jlt19 , oh FUCK HIM. I'm so sorry he's not who you thought he was.
Thanks. Me too. It's the hardest thing in the world and I'm still not even there. I keep making excuses for him in my mind and buying into his. I've never felt so weak, pathetic and stupid before. He did say that everyone here was right. I mean, it's not like he's trying to absolve himself from anything. which is what makes it so much harder.
Post by wanderingback on Oct 23, 2020 9:46:32 GMT -5
jlt19, ugh I'm sorry. My ex read stuff I wrote in a private group and I was so mad. He brought it up in one of our therapy sessions and the therapist was like umm you shouldn't have gone reading her private stuff. Then, how he found out I was for sure going to leave him is by reading my email to my best friend and then apparently he posted something about it on facebook (I didn't have fb at the time) and texted my mom begging her to tell me to change my mind (I hadn't told my mom yet). All of that truly hit me about him not being a good fit for me and my life as a loving and trusting partner. It solidified my decision, but of course it still sucked at the moment. When someone shows you who they are, believe them.
Everything will be ok. You obviously have support here and hope you have some IRL. Take things day by day. It will get easier.
Post by followyourarrow on Oct 23, 2020 11:17:24 GMT -5
jlt19, I'm so sorry. What a horrible invasion of privacy. He's a terrible person. It's ok to feel however you are feeling. I've been in similar shoes and it's a whole rollercoaster of emotions and I remember being more sad than angry.
You have handled this situation with SO much grace. I hate that he read your posts/comments, but good god, he should at least realize what a HUGE mistake he made by the way you are reacting to this shitshow situation he put you in.
Post by maudefindlay on Oct 23, 2020 11:59:50 GMT -5
jlt19, sorry your H keeps showing you who he is, a self centered douche nozzle. You are not weak, you have been deeply hurt and betrayed. Jlt19's H you suck!