@@ Naya Rivera missing presumed dead.

[just]

Heart breaking situation.

www.washingtonpost.com/nation/2020/07/09/naya-rivera-glee/

[TR]

I read that this morning and it's so sad. And scary, that she could just disappear like that. I'm an average swimmer and would assume I'd be fine in a lake, there are no rip currents or waves like in the ocean.

[Velar Fricative]

What an awful story.

[Jalapeñomel]

Water is so beautiful and so fucking terrifying.

My heart goes out to the family, what a tragic loss.

[Velar Fricative]

Jul 9, 2020 9:05:11 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Water is so beautiful and so fucking terrifying.

I've noticed as I've grown older I am more fearful of the water. Like, I think back as a kid and how fearless I was at beaches. I was never a great swimmer so I wonder how I never had a scary experience. I feel okay in pools (well, ones with lifeguards around like at the gym or public pools) and small lakes but beaches now scare the shit out of me.

[wanderingback]

Jul 9, 2020 8:42:01 GMT -5 TR said:

I read that this morning and it's so sad. And scary, that she could just disappear like that. I'm an average swimmer and would assume I'd be fine in a lake, there are no rip currents or waves like in the ocean.

Yeah it’s so sad.
I’m not trying to victim blame at all but I think that’s why it’s advisable to never swim alone because even strong swimmers can have a medical emergency in the water and not be able to save themselves.

And some lakes do have waves. When I’ve done triathlons only in lakes it’s definitely deterred me from doing ocean ones because even lake waves freak me out!

I feel so bad for her family.

[taratru]

That is so heartbreaking.

[pugz]

So horrible

[jezebel]

As a parent who does stuff alone with her kid a lot, this is my biggest fear. I’m always so afraid something will happen to me and my child will be alone.

[glitzy07]

Jul 9, 2020 10:08:06 GMT -5 jezebel said:

As a parent who does stuff alone with her kid a lot, this is my biggest fear. I’m always so afraid something will happen to me and my child will be alone.

Agree. I once fell down the stairs while home alone with my stepson. I was so lucky that I didn't slam my head on the way down and get knocked out. After that I immediately taught my then 3 or 4yo SS how to call 911 or get help from a neighbor if something happened to one of us and the other parent wasn't around.

I read that Naya's son was asleep on the boat with a life jacket on when found.

[erbear]

Jul 9, 2020 9:11:07 GMT -5 Velar Fricative said:

Jul 9, 2020 9:05:11 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Water is so beautiful and so fucking terrifying.

I've noticed as I've grown older I am more fearful of the water. Like, I think back as a kid and how fearless I was at beaches. I was never a great swimmer so I wonder how I never had a scary experience. I feel okay in pools (well, ones with lifeguards around like at the gym or public pools) and small lakes but beaches now scare the shit out of me.

Yup. I was a lifeguard for years and my husband was a beach guard.

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We still don't let our kids (11 and 9) go in without an adult right next to them. I watch them like a hawk even if they are just playing in the surf. The ocean is no joke.

What a sad story

[Poeticxpassion]

So heartbreaking.

[chickadee77]

Oh, man. So sad.

[picksthemusic]

This makes me so sad. 😔

[breezy8407]

This is heartbreaking.

[moreace01]

Jul 9, 2020 9:48:14 GMT -5 wanderingback said:

Jul 9, 2020 8:42:01 GMT -5 TR said:

I read that this morning and it's so sad. And scary, that she could just disappear like that. I'm an average swimmer and would assume I'd be fine in a lake, there are no rip currents or waves like in the ocean.

Yeah it’s so sad.
I’m not trying to victim blame at all but I think that’s why it’s advisable to never swim alone because even strong swimmers can have a medical emergency in the water and not be able to save themselves.

And some lakes do have waves. When I’ve done triathlons only in lakes it’s definitely deterred me from doing ocean ones because even lake waves freak me out!

Yeah was going to add that there are rip currents and waves in lakes - Lake Michigan for sure (where I live) - you can surf the lake at times.   I'm a strong swimmer and still always say to respect the water, even in a pool - the water is always stronger than you. 

Anyway, very sad news. 

[shauni27]

Jul 9, 2020 10:08:06 GMT -5 jezebel said:

As a parent who does stuff alone with her kid a lot, this is my biggest fear. I’m always so afraid something will happen to me and my child will be alone.

Yes, the part that makes me choke up over and over is thinking of her little child sitting in the boat, so scared and alone. How awful.

We were out on our pontoon over the weekend (on the river) and the current caught me at one point (very very minimal current, and I am a strong swimmer) and started to pull me under the boat. It was terrifying for a moment but I swam out of it, plus had tons of other adults with me. I can easily see her getting caught up under the boat and knocking her head and sinking. 

Such a tragic and sad story.

[lilibet]

It's so sad and I feel so bad for her son.

[rubysoh0]

Ugh; this story made me feel sick.
My dad died when I was 5 and I was left alone overnight until my mom came to pick me up the following day (they were separated). I can’t put into words how traumatizing an experience that is and I pray her son is too young to carry it with him.

[W.T.Faulkner]

Jul 9, 2020 11:57:06 GMT -5 rubysoh0 said:

I am so sorry this happened to you. My heart breaks for her son. 

[was5]

rubysoh0, I'm so sorry. Like others, I feel terribly for her family and especially her son. It's gut wrenching.

[downtoearth]

This is so sad. I'm so glad the 4 year old is okay, but how traumatizing. So sad.

rubysoh0, that is so heart breaking to hear about your experience. Hugs.

[underwaterrhymes]

This is so sad. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about this all day.



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My little one turns 5 next month and I keep thinking about how scared her baby must have been.

[underwaterrhymes]

rubysoh0 I’m so sorry. ❤️

[Jalapeñomel]

Glee has a pretty dark cloud over it.

[TamiTaylor]

Whenever I am home overnight with just my son and I, I always tell two different people (mom and mil) to call me at X time and that if I haven’t called them back within 10 minutes to send someone to my house to check on us.. I am absolutely terrified of doing with my son alone here. Although now he is old enough to call 911 should anything happen. My husband thinks I am overboard but this is absolutely one of my biggest fears.

[just]

Jul 9, 2020 17:16:15 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Glee has a pretty dark cloud over it.

This is one of the first things that came to my mind too.

[jezebel]

Jul 9, 2020 17:16:15 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Glee has a pretty dark cloud over it.

Right?? Cursed for sure

[imojoebunny]

This breaks my heart. When you are boating or swimming, especially, alone, always wear a life jacket. I grew up with a beach house and a lake house. One of my earliest memories, I remember sailing with my brother when we were 5 and 7, alone on the lake, early in the morning, and we capsized a Hobie cat, it was fine because we had life jackets, and someone came by, who helped us turn it back over. We had other boats later, but always, life jackets. I am not afraid of water, and now we have a place on a river, as do my parents, and my brother lives on the water, too. Life jackets save lives, and sometimes I have felt like a giant ass when I force people to wear them, either on a boat or in the river, but not on my watch. Too many times, the life jacket has saved me or others I am with. I hope the child knows that this was an accident, nothing he could have done. It is very common for boaters not to wear life jackets. It is only required by law here, until the age of 13.

[sent]

I can't bring myself to click on the link. She was so awesome in Glee.