I woke up at an unspeakable hour because H was snoring in my ear. Then started coughing. Then the baby coughed in her crib (but didn't wake up). And then I couldn't get back to sleep because all the terrible "What if"s were running through my head.
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It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
Post by Jalapeñomel on Mar 31, 2020 7:47:17 GMT -5
So it’s official that they took away our spring break, even though we didn’t take a single day off for the closure (we went to distance learning the next day, 3/12).
My kids are gonna be crushed, exhausted, and way overworked.
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
i feel the same way. A few days ago, I texted a fellow mom, “I hate anyone who doesn’t have young kids.”
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
I’m sorry. If we lived near each other I would force us to be family so we could work together, I know that’s not helpful or at all possible or responsible.
Edit : can you work out a deal with them, get through today and tomorrow you can say fuck it all and just play games or something?
DD’s therapist told us (and I know her principal and teacher would agree) that if it’s too much don’t make it miserable. Bake a cake or cookies or something. Pretend your learning fractions.
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
So I really dislike how so much has fallen on me. DH is busier than ever and even though he's home he's on-line from 8 to 6 or 7 everyday. He had to start blocking lunch to even take 20 mins to sit with us. I on the other hand just have to make the time I loose during the work day helping the kids later on making my day go on forever. I keep trying to sleep in but people (cough cough DH) talk to me during the precious extra hour I could sleep given that I no longer commute.
Yesterday I got very nauseous and dizzy to the point that I couldn’t stand up. DH was at work and I was home with my boys. My anxiety of course made me wonder if these were COVID symptoms so I took my temp, even though I knew they weren’t. I figured out it was vertigo, which has only ever happened to me once before. I asked my older son to find me Benedryl, as I know it can help with the dizziness in a pinch. My 6 year old stood next to me and said, “You aren’t going to die, mama.” It broke my heart. And made me realize that he’s been seeing too much COVID news.
So it’s official that they took away our spring break, even though we didn’t take a single day off for the closure (we went to distance learning the next day, 3/12).
My kids are gonna be crushed, exhausted, and way overworked.
I guess I am confused as to why they are doing this. What is the benefit? Seems like it is going to make things so hard for families and teachers. ETA: I do understand the concern about providing meals to those who need them, but couldn't they still provide meals without requiring online instruction?
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
I’m sorry. If we lived near each other I would force us to be family so we could work together, I know that’s not helpful or at all possible or responsible.
Edit : can you work out a deal with them, get through today and tomorrow you can say fuck it all and just play games or something?
DD’s therapist told us (and I know her principal and teacher would agree) that if it’s too much don’t make it miserable. Bake a cake or cookies or something. Pretend your learning fractions.
Thank you! That's very kind and actually was helpful just to read. I agree about not making it miserable, and I do think they learn from cooking. It's just the challenge of working while they're here.
I’m very curious as to whether the birth rate will show changes, following this whole situation. Has anyone seen any articles with projections?
I'm curious too because I'm all into population data and trends even when we're not in the middle of a pandemic.
Despite all the jokes about coronavirus babies, I think we'll see a birth rate decrease due to the high unemployment. Maaaaaybe there will be a brief uptick in December/January but I think as SIP continues, that uptick won't last.
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
Ditto. I can't get over how much I resent this situation. Especially those that keep posting about it on FB. I know this is hard for everyone in different ways, but trying to WFH with a toddler fucking sucks. One of my bosses has older kids and keeps telling me how much he's enjoying this and saving money and how we should look at the bright side. My head almost exploded (well, actually, I broke down sobbing after I got off the phone with him).
Yesterday I got very nauseous and dizzy to the point that I couldn’t stand up. DH was at work and I was home with my boys. My anxiety of course made me wonder if these were COVID symptoms so I took my temp, even though I knew they weren’t. I figured out it was vertigo, which has only ever happened to me once before. I asked my older son to find me Benedryl, as I know it can help with the dizziness in a pinch. My 6 year old stood next to me and said, “You aren’t going to die, mama.” It broke my heart. And made me realize that he’s been seeing too much COVID news.
How awful to have that happen when home alone with the kids. I hope you're doing better today. And man the comment by your 6 year old ☹️
A few years ago I had benign paroxysmal positional vertigo for a few days. Luckily I was able to get it to stop by doing the Epley maneuver a few times and it hasn't happened again.
