I mean even Dan Savage is not recommending people date... even poly people aren't. I guess he's ok with glory holes though.
Just be smart I guess... keep masks on, discuss risks prior, no hugs/kisses... yadda.
Well there are all sorts of poly people flying around Bumble... so they must not be listening to Seattle's finest love guru.
So many ENMs and poly guys on bumble!
I was wearing a ridiculous Eagles t-shirt and low top chucks when I had my first date with my BF. We met up after football on a Sunday and I said, hey I don't feel like wasting 2 outfits today, so I'm just wearing the outfit I had on at the bar earlier (I went home and ate a bunch to sober up before the date 😂). It worked out because he was wearing an Eagles sweatshirt as well.
Update: we have discussed following all protocols (obviously masks, etc., were not up for discussion per se, but he said of course he's following) and not touching.
Dammit. I want to make out. (not Dammit, I'm sad that he agreed we won't. Rather, Dammit, I'm sad that we are in a pandemic and we can't.)
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Update: I wore distressed jeans (my SIL assures next that I am not too old for these 😬), red clog-like sandals, and a black off-shoulder top. We met at a restaurant that had a patio, which was super close to where I work. I figured Thursday, 5:30, pandemic... it would be safe. HA.
He was super nice. Great conversation, cute, didn’t seem to lie about anything on his profile. Towards the end though, a woman who I swear I have never seen before, came over and introduced herself as the mom of a former student (I do remember — fondly — the student). She gushed for an awkwardly long time about me and her daughter’s experience and how good I look now (I’ve lost a lot of weight, changed my hair, have a tan...). I didn’t introduce him because WEIRD and I also didn’t remember her name.
Then on the way out, we ran into the athletic director at my school, who definitely does not know I’m divorcing and definitely does know my sync H.
sugarbear OMG with these encounters! Don't stress too much. The more you go on dates, the easier ti will be and you'll know right away if this has some potential. Also, how can people see faces with masks on? I've seen a couple doctors for the first time the last few weeks and by looking at their pic online and seeing them face to face, that's now how I imagined them.
sugarbear OMG with these encounters! Don't stress too much. The more you go on dates, the easier ti will be and you'll know right away if this has some potential. Also, how can people see faces with masks on? I've seen a couple doctors for the first time the last few weeks and by looking at their pic online and seeing them face to face, that's now how I imagined them.
The more you go on dates, the easier ti will be and you'll know right away if this has some potential.
This ... so much this! You learn pretty quick if someone has no/some/yes potential and it becomes super easy to weed them out to so speak. I could tell off of 1-2 dates if it was going to last. Oddly enough w J ... I think we both knew after our first date this was it. That crazy family he had warned me about lol I met them at his cousin’s house 4 months earlier. (His cousin and I are GS troop leaders in the same service unit).
sugarbear OMG with these encounters! Don't stress too much. The more you go on dates, the easier ti will be and you'll know right away if this has some potential. Also, how can people see faces with masks on? I've seen a couple doctors for the first time the last few weeks and by looking at their pic online and seeing them face to face, that's now how I imagined them.
The more you go on dates, the easier ti will be and you'll know right away if this has some potential.
This ... so much this! You learn pretty quick if someone has no/some/yes potential and it becomes super easy to weed them out to so speak. I could tell off of 1-2 dates if it was going to last. Oddly enough w J ... I think we both knew after our first date this was it. That crazy family he had warned me about lol I met them at his cousin’s house 4 months earlier. (His cousin and I are GS troop leaders in the same service unit).
Yes! I knew within minutes, but he was still super nice. I think the hard part is the exit. There are so many people on bumble-- I'm in the middle of, like, 10 conversations with varying degrees of frequency / intensity. I don't want to ghost anyone so I'm just going with a simple, "I'm thinking we're not a great match, but good luck!" Quite a few want to meet in person after only a few text exchanges and I don't have the time or energy for that. I need a little more info first.
Aloe Vera, when they recognized me, we were having drinks so our masks were off.
The more you go on dates, the easier ti will be and you'll know right away if this has some potential.
This ... so much this! You learn pretty quick if someone has no/some/yes potential and it becomes super easy to weed them out to so speak. I could tell off of 1-2 dates if it was going to last. Oddly enough w J ... I think we both knew after our first date this was it. That crazy family he had warned me about lol I met them at his cousin’s house 4 months earlier. (His cousin and I are GS troop leaders in the same service unit).
