pandora89 - OMG, you’ve been there less than a month? Wow, lol. So do you want to buy in the city again, or rent? Did you like the place you sold in the city?
Lol yes a month! But we were at my parents for a month before the house we bought closed and they live in the same suburb so I’d like to count that to haha. I am so embarrassed but argh we just both hate it here so much. And neither of us can see raising the kids here either.
Yes going back to the city, our plan is to buy but if we end up renting this place out we may rent for a bit and then buy in a year - have to figure our shit out.
We loved the house we sold in the city and absolutely loved the neighbourhood/area. The house was just a bit small for us. We are hoping to be able to get something a bit bigger this time; maybe with a second full washroom and enough room for a designated play area in the same area as our old house.
Wow! I scrolled through your post history and sounds like you will make some $ on this move. Good luck and good for you for doing what you need to be happy. So many would stay in the home and be miserable - life is too short!
pandora89 - OMG, you’ve been there less than a month? Wow, lol. So do you want to buy in the city again, or rent? Did you like the place you sold in the city?
Lol yes a month! But we were at my parents for a month before the house we bought closed and they live in the same suburb so I’d like to count that to haha. I am so embarrassed but argh we just both hate it here so much. And neither of us can see raising the kids here either.
Yes going back to the city, our plan is to buy but if we end up renting this place out we may rent for a bit and then buy in a year - have to figure our shit out.
We loved the house we sold in the city and absolutely loved the neighbourhood/area. The house was just a bit small for us. We are hoping to be able to get something a bit bigger this time; maybe with a second full washroom and enough room for a designated play area in the same area as our old house.
What do you hate about it? Honestly, this seems so impulsive you might regret it! Can you give it at least 6 months and see if you settle in? Buying and selling is so expensive!
wildrice - Oh yes, super impulsive. H is commuting 1.5 hours each way to work when his commute used to be 5-25 mins each way depending on where he worked. There really is nothing to do here except drive down major roads and go to a plaza and with H working long hours and then also having a really long commute it is just so isolating. I thought the space would out win all the downfalls but it really does not, we hardly use most of the house. Our lifestyle is just a much better fit for the city. We walk or bike everywhere, our weekends we spend at the beach (which we were 5 mins from before) or walking the boardwalk, farmers markets etc. I know it’s going to be winter soon but we worry that if we wait too long we will be out priced of the city (we used to live in Toronto and house prices are insane there and constantly skyrocketing). We are just both so unhappy, me more than H. We also sold our last house for a great price and underpaid on this so we stand to make money or at the very least break even after all closing and moving costs so we didn’t want to just sit and waste time here knowing we would for sure make the move back and sometime soon. I’ve also spoken to a few people who were in similar situations and all wished they had just made the move back sooner. In the end I know I won’t regret moving back but I will most likely regret not doing so.
lolalolalola - thank you! And yes, exactly, we are both quite unhappy and have the means to do what we need to do to change our circumstances. We should at the very least be able to break even after all is said and done but most likely make money so going for it.
I don't think anyone thinks the way the leaves thing went down was cool. But no, I would have no problem if one kid said to another, "I got us a leaf raking job, since I found the job, I get $6 and you get $4 if we do it. Want in?" and then the second kid could say "fuck off, Jimmy" if he wanted to. I don't have kids so don't worry, my opinion on this matters less than zero.
Agreed. Capitalist kid is a total asshole and I would kick my kid's ass (verbally) and then send him over to give half of the money if he were mine. But it's still somewhat impressive that an 8 year old had the wherewithal to recognize why he could reasonably suggest a split other than 50/50. Of course, maybe this kid's mom talked to him about this, which sounds like a real possibility, and I sincerely cannot imagine telling my 8 year old that he should negotiate for a higher percentage of the cash when asking a friend to do half the work.
Lol yes a month! But we were at my parents for a month before the house we bought closed and they live in the same suburb so I’d like to count that to haha. I am so embarrassed but argh we just both hate it here so much. And neither of us can see raising the kids here either.
