Back in mid-December, I bought an expensive piece of gym equipment. I love using it in the gym, but I never see "home versions" available. I found a place that gets old versions from gyms, refurbishes them, and sells them at a reduced price - but still pricey. The place seemed to have good reviews, so I went ahead and purchased. Their site indicated 2-6 weeks for delivery.
Long story short, I still haven't received the item, and the company is giving me the runaround. They keep trying to get me to wait for it, but I demanded a full refund. They've agreed to issue the refund, but it might take up to 14 days. I called my credit card company. You can't dispute a charge after 120 days. If they actually refund my money, I will be 114 days past the purchase date.
I was able to find the owner of the company, and it turns out this is his MO. He and his people deliver just enough equipment to sort of be legitimate, but most of the time, they just push people into waiting until they can't dispute the charge. He has several different companies that all do the same thing under different names, so it's hard to get a lot of bad reviews under one name.
I feel really stupid. I hope I get my money back. It wasn't insignificant.
We got DD's MRI rescheduled for 4/8.. with sedation AND gas. They FINALLY acknowledged that sedating her through an IV.. when she needs to be sedated BECAUSE she's terrified of the IV is not ideal. It counts as a hospital admission, so she has to get a covid test in advance, but she's 100% okay with that..
In other news, I talked to my mom yesterday and mentioned DD's failed MRI.. and my mom was shocked. Why did she need an MRI? Just routine check up. Well, what are they hoping to find? They're hoping to not find new/recurring brain tumors. BRAIN TUMORS? Why on earth would they think they'd find those? Because she's had two now. Did she know this? Yes, she knew this. Am I sure I let her know, because she doesn't remember and she'd certainly remember something like that... le sigh.
I guess these are updates, although I don't know if I mentioned them before.
New couch arrived today (dog and cat plus age destroyed the old one). It looks great! DH took my car in to have new tires/hubs, and that is done and he is picking it up.
DD is loving Poms. I like it too because it is fast paced and only 8 weeks long. She already has her costume and has pictures tonight. She already learned the dance for 1 song, and has another song to learn.
Oven is fixed- it was the ignitor.
Window guy comes out tomorrow. Not sure how those are going to go. Garage windows need to be totally replaced, and I am looking for weather proofing for house windows.
Our new kitchen sink and counter will be installed in 2 weeks. I did mention a long time ago that my Corian sink was cracked. Well, you can't just replace that with stainless steel because then it is above mount and not below mount. So if you want a below mount stainless steel sink, then they also have to replace the counter. We are doing quartz.
Paying off my small student loan this spring and our retaining wall. We have the money for the bathroom, but of course the quotes came out higher, so we will have to borrow some for that. Getting a little bit closer to closing the deal on it. DH has been hesitant, but I would rather money go into the house than a car that will depreciate. He's been hesitant because 1. contractors have been less than responsive except the one we got the quote from and 2. Feels more tied into the house, but people can always sell houses and we won't be underwater.
We've been in the house 10 years, so everything is doing the 10 year breaking thing.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Mar 25, 2021 13:08:00 GMT -5
We have now met with two contractors and one real estate agent to consider selling our home or remodeling it.
I would love to sell it and move to a nicer place but I want to be near our current private school which is in the neighborhood of a really good public school so everything is very expensive.
The houses that are in my preferred zip code are few and far between. But remodeling our house seems sooooo haaaaard waaaah. And I have yet to meet with someone who is like "awesome, I will take you through this and it will be easy." Which would be a lie, I know but I wish that existed.
We are in the process of remodeling our backyard. We tore out a ground level deck and are replacing it with concrete. Fingers crossed that our concrete patio gets poured tomorrow (rain is in the forecast). Then we just have to get my brother to rebuild the steps and small deck up to the second level (he works for a deck company). We also have another small deck that hangs over the lower yard that is in rough shape. We're just waiting for my brother's boss to give us an estimate for materials. It will be so nice to have a place to hang out while the kids are in the backyard.
School is doing a "Covid safe" prom. DS has asked a friend of the family. I'm nervous, but with all of the restrictions, he will actually be in less contact than at school. I'm excited too. Prom was canceled last year. He has been virtual almost all year. No football games, basketball games, school trips, hanging out in the lobby. Pretty much a lost senior year. So if we can have a couple of things to finish off, I hope these kids can have something.
Kind of an SOS (Significant Other Soundoff, for new folks). DH doesn’t do any extras. Like DS’s teacher said she thinks he’s having trouble focusing. We need to have the psychologist retest him. Last eval she indicated we might need to look at that in the future, so not a huge surprise here. I’ve waited more than a month for him to do it, reminded him weekly, and today I just did it myself. Same with house stuff. We need our balcony over our bedroom looked at and the posts replaced. He won’t call anyone. We need the outside of the house painted. Nope. He needed a COVID shot, so I found one for him. I would be less annoyed except he’s a SAHD. WTF does he do with all his time when I’m working? I mean, he takes out the trash and changes the kitty litter and does the laundry and helps the kids with their homework. I’m not saying he does nothing. But all the extra crap that pops up seems to just be too overwhelming to him.
