Dear colleague, Just because something might fall slightly outside the standard process that you stick to does not mean it's a major crisis that involves notifying several managers and causing widespread panic. Things happen. We have a work around. You chose to take a more difficult path instead of using that work around. That's not my problem. Your instant panic whenever anything isn't exactly by the book is exhausting. Let's try to have a little more flexibility and understanding, please? Signed, Take a chill pill
Dear ExH, You're a piece of work. Yes, you're invited to come to my house for the birthday party for your children. That's why I told you when the party is, what it entails, who we invited for school friends, and what I purchased for a gift. So we could coordinate and plan. Did you want that invitation delivered on a silver platter? I know you're not intending to lift a finger or spend a dime to help with the event, but yes, you are expected to attend. Signed, What kind of stupid question is that?
Dear universe, Wooooo boy, are you testing me lately. A "spa day" with my kids, me, and exh's fiancee for their birthday? Can't wait. Exactly how I want to spend my weekend. Yes, I will do it because it's what my kids are dreaming of and they want to spend time with both the women in their lives who mean a lot to them. Yes, I will foot the entire bill. And yes, I expect my karma bank to be overflowing after this weekend. Thank god it's only a manicure and some french braids, not a full blow day long event. Signed, Send me strength
SOS Vent Open Letter Dear DH I know you have no interest in DD's gymnastics which just sucks but you know her meet is Friday out of town. Why are you asking me to schedule and do things for you on Friday? I should call St Vinnies for the car so they can deal with it Friday. I need to go with you for your COVID shot because the paperwork is too hard? NO NO NO NO. Be a grown up and deal with stuff on your own. I will deal with the car when I have time and it fits with what we have going on. Get your head out of your ass and pay attention to something other than yourself Frustrated WIFE
Dear DD Your hair looks really cute. It has been so long since it has been shoulder length and it took a lot of guts to cut 7 inches off yesterday after getting 2 inches cut off 2 months ago. I'm sorry your friends didn't react how you expected them to last night. I didn't spoil your surprise or blab. I promise Mom
Dear sister, texting me that Dad might have a firearm that he might just toss willy nilly in the luggage and not declare has driven me to drink. So thanks for that.
Post by supertrooper1 on May 19, 2021 12:10:19 GMT -5
Dear division director, I have work to do. Taking an hour out of my day to play Jeopardy based on a 13 page vision paper does not sound like fun nor helpful. Signed, Just let me do my work
Dear Beau, No, I do not want to race my dirt bike tomorrow. I have never even been a spectator at the races and have no idea what to expect. Thank you for thinking I could do it and thinking I'm a great rider for only having a year experience. But I'm not at the racing level yet. Love, Your riding buddy not ready to race
This business travel thing is a lot like you remember. Congrats on only forgetting toothpaste. You’ve raided your travel supplies so much over the past 15 months that it’s surprising you didn’t forget more stuff.
Signed, Business Traveler
Dear Daughter,
I love that I’m your person. I don’t love that when you’re having an emotional meltdown over a missing homework assignment that you need to FaceTime me to help you resolve it from 1000 miles away instead of asking your dad and grandma who were both downstairs. And the answer is always “look more carefully in your binder.” It would help if you would calm down, breathe, and just look carefully in your binder before freaking out.
twinmomma, yeah that would be a hard no from me. You are a much better person than I.
Dear WP, BLUF: should we change daycares?
Background WWYD, we have been at my daycare since 2015; overall I like them. Haven’t loved them as much post COVID shutdown because they lost a lot of amazing teachers and turnover is high right now. They are the only daycare in town that makes the kids wear masks. My daughter is about to turn 3 and she has been wearing a mask for a year now. Never had an exposure or case at the daycare. We liked them enough that we worked with my 2 year old to get her to wear one. Lately her emotions around the masks have been extreme one way or the other. I asked them today if/when they were going to update the mask policy (since the school districts did), and they responded with not until COVID is 100% over. I don't feel like this is a real answer. I don't think COVID is 100% going away. I would feel so much better if they had said, when school gets out or when we are at this percentage, an answer with some sort of logic. Not when COVID is over. Pros; We like this daycare; although I liked them more with DS. Not a huge fan of the teacher my DD is with right now. We never had her with DS. Affordable- we can afford more. We have been here for a long time. DD has her friends there. Cons; Out of our way. 30 min if WFH, an hour from one work location and 15 for the other. Do not have a good step up for potty training. That has been a nightmare Communication between teachers are parents stopped at COVID. I have no idea how she is doing or what goes on at school This fall she moves to the back classroom that does not have a stable teacher and hasn’t had one since DS was there (3 years ago)
mommyatty, I'm preparing for next week's trip, my first since covid started. The Amazon panic purchases are starting to roll in. I'm probably going to take time off work tomorrow to shop in an attempt to have something decent to wear.
