I joined my local Buy Nothing group and am posting ALL the stuff I was going to donate. I'm thrilled that people will come by and grab it and I don't have to do anything beyond that. It's amazing. lol
I went white water rafting for the first time this past weekend. I hated every minute of it, I guess you shouldn't start out with class 4 rapids for your first time!
It’s hard in my area because the only white water rafting course features two class 5 rapids. So you have to time your first trip for either a time when the water is super high (it actually flattens out the worst of the two rapid runs) or really low, at which point they are too rocky and you have to portage around them. I always tell anyone who hasn’t gone before to call and check the raft company’s recommendations based on current river conditions.
My parents once went through as part of a work trip and 5 people were hospitalized. I’ll never forget when they came home late at night after staying with friends at the hospital (they were not injured but my Mom was 100% certain my Dad was dead when he went back to help someone else). My parents woke us all up out of bed at 11 at night and made us sit there and watch them get ready for bed. That was memorable. I’ve done the rafting trip myself about 3 times. My Mom requests that we never tell her before we go.
I went white water rafting for the first time this past weekend. I hated every minute of it, I guess you shouldn't start out with class 4 rapids for your first time!
It’s hard in my area because the only white water rafting course features two class 5 rapids. So you have to time your first trip for either a time when the water is super high (it actually flattens out the worst of the two rapid runs) or really low, at which point they are too rocky and you have to portage around them. I always tell anyone who hasn’t gone before to call and check the raft company’s recommendations based on current river conditions.
My parents once went through as part of a work trip and 5 people were hospitalized. I’ll never forget when they came home late at night after staying with friends at the hospital (they were not injured but my Mom was 100% certain my Dad was dead when he went back to help someone else). My parents woke us all up out of bed at 11 at night and made us sit there and watch them get ready for bed. That was memorable. I’ve done the rafting trip myself about 3 times. My Mom requests that we never tell her before we go.
The rafting company is not allowed to take participants down the one class 5 on the part of the river we were on. We had to get out and hike around it, but the guides did take the boats down, it was crazy!!
I applied for a position at my old employer. It's in a different department from where I previously worked, but close enough in responsibilities that they have really clear evidence that I would excel in the new role (I also have a significant amount of training for the new position). Before I left that company, I was underpaid at the old job and I was able to negotiate a 30% increase in a new job.
I was really quickly connected with a recruiter once I reached out to the hiring manager. Based on my knowledge of the company I shared my current salary with the recruiter and said that I would like a modest bump for the new position (this is not my normal strategy, but given my knowledge of salaries at the company, I was comfortable sharing the information). I was told that this was higher than the budgeted but since I am a known quantity, they may be able to find the money. I was told that if the hiring manager could swing the salary, they will reach out and set up an interview soon.
I've wanted this job for a long time. It would not be insane for this job to mean a 10% paycut for me and I would be willing to accept it if needed. At some point, would it be worth reaching out to the hiring manager or the recruiter to revisit the salary question? When should I do this? I don't want to shoot myself in the foot if a higher salary is still on the table. I know that they are already interviewing.
I joined my local Buy Nothing group and am posting ALL the stuff I was going to donate. I'm thrilled that people will come by and grab it and I don't have to do anything beyond that. It's amazing. lol
I've been doing this too. It's so freeing and convenient.
bears , I'm not totally sure I'm following. You got a 30% increase when you left old employer, then when talking to old employer you told them you would need a bump from your existing salary (which is 30% higher then what you were making at old employer). Where does the decrease in salary come into play here?
With that said, I probably wouldn't talk to anyone about salary right now. Why talk yourself out of a possible higher salary (or even a match of a salary) before they've even said something to you? That would be crazy. It sounds like you really really want this job, but now is not the time to go in with less when you don't even know if what you asked for is on the table or not. I mean, "this is higher then we were budgeted to pay" is typical salary negotiation tactic from the companies perspective.
bears, we've been struggling with people asking for more salary than we can afford to offer lately (the market being what it is, I think this is true across industries) and if it's somebody we really want we at least make them an offer and go from there. There's been some that they stick to their initial salary ask and we can't come up to it and we go our merry ways, and others where we negotiate to something we can afford and they are willing to accept.
If you asking for what youre worth is enough to scare them off from even reaching out for an interview, then it's not actually the right position for you. Let them come back before softening that ask.