DD has her first meet tonight. Very little communication from the gym so I'm going in blind. I looked up some info from the team hosting so I know how much spectator fees are and streaming fees are. And I just realized we left all of DD's masks at home. The only one I have at work with me is x-mas. Great job me
Work has slowed to a crawl. The delayed due date has caused our intake to drop off to zero. We are getting lots accomplished and returns out the door.
Our county moves to the lowest risk on Friday which means larger gatherings and more people allowed for indoor dining.
Solidarity mommyatty. DH is ostensibly still looking for work but actually he’s a SAHD who does... something... all day. He does the grocery shopping and cooks excellent dinners. No question there. Beyond that?
I picked the Ivy League school. I had a long chat with my bestie about it, which clarified that since gatekeepers in my industry still care about where people went to school, there was added value in the name that likely makes the extra cost worth it.
Question, new couch is a bit stiffer. Will that break in more, I’m assuming? It’s not uncomfortable just different. And with the other one being 10 years old and very floppy down filled pillows which I didn’t love because feathers would poke out if the upholstery. Even when I replaced the cores the back cushions were always floppy.
waverly our very firm couch has never loosened up. Sitting in the crack or laying on it is comfy though. We ended up getting a more comfy couch for the living room about half a year after buying that one, and we use it more.
We got a new couch a year ago, also after having a super comfy old couch. I’m not sure whether it got softer or we just got used to it, but we don’t think about it anymore.
DD had a great first meet last night. We were told 60-90 minutes so I didn't eat before, oops. It was a little over 2 hours and we skipped the free t-shirt line and I told DD I would go back later as it was 30 girls deep outside in the dark and cold. We didn't get home until 8:45 so we were both hangry. DH had no clue we had a meet and figured we were just chatting at gym. But onto the good stuff. DD got a 9.35 on vault and won her age group for that session and got an 8.8 on beam and took 2nd for her age group and session. She needed these wins so much for her confidence. Bars was a disaster but the judge was very generous with a 7.7. Her coach screwed up her spotted tumbling pass so got a 7.7 as she fell on her head on the floor. DD was really upset about that. Her coach told me it was a mistake for DD to be there and she wasn't ready before the meet. One of my gym mom friends texted me through the whole meet so I wouldn't be alone and she was just as pissed on coach's comment. I felt like DD proved them wrong and her all around score put her in the middle of the 30 girls who competed. Best of all was DD had fun!
TW - loss . . . . . . . My bff is going thru yet another miscarriage. I'm just heartbroken for her. They've tried for years and gone through treatments and they would be amazing parents. Is there anything I can do for her to help? What is a good thing to do/offer? She lives relatively close by and says she's OK. I just want to wrap her in a hug. But covid. Ugh.
Post by erinshelley21 on Mar 26, 2021 19:57:35 GMT -5
DDOT rant: I'm feeling really overwhelmed with life and work at the moment. I have 2 big meetings next week and haven't had time to work on new referrals that have come in. DDs 4 year old behavior is out of control and DS played the "she gets more attention than me" card tonight, so he basically didn't stop talking from the moment he walked in the door trying to get attention. DH pestered me about having sex all day and also wants me to make twice as much money as I do, so not sure how to do that naked in bed (sex and $ comments are mostly joking. Only mostly since he would love for both to happen, but the comments are playful). We are both going to be working away from home on Wednesday and I don't trust the new cleaning lady's helper enough to give them the code to the house, so I'm probably going to have to cancel our cleaning for this week and figure out how to fit cleaning the house in. Dinner with the extra family was rescheduled AGAIN and my whole meal plan was thrown off as a result. SFIL just got diagnosed with stage 3 melanoma, so I'm trying to mentally prepare for questions from the kids even though we don't know the actual prognosis yet.
My period is due next week, so all of this seems like a much bigger deal than what it probably is, but today as felt like a lot.
twinmomma I’m so sorry for your friend. My first child was my fifth pregnancy, and it was a pretty terrible time. I don’t think there’s really anything you can do besides telling her you’re sorry for her loss and being there for her. I think typically it’s recommended that women seek medical testing/fertility help after 3 losses in a row - I’m sure she knows that.
I have an update. My dad is coming back to the country cue ALL the drama again. Last time he came back he told me in at least 50 messages that I had to rent a van for the month of August which would have cost 2k to transport him from MI to IL when he could have taken a bus for $30. (I made him take the bus).
This year, I suggested a weekend trip because he suggested a trip and already got told he is in the country for 3 months and a weekend is not good enough because he would like to see me more than 3 days. Never did I say I would only see him 3 days. It will go on like this until he leaves, ugh why??? He says he only wants to see us and kids and then when he does see us he is selfish, demanding, rude and ignores the kids entirely. Oh and there is like 5000 rude messages to get to this point. I’m at the point that I don’t think he even wants to see us. He just wants somewhere to stay for free.
When my sister told me she wouldn’t trust him with her kids and he ignores them I didn’t quite believe it because he was OK when we were little. But really, no. He’s not even capable of providing childcare for a 10 year old and 8 year old who are fairly self sufficient. He spends all his time on the phone talking to his girlfriends and being a boomer.
I can't find our easter baskets or eggs. We do not have a large house - no basement or real storage of any kind. And baskets are relatively large. How did I lose them??