You: “Hello. I hope you are enjoying the summer as much as we are. As you know, we have a few windows that face each other’s house. Could you be mindful when you are nude of the windows that face my 9 year old’s bedroom? It would be very kind and considerate if you could keep those shades down. A few days ago, my husband could easily see you from his office window and checked our 9 year old’s bedroom and view and was relieved that he wasn’t watching. It would help us parent, if you could keep the shades down. Is there anything we can do to make being neighbors easier for you?”
Neighbor: “Sure. Nothing to ask you, everything is fine.”
At least I hope she says sure. Then, I’d navigate from there. It’s not too much to ask.
I’d frost the windows. The stuff is easy to install. I have two bathrooms in my townhouse that have windows that another house could clearly see anyone in the bathroom. It still lets light in and I don’t have to worry.
I’d frost the windows. The stuff is easy to install. I have two bathrooms in my townhouse that have windows that another house could clearly see anyone in the bathroom. It still lets light in and I don’t have to worry.
But that's good for your own privacy in your bathroom. I'm not shutting off my vision to the outside out of my bedroom because of a pervert.
I have lived in a city where they did not respond to calls like noise, so if I knew the police wouldn’t handle it then I would leave a note.
*My assumption because it is so brazen is that they are doing it on purpose and don’t care what their neighbors say. So it may still have to escalate past a note or a talk.
There is also an opportunity to talk to the HOA or landlord. If you are in townhomes, I assume there is an HOA, and since HOA’s are known to be kind of strict I don’t see this being OK with them.
Confession time. I have been the recipient of a neighborly "we can see your naked self" communication. Without going into endless boring architectural detail, the bedroom window in our apartment was recessed so I believed INCORRECTLY that the neighbors couldn't see in. Because it was recessed, the room was dark so I just kept the blinds open.
Anyway, I was not gyrating or a cam girl and most of the time I was alone because my husband was deployed overseas. But I was naked in front of God and everyone until someone told me. Via an anonymous "I'm sure you don't realize" note.
I would talk to the neighbor honestly. That way you could maybe sense if they are doing it on purpose or if they aren't aware. Suggest the ring light for her camera.
Confession time. I have been the recipient of a neighborly "we can see your naked self" communication. Without going into endless boring architectural detail, the bedroom window in our apartment was recessed so I believed INCORRECTLY that the neighbors couldn't see in. Because it was recessed, the room was dark so I just kept the blinds open.
Anyway, I was not gyrating or a cam girl and most of the time I was alone because my husband was deployed overseas. But I was naked in front of God and everyone until someone told me. Via an anonymous "I'm sure you don't realize" note.
We live on a hill, with a street behind us. The bathroom window is pretty high, but when we turned the 4th bedroom into 1/2 laundry room 1/2 my closet, I didn't realize that people could still see in as I assumed it was too far.
Until DS's friend (8) that lives on that street mentioned he could see into my bathroom.... Fairly confident it was actually my closet, but assuming I was naked, he probably didn't realize the difference. And DS just dropped that into a random conversation one day, like WEEKS after the kid told him!
I’d frost the windows. The stuff is easy to install. I have two bathrooms in my townhouse that have windows that another house could clearly see anyone in the bathroom. It still lets light in and I don’t have to worry.
But that's good for your own privacy in your bathroom. I'm not shutting off my vision to the outside out of my bedroom because of a pervert.
What makes this person a pervert?
Maybe they don't realize what they're doing is being seen by the neighbors. Seems like a big leap that that now they're a pervert.
You can be naked in our city legally. Outside, inside, anywhere, naked is allowed but once that naked moves to sexual acts then there is a problem. If I had a minor in the house, I would probably ask them nicely to keep their blinds closed when there are sexual acts involved. If they didn't after asking nicely, report it to the cops.
lol there are so many assumptions being made in this thread. That the neighbor is a cam girl doing this for money, that she KNOWS she's exposing herself to a child, that she's PURPOSEFULLY exposing herself to a child, that she's masturbating, that she's getting pleasure from her neighbors seeing her and so she's a pervert.
lol there are so many assumptions being made in this thread. That the neighbor is a cam girl doing this for money, that she KNOWS she's exposing herself to a child, that she's PURPOSEFULLY exposing herself to a child, that she's masturbating, that she's getting pleasure from her neighbors seeing her and so she's a pervert.
I just don't see how an adult with a fully formed frontal lobe would think doing something, anything, in front of an open window with the lights on would think it's private and wouldn't know it could be viewed from outside her window.
lol there are so many assumptions being made in this thread. That the neighbor is a cam girl doing this for money, that she KNOWS she's exposing herself to a child, that she's PURPOSEFULLY exposing herself to a child, that she's masturbating, that she's getting pleasure from her neighbors seeing her and so she's a pervert.
I just don't see how an adult with a fully formed frontal lobe would think doing something, anything, in front of an open window with the lights on would think it's private and wouldn't know it could be viewed from outside her window.
Uh huh, yup. So the ladies that posted doing the same thing that thought they couldn't be seen are also perverts then. Gotcha. Yup, old pervy perves...
I just don't see how an adult with a fully formed frontal lobe would think doing something, anything, in front of an open window with the lights on would think it's private and wouldn't know it could be viewed from outside her window.
Uh huh, yup. So the ladies that posted doing the same thing that thought they couldn't be seen are also perverts then. Gotcha. Yup, old pervy perves...
To me, walking naked in your home when you believe your window is at angle that is private, versus what was described by OP, is different.
I'm okay with not thinking this individual is that naive to think her situation is acceptable.