DS (3) does the same thing. He also runs full speed at me to give me a hug, and he's not small. One of these days he's going to actually knock me over!
FWIW, he was EFF and still wants nothing to do with H and only climbs all over me. Though with the lock down in the spring, he spent way more time with me (teacher) than he did with H (IT and couldn't work from home), so maybe that has something to do with it?
It's my teeth I worry about. DD is so enthusiastic in her climbing up on me that she often ends up accidentally head-butting me in the mouth. I'm surprised I still have all my teeth. I'm also surprised she hasn't learned not to do it. She often does it hard enough to make herself cry, which SEEMS like it would provide a strong incentive to be more careful. But apparently not.
OMG YES, this! I have a probably irrational fear of losing teeth and all things teeth related so I freak out about this too. I am also doing Invisalign right now so that adds another layer of "stay the F away from my mouth"
They went through that phase. They still tried especially if we were on the floor don’t get get me wrong, but most of the time I wouldn’t let them or I put a stop to it. So don’t feel bad if you do that.
My son is sensory seeking and did OT because he always had to touch everything.
OK so I've heard the term sensory seeking before and kinda sorta knew what it was about but I just read a few info graphics (lazy, but I'll read more later) but this is DS to a T. Hmm.
DS1 is a sensory seeker too and what you said above is totally him. I literally can’t sit on the couch or floor without being jumped on. He also has ASD (high functioning) and is doing OT. We are working a lot on his “body level/zone” and what it needs and what he can do to help his body (acceptable choices).
Yes! My 3.5 year old DS is on me alllll the time. Touching, hitting, sitting, climbing, jumping, and just constantly on top of me. Plus I sleep with him 😟. If I leave a room, I hear “Where’s Mama?”. It’s like I cannot get away! But then I feel guilty for being angry because he’s so sweet and innocent.
Meanwhile, my H can sit on the same couch with headphones and an iPad in total bliss.
A, 5 years old, has taken to following me around RIGHT behind me. Nose to my arse. I fucking hate it. I told her "stop doing that or I'll back up and step on you!" Maybe it's mean, but kids need to learn to respect physical boundaries.
My DS(4.75) does the same thing to H and me. Our response is the same as yours. I legit might step on someone that close to my body. If DS' in my personal bubble while I'm walking (aside for walking next to me) I tell him to give me space or I might trip on him/fall on him and flatten him like a pancake.
Yes, my son is 5 and has always been very physical. When he was evaluated around 2 years old for a speech delay they did an overall early intervention evaluation and the therapists observed that he did score higher on some sensory stuff. He didn't need OT for it but it explains his constant need to move/jump/run/crash into things. He will always be touching someone when he is talking to them (like he puts his hand on your knee, sits close, whatever), likes to be hugged tightly, loves wrestling etc.
He is in K this year, did pre-K from 3 - 4 years old and was fine. He sometimes has a week here and there where he needs to be reminded to sit in his chair, but overall his behavior is on par with the other boys in his class.
I feel like a human jungle gym sometimes, getting him outside to play and run really helps!
Post by chickadee77 on Jan 25, 2021 9:45:54 GMT -5
My 6.5 year old does this. My 2yo is showing signs - any time I sit down, she's on my lap, but she's pretty still for the most part. The 6yo runs, full speed, right at me. No amount of conversation/explaining/ANYTHING has done anything. It's always accompanied by, "I LOVE YOU MOMMY!!!" so I hate to be like, "QUIT IT QUIT IT QUIT IT." Ha. But we're working on trying to burn off energy however we can so at least maybe she won't totally knock me over when she does it.
My 5 year old kindergartener does this. It drives me crazy, so solidarity. I am a big personal space person, and she isn't happy unless she's within my bubble at all times. Gah.
She's going to school in person this year (mostly), and I haven't heard any issues there. So at least that's good.
Yep. My child likes to climb into my lap at the dining table once she is done eating, even if I am not. I ask her to please wait, to give me space, etc.