Yes! I knew within minutes, but he was still super nice. I think the hard part is the exit. There are so many people on bumble-- I'm in the middle of, like, 10 conversations with varying degrees of frequency / intensity. I don't want to ghost anyone so I'm just going with a simple, "I'm thinking we're not a great match, but good luck!" Quite a few want to meet in person after only a few text exchanges and I don't have the time or energy for that. I need a little more info first.
Aloe Vera , when they recognized me, we were having drinks so our masks were off.
Everyone will find their preferences. I actually found that I liked meeting after only a few exchanges. I don't know, the small talk back and forth via text or messaging was annoying to me, ha. I think I recently told the story about how me and my partner met, but essentially he messaged me when I was on the train on the way back from visiting family around 6pm. We had our first date that night around 1030pm...and the rest is history.
But yeah it's ok if you have another preference. Hope you continue to have fun!
Yes! I knew within minutes, but he was still super nice. I think the hard part is the exit. There are so many people on bumble-- I'm in the middle of, like, 10 conversations with varying degrees of frequency / intensity. I don't want to ghost anyone so I'm just going with a simple, "I'm thinking we're not a great match, but good luck!" Quite a few want to meet in person after only a few text exchanges and I don't have the time or energy for that. I need a little more info first.
Aloe Vera , when they recognized me, we were having drinks so our masks were off.
Everyone will find their preferences. I actually found that I liked meeting after only a few exchanges. I don't know, the small talk back and forth via text or messaging was annoying to me, ha. I think I recently told the story about how me and my partner met, but essentially he messaged me when I was on the train on the way back from visiting family around 6pm. We had our first date that night around 1030pm...and the rest is history.
But yeah it's ok if you have another preference. Hope you continue to have fun!
I think if we weren't in the times of COVID, I would absolutely meet up earlier in the process. But between COVID and custody, I feel like my options are more limited and I don't want to waste my windows of opportunity.
Drinks or Coffee. It is way easier to end a date that was never meant to involve food, and it is really easy to extend should it be going well.
Well...do this after covid because if I am honest, I wouldn't suggest either of these options now because no one should be going to bars/restaurants right now.
Drinks or Coffee. It is way easier to end a date that was never meant to involve food, and it is really easy to extend should it be going well.
Well...do this after covid because if I am honest, I wouldn't suggest either of these options now because no one should be going to bars/restaurants right now.
Yup. I judge. I DGAF.
You really don’t think anyone in the whole world should be patronizing restaurants right now?
That seems a bit extreme. Outdoor activities in general are ok where I am and that includes outdoor dining.
It’s totally unrealistic for people to remain locked inside their homes for the next 2-3 years. There are safe ways to socialize.
Drinks or Coffee. It is way easier to end a date that was never meant to involve food, and it is really easy to extend should it be going well.
Well...do this after covid because if I am honest, I wouldn't suggest either of these options now because no one should be going to bars/restaurants right now.
Yup. I judge. I DGAF.
You really don’t think anyone in the whole world should be patronizing restaurants right now?
That seems a bit extreme. Outdoor activities in general are ok where I am and that includes outdoor dining.
It’s totally unrealistic for people to remain locked inside their homes for the next 2-3 years. There are safe ways to socialize.
Honestly, no, I don't beyond getting take out.
I do think there are safe ways to socialize outside of the house that don't require people to be sitting around maskless with a bunch of strangers. When a server needs to wear a gloves, face mask, and shield in an attempt to remain safe at their workplace, I think it is unnecessary.
You really don’t think anyone in the whole world should be patronizing restaurants right now?
That seems a bit extreme. Outdoor activities in general are ok where I am and that includes outdoor dining.
It’s totally unrealistic for people to remain locked inside their homes for the next 2-3 years. There are safe ways to socialize.
Honestly, no, I don't beyond getting take out.
I do think there are safe ways to socialize outside of the house that don't require people to be sitting around maskless with a bunch of strangers. When a server needs to wear a gloves, face mask, and shield in an attempt to remain safe at their workplace, I think it is unnecessary.
Well yes I understand if you don't feel comfortable eating outside, but in places with low transmission and tables are spread far apart it's a low risk activity just like having a picnic, going for a walk spread out, etc. It seems very harsh to judge people who venture out to patronize restaurants in a responsible manner. There's a difference between going to an outdoor restaurant with tables 10 feet a part and participating in an indoor rave. But I know we'll have to agree to disagree.
sugarbear, it sounds like you're being responsible with your dating habits and I don't fault you for socializing at a restaurant!
