Purging

[186momx]

How do you all go about purging stuff?  

I need to purge not only clothes but stuff.  DH is of the mind set that we might use it or wear it again so we can't get rid of it.  I feel like I'm drowning in stuff.  I normally do a big batch while he is at his long weekend paint ball game but that hasn't happened for 2 years.  

[mommyatty]

I don’t purge DH’s stuff but I do my own, we do the kids’ clothes, I do kids’ toys and other stuff, and I do the kitchen. It takes a literal melt down of “I am going to divorce you and you can pack this shit in your mom’s house when you go live with her” proportions to get my hoarder husband to purge anything.

I don’t really know how I do it, I just do. Kids’ clothes are easy because it’s a matter of what they’ve outgrown. Toys are a matter of “they don’t play with this or it annoys me enough that it’s going”. My clothes are hardest. It’s basically if it doesn’t fit or I notice I’ve passed it over for the same reason multiple times, it goes. Like “uh, I would wear this but I have to wear a cami under it so no” a bunch of times means it needs to go.

[momof2]

Get your husband out of the house. Pull crap out and realize you haven’t touched it in a year and have no plans to touch it. Take it straight to the trash can or your car trunk. Drive the stuff in the trunk to goodwill before he gets home.

Then, force him to watch Marie Kondo episodes and ask him to go through his 100 Tshirts while you watch. For each one, ask if it really gives him joy to keep a random Tshirt someone gave him for free. Watch him almost cry as he manages to part with 25 freebie shirts. And then realize, he will never, ever get rid of stuff and revert to the strategy of the first paragraph.

[186momx]

momof2, your first line is what I normally do. He hates it when I do his laundry because I toss at least a couple items due to holes each time.
mommyatty, for my stuff if it isn't fitting right or is bugging me I've been tossing it into a goodwill bag. I went through 3 pairs of leggings Sunday as every pair I put on kept sliding down and it was driving me bonkers. Today the dress pants I have on are pinching so out they go. DD is easy.

I've been cleaning our spare room aka toss it and close the door room. I want to get rid of the beer making kit and bottles that he used once and I got flak. I could probably sell the stuff to my brewery client. He even pulled out my craft stuff I was trying to toss because I might use it at some point. I really just need a day or two alone to purge.

[sdlaura]

Local Facebook Buy Nothing group! I love giving stuff away to neighbors.

We've now been in our house 10+ years so I really have to purge regularly. I mostly leave DH's stuff alone though - there's enough to go through with just me and the four kids. I'm thrilled to get to start to give away baby stuff now that we're done having kids.

[waverly]

I have done decluttering challenges as well as Marie Kondo. I also have watched the shows a x things like that and hoarders inspire me to clean out my house.

[twinmomma]

Omg. Someone come teach beau that sorting things into new, different boxes in the basement doesn't count as purging please.

I feel like the only good rule I have is that no one else can be home. I go into what beau calls "my dark place" and just start tossing. I drop stuff off or list on Facebook every other weekend lately. Except I can't do that with his stuff even though my basement is overflowing with bachelor pad heaven. So, we end up at paragraph one again when he tries to "help."