So I've wanted a second kid for a while now, and H just got on board (mostly), which I thought would never happen. So of course now I'm freaking out 😂 These questions are all premature given that I'm not pregnant yet, but my brain is currently on overdrive.
1. First, if you have two kids tell me how awesome it is please 2. Do your kids room share? How did that work? Our house set up is pretty crappy for two kids and I'm trying to figure out how to make it work. We have two bedrooms upstairs and one downstairs. The downstairs bedroom is the guest room, which I'd like to keep. I don't want the kids on a different floor than me either. I'm not sure how to deal with the kids potentially sharing a room especially if kid #2 takes a long time to STTN. 3. If you had a rough delivery for your first kid, how did #2 go? H keeps telling me I should opt for a CS (an option given to me from my Obgyn based on bad tearing). I really don't want a CS though, that freaks me out. 4. Was the time it took to TTC #2 similar to #1?
We have 2, an 8yo and a 4yo. 2 are great and I wouldn’t have it any other way, and my kids call each other their best friend. That being said I had this unrealistic idea the ds2 was just going to fit in and go with the flow and he’s not that kid at all. He’s loud, and stubborn and unlike his brother is not easy to take out in the world. I can’t speak to the difficult birth part because my second birth experience was the not so great one, but even that I’ve gotten over, for the most part.
Mine are best friends but also hate each other haha. It goes quickly from playing to fighting to playing again.
I already forgot your other questions. Delivery was better the second time. No tearing at all.
I conceived quickly both times but I wanted to try charting so that might be why. I didn’t want to do the trying but not trying approach, and we didn’t have any fertility issues.
Room share was the other question. They never shared a room because I have 3 bedrooms and they are opposite sex, so they always just had their own rooms. We could have put them together when they were young but I guess we didn’t want to deal with them waking each other up.
Post by clairebear on Oct 12, 2021 20:23:10 GMT -5
I have two daughters, 3 and 5 and they are 19 months apart. I absolutely love it!! Well, once the youngest was a toddler I loved it. First year of having a 19 month old and newborn was hell and quite frankly it was just a blur of tears and survival. But now they play together so well, love each other, and it's delightful that they have a playmate where ever we go. My best friend only has one and she said looking at my kids made her want to have another.
My kids don't room share, but many of my friend's kids do and it works. There might be some extra wakeups, but everyone adjusts. I wouldn't worry too much about that. You could always keep the newborn in your room until they are sleeping longer stretches.
Both kids were a C/S and each had its challenging moments. I'm glad it's over!
Second time took two months to get pregnant, which was similar to the first. I had stopped nursing about one month prior and wasn't on any birth control. I wanted them close together and I'm happy it was so quick.
Post by scribellesam on Oct 12, 2021 20:40:52 GMT -5
1. I have two boys, 9 and 7. We got lucky with complementary personalities and they are best friends who rarely fight and share a ton of interests. I hate when one is home sick and the other is at school because they are so good at playing together usually and will leave me alone for hours. 2. Do your kids room share? They share a room now and love it, but we didn’t move them in together until DS2 was sleeping through the night at almost 3yo. 3. I had a much harder delivery with DS1. He was much larger than anticipated (11 lbs!) and although I delivered vaginally, I had an episiotomy and additional tearing after four hours pushing. In comparison, DS2 slid right out after 20 minutes pushing, no tearing, and he was two pounds smaller. 4. Was the time it took to TTC #2 similar to #1? Yes, no more than a few months for either.
Basically DS2 was an ideal addition to our family so my experience overall with two kids has been excellent.
Post by mainelyfoolish on Oct 12, 2021 20:42:54 GMT -5
When I had my second kid, we lived in a three bedroom house with two bedrooms downstairs and one upstairs. We sacrificed the guest bedroom to give the second kid his own space. It wasn't worth it to us to make the kids share a room to preserve a guest space that got used maybe two weeks a year. Also, we slept in the upstairs bedroom and the kids' rooms were both downstairs. We kept the baby in our room in a pack and play until she/he STTN, then moved them downstairs into their own room. With a baby monitor, it was no big deal being on two floors.
When I had my second kid, we lived in a three bedroom house with two bedrooms downstairs and one upstairs. We sacrificed the guest bedroom to give the second kid his own space. It wasn't worth it to us to make the kids share a room to preserve a guest space that got used maybe two weeks a year. Also, we slept in the upstairs bedroom and the kids' rooms were both downstairs. We kept the baby in our room in a pack and play until she/he STTN, then moved them downstairs into their own room. With a baby monitor, it was no big deal being on two floors.
Ours is currently used a couple of times a year, and we're hoping it gets used a lot more as our parents retire so they can visit/help out more if we have a second!
Post by mccallister84 on Oct 12, 2021 20:54:20 GMT -5
1) they entertain each other. 2) n/a. But I have friends whose kids room share. It’s all they’ve ever known and has been mostly fine. They just moved and now each kid could have their own bedroom and the kids don’t want to separate. 3) I didn’t have the roughest delivery with #1 but my recovery both physically and emotionally was night and day. The second was so much easier. 4) DD1 took 3 months, we got pregnant with DD2 our first month trying.