Yes going back to the city, our plan is to buy but if we end up renting this place out we may rent for a bit and then buy in a year - have to figure our shit out.
We loved the house we sold in the city and absolutely loved the neighbourhood/area. The house was just a bit small for us. We are hoping to be able to get something a bit bigger this time; maybe with a second full washroom and enough room for a designated play area in the same area as our old house.
What do you hate about it? Honestly, this seems so impulsive you might regret it! Can you give it at least 6 months and see if you settle in? Buying and selling is so expensive!
She won't regret it. I promise. lol
We did the exact same thing, only we waited 2 years and I wish we hadn't even spent that long. I knew within a few months that it wasn't going to work.
Back at the ER last night, this time with DH. (ETA: he's okay. But he had extreme pain in his abdomen for three hours so we went in). I have spent so much of this last month in and out of hospitals and caring for people who need care at all hours, plus all the fun of distance learning. I feel like I have a baby again with the constant needs and exhaustion.
I don't think anyone thinks the way the leaves thing went down was cool. But no, I would have no problem if one kid said to another, "I got us a leaf raking job, since I found the job, I get $6 and you get $4 if we do it. Want in?" and then the second kid could say "fuck off, Jimmy" if he wanted to. I don't have kids so don't worry, my opinion on this matters less than zero.
I mean, sure, but it didn’t. Lol. This kid was a dick!!
No, but people are implying that those of discussing the idea the jerk kid had are defending exactly how it happened and we’re not.
wildrice - Oh yes, super impulsive. H is commuting 1.5 hours each way to work when his commute used to be 5-25 mins each way depending on where he worked. There really is nothing to do here except drive down major roads and go to a plaza and with H working long hours and then also having a really long commute it is just so isolating. I thought the space would out win all the downfalls but it really does not, we hardly use most of the house. Our lifestyle is just a much better fit for the city. We walk or bike everywhere, our weekends we spend at the beach (which we were 5 mins from before) or walking the boardwalk, farmers markets etc. I know it’s going to be winter soon but we worry that if we wait too long we will be out priced of the city (we used to live in Toronto and house prices are insane there and constantly skyrocketing). We are just both so unhappy, me more than H. We also sold our last house for a great price and underpaid on this so we stand to make money or at the very least break even after all closing and moving costs so we didn’t want to just sit and waste time here knowing we would for sure make the move back and sometime soon. I’ve also spoken to a few people who were in similar situations and all wished they had just made the move back sooner. In the end I know I won’t regret moving back but I will most likely regret not doing so.
lolalolalola - thank you! And yes, exactly, we are both quite unhappy and have the means to do what we need to do to change our circumstances. We should at the very least be able to break even after all is said and done but most likely make money so going for it.
Good luck! Life is way too short to live somewhere you don’t like. From what you’ve described, we wouldn’t be happy there either - we technically live in a suburb of a very large city, but it’s the very first city north and has tons of the city amenities you describe. A true suburb wouldn’t work for us at all. I hope you find an awesome new place!
pandora89 keep us updated on this wild move of yours, please!
I, too, find myself in a place I don't want to be and we're debating about how quickly (and hastily) we rip off the Band-Aid to remedy it.
I'm looking to you for inspiration!
For what it’s worth, we were in a really similar situation. It took us 2 years to pull the trigger, but that was in large part due to the fact that DH lost his job and was unemployed for 10 months. I told him basically as soon as he had been in the job long enough for me to feel like we had our feet back under us that I wanted to move further north closer to where we used to live. We waited about 6 months and then got busy with it.
I can say without equivocation that it was 100% the right move. I adore everything about our current home and have basically told DH that I never want to move again (at least while we have kids at home).
This was a very Goldilocks thing for me. First house was too small (like pandora’s), second was too big, too far, too everything. This one is just right.