That’s messed up. If they did the same amount of work why didn’t they get the same pay?
I do not know. I do not like this woman, I've had only negative interactions with her so I feel like this may be on brand.
Kids excuse was that he carried the equipment. I ended up bringing over my rake for them to use cause they said his wasn't working on the pine needles so whatever.
Oh I would totally text that lady back and be like ok, and your DS can bring over the rental fee for the rake I had to deliver for them to borrow whenever he wants with a winky face. Please do this for me lol!
I'm annoyed at our neighbor and I need to know if I'm justified.
A friend and two of her kids came over Wednesday afternoon to swim for an hour in our backyard pool. There were 4 kids total, ages 7 -14. About 45 minutes into the swim, neighbor's daughter pops her head up over the fence to tell us we need to take the volume down because her mom is trying to work. I spent the next 15 minutes repeatedly telling the kids to play quieter and it ruined the whole vibe.
It was the afternoon, just two additional kids, and there was no music or other noisemakers. The issue was the kids' voices while playing in our own backyard. Do I really need to worry about the neighbors in this instance?
I'm annoyed at our neighbor and I need to know if I'm justified.
A friend and two of her kids came over Wednesday afternoon to swim for an hour in our backyard pool. There were 4 kids total, ages 7 -14. About 45 minutes into the swim, neighbor's daughter pops her head up over the fence to tell us we need to take the volume down because her mom is trying to work. I spent the next 15 minutes repeatedly telling the kids to play quieter and it ruined the whole vibe.
It was the afternoon, just two additional kids, and there was no music or other noisemakers. The issue was the kids' voices while playing in our own backyard. Do I really need to worry about the neighbors in this instance?
Nope. Mom can close her windows and/or use headphones.
Post by icedcoffee on Oct 23, 2020 11:57:17 GMT -5
savan, Nope. We've had the same exact thing happen at my inlaws. Neighbor sent her son outside to pop his head over the fence to say "keep it down my mom has a migraine". I felt very "get better windows" about the whole thing. We weren't even that loud, honestly. It was just voices, not music.
The only thing I do try to do is keep the dog from barking (he barks when he swims LOL). But kid voices? No...deal with it.
Ankle feels maybe a little bit better today? I am staying low key today and resting.
My kids are sick of distance learning and it is all taking a toll on us, but for a variety of reasons we are keeping them home. I hate not knowing if you are making the right decision.
Also, my FIL had his surgery yesterday. The mass was attached to his spleen and stomach but they were able to keep both organs and think that they removed all of the cancer. I am so thankful. I am closer to him than my own dad and we would all just be so lost without him. Please send any prayers for a quick recovery for him if you have any to spare <3
Post by Leeham Rimes on Oct 23, 2020 12:10:29 GMT -5
savan, As long as they’re not having a screaming contest, I’d say neighbor needs to deal with it. General kid play and merriment is something that comes with a neighborhood. I’m not going to quiet my kids who are simply playing. I have low tolerance for noise myself so I’d be quick to quiet anything out of hand.
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Post by litskispeciality on Oct 23, 2020 12:24:08 GMT -5
I bought these blue light blockers on AMazon and now I think they're causing me more strain. I keep taking them off during breaks, and then it's brighter and hurting my eyes. I'll give it another day or two to adjust.
I'm in a bit of a passive aggressive pissing match with DH and I'm not happy. I'm taking some vaca days around his schedule, missing a ton of stuff at work. I can't plan my whole life around work, but ideally this time off would be better spent at work. Anyway his sister throws her daughter (our niece) a birthday party every year as close to Halloween as she can, so she can have a big Pintrest mom Halloween party. When we booked the time off I said "your sister will hold the party on Halloween because it's a Saturday, but that's my vacation time". He said "ok, we don't have to go to the party". This was a few weeks ago, not pre-COVID. Last night he asks me if we got invited, because his aunt who never talks to him other than if we drive to his sisters butt dialed him and asked if he was going? Apparently he didn't get the FB invite. Now it's a big deal that we go, because there's nothing else to do for Halloweeen anyway. Who cares if his sister treats me like sh*t and I've avoided a lot of exposure...the parties outside! I'd send him alone, but I planned my time off to be with him. They live at least an hour away so it's not like we can even compromise and spend 30 mins at the party, then try to do something else. I also bought stuff for a DIY costume that may or may not get here by Halloween, so he's all "just cancel it if it won't get here and we're not going to the party" as if I'm the bad guy.
