Happy Monday!?!

[xctsclrx]

I can't tell. I am in auto pilot right now. Nothing exciting to look forward too. It’s nice, but odd. Over the past year I feel as if I have been in a heighted state of stress and just in constant survival mode, but now things have calmed down. Husband in home and we are adjusting to our new normal. It was a bit of a rough transition having him back, but I think it was a combination of many things.



Being in this new state of calm, is just different and taking some getting used to.

[twinmomma]

xctsclrx, we were talking about this over the weekend. For us, it's because politically we're not on edge and waiting for yet another shoe to drop. Plus, the vaccine is rolling out, so it feels like we can breath again knowing that positive progress is being made there. It's just a weird sense of calm.

I felt like we had a really nice, normal weekend. Caught up on chores, did some meal planning/prepping. Saturday night I actually got together with two close mom friends, masked. The parents of my kids' BFF are getting divorced, so she came over to tell us about it and talk through things. It's going to be really tough for them, but I'm glad my girls will be a good support for their kids. They've been together in the same classes since daycare, so they're really close.

On Sunday beau and I celebrated his son's birthday with his ex and her parents. It went well and he was so happy to have all of us there. He and I left there and actually went on a date! We had a really early dinner at a restaurant, so it was basically empty. It was so nice to be out just the two of us!

[traveltheworld]

I worked most of the weekend and feel more positive about work in general. The past week I went back to worked every night till 11, barely came out of my office, but at the end of it, felt much more caught up so much more relaxed.

We did manage to squeeze in a nice short hike with our bubble families. It was so nice to hang out, even for a little bit, and talk to other adults.

[k3am]

We had a lazy weekend. I needed it but also didn't need it. It's supposed to rain here for the forseeable future. We had some crazy cloud bursts last night and I kept waiting to hear our sump pumps go off and.. nothing. I WANT THEM TO GO OFF! They were so expensive to put in, I want to know they were needed and that they work!

CA's stay at home order is expected to be lifted today. My guess is that our county won't lift it, because they're consistently more conservative than the state. It's okay, businesses are totally cool being closed for almost an entire year.

[librarychica]

Our weekend kayaking plans were unexpectedly rained out. It wasn’t a huge deal, we can go another time. We had a nice, quiet weekend mostly at home and then the girls spent three hours (?!?!) roller skating in the park Sunday afternoon.

H and and I pretty sure we are going to put our tentative moving plans on hold. Everything is just too up in the air, we feel very unsettled, and prices and crazy high and inventory low. The local paper reported that inventory is at a 10-year low and, sure, that might help us sell but we have to go somewhere too, you know? We will evaluate in June and then again in a year, I think.

[sandandsea]

I’m swamped at work and my grandpa is in the hospital again. He is 90 and doesn’t want crazy interventions and will likely pass soon (hours/days). We’re hoping they let him leave the hospital and go home to be with my grandma and family as my grandma can’t visit him in the hospital. I’m beyond sad. He’s always been a role model for me and was our officiant for our wedding. He lives a flight away and we won’t be able to visit (don’t want to spread germs to him or my grandma) but he knows he’s loved.

I also have some super dramatic cousins/aunt who think it’s all about them and their loss and how they love him soooo much and are doing a all these showy things in his honor which is annoying and I’m trying to ignore them.

[mommyatty]

I need to see more people. But omg, the virus numbers here are terrible. This weekend was a gray, rainy mess. Today is a gray, rainy mess. I need to see the sun soon or I’m going to lose my mind.

librarychica- we would love to find a house where MIL can move in with us, but we are in the same boat with inventory and prices. They are just insane. Houses go on the market and the next day they are pending. And they aren’t great houses! Plus people are having actual bidding wars here. In North Texas. Where we generally have a new housing glut. What the heck.

[mommyatty]

I’m sorry, sandandsea,that’s awful.

[k3am]

sandandsea, I'm sorry. Death/greiving in the time of covid is basically the worst.

[librarychica]

mommyatty. I think a lot of it is newly-mobile professionals with money to burn. My old roommate lives in Oakland, Ca and her social circle is leaving left and right. Her roommate moved to Texas, another acquaintance sold his house in the Bay Area and bought one in100% cash in Utah... it makes it challenging for even well-paid professionals in these areas to compete let alone anyone else. Where I live is one of the lowest-median wage metro areas in the country and it isn't cheap to buy houses here generally— now it is crazy — and anecdotally it is being driven by people moving down from NY and New Jersey.

[librarychica]

I am so sorry sandandsea.

[supertrooper1]

This weekend sucked. Beau and I were all ready to go dirt bike riding on Saturday when he got a text that a puppy person was on their way and would be there in an hour and a half to pick up their puppy. He had miscommunicated which weekend with them when he wanted them to come next weekend. Then a 2nd puppy person texts and says they'll be there in two hours. We decided we'd still go riding with 2 hours of daylight left. We get to the mountain and start gearing up when Beau realizes he left his helmet behind. Sunday was too rainy in the lowlands and snowy where we'd go riding so we couldn't go. Then we had a fight and I'm still butt hurt over everything.

[sdlaura]

sandandsea, I'm so sorry.

k3am our county will lift its stay at home order today, I'm sure, since our county will do whatever the state allows. I have mixed feelings. The only thing I really care about is our school reopening for 5 days a week, and I think they actually will if/when our case counts and positivity come down. And I think that's less likely to happen if we lift the stay at home order. Then again, no one here was paying any attention to it anyway, so maybe nothing will really change besides businesses being able to be open about still operating rather than doing it under the radar. It feels like half the people we know were on ski trips last weekend even with the stay at home order.

