It is definitely a Monday.

[xctsclrx]

DD spiked a fever last night. Easily controlled by meds, but she was miserable and she has a cough. In any other time I wouldn't be as worried, but I am now. No known exposure. No one else is sick in the family or that we know.



Kids get sick and she woke up fever free. No meds this morning. She is definitely staying home today. Calling her pediatrician in a little bit, but man I am exhausted.

[twinmomma]

Unexplained fever is the worst xctsclrx! Hope you get through the day today without it coming back.

We're all exhausted. The weekend was super busy and super hot. I actually pulled the girls out of school today. It's supposed to be 97, no AC at school, masks on all day. They're taking a lazy day to recover and rest in the cool house instead. There's a week left of school, I'm not worried about them missing anything of real value.

And poor beau's son is stuck doing standardized testing from home today. The software they're using keeps crashing on his school Chromebook, so it's going to be a long day trying to get through it all.

[erinshelley21]

My keurig is on the fritz. It is a basic one without a reservoir since I am terrible about the maintenance part of having one of those. I've had issues with this one in the past but haven't had trouble with bringing it back to life until now. On a Monday of a short week because we are going on a short vacation and I went ahead and scheduled car repairs and a refi closing.

Here's to hoping the $10 I spent on Starbucks cold brew for the next 3 days gets me through.

[k3am]

The weekend was a mixed bag. We had friends over on Saturday and one of their kids.. colored. On our house. And our pavers. I am 100% sure it wasn't my kids. I noticed it Sunday afternoon when we were visiting with one of DH's work friends. I was able to get the crayon off the house with a magic eraser, but the pavers weren't so easy. Google suggested dish soap followed by kaboom, which we tried, along with comet and a degreaser spray. If anyone else has suggestions, I'm all ears.

Yesterday we had all of the neighborhood kids in and out of the house throughout the day and it was.. just a lot. I feel really bad beause one of the kids I just.. don't like. The kid is not a bad kid, just drives me nuts. I have a couple of people I've met in life that I'd compare to an unsocialized golden retreiver.. very sweet but just don't understand how to behave or interact with people. And then I feel like an awful person for feeling this way about a child. But this particular kid has said some particulary rude things (without even realizing it or meaning to.)

We have the kids home this week, so we'll see how that goes. Saving the camp fees less whatever we end up paying the neighbor to help out is a nice consolation at least.

[waverly]

Our weekend was mixed too. Our neighbor invited us to an event that when we went ended up not existing. They are one of our flakier neighbors.

Remember when I said one of my close friends wanted to do a playdate with my other close friend and her group, and it was throwing me off for some reason. Well, the one close friend socially engineered it to be at the pool and then got there early with other people that she had invited outside the group. I can't help but feel the social engineering is a bit much, but yet we did have fun with the bigger group. So I can't tell what my problem is specifically, but this person just is very good at socially engineering things and sometimes I guess it's a bit overboard for me who is an introvert who barely manages to invite people to things occasionally and only one on one. I suppose it is the different between liking to hang out in a group or one on one maybe. I can't tell what original friend thought of it because I am not going to talk about anyone behind their back in a negative way because that will always backfire and make me look bad, so I just have to accept that is how friend is. But I don't think the one originally trying to get everyone together knew what hit her lol.

I think I avoid groups because I feel pressure if I am the one bringing them together for everyone to get along.  Whereas this person does everything and prefers everything to be in a group.  I've accepted it, but it's not my personality.  And I know some of her other friends feel the same as us because it is this one person bringing everyone together rather than them, so they have also made an effort to expand their circle like we have so that they are not always following friend around.  Also friends are really good people and good friends, so I hate thinking anything negative.  It's just a very different personality than mine or DH's, I think.    

[mae0111]

Weekend was hot but good. Kids had an ice cream party after their Field Day on Friday, so we got home from school late. Sat and Sun were in the 90’s, but we lucked out with sports. DD1 had a 9am game (lost by 2 run - heartbreaking) and the. DD2 plays indoors in an air-conditioned facility. Restrictions were recently lifted here so we were able to go in and watch.

It’s almost 90 here just before noon. DD2 doesn’t have AC and her teacher doesn’t let them refill water bottles, so I sent her in with two huge Contigo stainless steel bottles full of water and ice and Gatorade for lunch. I also wet washcloths and put them in baggies in the freezer. Then I packed them with ice packs in a cooler bag. DD1 has AC.

Both have sports tonight. DD2 has a soccer tryout indoors in a facility with no a/c, so that should suck. DD1 has a later game outdoors so hopefully it will cool off a bit.