Three of my closest friends at work are childless. About the time we were starting our first day of online learning, one of those friends texted me saying she had Miles Davis on the record player, a nice candle burning, and her favorite coffee ready to work from home. I said "can I come over? I am willing to take the chance right now."
I also had trouble sleeping last night for the first time in a while. I am so terrified of something happening to H or me, or even just us both being sick at the same time and not being able to take care of our kids. Then I remembered that because I had pre-eclampsia, I have a higher risk for heart disease and hypertension. I currently do not have either, but this is what my brain does at night.
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
So I really dislike how so much has fallen on me. DH is busier than ever and even though he's home he's on-line from 8 to 6 or 7 everyday. He had to start blocking lunch to even take 20 mins to sit with us. I on the other hand just have to make the time I loose during the work day helping the kids later on making my day go on forever. I keep trying to sleep in but people (cough cough DH) talk to me during the precious extra hour I could sleep given that I no longer commute.
So very this. I am struggling with how much has fallen on me when my job is objectively more important to our family (I make double what DH does and carry the health insurance), but somehow I’m dealing with 80% of the childcare and all the cleaning and somehow trying to stay afloat at work. Meanwhile DH is “tired” and “needs to rest.” We are both working from home, and I’m losing more sleep because our baby is still up 3-4 times a night.
Post by karinothing on Mar 31, 2020 9:03:35 GMT -5
Week 3 of distance learning and I think DS1 is losing steam. He typically starts at 9am but has been just reading in his room for the past hour and asked me for a day off. He literally only does school work for 1-2 hours a day, so even though its boring I am not really that sympathetic lol. Which maybe is mean, but whatever I have to work 8 hours a day!
Post by eponinepontmercy on Mar 31, 2020 9:07:14 GMT -5
As far as the birth rate goes, I think there are going to be more first babies born. People who are already dealing with a child of any age home 24/7 will be doubling and tripling up on birth control.
I ordered DD the next three books in the graphic novel series she's been reading. (Cleopatra in Space, if anyone needs a recommendation.) She's not a big reader, but she really likes these. This may cut down screen time by 20 minutes or so.
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
Ditto. I can't get over how much I resent this situation. Especially those that keep posting about it on FB. I know this is hard for everyone in different ways, but trying to WFH with a toddler fucking sucks. One of my bosses has older kids and keeps telling me how much he's enjoying this and saving money and how we should look at the bright side. My head almost exploded (well, actually, I broke down sobbing after I got off the phone with him).
I'm so sorry. What a tone deaf thing for him to say. I also feel like his wife might not say the same thing; that's stereotyping I know.
As far as the birth rate goes, I think there are going to be more first babies born. People who are already dealing with a child of any age home 24/7 will be doubling and tripling up on birth control.
I ordered DD the next three books in the graphic novel series she's been reading. (Cleopatra in Space, if anyone needs a recommendation.) She's not a big reader, but she really likes these. This may cut down screen time by 20 minutes or so.
I will take all the reccomendations! B (nearly 8) goes through books like I did, which is to say quickly, but getting her into new stuff is a challenge. You should check out the Cats in Space series. It might be rightup her alley.
It's the 5th school day in a row where H is at work and the kids don't listen to me as well, DD is being slow and whiny and only 12 hours to go til H gets home.
ETA: Guys, I know I'm a broken record, but the amount of anger I feel at colleagues without children at home is almost unmeasurable. I am hanging on by the barest of threads.
Ditto. I can't get over how much I resent this situation. Especially those that keep posting about it on FB. I know this is hard for everyone in different ways, but trying to WFH with a toddler fucking sucks. One of my bosses has older kids and keeps telling me how much he's enjoying this and saving money and how we should look at the bright side. My head almost exploded (well, actually, I broke down sobbing after I got off the phone with him).
Yep, the toddler is so difficult because she’s, well, a toddler! On my team, two coworkers have teens and the other doesn’t have kids. So I’m struggling the most. H has calls at different times during the day so we haven’t been able to set a schedule. I’d make up some of the time at night once she’s in bed but I’m so worn out at that point.