TWERKs

[supertrooper1]

waverly, didn't you say your passport was expired? I would renew it now in case you do have to travel. Even with expedited service, mine still took about 4 weeks to process.

[supertrooper1]

I got an email from the state bar association today. They finished their investigation and concluded that ex-H's attorney only had $1,100 in her bank account and did steal our money. They recommended disbarment and that will go in front of the review board. My next step will be to try to recoup funds from the bar victim fund.

[mustardseed2007]

supertrooper1, wow. That's terrible but not surprising at this point I guess. But I have heard good things about state bar victim funds. They don't want lawyers stealing from their clients and making clients afraid of that. Hopefully that's how it is in your state. Also if you do get your funds back from a victim fund you REALLY shouldn't need to pay your EX's malpractice lawyer.

Dang.

[waverly]

May 14, 2021 17:28:14 GMT -5 supertrooper1 said:

waverly, didn't you say your passport was expired? I would renew it now in case you do have to travel. Even with expedited service, mine still took about 4 weeks to process.

Exactly. We are on the same wavelength. I got my passport photo today. And the application. I just need to write the check and mail it. It’s a renewal I guess technically since mine expired 2 years ago- I am in the window to renew.

[waverly]

supertrooper1- it’s so bizarre that she did this. I guess they don’t think they will get caught. I hope you get reimbursed quickly.

[erinshelley21]

This is a TWERK/vent so I don't lose it. It's my turn to stay at my moms again. I am crossing my fingers she senses how f'ing exhausted I am and doesn't put up a fight when I suggest she stays at my house for a few nights next week. When she first brought up having the surgery done at the beginning of the year we discussed, and I think agreed, that she'd stay with us for the first few weeks of recovery so I could take care of her and not have to shuffle my kids lives around because of DH's schedule. Fast forward to about a month before the surger, she says she wants to stay at her house because she "doesn't sleep well at other places." At the pre-op appt she divulges that she takes 30mg of melatonin at night which would indicate the woman isn't sleeping well at home either!

Her pain pills are making her tired and she has had no issues sleeping. My brother has stayed with her during the day once and one night so far. The day resulted in her getting dehydrated and not walking or icing enough, which led to swelling and a headache and me helping her as she puked. He's taking her to 2 out of the 8 PT sessions that are scheduled.

She thought she'd only need help at home "for a few days" and I kept telling her that she was going to need it for at least a week and a half, if not 2 whole. Well, we are on day 5 and she's still on 2 hydros every 4 hours of that gives any indication on which one of us was more accurate.

DH is extremely irritated with it all. I don't blame him, even though he needed to experience a couple school mornings without me, because this isn't how this was supposed to go and I'M going to be recovering from these two weeks for a while. Home, work and health wise I bet. I think the most I've worked consecutively this week is like 2 hours. I'm so behind from only piecing together an hour here and an hour there it's not even funny. Meanwhile, my brother, who is in his slow season, is sleeping until 11:00 (side note: he has 2 kids under 3. His wife is a saint) and was trying to start his work day at 3 yesterday. Wtf.

Ok, enough with the word vomit. I needed to bitch before I went to bed.

[k3am]

DDOT: DH took the dog with him tonight to hang out in the neighbors yard. He thought Indy was licking his foot, but really, he was eating his sandal. I don’t even want to know how much an emergency vet visit costs, but apparently we’re finding out.

This dog eats.. everything and anything.

[mae0111]

DDOT... kind of long... possible TW for weight issues.

DD1 has been bingeing a lot over the past few months, and has gained a lot of weight. We’ve adjusted her meds, but we didn’t understand the extent of the issue until we found a literal mound of trash stuffed into the sofa cushions. We think it has improved.

Thursday DD1 was crying after school because the kids at school told her that she’s slow. She is. Part is related to her NVLD stuff, but part is her weight and the fact that she doesn’t want to move. First we talked about her other talents, and that the other kids couldn’t play piano like she can. We had a discussion about food to fuel, protein vs empty calories, treats are fine sometimes but not ALL the time. I told her how much my body ached before I started eating better and moving.