On one hand, there are days when I want to lose my mind bc I am tired and want my own space. Then there are others that I hope she never wants to stop snuggling me because that means she is too old and doesn't need me as much anymore.
I cannot tell you how many times I have had to say "get your penis/asshole off of my face." He just clambers over me like I am a playground, naked often.
Yes, both my kids crawl all over me. My H pretty much forbids them from climbing on him, but they seem to have a magnetic draw to me so I'm sure I'd bear the brunt even if he wasn't so strict.
They do know that I will not allow them on me while I'm eating, so I try to draw that process out sometimes to get some peace.
Ironically, we have a book called My Dad is the Best Playground but they often change the word dad to mom and quote that as they climb. Sigh.
I have a sensory seeker. A mini trampoline, nugget, stepping stones, etc are good. We set up obstacle courses with them. I also talk a lot about respecting my personal space bubble.
DD gets like this sometimes but other times she wants nothing to do with us, lol. Recently she's wanted to be snuggly, which I love, but she specifically wants to sit on my belly. I'm super pregnant, soooo that's not really possible or comfortable. She's only 2.5 so she's not super aware of her body all the time which means I get a lot of elbows and knees to my stomach, ribs and boobs. DH gets kicked in the groin at least once a week. Our "problem" with DD is that she will not. sit. still. She is capable! I've seen it for decent (albeit rate) stretches! But she just has to be up and doing something or moving around or flopping into weird positions. My most common feedback from daycare is that she wouldn't sit still during circle time or snack time. I don't know what to tell them, because we have the same issue at home! It's really hard to dress a toddler who won't stop moving!!
I think most kids go through a phase, some lasting longer than others. Honestly, I couldn't stand it and flat out refused to allow it. I'm not a jungle gym, get off me! I think one of the kindest things I can do from my kids is teach them to respect other people's physical boundaries. There is a lot of emphasis in parents on respecting your kids boundaries, not making them hug etc, but very little emphasis placed on teaching kids to respect their parents' physical boundaries. They need to go hand and hand IMO. Learning to listen when someone tells you to stop touching them is an extremely important message.
Post by arehopsveggies on Jan 25, 2021 15:16:00 GMT -5
Almost 3 and almost 6. They have an indoor climbing toy and an outdoor one. They are always climbing on me. Little guy has thrown my back out twice this month and my glasses always hang at a weird crooked angle from them smacking my in the face.
I cannot tell you how many times I have had to say "get your penis/asshole off of my face." He just clambers over me like I am a playground, naked often.
DS likes to get naked and climb all over me saying "naked baby on youuuuuu" which is kind of hilarious and also very annoying.
my 2.5 year old is going through this stage, hard.
In fact, the past several times I've taken him to the playground, he's completely ignored the play structure and instead spends the entire time climbing my body, throwing himself on me, etc. I'm 6 months pregnant so it's not a particularly welcome experience 24/7.
Yes. This is my life with my 1 year old. He thinks I’m a slide or something. And he only does it to me. It’s infuriating. I’ve had to start sitting on a kitchen chair if I want him to leave me alone. Meanwhile he absolutely never crawls on my H. It’s constant.
The last few weeks I’ve said to my H a few times that maybe EBF my kids was a mistake because they are like overly bonded to me. [Warning: This is meant as a tongue in cheek joke with my H and not a slam against anyone here on how they fed their kids. please don’t read into it.]
If it's any consolation, I only breastfed DS1 to 9 months and DS1 for 6 months and they are all mommy all the time. It's... irritating. lol
DS2 especially is a big hugger/cuddler. Which I am totally fine with. But when it devolves into climbing all over me and just generally being up in my space, I get annoyed and shouty very quickly.
Thanks all for letting me know this is normal. I think I need to mostly work on my reaction to it, which can be very annoyed and shouty like isabel describes, lol. My reaction is sometimes out of proportion but I just get SO annoyed and touched out. It's staying lighter later now so I can start stopping by the park with him after daycare again to get some more energy out. Maybe he will be less climb-y in the evening. We did get him a little trampoline too, so I need to encourage him to use that more!