I don't have kids but I'm kinda impressed with capitalist assholery of the other kid - he was the one who came up with the idea so it makes sense to him to do the 60/40 split! It's a good lesson (though maybe not for an 8 year old), know what you're getting paid before you do a job.
I'll show myself out.
It was a good lesson for DS too. He said he might ask the next door neighbor to do her leaves himself and pocket the full $10.
I'm still side eyeing mom though.
A lot of this is probably tied to my journey with my sons behavioral issues tied to ADHD and impulse control. We've done therapy for years, he's in a group in school for building social skills, like we've worked REALLY hard on stuff like this and it pisses me off that other kids just get to be assholes and its fine. I have history with this woman and her assholery as well so I'm just over her and her kid.
Wait, are you me from 3 years ago? I have an 11 year old ds with ADHD, and we had a next door neighbor with a boy his age, and I swear this neighbor kid pushed his buttons like NO OTHER. I can't count the number of times ds came home crying because of something that kid said or did. And ds eventually started flipping out at him and they would all out fight. And despite this, he and ds would still play pretty much every.single.day. And then they would fight every.single.day. The parents and I got along, but we definitely had some tension over the 2 of them, and I knew I couldn't count on them to supervise if the kids were over there or stop things before they got out of hand. I think our worst interaction was when they were in the neighbor's back playing, and according to my ds, neighbor boy did something mean, so ds retaliated by throwing the boy's shoes in the woods, so then neighbor threw ds's toy in the woods, and they started fighting from there. DD came and got me, I stopped them fighting and basically had to carry ds home as he was kicking at hitting me (once he got going he would lash out at anyone), and I finally got him upstairs and starting to calm down, and the mom texted me that "ds needs to come find the shoes he threw in the woods because they have to go somewhere and the boy needs his shoes). I wanted to write back that if I sent my son back out to find the shoes, he was probably going to punch her son in the face, but instead I just went over and found the shoes myself and put them outside their door.
I was seriously so happy when they moved. My son hasn't had a SINGLE violent outburst/fight (other than the occasional mild sibling fight where he pushes past her and makes a mean comment) since they left over a year ago.
expectantsteelerfan I KNOW what you're talking about FOR SURE as we have had issues like that with another kid in the neighborhood that DS doesn't play with anymore (who is friends with capitalist kid, go figure). Ughhhhhh.
Capitalist kid has done some smaller things like if DS falls off his bike, kid gives no fucks and keeps going and leaves DS behind whereas if he falls DS asks if he's OK and gets his mom for him, or like if he is over here DS makes sure he has a turn on things he wants to play with but when he is over there he asks if he can have a turn and kid says no, stuff like that. He isn't as blatant as the other neighbor kid but my DS has brought up some things like that and he goes through some periods where he doesn't want to play with him.
His best friends don't live in our neighborhood, so I think its a convenience thing when they play together.
CurlyQ284, I totally get what you're saying about it being more of a trigger due to your son's ADHD. It's already hard enough to get them to behave in line with social standards, so it's extra tough when they do it and have a bad experience. My DS is the same age and if that happened to him he'd be really unmotivated to cooperate again in the future. Which sucks, because you want them to be resilient and be able to get back on the horse, but they have so many extra challenges. I hope he has a good experience next time to keep him motivated! (And that he at least gets his $4!!)
savan no way were you in the wrong. That neighbor needs to learn to deal with outside noise. This is the world we live in now, she needs to figure it out. I would never in a million years expect my neighbors to keep quiet for my sake. I mean, 11pm on a Tuesday, sure? Middle of the day a bunch of kids playing a pool? She can go pound sand.
Post by sproctopus on Oct 23, 2020 13:00:18 GMT -5
I got really amazing data I've been working towards for 2 years today, after one of the most challenging work weeks during COVID (between working and caretaking). My boss, who needs this data for...everything, could not have had a more underwhelming response.
It's Great British Bake Off day. This season, I've been baking along by doing my take on the signature bake every week. It's given me some purpose.
This pandemic has really made me hate men more than usual.
Me to my assistant, who was going into the office for a half day today: hey, I haven't been in this week because of a scheduling conflict, can you check my desk and let me know if anything new has been placed on it?
