What does one wear to casual dates outside in a park, since that is all we can do? If we are walking and getting coffee, I’d do cuter yoga / gym clothes. But the park or the few patios that are open? Help a girl out.
ETA: I have more dating questions. LOL. In the time of COVID, how does this work? Do I hug when we meet? Do I get to kiss him? Is this like a bigger condom discussion (that one, I know how to have): "I'd like to kiss you, but first I need to know how big your pod is. When was the last time you touched or breathed near a person who is not a member of your household?"
To a park? I'd wear cute shorts, a cute top, and walk-able sandals. For the patio I'd probably do the same, but I live where it's 90+ degrees from mid-June til the end of Sept. Maybe a knee length sundress or a cute romper. I'd roast in jeans.
Oh my goodness, this is exciting. Haha. Is your divorce final- not judging, just jealous. I agree I would wear something casual, but cute. I was also thinking sundress, or nicer top with whatever for bottoms. I don't know that anyone is getting super dressed up for anything right now, but a pulled together casual look works!
My first date post-divorce was so exciting!! Not that this is necessarily your FIRST post-divorce date, but i still remember how much fun it was...Anyway!
I wore a maxi dress and flat sandals with a crossbody bag. We had a super casual date where we went for a couple drinks, took a long walk through the downtown area where we met for the drinks, and then got ice cream.
One of my best first dates with someone post divorce was a casual lunch. I wore a t-shirt dress and flip flops because we had joked on the phone about how much I hate wearing “real” shoes. I was so comfy and felt great the whole date. An hour after I got home, he called and asked if I was free for dinner because he had a great time and knew because of my custody schedule I wasn’t free again for two weeks. So we had pizza and watched a movie and I wore sweats. It worked out because I’ve been married to this person for 7 years now.
Guess my point is, wear what makes you feel comfortable and like “you”. The date will be a lot more fun that way.
In the pre-Covid time of my first date with BF we took a walk around a cute downtown area and had popsicles. I wore a sundress and Chacos, which is totally my summer uniform. I had no expectations beyond hoping it wouldn't be a total disaster, so that helped me feel at ease.
I totally agree with the “wear what makes you feel like you” advice. I also think there’s also an element of #regional here. What I’d wear on a date in New York is not what I’d wear on a date in Boulder, Seattle or SF.
Like for me, it HAS to be shoes I can walk in. I’ve fully embraced the sneakers-for-every-occasion trend. If you’re a guy who wants a girl who wears heels on date nights, we’re probably not a match.
Post by followyourarrow on Aug 6, 2020 10:18:26 GMT -5
Shorts and a cute top with sandals. Really wear whatever you feel good in through. I've been seeing someone for a little while and our first date it was over 100 degrees out, so I was not wearing jeans or anything dressy. I warned him in advance that I would be in shorts and casual, he was too. Thankfully he likes me for me.
Oh my goodness, this is exciting. Haha. Is your divorce final- not judging, just jealous. I agree I would wear something casual, but cute. I was also thinking sundress, or nicer top with whatever for bottoms. I don't know that anyone is getting super dressed up for anything right now, but a pulled together casual look works!
It is exciting. I think? My divorce is not even close to final but I've been up front about that. Ex and I get along fine, and so far everything is easy. We are just waiting for my refi to go through before we finalize everything.
That said, I may have jumped the gun here? I have NO CLUE what I am doing. Haven't been on a date in 18 years.
It's going to be 64 degrees here today (Seattle). I think I'm going with jeans and an off-shoulder top, red strappy sandals. I'll be comfortable in this, minus the strapless bra, but it's definitely a "me" outfit, assuming that at some point he'll also see me in yoga clothes. Sorry, Queen Dick, Hibernating Bear.
My first date post-divorce was so exciting!! Not that this is necessarily your FIRST post-divorce date, but i still remember how much fun it was...Anyway!
I wore a maxi dress and flat sandals with a crossbody bag. We had a super casual date where we went for a couple drinks, took a long walk through the downtown area where we met for the drinks, and then got ice cream.
Have fun!!!
It is my first date with this guy, technically my second post-divorce date. But the first was super last minute and I didn't have time to perseverate on all things beforehand.
Honestly, I would NOT hug or kiss and would expect him to respect that. If he isn't concerned about hugging or kissing an essential stranger during a pandemic, he's not the guy for me. If you decide to continue dating, you can have conversations about safety and isolating and when it might be ok to get closer physically. I would want to know him well enough that I could trust he was being honest about what he's doing when you're not together. I know that takes time and basically sucks, but it's kind of like having unprotected sex with a new person - you wouldn't do that until you knew them and their health pretty well, and this is not really any different.
Real answer? I probably wouldn't be dating during the pandemic, especially with your divorce so recent. I understand single people don't necessarily want to stay single forever because of a virus, but in general it's not a bad idea to take some time between your old life ending and worrying about finding a new partner anyway. Adding in the danger of close contact with new people, I don't honestly think it would be worth it. I'd take the time to focus on the freedom of being responsible for 1 adult's needs/schedule/happiness - yourself - for at least a few months first.
Honestly, I would NOT hug or kiss and would expect him to respect that. If he isn't concerned about hugging or kissing an essential stranger during a pandemic, he's not the guy for me. If you decide to continue dating, you can have conversations about safety and isolating and when it might be ok to get closer physically. I would want to know him well enough that I could trust he was being honest about what he's doing when you're not together. I know that takes time and basically sucks, but it's kind of like having unprotected sex with a new person - you wouldn't do that until you knew them and their health pretty well, and this is not really any different.
Real answer? I probably wouldn't be dating during the pandemic, especially with your divorce so recent. I understand single people don't necessarily want to stay single forever because of a virus, but in general it's not a bad idea to take some time between your old life ending and worrying about finding a new partner anyway. Adding in the danger of close contact with new people, I don't honestly think it would be worth it. I'd take the time to focus on the freedom of being responsible for 1 adult's needs/schedule/happiness - yourself - for at least a few months first.
You are not wrong. I know I'm being impulsive with dating. This is the reality of a marriage being over long before the actual separation happens.
That said, I have no problem waiting to make physical contact.