So as an update, she closed the blinds and we we like “wheeew. Maybe she realized everyone could see her and was just oblivious.”
Then I went to the kitchen an hour or so later (first floor in the back), looked up, and she had re-opened the blinds, had her phone set up again leaning against the window, and was once again, um, really feeling herself in front of it. There’s no other reason to open the blinds unless it’s to make sure people can see you.
So as an update, she closed the blinds and we we like “wheeew. Maybe she realized everyone could see her and was just oblivious.”
Then I went to the kitchen an hour or so later (first floor in the back), looked up, and she had re-opened the blinds, had her phone set up again leaning against the window, and was once again, um, really feeling herself in front of it. There’s no other reason to open the blinds unless it’s to make sure people can see you.
So as an update, she closed the blinds and we we like “wheeew. Maybe she realized everyone could see her and was just oblivious.”
Then I went to the kitchen an hour or so later (first floor in the back), looked up, and she had re-opened the blinds, had her phone set up again leaning against the window, and was once again, um, really feeling herself in front of it. There’s no other reason to open the blinds unless it’s to make sure people can see you.
It sounds like she’s a cam girl or has an onlyfans and is using the light from the windows to film herself. I’d leave them a note telling them it’s visible to children and please keep the blinds closed, otherwise you’ll be looking into legality issues.
So as an update, she closed the blinds and we we like “wheeew. Maybe she realized everyone could see her and was just oblivious.”
Then I went to the kitchen an hour or so later (first floor in the back), looked up, and she had re-opened the blinds, had her phone set up again leaning against the window, and was once again, um, really feeling herself in front of it. There’s no other reason to open the blinds unless it’s to make sure people can see you.
Ugh.
Give her a ring light. Maybe she opens the blinds for better lighting.
Frost the lower half of his window so he can get daylight. Tell your son it's for your own family's privacy as you are so close to the other home. We might do this to a few of our own bedroom windows in a home we're renovating that has street facing windows.
I think we’re just going to lightly monitor the situation- not like, go out of our way to look for it, but check out the window prior to sending our kid to bed. If it keeps happening I’ll have the world’s most awkward conversation.
Honestly I don’t think you’re going to get the police to do much here. I would probably try leaving a note (because I would prob melt on the spot if I had to talk to them) or encourage my more vocal/outgoing neighbor to say something.
I might also send a note to your commissioner just to have a paper trail if ever needed.
Oof. As much as I would rather chew broken glass than have this conversation I think I would knock on their door and explain the situation. I mean if they continue even after they know they are exposing a kid to what sounds like basically porn that can't be legal. If a conversation doesn't help I'd call the constable and see what they say.
Post by sunshineluv on Jun 26, 2021 12:25:53 GMT -5
I am very surprised at the breezy responses, I have a nine year old child and if my neighbors were doing sexual things with essentially a spot light on them I would be ringing their doorbell/filing complaints with the police, HOA, everything I could to make it stop. I would be surprised if there isn’t ordinances against this, what stops some pedo from doing this on purpose at his window as kids walk around the neighborhood? 9 year olds do not need to see their neighbor masturbating.
I mean maybe? But also there have been 260 homicides so far this year which is a huge increase even from last year which was a 13 year high.
I just think if you want immediate results this is not one the police will be your best option for.
I don't see how this is relevant. Police still need to be involved for other crimes than homicide
I’m not sure if you live in this city. In my experience the police are overwhelmed. Not every 911 call gets a response. Not every person who walks up to the police station gets a response.
So I’m just saying to OP that if she wants an immediate resolution I don’t think the police will be able to give her one. When they go through their To Do list of crimes this one will be so low that they may never get to it. Every day something more acute will occur and take precedence.
I’m not saying it couldn’t be considered a crime, but rather that if she wants her kid to stop seeing the lady messing with her boobs another approach will probably be more effective.
Post by brandy0331 on Jun 26, 2021 12:32:46 GMT -5
I’m trying to put myself in the camgirl’s shoes. While if that is how I made my living, I doubt I would care if other adults saw me, I would be absolutely mortified if a child saw me. I am definitely also surprised by the breezy comments & I agree that if it were a man the responses would be different.
Wait. meganew, by “feeling herself” do you mean it colloquially like she was dancing around confidently or she was literally touching herself/masturbating. Because I do think there’s a line. It’s a weird one, I get that, but I draw it lol.
I am very surprised at the breezy responses, I have a nine year old child and if my neighbors were doing sexual things with essentially a spot light on them I would be ringing their doorbell/filing complaints with the police, HOA, everything I could to make it stop. I would be surprised if there isn’t ordinances against this, what stops some pedo from doing this on purpose at his window as kids walk around the neighborhood? 9 year olds do not need to see their neighbor masturbating.
I’m here. I’m pretty breezy, but having a neighbor fondle themself in full view of my kid on the reg is not something I’d just let go.
I personally do not equate a woman fondling her breasts to a man jacking off. Waaaaayyyy different. The comparison is actually shocking to me as we've had discussions here in the past about topless beaches/Europe blah blah blah and how uptight we are here. It's not egregious as an act of climaxing yourself. IMO. I also think if we are all following the rules we set about breastfeeding a 9-year-old might not even equate it to something sexual, correct? Because sexualization of breasts is learned when they are a functional part of the female anatomy? Just using talking points we've discussed in the past.
Would I want my kid to see it? HARD NO Would I want to see it? No Would I employ the plan OP is planning on doing on seeing if it continues and escalates and handle it myself with a "just so you know" awkward conversation? Yes And I echo other posters saying the cops in this city have much bigger fish to fry. It's not a good situation right now.
I personally do not equate a woman fondling her breasts to a man jacking off. Waaaaayyyy different. The comparison is actually shocking to me as we've had discussions here in the past about topless beaches/Europe blah blah blah and how uptight we are here. It's not egregious as an act of climaxing yourself. IMO. I also think if we are all following the rules we set about breastfeeding a 9-year-old might not even equate it to something sexual, correct? Because sexualization of breasts is learned when they are a functional part of the female anatomy? Just using talking points we've discussed in the past.
Would I want my kid to see it? HARD NO Would I want to see it? No Would I employ the plan OP is planning on doing on seeing if it continues and escalates and handle it myself with a "just so you know" awkward conversation? Yes And I echo other posters saying the cops in this city have much bigger fish to fry. It's not a good situation right now.
I think she is mastubating.
And even if she isn’t, fondling your breasts is not the same as going topless to a beach (which is simply enjoying a recreational activity in the body you were born in) or breastfeeding (feeding a child). It’s a purely performative, sexual act that she is putting out into the public against their consent.
If she is just a cam girl, she wouldn’t be giving it away for free. I’d have a direct conversation that you can see what she’s doing - clearly and seemingly deliberately, and you want it to stop.