Her: yes, 2 items
Me: great, what are they?
Her: oh, I just left. I don't know.
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LOL! she would have been better off not checking at all!
I don't think anyone thinks the way the leaves thing went down was cool. But no, I would have no problem if one kid said to another, "I got us a leaf raking job, since I found the job, I get $6 and you get $4 if we do it. Want in?" and then the second kid could say "fuck off, Jimmy" if he wanted to. I don't have kids so don't worry, my opinion on this matters less than zero.
CurlyQ284 , wtf, the mom actually thinks that the solution to the problem is to talk about the pay before starting the work? That's messed up. I'm sorry your son was upset
I'm REALLY angry at Trump supporters today. A very dear friend of mine (who has never said an unkind word to or about ANYONE other than Trump) posted on Facebook, asking people to delete her as a friend if they still support him. I went to comment in support when I got an error message - then I started reading the comments. Her OWN FAMILY called her the most vile things and basically ganged up on her (there were others who agreed with my friend thankfully). I went to her page - she deleted her account, so I reached out to her to tell her I'm on her side. She said her family basically started messaging her and attacking her, so the only thing she could do was just deactivate the account.
I'm SO angry and upset for her. THIS IS TRUMP'S AMERICA: fueled by hatred, racism, greed, and bullying. I don't know how we could survive a possible 4 more years of this
I agree with you, but that IS his fan base, so I can’t say I’m surprised. Putting that out there is sure to rile them up. She will be better without them in the long run, it sucks, but fairly expected.
Oh totally! She admits that she was sort of poking the bear, but even so, I don't want to blame her for their actions. They're absolutely out of control, and I don't engage because I can't handle the vitriol. I'm just upset for my friend who is always the first one to help anyone, including those same people who were so vicious.
That’s messed up. If they did the same amount of work why didn’t they get the same pay?
I do not know. I do not like this woman, I've had only negative interactions with her so I feel like this may be on brand.
Kids excuse was that he carried the equipment. I ended up bringing over my rake for them to use cause they said his wasn't working on the pine needles so whatever.
I'd have my kid underbid the other kid and do yards for $9, lol. But I agree, it sucks. I'd make David give him half because that's what a good friend should do.
Me to my assistant, who was going into the office for a half day today: hey, I haven't been in this week because of a scheduling conflict, can you check my desk and let me know if anything new has been placed on it?
Her: yes, 2 items
Me: great, what are they?
Her: oh, I just left. I don't know.
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My father always says “You can’t pay people to think.”
Well we hate it here in the suburbs so much that we have listed it for sale and rental to see if we get any bites. Lol we only got possession of this place beginning of October. We have received some interest via the sale route but no official offers but 2 official offers for rental (we went through our realtor for the rental side too). The market has definitely slowed down here since this summer when we sold our house in the city but we have quite a few showings this weekend so hopefully something comes of this and then we can decide.
We are both already ready to be back in the city. And H hates the commute into work.
I also got a notice from work that the 3% covid pay cut that happened right before I went on leave was actually cancelled and that they would be depositing a top up. No complaints there!
Our city has strongly suggested that kids don’t go trick or treating this year because of a bad second wave and a bunch of parents on my local group or going off about it and that they are still going to take their kids out. Argh.
And lastly, I am 4 lbs from my goal weight and am below my pre-pregnancy weight from before I got pregnant with DS. Yay.
pandora89 - OMG, you’ve been there less than a month? Wow, lol. So do you want to buy in the city again, or rent? Did you like the place you sold in the city?
Lol yes a month! But we were at my parents for a month before the house we bought closed and they live in the same suburb so I’d like to count that to haha. I am so embarrassed but argh we just both hate it here so much. And neither of us can see raising the kids here either.
Yes going back to the city, our plan is to buy but if we end up renting this place out we may rent for a bit and then buy in a year - have to figure our shit out.
We loved the house we sold in the city and absolutely loved the neighbourhood/area. The house was just a bit small for us. We are hoping to be able to get something a bit bigger this time; maybe with a second full washroom and enough room for a designated play area in the same area as our old house.
Back at the ER last night, this time with DH. (ETA: he's okay. But he had extreme pain in his abdomen for three hours so we went in). I have spent so much of this last month in and out of hospitals and caring for people who need care at all hours, plus all the fun of distance learning. I feel like I have a baby again with the constant needs and exhaustion.