It absolutely poured down rain and was freezing (for us) on DS1's birthday Saturday. But he had fun with his three friends who came over briefly to have cake in our outdoor living room. They jumped on the trampoline and played on the swing in the rain. And then they figured out that the shark tooth necklaces DS1 wanted to give as favors were perfect for popping all the balloons. Ah, 6- and 7-year-old boys. I can definitely see now why our pod didn't work out with these boys together. DH and I were both in bed early and I slept 10 hours that night But he ended up having a fun birthday weekend. Also, I wanted to recommend to anyone having a birthday - buy a $25 helium tank from Target and blow up your own balloons. It was both an activity and provided decorations, and the kids loved it.

[186momx]

Trigger possible
Weekend was just there. My grandma Grams (mom's mom) is in hospice. I've had no relationship with her since I was 18 and my mom and her have been estranged for a long time. Mom got a phone call out of the blue Thursday from Gram's psych. then Friday she gets a phone call from the attorney handling Grams stuff. Big story short my mom was appointment her POA through the courts. We live 3000 and haven't been in the loop so everything is f@cked up. Mom's brother lives in the same town as Grams but the court picked my mom. So my weekend was spent listening and lending an ear.

[186momx]

sandandsea, hugs. Its hard being far away.

[xctsclrx]

sandandsea, I am so sorry.

sdlaura, the positive side of 5 day in person school is that these people will no longer have the ability to travel like that. I will say that we have been in school full time since september with a thanksgving to MLK day of hybrid. We haven't had an out break at a school or caused by going to school. it has been ones and twos getting sick. Not entire classes or grade levels.

Most have been because of sports.

[waverly]

I scheduled my vaccine. I’m in the education industry but not specifically listed in that county (but it is listed in another county), so I am going to go and let them decide. Fingers crossed.

[xctsclrx]

Have you guys ever had a new hire push back a start date after accepting the offer with the start date?

[waverly]

Jan 25, 2021 16:34:22 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

Have you guys ever had a new hire push back a start date after accepting the offer with the start date?

Yes. In that case, she kept pushing it back and we switched to another candidate since we were using a temp agency at the time.

[xctsclrx]

waverly, well not the direction I was hoping for. ugh. I had my new hire do this to me today. I am agreeing to it this time, but not going forward.

[k3am]

xctsclrx, did they give a reason? The reason would make all the difference in the world to me.

I pushed back my start date. I planned to resign on 4/1, and new boss wanted me to start 4/15. In my industry, the norm is you give two weeks notice as a courtesy but they walk you out the same day. I resigned and... did not get walked out. I let my new boss know that in the last 10 years that I'd worked there, the only time I'd had more than 3 consecutive days off was when I got married and my maternity leave, and that I would prefer to take two weeks off before starting if possible.. I started 4/27. I think I'm a pretty awesome employee to have. So you could still have a good one.

[k3am]

And yes, I resigned on April fools day... I definitely told the boss I actually like.. "you know I plan to work here forever, right? Just kidding! I gave my resignation to Cindy 15 mintues ago!"

[xctsclrx]

k3am not really. I didn't talk to them it was the recuriter. Thinks it was wrapping things up at her current job

[k3am]

xctsclrx, I'd let this one be her freebie and hope things get better from here.

[mae0111]

xctsclrx - I had a former employee commit to a start date, only to find that he would not re rove his layoff package at the current company if he didn’t stay an extra week. He wasn’t planning on any time in between jobs. It was like 20 weeks pay that he would have missed out on. I encouraged him to call the new employer and beg for an extra week. I told him they wouldn’t want to go through the hiring process again, and if he could commit to just one week, he would be fine.

It worked out. You just never know the crap that an employer will pull to make things difficult.

[186momx]

Monday Open Letter
Dear PE teacher
Bouncing a racket ball all day long trying to see how many times you can bounce it in a row is driving this working momma bonkers. No DD can't take it outside she is doing it in the office. My head is killing me and I was just the mean momma and took the damn ball away after asking 3 times for her to stop. I'm sorry no noisy PE homework during office hours! You are becoming just as annoying as recorder practice from music.
Cranky Me
PS why can't you assign stuff like calisthenics that are quiet?

[k3am]

Dear Neighbor kids,

Stop ringing the bell to see if DD can play. She is not home. I told you I'd tell her when she gets home. You ringing the bell every 10 minutes and interrupting me won't get her picked up any sooner.

Signed,
Annoyed.

[twinmomma]

I'm sorry so many had a rough weekend/start to the week. Thinking of you!

[mellym]

It's year-end audit time so I worked this weekend, threw a virtual baby shower and we hosted a football party on Sunday. I'm exhausted and not sure how much longer I can keep up with this level of crazy. DH's grandpa passed away and they aren't having funerals in his state. It sounds like he will be cremated and we will have a ceremony this summer. I'm working on a plan for transitioning an entire new department under my leadership which is causing other people to move around in my department.

I've invested about 10 hours in the past week into our school board meetings and the big vote last night. This all started because parents are calling for in-person school once they saw we are at a 50% failure rate across the district. The rate was under 10% less than a year ago. The school admin are also calling for direction. You guys it's a circus. The people on our board have no business being on there, kept saying they have no idea what to do, they don't want this responsibility, etc. I'm angry and disappointed that these 7 people who can't even have a coherent conversation are in charge of our schools when they have no idea what they're doing. They finally voted last night to do....nothing. No change to policy or direction to the schools. I thought about running for the election after this week but it's too late because the ballot is set. I need to take some sort of action so new plan is to vote them all out.

[campermom]

PDQ a quick update on my post about google photos on ML