Post by Leeham Rimes on Jul 9, 2021 11:07:14 GMT -5
This has been the LONGEST week, ever. Holy moly. I’m all caught up with work reports, I just have to move on to past due billing. I may save that for Monday though. What’s awesome is that it frees up my weekend, so that’s nice. Another wrinkle in the saga of my father’s issues: There is an exclusion in his (crappy) long term care policy that MIGHT preclude any coverage if they say that he’s disable due to alcoholism, which could perhaps be a “self inflicted injury”. LOL! I mean, I shouldn’t laugh but it would completely be on par for all the devastation and complete financial ruin he’s caused. What’s nice is that I’m truly “meh” about it all. Gonna suck for my mom if that happens, but THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU STAY MARRIED TO AN ADDICT.
H and X fed the snake today. It went really well, so that’s good. I love that snake. I don’t even know how you can love a snake, but I totally love her. She’s really nice and likes to be held. It’s going to be really neat when she’s full grown.
I had a therapy appointment this morning. I really regret not going to therapy YEARS ago. It’s so helpful. It’s you’re ever on the fence, definitely try. I use getcerebral dot com. It’s not “cheap” and insurance doesn’t cover it but it’s cheaper than my co-pay and, while it doesn’t go toward my deductible or anything, the ease of online appointments and not worrying about if they’re accepting new patients is really nice.
I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
Post by Leeham Rimes on Jul 9, 2021 11:11:04 GMT -5
bcv513, I’m sorry he is hurting you on purpose like this. As a PI i see this often (probably b/c the calm cases don’t ever need PIs). Do everything you can to get the best deal you can out of the divorce. I know you didn’t ask for opinions, but the things my clients tell me that they regret the most is going too easy on the ex/agreeing to things they didn’t want to just to be done, in the hopes of making things better for their child(ren).
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I need ham like water Like breath, like rain I need ham like mercy From Heaven's gate Sometimes ham salad or casserole or ham that’s free range, all natural I need ham
isabel I know this isn't the point of your post but I love The Gruffalo! Pretty sure I enjoy it far more than my kid.
Speaking of my kid, she turns 3 in less than three weeks but she keeps randomly requesting to be stuffed into her 18 month sized narwhal Halloween costume. This is the kind of weird I can get behind.
Me too! He wanted me to read The Grouchy Ladybug last night and I didn’t feel like reading it so I asked if he might want to read The Gruffalo. He said no, so we read the ladybug book. Then we got done and he was sad that we didn’t read The Gruffalo. I was like “too bad, we already read your two books, we’ll read it tomorrow.” Clearly he didn’t forget overnight.
Post by shamrockshake on Jul 9, 2021 11:18:46 GMT -5
We were supposed to be going to the shore this weekend now 3/6 of us are sick and instead of the beach I get to take dd1 for a COVID test 👎🏻👎🏻 She’s been vaccinated but really feels like sh*t so I feel like I should take her in.
isabel I know this isn't the point of your post but I love The Gruffalo! Pretty sure I enjoy it far more than my kid.
Speaking of my kid, she turns 3 in less than three weeks but she keeps randomly requesting to be stuffed into her 18 month sized narwhal Halloween costume. This is the kind of weird I can get behind.
Me too! He wanted me to read The Grouchy Ladybug last night and I didn’t feel like reading it so I asked if he might want to read The Gruffalo. He said no, so we read the ladybug book. Then we got done and he was sad that we didn’t read The Gruffalo. I was like “too bad, we already read your two books, we’ll read it tomorrow.” Clearly he didn’t forget overnight.
I like The Grouchy Ladybug too! Great minds!
ETA: The nighttime routine is the bane of my existence. I generally end up grumpy because DD lobbies for “one more book” every time and all I can think of is my child-free evening slipping away. I wish it could just be easy and I didn’t have to be stern to get her to settle down. Ugh.
bcv513, I’m sorry he is hurting you on purpose like this. As a PI i see this often (probably b/c the calm cases don’t ever need PIs). Do everything you can to get the best deal you can out of the divorce. I know you didn’t ask for opinions, but the things my clients tell me that they regret the most is going too easy on the ex/agreeing to things they didn’t want to just to be done, in the hopes of making things better for their child(ren).
Thank you for this! I know I would do exactly this so I already told my lawyer she needs to tell me to toughen up when I waver.
We’re headed home today. I love Red Lodge so much, but I’m ready to be home from this particular trip. Our friends from Boulder (the H of that family and my H met freshman year of college) came as well (they have in years past too) and I ended up feeling like I was tagging along on H’s and his friends’ family’s vacation. So much was structured around what the two kids wanted or needed and H spent a ton of time playing with the boys. H and I did one thing alone together all week. And no, I didn’t express any of this to H bc then I come off looking like a spoilsport or a brat.
Anyway. Hopefully the dogs will have forgiven us for leaving for a week. It ended up being such a saga with them, but it’s way too much to type out LOL
Post by blondemoment123 on Jul 9, 2021 12:48:07 GMT -5
Captain Catnip My old employer was good for this. The business was struggling and he was in way over his head. My coworkers and I would bring our checks to the bank and pray we could cash them.
Captain Catnip My old employer was good for this. The business was struggling and he was in way over his head. My coworkers and I would bring our checks to the bank and pray we could cash them.
That's the thing... They have the money. They legit just fuck up a ton.
I'm loving the cooler weather we're having. We sat out on the patio last night after dinner and I actually had to put a hoodie on!
