Assorted 2 year old questions

[Susie]

DS turned 2 in June, and my once-easy baby has become a handful. 

1.  Bedding.  He's been in 18-24 mo. Halo sleep sacks, but is getting too tall.  He's worn holes in one at home, and his teacher commented he doesn't have much room in there.  Right now I've been giving him an A&A dream blanket at home because it's on hand.  I need a solution for crib at home and cot at daycare.  Do I go with the walker sleep sacks with foot holes?  Just blankets?  I was hoping to stay in sleep sacks a little longer, bc we have had a couple crib escapes, and a few more attempts that I've thwarted.  He has no grace in his attempts, and I'm worried he's going to hurt himself falling onto the HW floors.  IDK if the foot hole-sleep sacks would really help though.

2.  "Up!"  From out of nowhere this week, he suddenly wants up all the time, specifically from me.  If I'm there, he won't sit in a high chair to eat.  He won't walk.  He won't play.  He just screams for me to pick him up.  He'll eat if he can do it in my lap.  (Hard pass, buddy.)  Nothing is wrong, when I leave him at daycare they tell me he stops screaming w/in 5 mins, and plays all day normally.  It's just me.  Home life has been misery for me, and not good for any of us.  I think it started because we've been walking (not strolling) for the 4-5 block walk between daycare and parking garage, and he started increasing how much "up" time he was asking for when he'd get "tired" to the point where I was carrying most of the way.  Then add in some missed naps at daycare, and some probable 2 yo molar teething, and he's a toddler mess.  I have dropped the carrying and now he's back in a stroller to daycare.  What else do I do to break this?  With me he acts as helpless as a 25 lb. newborn, and then I leave and he's running around playing.  His teachers are surprised when I tell them about his shenanigans at home.  

Help with either issue please?

[starburst604]

DD was in a sleep sack till well over 2, and when she got too tall for the standard ones she wore this one. I also didn't want to do the footed ones because I liked her contained.
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As for your #2 question, I don't have a solution just commiseration from remembering that age. I had a horribly painful hip injury on the side that I would pick DD up on to hold her on my hip and I would literally cry when I had to pick her up and she wanted UP alllll the time! It's an unfortunate stage but she did grow out of it. I remember thinking that if she could have crawled back up into my uterus to live in there she would have. HATED, HATED that stage! 

[mbcdefg]

1. I think we just did blankets at that age. But my DD is on the smaller side and didn’t have an easy time climbing out of her crib … and one big fall (she wasn’t hurt) was enough to scare her out of doing it again.

2. DD is 4 and still whines to be picked up. I’ve had luck since she was 2ish by picking her up, giving her a big hug, then putting her back down to walk or whatever. There’s still some whining but the hug seems to satisfy her enough where it doesn’t lead to a full tantrum.

[latte]

DD won’t use blankets so we got the 18-36 month Kyte baby sleep sack. Her room is cold so we got the warmest one.

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[meowmaps]

Once DD started to walk with confidence somewhere around 18 months she would refuse the stroller and have to walk everywhere. At some point, maybe six months ago (?), she would walk a short way and then insist on being picked up. I had to have several conversations with her before we started walking and say things like, before we start our walk you need to know that I cannot pick you up (my go-to valid excuse is back pain) so we can only walk as far as you can walk on your own. I'd make sure she understood and verbally agreed before we left. If she still asked to get picked up at some point I would reiterate our "deal" and say it must be time to go home then since you're tired of walking. She's much whinier with her dad and for some reason she doesn't take as kindly to him saying no.

[Susie]

Thanks for the recs on the bigger sleep sacks.

meowmaps , unfortunately we are stuck with the 4-5 block walk between daycare and parking garage morning & night, so unlike neighborhood walks where we can kind of do what you suggest (and tailor distance to his energy), we have to get where we have to get to -- and I need to do it on time, KWIM?  Which is why the carrying became a thing out of "in the moment" need.  In the AM I need to get him to school so I can get to work, and in the PM, I have to get him to the car so we can make it to his sister's pick up on time.  I'm hoping the stroller helps for now.  It feels like a regression, because in the spring he was walking the whole thing himself, but it's much faster.  Even when he was walking, we were stopping for EVERY stick, flower, puddle...

