Last Monday of 2020

[186momx]

 I'm at work.  DD is at work.  The copy machine repair guy is in.  All I want to do is finish tax organizers and go home and just chill.  

Didn't go anywhere on Saturday or Sunday and it felt great.  Took down the outside lights yesterday because it was sunny and 40.  I also took all the ornaments off  the tree so now I don't have to worry that the dog or kid will knock them off.  

Happy Monday

[mommyatty]

I’m sitting at the vet’s office, outside in my car, waiting to find out why the hell my cats both have diarrhea. Happy Monday. Lol.

[mae0111]

Happy Monday!

I rented a basketball court this morning so DH and I brought the kids. I’m still having a lot of pain while moving around so I’m going to try to get an appointment at urgent care (no more walk-ins) to see if I can start PT after the new year.

Kids are at each other today after a couple of decent days. DD1 is spinning and obsessing about certain things. It’s part of her brain wiring but it’s exhausting for everyone around her.

We are supposed to visit a litter of puppies on Thursday and if all goes well, we will take one home in a few weeks!

[mellym]

I'm at work for the next few days wrapping up year-end. It's busy for us but quiet because everyone else is on vacation. We had our first real snow storm of the winter yesterday so the roads were slippery this morning and no one wanted to get out of bed. DD1 gets to see her bestie for the first time since September at the Y program today. That helped to get her moving.

[k3am]

DS is home with us today.. thank goodness it's him and not DD. The girl has no chill and can't entertain herself to save her life.. DS has been relatively self-sufficient since 8am, so I'm calling it a win.

I'm lacking motivation to work, but it keeps piling up..

[sdlaura]

I'm also lacking the motivation to work.

DS1 has always been a sensitive, anxious, and challenging child, but this year has put him over the edge with all the inconsistency. He turns 7 next month and has mentioned wanting to die and not wanting to have his birthday. So we finally made the decision to find a mental health provider for him. I have a call in now and I'm hoping we can get him some help.

[callmekd]

Dec 28, 2020 16:46:04 GMT -5 sdlaura said:

I'm also lacking the motivation to work.

DS1 has always been a sensitive, anxious, and challenging child, but this year has put him over the edge with all the inconsistency. He turns 7 next month and has mentioned wanting to die and not wanting to have his birthday. So we finally made the decision to find a mental health provider for him. I have a call in now and I'm hoping we can get him some help.

I’m so sorry. DD1 is 7.5 and this pandemic has impacted her mental health tremendously. When she’s tired and stressed she says that she’s wishes she was never born and that we are a better family without her. Her therapist said it’s not suicidal ideation (in our case) but it’s awful to hear.

She broke down last week sobbing because she knows she’s not fun to be around and she wants to know if she will ever be fun again. It broke my heart.

Hugs to you and I hope you can get him some help.

[k3am]

Oh sdlaura and callmekd that’s a lot and it breaks my heart. I hope you’re both able to find some way to help them soon.

[vasc]

Hugs to those kiddos whose mental Heath is suffering due to the pandemic. ❤️

We traded in our Hyundai Elantra for a Hyundai Santa Fe today. Main requirement was a tow hitch so we can take bikes places. Santa brought us a bunch of camping stuff for the new year and our existing sedans wouldn’t have been able to hold it all.

[mae0111]

sdlaura and callmekd - I hope you are able to get help soon. As challenging as DD1 has been for the last many years, this is one piece we haven’t dealt with. I will say that I was looking back through some videos, and DD1’s therapist and her medication has made a tremendous difference in her behavior and moods. It was hard to see because it was so gradual, but she is very different now.

I wish you the best of luck.

[sdlaura]

callmekd that sounds familiar. Has your DD made progress with therapy? DS1 will be a generally easygoing, happy guy for a couple weeks and I will mostly forget about it, and then it will come up again. DH has dealt with anxiety and depression, but it's something I have to make an effort to understand better. I'm trying to find someone who will see him in person, since one of the things I think he's struggling with is all the virtual stuff he has to do already.

vasc, my parents just bought a 2018 Hyundai Santa Fe on Saturday. They had two 10 year old + cars and wanted a small SUV, and I convinced them to get one with a third row so that I don't have to pay $1,000+ to rent a minivan when we visit them My sister also has 3 kids and lives close to them, so it made sense. They like it a lot so far.

[twinmomma]

sdlaura, callmekd, I hope you're able to find help that your kids need soon. <3 DD1 asked to go back to therapy but adamantly refused to do it via Zoom. She's in school in person so we were able to have the school guidance counselor bridge the gap for now. Maybe you could reach out the guidance counselors to see if they have any leads on resources?

[vasc]

sdlaura We also test drove a Kia Sorento with a third row but it didn’t have a hitch, which was our main requirement. Our Santa Fe doesn’t have a third row, which will be fine.

[callmekd]

Dec 28, 2020 23:46:16 GMT -5 sdlaura said:

callmekd that sounds familiar. Has your DD made progress with therapy? DS1 will be a generally easygoing, happy guy for a couple weeks and I will mostly forget about it, and then it will come up again. DH has dealt with anxiety and depression, but it's something I have to make an effort to understand better. I'm trying to find someone who will see him in person, since one of the things I think he's struggling with is all the virtual stuff he has to do already.

vasc, my parents just bought a 2018 Hyundai Santa Fe on Saturday. They had two 10 year old + cars and wanted a small SUV, and I convinced them to get one with a third row so that I don't have to pay $1,000+ to rent a minivan when we visit them My sister also has 3 kids and lives close to them, so it made sense. They like it a lot so far.

Yes it’s been helpful. Mostly for me to know what is normal at this point given the circumstances. We recently switched to a new therapist and DD1 has sessions scheduled with her weekly starting in January. But during the intake she gave us some really good tips on how to handle her when she’s full on melting down.

Being tired, hungry and too much screen time exacerbates DD1’s mental state. And even minor changes like having to wear masks at daycamp (which wasn’t required until November).

I also think she’s not being academically challenged right now which is causing boredom etc. so I’ve started doing less teacher assigned seesaw assignments with her and more workbooks etc for math, reading and writing.

[callmekd]

Dec 29, 2020 8:26:08 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

sdlaura, callmekd, I hope you're able to find help that your kids need soon. <3 DD1 asked to go back to therapy but adamantly refused to do it via Zoom. She's in school in person so we were able to have the school guidance counselor bridge the gap for now. Maybe you could reach out the guidance counselors to see if they have any leads on resources?

We utilized the guidance counselor and pediatric social worker last spring. Both were great options until we could get in with a therapist.

[sdlaura]

callmekd my son also has a lot of issues with change of any kind - which makes this year such a mess since no two days are the same for him with hybrid school.

[campermom]

Poof

[k3am]

campermom, good luck. Keep on keeping on, it's all you can do at this point. Document his schenanigans for your own legal purposes, but continue to try to be the bigger person for your kid's sake. They'll see through his shitty behavior (which you're already seeing) and you'll also be setting an example for how to persevere through through bad times.

[shakinros]

Good luck campermom. I’m rooting for you!