TWERKS/DDOT

[mae0111]

Happy Thursday! Almost there!

[mae0111]

DD1 has had a really good week so far. No fighting over homework, bedtime, showers, etc. It’s been peaceful. DD2 is back at school after a negative COVID test. I was really annoyed that her teacher provided no materials whatsoever despite repeated requests and DD1 showing up at her door several times. But she’s back at school.

DD1’s teachers and the entire 4th grade are quarantining. Her teachers are teaching via zoom to a classroom full of 5th graders. DD1 said it’s weird.

I listened to a Zoom talk given by a high school classmate last night, and I found it to be inspiring. She has led an extremely interesting life from birth. I don’t want to do what she does, but it gave me a little push to figure out what’s next for me. I don’t want to do what I’m doing anymore. The passion is gone. But I don’t know what’s next for me.

[waverly]

Update: 2 candidates today were good. I'm going to take the weekend to think about it. Feel free to answer these questions.

1. Should I schedule more interviews, or are 2 good candidates (out of 5 that I interviewed so far) enough?

2. Should I bring them back for 2nd round interviews?

3. Do you factor commute time in for them, one is closer and one is farther. I've had someone quit because they had a 45 minute commute.

4. One has a glowing reference from someone we know. The other one is willing to take more hours which might be needed when we get busy again. No one actually knows the other one. Go with a candidate you know over one you don't? But the one we know isn't really into taking more hours, and no one else is either, and I kind of need the ability to flex up.

[xctsclrx]

1. Based on the secondary questions I would schedule more. Be picky.

2. I think yes because you aren't sure about either

3. I would not.

4. I always prefer Word of Mouth if you trust the reference and they are not a friend, but a former coworker or supervisor. (also what kind of hours are we talking PT to FT or FT to overtime?) With COVID I could not fault a person for being honest about not being able to work overtime right now. I know I couldn't do it consistently.

[k3am]

DDOT: one juror keeps having to take breaks to poop. We’re going to be here forever...

[waverly]

I think both are good candidates, and I am leaning towards picking one of them. However, I am not opposed to scheduling more interviews both in terms of additional people and 2nd rounds. I'm just not sure which one is the best one.

The reference is both a friend and a co-worker who I have know for 11 years, and she used to do the job that they would do. I am talking about 25 hours to 32 hours possibly full time eventually. We had a staff meeting today, and they would prefer the new person to work Wednesdays and thought they were fine on Fridays, so I think we could make the 25 hours work until the pandemic is over with. If the pandemic is over and we have our crazy summer reading like we usually do then I might need to hire an additional person which I don't love hiring people. But I don't know if the one that would take more hours wants full time. I think I do need to ask them both some additional questions.

[k3am]

Also, WebEx went down for most of our district. Yay distance learning!!

[traveltheworld]

Ack. One of the kids on DS's hockey team tested positive. All kids and parents who were in the dressing room need to self isolate and test. That's just one more layer of stress.

[supertrooper1]

I met with an estate planning attorney this week and got my will/trust/power of attorney paperwork going. He was apologetic that it would take 3 weeks to draw up the paperwork. If only working with a divorce attorney was that easy! And he charges per document so no surprise hourly fees. It feels good to get that taken care of.

[sandandsea]

Oct 22, 2020 14:35:08 GMT -5 k3am said:

Also, WebEx went down for most of our district. Yay distance learning!!

Our Comcast has been out since 9:45 this morning and is going to be down u til at least 3. So Distance everything has not been great today.

[twinmomma]

Oct 22, 2020 15:59:52 GMT -5 supertrooper1 said:

I met with an estate planning attorney this week and got my will/trust/power of attorney paperwork going. He was apologetic that it would take 3 weeks to draw up the paperwork. If only working with a divorce attorney was that easy! And he charges per document so no surprise hourly fees. It feels good to get that taken care of.

I just got mine taken care of in the last couple weeks too! It's such a relief to have it all done, especially since I wanted to make sure Xh and his fiancee didn't end up with all the money, it went to the kids directly. 

[twinmomma]

DDOT: I slept horribly last night. Woke up still exhausted. Showered. Somehow forgot to actually wash my hair in the shower? Didn't realize it until I was drying it and it felt gross. Sprayed in a crap ton of dry shampoo and calling it a day.

[librarychica]

DDOT: It’s annual enrollment time at my company and since my H is self-employed we always use my benefits. Only now he is selling his company and about to go work a regular job for the first time in years. We are waiting for his benefits details to see which way to go. This is the first tile in ten years I haven’t enrolled the first week and I am mildly anxious about it, even though I have a month to handle it. Alert! There is an unchecked item on the to-do list! 😂😂😂

[mae0111]

I just need to vent a little...

My mom... ugh. Literally everything I do is wrong, and if you don’t do things the way she does, you’re stupid.