You really don’t think anyone in the whole world should be patronizing restaurants right now?
That seems a bit extreme. Outdoor activities in general are ok where I am and that includes outdoor dining.
It’s totally unrealistic for people to remain locked inside their homes for the next 2-3 years. There are safe ways to socialize.
Honestly, no, I don't beyond getting take out.
I do think there are safe ways to socialize outside of the house that don't require people to be sitting around maskless with a bunch of strangers. When a server needs to wear a gloves, face mask, and shield in an attempt to remain safe at their workplace, I think it is unnecessary.
IDK, I've eaten outside at a restaurant twice, and been to a brewery another couple of times. It honestly seems fine for the server - each time I've interacted with one, we are outdoors and/or masked, have plenty of space to breathe, and only have very short periods of contact. I have almost no concerns about getting COVID from a server and I think the reverse is probably just as true, provided their workplace is following recommended guidelines. Of the friends and family I have in the service industry, my impression is that they want to be working. My cousin actually left his state (Florida, can't blame him!) to work in another state for a while since they were going to be shut down so long and he was struggling financially. So I also think it's good to patronize businesses and tip generously.
All that said, I do have concerns about dining with people outside my household. I ate with a friend last week and we were very careful and I trust she is following precautions, but we were definitely not 6 feet apart and since we were eating/drinking, we weren't wearing masks. If she was someone I wasn't confident was doing the same stuff I do to avoid getting infected, I would not have been comfortable doing that. And even with both of us being careful, we both did take a risk doing that and it could have turned out poorly if we were unlucky.
So... I don't think it has to be all or nothing, but I think it's smart to be very selective where and with whom you dine out. And obviously depends on the infection rate in your local area. I think you are probably wise to avoid it in LA right now!
Post by Patsy Baloney on Aug 7, 2020 15:29:00 GMT -5
Not to be whatever, but food service workers would be wearing masks and gloves to prepare takeout as well.
The horse is out of the barn. And has galloped through the fields. Like, all over, tromped a bunch of flowers, broke a fence, ate a bunch of apples off the neighbor's tree. While that doesn't mean we're giving up on putting the horse back into the barn or at least its own pasture, people can carefully and responsibly socialize and live life. She's talking about an outdoor date not some covid orgy at a frat house.
I do think there are safe ways to socialize outside of the house that don't require people to be sitting around maskless with a bunch of strangers. When a server needs to wear a gloves, face mask, and shield in an attempt to remain safe at their workplace, I think it is unnecessary.
IDK, I've eaten outside at a restaurant twice, and been to a brewery another couple of times. It honestly seems fine for the server - each time I've interacted with one, we are outdoors and/or masked, have plenty of space to breathe, and only have very short periods of contact. I have almost no concerns about getting COVID from a server and I think the reverse is probably just as true, provided their workplace is following recommended guidelines. Of the friends and family I have in the service industry, my impression is that they want to be working. My cousin actually left his state (Florida, can't blame him!) to work in another state for a while since they were going to be shut down so long and he was struggling financially. So I also think it's good to patronize businesses and tip generously.
All that said, I do have concerns about dining with people outside my household. I ate with a friend last week and we were very careful and I trust she is following precautions, but we were definitely not 6 feet apart and since we were eating/drinking, we weren't wearing masks. If she was someone I wasn't confident was doing the same stuff I do to avoid getting infected, I would not have been comfortable doing that. And even with both of us being careful, we both did take a risk doing that and it could have turned out poorly if we were unlucky.
So... I don't think it has to be all or nothing, but I think it's smart to be very selective where and with whom you dine out. And obviously depends on the infection rate in your local area. I think you are probably wise to avoid it in LA right now!
Yep and for me personally the risk to do something social once or twice a month is worth it to me. I've spent time with 3 friends outdoor, twice at restaurants since the pandemic began. For more personally the risk of dying from covid is low (yes I know it's possible and yes I know about the potential long term consequences), but I'm not willing to stay fully locked inside for the next 3 years until full community spread happens and our immune system is better and there's an effective vaccine. I would feel the same way if I were dating to continue to date every once in awhile in a responsible manner. I don't really drive anywhere anymore since I live in places with public transport, but for most people they'd be more likely to die in a car accident than from covid! Everything has some risks. *And yes all this is talking about in areas with low transmission.