Post by SusanBAnthony on Jul 22, 2021 6:01:05 GMT -5
Is this suicide ideation, and what do I do about it?
DD (11) has anxiety and sees a therapist through school so that person is not available over the summer. I would describe it as fairly mild.
Last night she came and told us she was pinching her nose to stop breathing and she scared herself. I asked her if she thought she wanted to hurt herself and she thought maybe yes. She was very upset. She ended up sleeping in bed with us. My gut tells me this was something real.
We didn't want to make a huge deal about it in the middle of the night. H is working from home so she'll be supervised today.
Do I need to do anything other than obviously get her an appointment with a new therapist as soon as possible?
Does anyone have suggestions on how we should talk about it with her and handle it?
Post by spearmintleaf on Jul 22, 2021 7:46:31 GMT -5
Did you ask her if she wants to kill herself, specifically? 11 year olds can be very literal and she might not have understood what you meant by “hurt yourself.” You won’t put the idea of suicide in her head by asking the question directly. Either it’s there or it’s not.
I would get her in to see a new therapist ASAP and check in with her throughout the day.
You have a few good things going for you. 1) she scared herself and came and told you, 2) holding your breath until you pass out is a bad idea but it’s not fatal.
(This is my personal opinion based on having had a suicidal teen, NOT my professional advice. I haven’t evaluated your daughter and I’m not giving medical advice.)
Post by mrsukyankee on Jul 22, 2021 11:35:34 GMT -5
Definitely check in with her and tell her that what she is experiencing is not unusual and you are proud that she came in to talk to you. That you will help her find a person to talk about all her feelings as soon as possible and until that time, you'll be happy to be that person who holds her.