Jul 23, 2021 14:46:49 GMT -5 @hiphopanonymous said:

Are his 2 year molars coming in?

He already has the bottom ones, but yeah, I think the top ones may be.  He doesn't let me get a good look, but I don't think they're in yet.  And we've seen some finger sucking that would suggest they are part of what's going on.  Somehow the bottom ones came in without so much drama.

[af1212]

I’m clearly an outlier here but if you have had multiple escapes and even more “almost” escapes I would say time to ditch the crib for safety reasons.

[osulori]

We just keep going up sizes in sleep sacks too, I'm pretty sure they're the only thing keeping Z the spider monkey in her crib. (We also have to put them on backwards because she gets out of them otherwise...because that's Z being Z for you)

[meowmaps]

Susie I hope the stroller helps! We partially retrained DD to use the stroller for certain circumstances too. Sometimes it's a matter of bribing with the tablet or a toy. If it's a longer walk she'll ask to get out but I'll redirect by offering to play some music on my phone. It generally subdues her until we get where we need to get to.

[waverly]

Jul 23, 2021 19:10:02 GMT -5 af1212 said:

I’m clearly an outlier here but if you have had multiple escapes and even more “almost” escapes I would say time to ditch the crib for safety reasons.

I agree I would switch to a toddler bed.

For #2- I think super nanny had an approach on this it’s been a while since my toddler years.

[joy]

Jul 23, 2021 18:34:13 GMT -5 Susie said:

Thanks for the recs on the bigger sleep sacks.

meowmaps , unfortunately we are stuck with the 4-5 block walk between daycare and parking garage morning & night, so unlike neighborhood walks where we can kind of do what you suggest (and tailor distance to his energy), we have to get where we have to get to -- and I need to do it on time, KWIM?  Which is why the carrying became a thing out of "in the moment" need.  In the AM I need to get him to school so I can get to work, and in the PM, I have to get him to the car so we can make it to his sister's pick up on time.  I'm hoping the stroller helps for now.  It feels like a regression, because in the spring he was walking the whole thing himself, but it's much faster.  Even when he was walking, we were stopping for EVERY stick, flower, puddle...

Jul 23, 2021 14:46:49 GMT -5 @hiphopanonymous said:

Are his 2 year molars coming in?

He already has the bottom ones, but yeah, I think the top ones may be.  He doesn't let me get a good look, but I don't think they're in yet.  And we've seen some finger sucking that would suggest they are part of what's going on.  Somehow the bottom ones came in without so much drama.

Well. My kid four (five in Aug) and she’s in a stroller to/from daycare. I have no time for walking with her because we stop at look at eeeeeeverything. We have places to be. I also will carry her. So, I guess I’m saying don’t think of it as a regression. It’s just life of moving around with little people efficiently.

[pooh8402]

Honestly, I would consider thinking about moving to a bed. E2 hasn't been in his crib for a month. He only sleeps in his bed now, he's 28 months.

The rest sounds like toddler shenanigans. E1 was the same way. E2 sometimes but not as much as E1.

[plutosmoon]

My DD started using a blanket around that age, we never used sleep sacks. She hated footed pjs so I can't imagine she would have tolerated a sleep sack at 2. We had to transition to a toddler bed just after she turned 2 because she was tall and easily climbed out every chance she got. I felt the crib was no longer safe after an attempted nap where she climbed out 3 times and fell hard on the floor. I picked out a fun sheet set with a blanket to help her be excited about the bed. I'd consider moving to a bed.

As to "up" well, mine is almost 9 and 70 pounds and every day at pickup still asks to be picked up. She's almost as tall as me, so I'm no help there. I'll still pick her up for a moment or 2. She always wanted up as a toddler. I simply have commiseration and a back that constantly hurts. It was worst right after ditching the stroller which we did early because she liked to walk. I would have kept her in a stroller for longer had it not been such a fight. For most kids it's usually a phase.