DH has already told me that I'm overthinking this, but I want to brain dump a bit.
My sister is getting married next year and she asked me to be her matron of honor. I love her to bits and her FI is a great guy. Another BM is planning the bachelorette weekend, and I'm not sure if I should go, because we have a 13 year age gap. Will they want to hang out with a 41 year old woman? Will I feel out of place? They are planning on a weekend in the Poconos in February but I don't know any details other than that.
I assume that if she didn't want me to participate, she wouldn't have asked me, but that's not how my mind works all the time.
DH told me to go and enjoy myself, which is what I'll probably do. I'm not a big drinker so if we go out anywhere I can drive and make sure the house is stocked with gatorade and advil.
There is 8 years’ difference between my sister and me. I didn’t go to my sister’s bachelorette weekend because I was underage so I wouldn’t have been able to partake in most of their activities. But when I got married, I had my bachelorette night planned in Boston and she asked if she could invite some of her friends to meet up with us. (It was that stage where my friends were still mostly single 20s and hers were mostly married with @@ at home). It ended up being a really fun time and everyone got along well, even before the drinking started but probably more after, lol. It meant a lot that she was there, even though they were all up and checked out of the hotel before my friends and I even woke up. So, I say still go! You could always leave open the possibility of just staying one night in case it does end up not being as fun for you (assuming it’s in driving distance).
We found a water leak in the kitchen drain of our new house. (Yes, we had an inspection, this pretty much confirms my thoughts on them). H is trying to fix it (he does know what he is doing), but he is 10 feet from my office and lordy, the grunts, groans, and signs of a middle aged guy trying to do this are just so annoying.
And or course he curses like a sailer. And every fuck-bang I hear results it me jumping up to check on him. And 95% of the time, it’s something like he dropped a screwdriver. Please learn to scale your cursing to the level of the trauma.
I joined my local Buy Nothing group and am posting ALL the stuff I was going to donate. I'm thrilled that people will come by and grab it and I don't have to do anything beyond that. It's amazing. lol
I've been doing this too. It's so freeing and convenient.
Take these things away!
It is! And people need or will use the things I'm giving away vs going in the pile of crap outside the local Goodwill. They're happy and I don't have to leave my house or drive around with it in my car for months before I remember to drop it off. Win, win!!
I went white water rafting for the first time this past weekend. I hated every minute of it, I guess you shouldn't start out with class 4 rapids for your first time!
I've never had any desire to do it. Bouncing up and down and being sprayed with super cold water while trying not to die? No thanks.
The last time I went rafting was about 6 years ago. It was class 2-3, so nothing extreme. I was sitting on the front corner area, and when we hit a large rock, my seat collapsed in on itself, and I flew right out.
Landed in the water, and THE RAFT WENT OVER ME. That absolute sheer panic of trying to get to the surface and breathe, and the entire frickin raft is blocking me. I honestly though I was going to die.
I feel like I shouldn’t secretly photograph him and post pictures even though I want everyone to see what I’ve got going on here. But I do have an idea…
I feel like I shouldn’t secretly photograph him and post pictures even though I want everyone to see what I’ve got going on here. But I do have an idea…
I've never had any desire to do it. Bouncing up and down and being sprayed with super cold water while trying not to die? No thanks.
The last time I went rafting was about 6 years ago. It was class 2-3, so nothing extreme. I was sitting on the front corner area, and when we hit a large rock, my seat collapsed in on itself, and I flew right out.
Landed in the water, and THE RAFT WENT OVER ME. That absolute sheer panic of trying to get to the surface and breathe, and the entire frickin raft is blocking me. I honestly though I was going to die.
I am annoyed at work. I keep having to use my personal cell number to get texts in order access secure websites for administrative/hr stuff. My job doesn’t pay for my cell, and I don’t think I should have my personal number connected to work accounts. Maybe this makes me a big weirdo, but I really hate it.
I am annoyed at work. I keep having to use my personal cell number to get texts in order access secure websites for administrative/hr stuff. My job doesn’t pay for my cell, and I don’t think I should have my personal number connected to work accounts. Maybe this makes me a big weirdo, but I really hate it.
I'm with you. I refused to download the app to my phone (that I pay for 100% myself) so instead they set up a dongle that they paid for. I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle in the long run, though, since most people don't seem to care.