Last week of school, so we are taking the kids to an amusement park on Friday (coming your way twinmomma) since they get out at 1130. Should be fun for them and I will load up on my motion sickness drugs because I’m old.

[supertrooper1]

The weekend was good. Saturday we ran errands and then visited my parents at the campground where they were camping. It ended up being a bigger group than I thought with a bunch of my cousins but it was a fun time around the camp fire. And DS really hit it off with my cousin's daughter that was a year younger than DS and they had fun playing and riding their bikes. On the way home I was thinking about how much it still shocks me how easy going Beau is compared to ex-H. Ex-H probably wouldn't have gone with me, but if he had, he would have been miserable and begging to leave after an hour, and then complained about how he doesn't like my family. Even though Beau didn't have a lot to say when everyone was telling stories, he's already talking about going camping with my parents, something ex-H would have never done.

Yesterday we spent most of the day looking at new trailers. I think we confused ourselves even more on which one we want to buy. We fell in love with a fancy toy hauler, but it's twice as much as we want to spend so we decided against it. I think we need to look at one more brand that seems to check more of our boxes but it's at a dealership 2 hours away so it will have to wait until next weekend. We just know our old used trailer we just got is not meeting our needs and is on its last leg.

[mustardseed2007]

We had a nice short trip over the weekend. I was worried about weather and, although it did rain a lot of Friday, we got a good amount of pool and beach time in at this lovely beach house we like to rent. I was enjoying it so much that while we were there I tried to pull up the house to rent it again later in the summer...only to find out that the house has been or will be sold and so it's not listed to rent anymore I'm glad we got to at least enjoy it and really use the pool.

The kids now have the first days of summer vacation today. DD is off to a week of dance camp with 2 friends and DS is off to swim lessons and maybe the neighborhood pool afterwards with the nanny. I booked DS into jump start swim lessons to hopefully help him remember all he forgot in 2020 before he goes to camp in two weeks.

This week is going to be so busy. I have to get the dog to the vet, my car to the shop for maintenance, and a lot of meetings that I need to get done. What's really making it crazy is that I'm going to be a fact witness in a trial, which is SUPER uncomfortable. I'm looking forward to the end of this week.

[sandandsea]

We had a nice weekend. Saturday we had a last minute play date at the park to meet a new family that just moved into our neighborhood. The boys is the same age as DS1 and they have some mutual friends from different sports teams. So my fingers are crossed for a walkable/bike-able easy friend for him. After that we went out to dinner with a different neighbor who live across the street. So I felt very neighborly and it was nice as our hood is soooo quiet and we’ve never done anything social with neighbors in the 6 years we’ve lived here.

Yesterday we had DS1s end of season soccer party at another park that we can walk to from our house. It was nice to see everyone as this year has been so distant.

I also finished the design for the kids vacation t shirts. We are going to sea world and Hawaii with my BIL and his kids so I’m making matching t shirts for the 4 kids since they rarely get to see each other (live on opposite coasts) and it makes it more special. I tried to combine SW, CA and HI into one. I’m waiting for the shirts to arrive but will try to post a pic once I get them completed.

[twinmomma]

mae0111, Have fun! We'll be spending a lot of time there this summer, they offer season passes now so we all have them. It makes it easier to justify going over for a couple hours vs. packing a full day in.

[xctsclrx]

Well back from doctor. Lungs sound good. No more fever, won't test for COVID because they haven't had any cases in 2 months and no known exposure. RSV which is going around was also negative. No infections. So now just a tired crabby little girl who feels miserable.

[mae0111]

Jun 7, 2021 11:54:58 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

mae0111, Have fun! We'll be spending a lot of time there this summer, they offer season passes now so we all have them. It makes it easier to justify going over for a couple hours vs. packing a full day in.

Believe it or not I’ve NEVER been! There was a similar park that was a bit closer to us growing up, and field trips took us out to the huge park out west… so I never went North! I wish I didn’t get so sick. 🤢

[mustardseed2007]

mae0111, she doesn't have air conditioning where? Is this at school? I forget where everyone is. The idea of a building not having ac floors me.

[twinmomma]

mustardseed2007, No AC in the schools here. My kids don't have it either. A lot of towns around us cancelled school or are doing a half day to send the kids home before the afternoon heat. mae0111 and I are in New England.

[k3am]

You guys, we FINALLY hired someone. I just got the email. He's a little... unusual personality wise (did you know that apparently some people buy special cages so they can take their BIRDS hiking?!?! Apparently it's a thing.. and it's his thing), but overall I'm hoping it will work out. He's also a former Marine, so the chances of me making him cry then have a panic attack and quit are (hopefully) significantly reduced.

