given how fluid the situation is.
All cancelled. There are so many cases in that area there is talk of closing ny, nj, and ct. hence celebrating Easter in Delaware because we likely won’t be able to get into nj.
Skip it and tell your parents to stop going to Lewes for a while. They don’t have the resources for extra people right now.
My parents have what they need. They are staying there for a while. They are safer there than at their main residence in New Jersey because of the fact that there aren’t many people around.
Post by expectantsteelerfan on Mar 29, 2020 17:02:23 GMT -5
There are too many what if's in my opinion. What if they shut down travel while you're there and you are all stuck there? Would that be an issue? What if your parents did happen to get sick after Easter, how would you feel knowing you *may* have somehow exposed them? From what I've read, travel, even by yourselves to a home you won't share with ANYONE else, is not advised because you could be bringing the virus from one area to another, regardless of how careful you are (I mean, you'll likely have to stop for gas along the way, use restrooms, etc.). Stay at home means stay at home unless you HAVE to leave, at least for us.
Whatever happened with the prior post about the grad party conflict and all that other stuff with the Orthodox Easter?
Honestly I would just let Easter go this year and have a get together over the summer or when things return to normal. It's just not worth devoting much emotional energy to it, given how fluid the situation is.
All cancelled. There are so many cases in that area there is talk of closing ny, nj, and ct. hence celebrating Easter in Delaware because we likely won’t be able to get into nj.
The travel advisory is more about keeping people from getting OUT of NJ than getting INTO NJ. Your parents are the vectors right now and health officials want to keep people from hot spots from infecting neighboring states. A LOT of people will be skipping Easter and Passover this year. Instead of all the mental gymnastics to justify why you’re a special snowflake in all this, just stay home and maintain the spirit and letter of what we’re supposed to be doing right now.
We are completely isolating ourselves except for groceries/ pharmacy. It’s going to get so much worse before we turn the corner.
I know. That’s why I was trying to figure out a way to have Easter safely. But I think we will be skipping it this year. My parents are 64 and my mom has had her thyroid out.
Skip it and tell your parents to stop going to Lewes for a while. They don’t have the resources for extra people right now.
My parents have what they need. They are staying there for a while. They are safer there than at their main residence in New Jersey because of the fact that there aren’t many people around.
It’s more that their hospitals really aren’t set up to handle this, but hopefully they won’t need medical care.
There are too many what if's in my opinion. What if they shut down travel while you're there and you are all stuck there? Would that be an issue? What if your parents did happen to get sick after Easter, how would you feel knowing you *may* have somehow exposed them? From what I've read, travel, even by yourselves to a home you won't share with ANYONE else, is not advised because you could be bringing the virus from one area to another, regardless of how careful you are (I mean, you'll likely have to stop for gas along the way, use restrooms, etc.). Stay at home means stay at home unless you HAVE to leave, at least for us.
I hadn't even thought about the possibility of getting stranded there. But we determined we aren’t going to go.
My parents have what they need. They are staying there for a while. They are safer there than at their main residence in New Jersey because of the fact that there aren’t many people around.
It’s more that their hospitals really aren’t set up to handle this, but hopefully they won’t need medical care.
They have already been isolating themselves for weeks and they aren’t sick so I think they are good.
I’m sorry. Cancelling everything is heartbreaking, but it’s what needs to happen to get past this as soon as possible.
Maybe you could focus your energy on something that you can do together, but separately? Agree on a menu and have everyone eating the same meal together via Zoom (or whatever platform you choose), find a game that you can play on a meeting together, etc.
I get it. We cancelled a trip to see my parents right as this started in our area. There were three cases in my state (and none in our county) and none within 100 miles of my parents, but we chose to stay home. I still haven’t decided if we made the best choice. I would do anything to be able to hug my mom and dad right now...and I know they’re incredibly lonely. It really sucks, and it’s hard...but it saves lives.
Easter is my very favorite holiday. It is the foundation of my faith, and I love being able to celebrate with minimal cultural expectations. I love Easter morning services followed by a meal with people I love...but it’ll have to wait this year.
Post by lolalolalola on Mar 29, 2020 18:30:49 GMT -5
Similar to the others, I would not go. We are not having Easter dinner with my family. I'm sorry, I know it is hard.
FWIW, our beach town is telling people not to come because they don't have the medical facilities to handle vacation owners, and their hospital has only one ventilator. (Notwithstanding their other essential services are not staffed for the vacation owner crowds like they are in the summers)
Post by cherry1111 on Mar 29, 2020 18:47:10 GMT -5
I wouldn’t. This all really sucks but let’s all do as we are supposed to. The more people who think their situation is special, the more spread we will have. Stay at home means stay at home.
It’s more that their hospitals really aren’t set up to handle this, but hopefully they won’t need medical care.
They have already been isolating themselves for weeks and they aren’t sick so I think they are good.