xctsclrx, if you can find a closer daycare that doesn't require masks for the kids, I would switch. I feel like our preschool is too far away and it's only 10 minutes - I can't imagine an hour from one work location. I've also been glad that my 3-year-old DS2 doesn't have to wear a mask all day. Only if they're near another cohort and at drop off during the health assessment. They're in small cohorts and the adults are in masks. We went through the giant SoCal COVID spike this past winter and didn't have any positive cases among the kids. In the fall, there was one positive 3-year-old but she didn't give it to anyone. My personal preference is for a preschool that takes COVID seriously but doesn't have the under 5 kids wear masks all day.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 19, 2021 13:35:09 GMT -5
I wouldn't leave our school over masks. Our school won't tell us when the kids won't have to wear masks anymore but I feel like it's probably related to when all the kids in the school can be vaccinated. If so, that's fair. if they lifted it earlier, I would still go because I like our school that much.
Teachers mean a lot to me and if they don't have a teacher you like I would consider moving. When you say they don't have a stable teacher, do you mean they don't have a consistent teacher there every day or do you mean they haven't been able to keep one?
I have seen this in one class at our school. A long time teacher retired, and then the replacement teacher got pregnant and decided not to come back, and now finally I think this current teacher will stay long term and she's great. But if they are changing a teacher multiple times throughout a year, that is really hard on 2-3 year olds!!!!!
mustardseed2007, they have not had a permanent full time teacher since 2018 in that classroom, they have hired a few, but none have lasted longer than a few months. All of the teachers I have liked are gone now. I didn't move DS early because he was really attached to his friends when we started having issues. DD was in the infant room I adore that teacher. It was six months so I didn't stress it.
I really do think this is a frustration of all things and the answer to the mask question was just the last thing.
k3am, distance is really getting to me these days. I've been doing it for 6 years. Never going to end.
Post by mustardseed2007 on May 19, 2021 16:29:37 GMT -5
With that inconsistency of teachers I would definitely look around and see if there's something better that's more convenient. I feel like "when covid ends" is a thoughtless answer that kicks the can down the road. I don't know what they really meant by that answer but it's possible they just don't want to put an arbitrary date on it. However, all organizations now have to get serious about thinking about it with the new CDC guidance, availability of the vaccine and the age to being eligible to get it dropping.
xctsclrx, I would look just for the commute. Daycare should be convenient to us parents if at all possible. I will admit I loved DD's infant/1s/2s teachers/staff but we had multiple teachers in the preschool/pre-k classroom and it made it rough. We stayed because it was convenient (5 minutes from home and on the way to work).
Dear Dad Thanks for making DD and her gymnastics a priority and coming with us/driving yourself Friday. Finding out we can now have 3 spectators and you jumping at going is so great. Grateful Daughter
Dear Mom We invited you to the meet too. You said I have to work. Why couldn't you tell me weeks ago so I could try to get off. We didn't know weeks ago if we even were going to have the meet. Your company says that you have flexible work from home schedule and you can work whatever hours you want and can take PTO whenever you want. But they don't mean it and have you chained to your desk constantly checking for jobs. So over your WFH chained to your desk life and you whining about it. Frustrated Daughter
I realize Ds has not been a great club VP this year. It's been a rough year and very little has actually happened. He did horrible at online learning and got his first real jobs. In the last 3 months, he had his grades back to As now that they are back to in person, got a new job at the gym where he is training 3-4 nights a week to prepare for the Army. So the fact he didn't take off work and go on an overnight retreat with 2 weeks notice should not "force" you to reduce his role at the end of year banquet. It's been a crap year. He may need a little credit for the fact he scored amazing on his entry test and is working toward a goal. That's the purpose of these clubs right?
So he's not coming tonight. I wish he would. He feels unwelcome and unwanted. So this better not reflect on Dd. She finds out tonight if she makes officer. She will be great and is already very responsible. She will be devastated in front of everyone if she doesn't get it.
Signed, not sure if I can hold my shit together with 2 sad kids. Currently planning on sitting at my table and trying to keep my mouth shut for dd, so don't talk to me.
Dear work week, 40% or more of my week will have been spent on Zoom meetings by the time I'm done. I don't want to talk to anyone anymore. I want to actually do some work. Can we tone this down for next week please? Thanks, Sick of video people
If I tell you that I don’t want certain neighborhood kids here to swim because the my don’t listen and it isn’t safe, don’t invite them over 10 minutes later.
Also, when you ask to swim and I say no because I spent the past 2 days at the softball field or watching you and your friends swim, PLEASE DO NOT INVITE EVERYONE OVER HERE TO SWIM.
If this continues to happen, you’re not going to be allowed in the pool either.