Several months ago we had a discussion about whether or not military planes can land on highways and whether or not our highways were specifically designed for that purpose (I had always thought they were, but apparently that’s a myth!).
Anyway, this article popped up in my FB feed about an upcoming military exercises in Michigan where they’re going to land A-10 attack planes on the highway! Super cool stuff for a military aviation nerd like me. Also, I know we have some MI ladies on here so I thought I’d share!
Post by eponinepontmercy on Jul 30, 2021 8:55:26 GMT -5
I'm going back to the office two days a week starting in September. I've worn workout clothes and nerdy tees for 18 months and I'm not ready to wear real shoes.
I'm going back to the office two days a week starting in September. I've worn workout clothes and nerdy tees for 18 months and I'm not ready to wear real shoes.
I'm going back to the office two days a week starting in September. I've worn workout clothes and nerdy tees for 18 months and I'm not ready to wear real shoes.
but the wingtips! (you did buy some, didn't you?)
Not yet, but that's probably what I need. I don't think the purple glitter combat boots that I want are business casual.
bears, we've been struggling with people asking for more salary than we can afford to offer lately (the market being what it is, I think this is true across industries) and if it's somebody we really want we at least make them an offer and go from there. There's been some that they stick to their initial salary ask and we can't come up to it and we go our merry ways, and others where we negotiate to something we can afford and they are willing to accept.
If you asking for what youre worth is enough to scare them off from even reaching out for an interview, then it's not actually the right position for you. Let them come back before softening that ask.
PDQ
I'm feeling really insecure in this situation because I'm unhappy in my current position but I believe that I'm getting above my market value. So when I tried to phrase it as "I'm at X and would like an increase." However, I'm guessing market value for the new role is 10-15% less than my current pay.
I would take the pay cut. I'm so unhappy where I am. The recruiter made it sound like the only thing holding me back from an interview could be pay.
Do I hold on for longer? Reach out? I know they are already interviewing.
DH has already told me that I'm overthinking this, but I want to brain dump a bit.
My sister is getting married next year and she asked me to be her matron of honor. I love her to bits and her FI is a great guy. Another BM is planning the bachelorette weekend, and I'm not sure if I should go, because we have a 13 year age gap. Will they want to hang out with a 41 year old woman? Will I feel out of place? They are planning on a weekend in the Poconos in February but I don't know any details other than that.
I assume that if she didn't want me to participate, she wouldn't have asked me, but that's not how my mind works all the time.
DH told me to go and enjoy myself, which is what I'll probably do. I'm not a big drinker so if we go out anywhere I can drive and make sure the house is stocked with gatorade and advil.
I am actually headed out of town this afternoon for DD's joint bachelor/bachelorette weekend. We are floating the river tomorrow and doing dinner out. We have a big airBnB for the weekend. My BFF is also driving down to join in. Obviously there is a huge age gap but I am sure we will all still have fun. They wouldn't invite you if they didn't want you to go so go &have fun. Us "old ladies" are foregoing the bar after dinner.
To followup on the leak above. There is now a hole in the side of my house. And we found the drain pipe is split lengthwise. Lots of wet grossness, and given the mold, it’s not new. Yay homeownership.
Got out of the gym to several voicemails from my husband as he drove himself to the hospital after taking a big swig of ethylene glycol. This is why you don't keep a fluid sample in a Gatorade bottle on your desk NEXT TO ANOTHER BOTTLE OF GATORADE OMG WTF.
Apparently poison control told him to take himself to the hospital and they're going to test his blood and then maybe treat him by having him drink ethanol? Sigh.
Got out of the gym to several voicemails from my husband as he drove himself to the hospital after taking a big swig of ethylene glycol. This is why you don't keep a fluid sample in a Gatorade bottle on your desk NEXT TO ANOTHER BOTTLE OF GATORADE OMG WTF.
Apparently poison control told him to take himself to the hospital and they're going to test his blood and then maybe treat him by having him drink ethanol? Sigh.
OMG. I can’t imagine what went through his head lol
Got out of the gym to several voicemails from my husband as he drove himself to the hospital after taking a big swig of ethylene glycol. This is why you don't keep a fluid sample in a Gatorade bottle on your desk NEXT TO ANOTHER BOTTLE OF GATORADE OMG WTF.
Apparently poison control told him to take himself to the hospital and they're going to test his blood and then maybe treat him by having him drink ethanol? Sigh.