This hire does nothing to relieve my workload in the short term - I'm having him train entirely to back up my operations person so that she can take some vacation time and I have a chance of retaining her long-term.. she has taken a total of two non-consecutive days off in the last 2.5+ years. She's close to retirement age, and I love her.. I figure if we can keep her happy, she'll be less likely to retire or look elsewhere.

And if he works out, training him to support me will be a 3-4 month period that significantly reduces my productivity in the short term, but my fingers are crossed it works out, since trying to find someone experienced who wants to a junior role isn't going to happen.

[sandandsea]

It’s sooo hard to hire people. I hope this guy works well for you k3am. We’ve had recs out for months and it’s nearly impossible to fill. It was hard pre-Covid now it’s impossible.

[sdlaura]

The craziness of DH/DS1 spending the weekend away, my parents watching the little boys, and DD and I going to two softball games, then on the trip for one night, then getting up at 5:45 am Sunday and driving back to another softball game went reasonably well. I wish I had gotten to relax longer at the fancy hotel, but the night we did get was worth the drive. DD and I got to the hotel at 4:30 pm on Saturday to meet DH/DS1 and our two friend families. So we got to swim, all have dinner together, have smores and then swim some more. The only thing that really sucked was that I woke up at 3:30 am Sunday and never really fully fell back asleep since I knew I had to get up early. Last night we were all so tired.

Wednesday-Friday this week is my first work trip since early March 2020 - to Wyoming, and DH is going to join me because he's been wanting to check it out. He imagines living there part of the year because he loves the idea of empty space and no income tax. We'll see how he feels after he sees it. My parents and our babysitter will handle the kids in the early morning and evenings while we're gone. Friday night is virtual school open house, Saturday DH and DD leave at 5:45 am for another softball tournament, and Sunday is DS2's 4th birthday party (which DD may miss depending on how the tournament goes).

A week from now I'm hoping life is feeling a bit calmer I'm skipping my book club tonight, even though we're technically free, to have a normal night.

[polecat8]

Happy Monday indeed.
This weekend was exhausting.
DS1 had two soccer games on Saturday and the heat/sun was brutal. It didn't seem to bother my kids though. They continued to play outside after the games were over. DD and I also got haircuts.
On Sunday, I did a brutal legs workout and then thought it was a good idea to take the kids to the wave pool. The water was cold, but felt so nice. Then we came home and collapsed. I fell asleep on the couch at 7:30. You would think that the kids were tired too, but the boys were up bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at 7am. Of course it is an in-service day for DD and DS1, so they were all screaming and jumping around during my 9:30am meeting. They were begging to play in the yard with the hose today and they just spent 3+ hours out in the sun again.
Meanwhile, I'm hoping that it's quitting time soon so I can lay on the couch with my headache and cramps.

[mae0111]

Jun 7, 2021 12:14:32 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

mae0111, she doesn't have air conditioning where? Is this at school? I forget where everyone is. The idea of a building not having ac floors me.

No AC in school for DD2. DD1’s classroom happens to have it - totally lucky. But most schools here don’t have AC. Public schools here dismissed early due to heat.

Also no AC at the indoor turf field, which is ridiculous. She played at a different indoor turf facility yesterday and it was awesome. The one tonight will be slightly cooler than outside because no sun, but still brutally hot.

[mustardseed2007]

The no AC in school thing is so foreign to me! So wild!

[sdlaura]

mustardseed2007 many people also don't have it in their houses in New Hampshire - at least they/we didn't when I lived there 15 years ago. But with warmer temps I think a lot of climates that used to not need it now do. Many people in our neighborhood in San Diego in very expensive houses also don't have A/C. I actually have no idea if our schools do - but I don't think so? It doesn't get as hot here in the Coastal areas as it did in New Hampshire. But then I doubt our schools have heat either...

[k3am]

My Monday keeps getting better... I had no idea how much to pay the neighbor to watch the kids. Camp would have been $110/day for both kids from 9-3. I texted her mom to find out what she suggested (because I hate the fact that MIL and FIL give our kids too much money, so they don't understand the value of money) and she said they'd been talking about $2/hour, and don't go above $5/hour until she's CPR certified. So we will let her name her rate and enjoy the savings.

AND she helped them clean their rooms.

I'm halfway considering asking her to go through their drawers and purge the things that don't fit. And seeing if she wants to do another week later in the summer once she runs out of money (it mostly will go towards coffee runs with friends.)

[186momx]

No AC here even in the new school buildings. Usually teachers bring fans from home to move the air. In DD's school sometimes they still run the boiler until mid-May so it can be a hotter day for us and the heat is still kicking out hot air. Meet the teacher night is miserable in August as the school has been closed up so it is just stuffy and hot plus all the bodies.