She seemed to listen, and asked me to buy healthy foods she likes. I did.

HERE’S THE ISSUE...

Last night she told me that she won a race against two very in-shape dancers in her class. She said that one girl called her slow, and the other two “defended” DD1 and raced her. She proudly told me that she won. But... there’s no way she won without them throwing the race.

I don’t think they let her win to make her feel good. I know these kids. They’re all tight and DD1 is on the outside. DD1 doesn’t read social cues well and doesn’t always understand when kids are making fun of her.

There isn’t anything to be done. I just feel bad and I thought about it all night.

[xctsclrx]

mae0111, hmm that's hard. Because you really don't want to point out that they are making fun of her, but also don't want her naive to it either

Hopefully she is listening to you about the food issue and I really think you handled that the best way possible.

[mae0111]

May 15, 2021 10:32:50 GMT -5 xctsclrx said:

mae0111, hmm that's hard. Because you really don't want to point out that they are making fun of her, but also don't want her naive to it either

Hopefully she is listening to you about the food issue and I really think you handled that the best way possible.

Thank you. I am reeaaallly worried about the binge eating and how to address it. Both of my sisters have/had severe eating disorders, and I definitely did not have a healthy relationship with food for most of my life. I feel better about that over the past few months, but it’s hard to undo 30+ years of dieting/restricting/calorie counting/yo-yo-ing.

And again, I know there’s nothing I can do or say about the race. It just makes me sad.

[mae0111]

I have another DDOT...

When I moved my kids to parochial school 3 years ago, most people either wished us luck or didn’t say anything at all. But one mom in particular went on a rant. How foolish I was to leave such an amazing school system (it sucks in a good year) and amazing teachers (not our experience) and wonderful kids (that bullied mine relentlessly). She went on and on about how stupid I was to pay tuition anywhere. I just kind of let her go, asked if she was finished, and wished her well.

I saw her today for the first time in 2 years. I was very polite and asked about her DD and how middle school was going. She very sheepishly told me that she was sending her DD to a Catholic middle/high school next year, because the school system had gotten so bad.

Oh. Interesting.

I was very encouraging and told her I thought it was a great decision. My cousin is the head of that school and I told her I thought her DD would love it. I don’t know if that’s true, but it felt like the right thing to say.

She seemed grateful for my words. I have a feeling she’s getting the same treatment that I got from her when I left, which sucks. I also get that COVID has people scrambling for in-person options. It was just an interesting exchange.

[waverly]

Dad is worse. Friend agreed to take him to hospital in the morning and he agreed to go, so let's see if that actually happens since friend is very passive. Hostel owner agrees route is safe during the day. I need a letter from the hospital in order to get an appointment for emergency passport and my flight itinerary. Apparently it is a 5 hour appointment, and none until Tuesday. What a nightmare.

[waverly]

I keep trying to write this then get interrupted by dad stuff.

I basically have 2 close friends in town. I made the second one because the first close friend has tons of friends and sometimes they got cliquey. Anyway now second friends daughter is in class with first friends daughter. And the one mom is sort of aggressively hunting down the group to have a big play date at the park right by my house (we are invited too), and I just feel kind of weirded out by it. And I can’t explain why very well. But its like she stole my friend group and park but then also like I don’t want the friend groups to merge because the other friend is friends with everyone and I only had 1 other friend. And I know I should look at it from a point of big groups yay and let’s include everyone, and I just don’t want to. And I realize I’m being weird but still.

[mommyatty]

waverly- I get it. I couldn’t explain why either but that would bother me.

[waverly]

Also it being at the park right by my house means I can’t say no. DD actually has soccer but she will see all the cars and girls there so she will know they are all getting together. So I had to tell her and ask her to choose between this and soccer. It would have been easier if they picked a different park.