I'm still quite anxious about our previous COVID exposure, we just got notified that our friends do have the UK variant. We are going to get tested again tomorrow. So far we are feeling fine. The good news is that our friends seem to be on the mend, so I'm hopeful that it didn't hit them hard.
Other than that, DS and DD are running around the house wild, but I don't really care.
I hit my goal weight today, after about 3.5 months of strict food tracking and working out. It feels a little anticlimactic, to be honest. And now I want to lose a few more to create a buffer in case I gain a bit back.
STBX is coming for all the furniture he fought for on Tuesday. He will have to pay to have it stored for months. I’m nervous about him being here. I’ll need to be here at some point bc my bed and mattress will be delivered that day. Everything else will be a few weeks to two months to come in. I’m ok with that though. It’s one step closer. I ordered almost everything I need.
I’m packing up as much of his stuff as I can and considering having people help me take it all out to the garage so he doesn’t need to come in the house.
Locks are changed.
Yesterday was incessant texting about all the little things I owe him like half the $119 tax check, but he cursed me out in the driveway in front of our son when I asked about the $1600 federal check I paid out of my account. He asked me for half of January’s insurance reimbursement for my therapy. (I haven’t even submitted anything to insurance for reimbursement. That’s the last thing on my mind). He also texted me to try to talk me into buying the 12 year old not smart TVs off of him. That was a favor to me.
Do not let him in the house. For sure have friends put it all in the yard.
I would seriously consider that divorce texting app. It’s too bad the divorce isn’t final- all this nickel and dining and “favors to you”. It’s too much to deal with. I would consider not discussing finances at all but I think you are still at the point in the process that you have to.
OMG you guys, DS is making a 45 minute cooking video for his math class. It’s just keeps going. There is no way she has time to watch all this! It’s her fault though because this lady really likes projects for math.
Do not let him in the house. For sure have friends put it all in the yard.
I would seriously consider that divorce texting app. It’s too bad the divorce isn’t final- all this nickel and dining and “favors to you”. It’s too much to deal with. I would consider not discussing finances at all but I think you are still at the point in the process that you have to.
I agree - don’t let him in. Also, I would install Nest cameras in the driveway. They pick up sound. You will have a record of him cursing you out if it happens again.
Also, try to have someone there with you when he comes for the furniture.
And now it’s turned into dinner for the family. Her recipe is like 3 eggs to 3/4 cup milk- doesn’t that seem extreme in the milk? Probably he is messing up the number of eggs maybe...
waverly, I think it is cute that the math project is cooking with fractions. DD loves fractions when she cooks. She dislikes fractions using the school math book and program because they aren't practical.
campermom, have friends help move it out of the house and have a couple people over when he is supposed to pick it all up.
Yes-I’ve been trying to Gray Rock as much as I can and have learned an immense amount of boundary work in therapy and also DoctorRamani on youtube is so powerful.
The cams do record sound-I started the paid subscription. I just need to set up the outdoor one. I will see if my parents can come over during the time I’ll need to be there for my bed to be delivered. I had them come to the notary when we signed the agreement too.
We originally had the parenting apps in the agreement but hadn’t started it yet and my lawyer was like Eh i hate those things. She is having me take pics of all harassing texts in case it’s time to move forward w a protective order.
Post by erinshelley21 on Apr 8, 2021 19:14:36 GMT -5
Another vote to not let him in campermom. With the amount of snooping he did recently I feel like that's just asking for trouble at this point. Pay some high school kids $20 to move the furniture to the lawn. Depending on the age and health of your parents, I don't know that I'd even want him around them.
I’m in a Lyft on my way to a work dinner. In nice clothes. Wearing dress shoes (well.. flats.. Rothy’s. But dressier than what I normally wear!!!) and carrying a purse. It feels weird.
In other news, I’m screwed when I go back to work. It took forever to find something to wear. And it has a hole in it (elbow) that I’m hoping no one notices....
k3am, I had the same thought this morning, as I got dressed for work in yoga pants and a sweatshirt and had time to make myself a real, healthy breakfast. As much as I hate working from home, when I have to wear real clothes and commute, it's going to be rough.
Post by librarychica on Apr 9, 2021 7:15:46 GMT -5
I go into the office now once a week and those days are definitely stressful. I also feel more productive, though. The weirdest thing is how out of practice with lunch packing I am! It’s just a lunch, self.
I’m starting a prescription cream + oral medication to try to get rid of steadily worsening hormonal acne. The doctor says it could take 2-3 months to fully heal and will get worse before it gets better. This is what comes of perfect skin as a teenager, I guess. Hellish skin in your mid-30s.
librarychica I still go into to the office frequently but since it’s pretty empty, I don’t dress up for it. I want jeans!
I’ve worked at the same place for ten+ years. For the first several years it was dresses/heels/slacks and noises. Then it was the dressy side of business casual. Absolutely no jeans. Six months before quarantine they switched to “you can wear nice jeans if you aren’t seeing customers or in an exec meeting.” But I mostly still wore slacks and blouses because I owned slacks and blouses and I didn’t stick out. Now it seems all bets are off. When I go in wearing slacks I feel very overdressed so I guess I need some work jeans!
Post by mustardseed2007 on Apr 9, 2021 9:58:34 GMT -5
campermom, if for some reason you have to let him in because that's an agreement through the court that he be allowed in to get the furniture, I would say you should not be there. Have your parents or a friend or something come over instead. A male relative would be ideal.
But if you have any choice, I would place the furniture in the drive way and have relatives be in the house and you not even there.
I don't even know why I'm upset about wearing "real clothes" back to the office. We're a jeans and casual shirt place. If it has our logo on it, you can wear a tshirt or a hoodie every day if you want. I think it's mostly the yoga pants that I'll miss.
waverly , I think it is cute that the math project is cooking with fractions. DD loves fractions when she cooks. She dislikes fractions using the school math book and program because they aren't practical.
campermom , have friends help move it out of the house and have a couple people over when he is supposed to pick it all up.
OMG the last video is hysterical. It is basically me saying DS I think you have enough eggs. DH, do you think he has enough eggs, yes. DS- you are good on the eggs.
In my head, STOP MAKING MORE EGGS DS! He was making 4 batches of scrambled eggs LOL.
My office went from business formal to business right before I joined. Pretty sure the CEO shed a tear and he continued to wear full suits until the day he retired.
We moved buildings during the pandemic, so now instead of being in a corporate downtown area, were in the middle of a tech office park. 100% of people in the area would consider nice jeans being dressed up. I was hopeful that we’d see the dress code relax when folks come back full time (because it’s on the dressy side of casual for those heading into the office except for client facing branch workers) but the old CEO has come back. I’m secretly hoping her burned all his suits when he retired.
Certain positions are able to push the envelope. Operations? Sure! Teller? A little. Client facing relationship managers? Nope. I’m in a weird gray area since I’m a client facing RM, BUT in my division (and only mine) most of my clients are not local, so the only time I see clients, it’s planned well in advance.
Post by supertrooper1 on Apr 9, 2021 11:56:50 GMT -5
My attorney forwarded me an email from ex-H's attorney, requesting that we put mediation and all divorce decisions on hold until we know what is happening with the money that his attorney potentially stole. If we have to file a claim with the state bar, that money could be a year or more out. NO. I'm not putting this divorce on hold any more. It's been two years and I can't continue to put my life on hold.