I started my Monday with the dentist. My visit went much better than DD's on Friday. My dentist retired and the new dentist is pushing exams and x-rays every year which I've never done. I normally get x-rays every 3 years and see the dentist every 2. Never had a cavity and I cash pay so $$$. So I had to fight to try and keep my normal schedule of care.

I'm so tired of everyone asking what our summer plans are and when I say I don't have anything really planned giving me a hard time. I'm playing things by the day as things keep changing. I got DD in art camp and farm camp and a lego robot camp but she wants to drop the 4 week lego camp and do a gym camp instead.

[twinmomma]

Jun 7, 2021 15:27:35 GMT -5 sdlaura said:

mustardseed2007 many people also don't have it in their houses in New Hampshire - at least they/we didn't when I lived there 15 years ago. But with warmer temps I think a lot of climates that used to not need it now do. Many people in our neighborhood in San Diego in very expensive houses also don't have A/C. I actually have no idea if our schools do - but I don't think so? It doesn't get as hot here in the Coastal areas as it did in New Hampshire. But then I doubt our schools have heat either...

Yup, NH-erite here with no central AC. My parents built a brand new house a couple years ago and didn't bother to install it. We have some cheap window units that do the trick for the hot days we have.

[erbear]

Jun 7, 2021 16:02:26 GMT -5 186momx said:

No AC here even in the new school buildings. Usually teachers bring fans from home to move the air. In DD's school sometimes they still run the boiler until mid-May so it can be a hotter day for us and the heat is still kicking out hot air. Meet the teacher night is miserable in August as the school has been closed up so it is just stuffy and hot plus all the bodies.

I started my Monday with the dentist. My visit went much better than DD's on Friday. My dentist retired and the new dentist is pushing exams and x-rays every year which I've never done. I normally get x-rays every 3 years and see the dentist every 2. Never had a cavity and I cash pay so $$$. So I had to fight to try and keep my normal schedule of care.

I'm so tired of everyone asking what our summer plans are and when I say I don't have anything really planned giving me a hard time. I'm playing things by the day as things keep changing. I got DD in art camp and farm camp and a lego robot camp but she wants to drop the 4 week lego camp and do a gym camp instead.

This is my summer and I’m thrilled. We were supposed to go to Europe for three weeks next week, but that’s not happening so literally we have no plans. And I cannot wait.

We had a good weekend. It was so hot. Saturday, we went to the flower show with MIL, which was fun. DD1 stayed home bc she wasn’t feeling well after her vax but she perked up after a few hours. We had friends here for a birthday party - my BFF’s kid’s friends bailed on her party last second so we threw her one. I felt so bad for her. We went to a ropes course birthday party on Sunday which was fun but so. Long. We were there almost 5 hours. It was too much.

I need to be done with school. I am so over this year. Three more days!

[erbear]

I’m getting together with my college roommates on Saturday (we’re meeting in the middle, about a 2 hour drive for me, about the same for everyone). Three of the six want to bring their kids, all under 7. So not interested in that gathering and I’m annoyed - I want to hang out with my friends as adults (we haven’t seen each other all together in 5+ years - our 20 year reunion was canceled last year for covid). I don’t feel like dealing with constant kid interruptions when I want to just sit and chill and laugh and drink beer and not have to deal with anyone else.

[sdlaura]

erbear as someone with 3 kids under 7, I would be super annoyed. It’s not possible for me to truly catch up with my friends with them around.

[mae0111]

Today was a very Monday Tuesday. Kids were up late due to a softball game. DD2 recovered, but DD1 flat out refused to get ready for school. Screaming and tantruming and DH and I are mean and horrible people because we asked her to put on her clothes.

I finally get her in the car and she starts yelling again because a small poster that her teacher gave her was left in the car (by her) and got dirty and wrinkled (because she threw her filthy softball gear on it). She said it was my fault because I wouldn’t keep it in the front seat.

The bottom line was that she was totally irrational and completely making things up and digging in her heels for some reason. She is done with school on Friday. We just need to limp to the finish.

[186momx]

We have 8 more days of virtual school. Teacher sent out an email to parents saying all missing/late/current assignments are due Friday the 11th. No idea what the kids are doing next week. Its getting harder and harder to get DD up in the morning. Normally the last week of school is filled with fun activities but no idea how they could do fun stuff virtually. DD said she is leaving the meeting if they are just playing the stupid games.

DD turns 10 Friday and we got no plans. I'm feeling so many feelings with guilt being the biggest.

[sdlaura]

186momx, it's not too late to make plans! Even if it's just like favorite restaurant for dinner and go out for ice cream...or like - DD and I went mini golfing over the weekend and it was fun.