I have 5385 things to get finished before we leave for vacation on Wed. But all I feel like doing is sitting out on my patio and reading the book I just downloaded. I just want to be on the road. I hate all the things I have to do to get ready to leave for a trip.
I officially accepted the offer to return to work, not sure when I start, maybe week after next, I’m in no rush!
A group of friends dropped off flowers and treats with a card for PoBoy and my housekeeper brought us flowers:) I picked up his ashes yesterday, those poems really get ya, my God. H was like why would they do this to us, lol
Anyway, aside from being sad we are realizing how much work it really was, and I feel so much relief and I am not going to feel guilty. Before my dad died he said don’t feel guilty when you feel relief, and I’d like to think PoBoy would have said the same and I envision my dad welcomed him with open arms - just let me have my fantasy. My cat is also with them.
Now I’m a weird person collecting animal ashes in my closet, though. At some point maybe we will bury them, or spread them? Idk, but they’re gonna sit there for a good while.
I have my cat's (plural) ashes sitting in decorative containers on a bookshelf in our bedroom. I like having them around, but I don't think it makes me weird. Or we can be weird together.
I officially accepted the offer to return to work, not sure when I start, maybe week after next, I’m in no rush!
A group of friends dropped off flowers and treats with a card for PoBoy and my housekeeper brought us flowers:) I picked up his ashes yesterday, those poems really get ya, my God. H was like why would they do this to us, lol
Anyway, aside from being sad we are realizing how much work it really was, and I feel so much relief and I am not going to feel guilty. Before my dad died he said don’t feel guilty when you feel relief, and I’d like to think PoBoy would have said the same and I envision my dad welcomed him with open arms - just let me have my fantasy. My cat is also with them.
Now I’m a weird person collecting animal ashes in my closet, though. At some point maybe we will bury them, or spread them? Idk, but they’re gonna sit there for a good while.
I have my cat's (plural) ashes sitting in decorative containers on a bookshelf in our bedroom. I like having them around, but I don't think it makes me weird. Or we can be weird together.
Same. I have both decorative wooden boxes on my nightstand. Since it's all I have left of their physical presence, I like to keep their remains near.
mofongo, have you considered doing some sort of glassware for the ashes? Like one of those pieces where they swirl it into a paperweight or an ornament? This might be morbid (for the pre-planning aspect), but some day when my parents pass I know they will be cremated and I know my sister will want all of us siblings to have ashes, so intend to have them made into a Christmas ornament in blues and greens. They currently can't travel anymore, but they loved going to the Oregon Coast more than anything, and my mom loves Christmas, so it feels appropriate.
Something in the mountains is put my allergies in overdrive! My eyes are so itchy and kind of burn when I close them. Luckily I have allergy meds & got some clear eyes drops that help some. I randomly taught a yoga class today because the instructor didn’t show up to the class I signed up for. I don’t think it was the best class ever (no plan and just went with sun salutations followed by some good sequences) but people were grateful someone stepped in and I had so much fun!
Post by oregonpachey on Jul 9, 2021 15:06:58 GMT -5
I am almost done with work for the week. I have yarn soaking in pans to dye up later. I am trying to get my little Etsy shop stocked up so I can sell more.
Post by Monica Geller on Jul 9, 2021 16:51:14 GMT -5
I’ve been working with a therapist for the past 18 months. Started during my pregnancy with DS2 due to the anxiety I was having. In the spring my therapist at the time suggested it was probably in my best interest to do EMDR therapy to deal with my PTSD.
So about a month ago I started with a new to me (but still in the same practice therapist) and we started the EMDR process. It’s hard. I feel completely wiped out/hungover after my sessions. I know this is normal, but… ugh. I don’t know; just needed to put it out there I guess.
monica_geller you have been through SO much in the past few years. I can’t imagine the stress you’re under. I’m sorry you’re feeling so wiped out after your sessions. I hope they help
We have 25 lbs of peaches (hopefully) ripening on the island counter. They take up a lot of space, but I am sure it will be worth the minor inconvenience now when we are feasting on peach empanadas.
DH was expecting them to be ripe when he picked them up, but I am kind of glad that we'll have some extra time to figure out what we're going to do with all of them.
I really need to decide on paint colors for the exterior of the house, and I am having a hard time making decisions. I can't decide if we should stick with the current grayish color that kind of looks white unless you see it next to white, if we should paint everything that color (or whatever color we settle on) or if we should use another color/shade of gray for the porch or something, and if we do that, which part should we accent? And what color do we paint the new stucco board part of the courtyard side of the porch? Too many ideas!
It would be easier to choose colors if the courtyard pavers were installed, or if we at least had samples here to look at with the paint chips, but there are no samples, and the painter is supposed to be ready before the paver guys.
Our new neighbors behind us keep burning yard waste, and it's giving me a headache...again. Ugh.
My H and I went for a walk, and I turned around after 10 minutes because I'm not technically cleared by my PT to be walking the hills around our neighborhood yet. I didn't bring my keys because we have a panel on our garage with a key code, and I asked my H if the panel was OK before we left. He said he thought it was fine. Guess who is now sitting on a rock in her back yard waiting for her H to get home with his keys?
Thankfully it's absolutely gorgeous out, and I killed some time picking and eating about a pint of raspberries from my patch. But I had planned instead to enjoy the great weather from my comfy deck chair while reading my book. The deck isn't accessible from the yard, which is why I'm sitting on a decorative boulder.