Everybody "thinks they are good." I don't mean to be harsh, but everybody thinks they've been careful, that they won't be the one that gets sick, and among shore house owners, everybody also thinks they're safer at the shore where the population is less dense and fewer cases have been reported.
The problem is, everybody isn't right. The area does not have as many hospital beds, ICU beds, medical providers, ventilators, etc. as would be needed to provide the care that statistics tell us will be needed if beach house owners flock to the shore. Doesn't matter how careful everybody is.
My dad has a shore house in Cape May county, and they're begging owners of seasonal homes to stay away. The Outer Banks is now closed to non-residents for the same reason. I understand your family's already there so this may be moot, but please don't reinforce the idea that it's totes fine to be there just because they've been careful.
We are thinking of doing an egg hunt at my grandparents' house, in their backyard. They have a high balcony and can watch from up high. No contact and more than 6 feet distance. We have the same kind of set up at my parents' house so might go there too. Other than that, we have been doing extreme social distancing. No dinner though and no other relatives.
We’ve been spending time with my parents this whole time. We’ve now all been self isolating for over two weeks. We only interact with each other, but we interact with each other a lot (they are watching our 3 kids for a few hours each day so we can WFH and keep our jobs and we just went to their condo for dinner tonight). They live on the east coast but have a condo here on the west coast, two miles from our house, and we are lucky they got stuck here after arriving on February 29. They are 70 and 71, my mom has some liver issues but no other health problems.
That said, we really agonized over the decision to keep seeing them and if we’d didn’t need them for childcare we probably wouldn’t have.
Since you don't have plans already due to the Grad party, DON'T FUCKING MAKE NEW PLANS. I'm sorry that it sounds like Easter is important to you but this year it is postponed. Facetime with your parents.
Don't fucking travel to another state either. It isn't that hard. I expect your rural area to get shut down soon. I'm in a ruralish area and our county is locked down. We had one case last Sunday, 67 yesterday.
Sorry for being harsh but as someone in healthcare it angers me that people don't seem to be taking this seriously.
Since you don't have plans already due to the Grad party, DON'T FUCKING MAKE NEW PLANS. I'm sorry that it sounds like Easter is important to you but this year it is postponed. Facetime with your parents.
Don't fucking travel to another state either. It isn't that hard. I expect your rural area to get shut down soon. I'm in a ruralish area and our county is locked down. We had one case last Sunday, 67 yesterday.
Sorry for being harsh but as someone in healthcare it angers me that people don't seem to be taking this seriously.
ETA: we are at 97 today.
If you had taken the time to read the comments you would have known that there was no need to be rude. We have already decided to stay home. I can’t go now anyway because Maryland has closed their borders.
Since you don't have plans already due to the Grad party, DON'T FUCKING MAKE NEW PLANS. I'm sorry that it sounds like Easter is important to you but this year it is postponed. Facetime with your parents.
Don't fucking travel to another state either. It isn't that hard. I expect your rural area to get shut down soon. I'm in a ruralish area and our county is locked down. We had one case last Sunday, 67 yesterday.
Sorry for being harsh but as someone in healthcare it angers me that people don't seem to be taking this seriously.
ETA: we are at 97 today.
If you had taken the time to read the comments you would have known that there was no need to be rude. We have already decided to stay home. I can’t go now anyway because Maryland has closed their borders.
Since you don't have plans already due to the Grad party, DON'T FUCKING MAKE NEW PLANS. I'm sorry that it sounds like Easter is important to you but this year it is postponed. Facetime with your parents.
Don't fucking travel to another state either. It isn't that hard. I expect your rural area to get shut down soon. I'm in a ruralish area and our county is locked down. We had one case last Sunday, 67 yesterday.
Sorry for being harsh but as someone in healthcare it angers me that people don't seem to be taking this seriously.
ETA: we are at 97 today.
If you had taken the time to read the comments you would have known that there was no need to be rude. We have already decided to stay home. I can’t go now anyway because Maryland has closed their borders.
I did read the comments. I'm reiterating what stay the fuck at home means. It means stay the fuck at home. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Where do you see Maryland closed their borders? I see they have a stay at home order but so does PA and that wasn't stopping you from contemplating going. 🤷♀️
If you had taken the time to read the comments you would have known that there was no need to be rude. We have already decided to stay home. I can’t go now anyway because Maryland has closed their borders.
I did read the comments. I'm reiterating what stay the fuck at home means. It means stay the fuck at home. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200.
Where do you see Maryland closed their borders? I see they have a stay at home order but so does PA and that wasn't stopping you from contemplating going. 🤷♀️
I can’t find an article so it may not be true. Someone posted that on Facebook. Some counties in pa are under a stay at home order. Mine isn’t yet but we have been isolated for 2 weeks anyway. I suspect that our county is soon to follow as the county next to us now has a stay at home order.