Since DD1’s recent diagnosis, I’ve done a ton of research. She talked to her friend who has a son that is dyslexic, and recommended that I check out the school he attended. For kids with dyslexia. Which is like the literal opposite of what DD1 is dealing with. And they only focus on language based disabilities. And I should just call them and push to have DD1 admitted to this school that is 90 minutes away and which does not work with kids like her.

Today I told her I voted. She launched into a tirade about how people in our state have admitted to falsifying mail in and early voting ballots. They fill in all the circles to render the vote invalid. 🙄. I was like “Oh well, too late now! Gotta go!”

If I don’t vent I will explode on her, and that is very unlikely to change anything anyway.

[waverly]

I was lazy this morning and tried to bring the cat in past the dog, and the dog attacked the cat and I have war wounds. I like the dog, but she is DH's requested pet, and he has done nothing to train her. It has all been me. All he does is yell at the kids to let her out (not even on a schedule or with treats) and yell at the kids to pick up dog poop. He also picked out this breed which is notorious for chasing small animals (i.e. the cat), and will likely NEVER get along with the cat despite the rescue lady lying to us and saying that she would. Both DH and DS were on calls and had to mute because I was yelling NOOOOO.

The school reset DS's computer, so he couldn't log on this morning, and DH wouldn't remind me what the internet password was. He insisted he had to do it, even though he was currently in the shower. I feel like DS needs to go to hybrid, but because the school wouldn't tell us what the F was going on we booked the nanny 4 days a week through December, so he is sticking with e-learning, but I just need him out of my house. If I had known we were going to go hybrid on Sept 28, I would have booked her as full time through Sept 28 and for hybrid afterwards, but no they couldn't tell us (because they didn't know). The burden on public school parents is just too high, but DH doesn't want to transfer them to our other 2 options which are Catholic or Montessori. He says the Catholic school is not that good. The Montessori school - no one I know goes there. If it were a really good school wouldn't someone we know attend considering we know a lot of people in the community now, and I am on all the FB groups and neighborhood groups, and it is never mentioned there either. I wish we had a good non religious private school in our area.

In the middle of this, you know I am hiring (literally my least favorite thing to do ever) and while trying to log DS into online learning this morning, my mom calls me because she lost contacts on her phone.  I'm like mom, I'm in the middle of a real problem with elearning, I can't solve your tech problems from 300 miles away. 

[pmwife]

Oct 23, 2020 9:09:42 GMT -5 librarychica said:

DDOT: It’s annual enrollment time at my company and since my H is self-employed we always use my benefits. Only now he is selling his company and about to go work a regular job for the first time in years. We are waiting for his benefits details to see which way to go. This is the first tile in ten years I haven’t enrolled the first week and I am mildly anxious about it, even though I have a month to handle it. Alert! There is an unchecked item on the to-do list! 😂😂😂

His getting a new job is considered a change in circumstances so you can adjust if needed

[librarychica]

Oct 23, 2020 11:21:40 GMT -5 pmwife said:

Oct 23, 2020 9:09:42 GMT -5 librarychica said:

DDOT: It’s annual enrollment time at my company and since my H is self-employed we always use my benefits. Only now he is selling his company and about to go work a regular job for the first time in years. We are waiting for his benefits details to see which way to go. This is the first tile in ten years I haven’t enrolled the first week and I am mildly anxious about it, even though I have a month to handle it. Alert! There is an unchecked item on the to-do list! 😂😂😂

His getting a new job is considered a change in circumstances so you can adjust if needed

True. But it should all be settled way before the deadline so why fill out 407 forms when I could just wait and then fill out the correct 407 forms?

[k3am]

librarychica, the day DH got a job with good benefits (DH's consulting company had really crappy benefits, so I carried the family) and I was able to take him and the kids off my insurance was so nice. I know it wasn't a big deal in the long run, but it really felt like getting a raise.

[k3am]

TWERK: She passed away this morning. I'm handling it better than I thought - I think I got most of my tears out of the way already this week. I need to figure out how to send something to her daughter without having her dad's address. It's not a rush. I don't think HR can give it to me, and I don't want to bother him right now. I need a list of all the things 5th grader girls love. I'll probably try to poll my neighbors about what their kids are into this weekend.

In normal circumstances, I'd put something in their for dad too, but it's not one of those scenarios. Maybe a gift card for food, but whatever I send will be addressed straight to her daughter.

[supertrooper1]

I'm sorry k3am.

[sandandsea]

k3am I’m so sorry for your loss.

ETA. One thing that BIL and my neice/nephew appreciated the most was a favorite memory of the person in the card. So a specific moment you shared with her that was funny, silly, touching, mundane or anything was enjoyed.

[twinmomma]

k3am, I'm so sorry.

[polecat8]

hugs k3am

[waverly]

I’m sorry k3am.

[mustardseed2007]

k3am, I'm so sorry for your loss

[xctsclrx]

k3am, so sorry.

[sdlaura]

I’m sorry k3am!

[campermom]

Oh k3am I’m so sorry.