What are you asking for this Mother’s Day?

[trissie18]

Red maple trees for our front yard.

[sent]

I asked for the family room to be cleaned up, a pizza I like but no one else does, and some dinner takeout from a restaurant I like and haven’t had in a while.

[SusanBAnthony]

May 6, 2020 15:08:40 GMT -5 Susie said:

All I really wanted was some kid-free time to take a bike ride outside, and maybe some help cleaning out our basement workout room.  But gifts are H's love language, so I am getting a Garmin Vivoactive 4s.  This is fine with me -- I have a 2 year old Fitbit, and it annoys me that I have my daily data in the Fitbit app and my workouts/routes all in Garmin Connect because all my fitness watches have been Garmin.  I really would prefer to stick with one platform, and my ties to Garmin are tighter.  I wouldn't have spent the money myself until the Fitbit dies but I guess that's why it's a gift.  

May 6, 2020 14:13:13 GMT -5 beerlover said:

I always was kind of annoyed about Mothers Day after I became a mom, because I just wanted to do what I wanted on that day and not be visiting all over the place.

I have never had a mom and been a mom on mother's day (my mom died about 10 days before my first MD as a mom -- which super sucked), but I definitely feel this. Not to say moms of adult children shouldn't be acknowledged or anything (they should!), but I am firmly of the opinion that the activities on MD should revolve around the moms who are still in the trenches and are probably exhausted.

Between the situation with my own mom and being one of those "in the trenches" moms now, I tell H he's welcome to go do whatever with MIL on mother's day, but if he does, he needs to take the kids and I get the down time while they're gone. I don't go with. In normal years it's win/win.

This is my stance as well. We've never had major conflict about it because I e just put my foot down from day 1 and I give no fucks. MD is about me. The end. I'm the only one around here (waves hands) whose doing any kind of day to day mothering.

Sending your H's with the kids to his mom's house for oh..... 12 hours sounds about like the perfect MD for me, lol.

[sillygoosegirl]

Neither of us realized it was mothers day until my dad texted late last night with a guilt-trippy request for us to come visit him and my mom for MD. We barely knew it was May. DH is super into MD, and cleaned house all day because he didn't plan anything. Which is great. I hope he never ever plans anything else for MD ever again.