1. First, if you have two kids tell me how awesome it is please
It's awesome. It really is. My kids (22 months apart) are best best friends. They entertain each other. Their relationship is awesome.
2. Do your kids room share? How did that work? Our house set up is pretty crappy for two kids and I'm trying to figure out how to make it work. We have two bedrooms upstairs and one downstairs. The downstairs bedroom is the guest room, which I'd like to keep. I don't want the kids on a different floor than me either. I'm not sure how to deal with the kids potentially sharing a room especially if kid #2 takes a long time to STTN.
They do now. They have their own rooms but they started sleeping together during COVID and haven't stopped. They didn't when they were little, but my nephews did and it was fine.
3. If you had a rough delivery for your first kid, how did #2 go? H keeps telling me I should opt for a CS (an option given to me from my Obgyn based on bad tearing). I really don't want a CS though, that freaks me out.
So much better. DD1 was a c-section after 4 days of labor and 4 hours of pushing. DD2 was also a section, but just a much better experience all around.
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
I have 2 boys, 2.5 years apart (1st and 3rd grades). They are best friends and fight a lot. They love each other so much and know just how to annoy each other.
Recovery was easier with the second (cs after spontaneous labor both times…first was for non-movement, second because I asked but I had to wait since I had dinner earlier…so it almost wasn’t a cs but all-natural childbirth).
They share a room but didn’t start officially until 3/5. Before that, the oldest slept in the youngest’s floor most nights. But so did I, so who am I to judge?
Exact same time to conceive all three times (1 m/c). I was half-heartedly charting and my charts lined up all times (same pattern/triphasic).
Ds1 turned 9 today and ds2 will be 6 in December. I’m not sure what they’d do without each other! They entertain each other and are constantly laughing.
We planned to have two kids but did not plan to have ds2 when we did. We were lucky to conceive quickly both times.
They did share a room from ages 3/6 - 5/8 and I won’t do it again if I can avoid it. Bedtime was a nightmare bc they’d get each other riled up and would be up so late. They have separate rooms now and evening shenanigans have decreased a ton. This probably depends on your kids, I know plenty of siblings that share and it works great.
Oh my second delivery was much easier. 15 min of pushing and he was here. Ds1 was hours of pushing and ended with a vac assist and a 3rd degree tear for me.
1. It's awesome. My kids are 4 years apart and they still are such good friends.
2. They don't room share. My son would LOVE to share a room with his sister, but we had the space for them each to have their own room.
3. I had some really bad tearing with my first. It's one of the reasons I was nervous about getting pregnant again, but I knew I wanted a sibling for my daughter. Labor was so much easier the second time (I didn't have back labor at all, thank goodness!) and where I had nearly 40 stitches the first time, I had one the second time around. Recovery with my second was so much easier too. I think if I had my second labor experience first, my kids would have been closer in age.
4. It took a little bit longer the second time, but not too much longer. That's the luck of the draw though, really.
1. My kids alternate between bestest friends & “hating” each other. Mostly love each other with a side of bickering & fisticuffs 2. They do share a room, in bunk beds. It works well over all. Our “guest” room doubles as their play room. When they have too much togetherness, they separate & one sleeps in the guest bed for a few nights. 3. I had a RCS & don’t regret it. Both my boys had large heads & barrel chests & after being induced at 42wks with my first, then pushing, & then having him stuck resulting in a cs. Scheduling a repeat when my second was similarly sized actually was a less traumatic birth for me 4. Yes
My 6YO and 3YO adore and despise each other, and it changes every 30 seconds. But truly they love each other, and when I catch them holding hands as they walk through the pumpkin farm or sit on the couch together, I melt into a puddle.
They share a room and have since DS2 was 2. We have full over full bunk beds, and they choose to sleep on the bottom bunk together.
Both kids required fertility treatment, sort of. DS1 took 20 months to conceive. I had three failed fertility treatments when trying to get pregnant again, then stopped trying for four months because H lost his job. Then I shockingly got pregnant by not taking precautions one single time. Those were eight terrifying weeks until H got his new job.
I am very glad we had two. I love their different personalities. But dear god, the volume in our house multiplied by 10, not 2!
ETA: I had a vaginal birth with DS1 and a C-section with DS2 because he got stuck. Honestly, I consider the second birth far, FAR easier. I was only in labor for a few hours before the c-section and my epidural worked, so it was fine. My c-section was super easy, and my recovery was great. No pain meds except Advil. For the first one, my epidural didn’t work and my labor was almost 24 hours, so I was in massive amounts of pain for a very long time, and had to push for 3.5 hours.
I’m barely two months into being a mom of two but it’s pretty great so far! DD1 and DD2 are 3 years apart. DD1 was a little wary at first but now she kisses and hugs her sister completely independent of us and says how much she loves baby sister. I think she’s counting down the moments until they can play and talk together.
Right now we’re all sleeping in our bedroom. DD2 is in a bassinet and DD1 is in bed with us (this started at the end of my pregnancy and we can’t get her out). We’ll keep DD2 in our room for her first year as we did with DD1 and then when it makes sense my hope is to set up one room for the two girls and get our bedroom back!
My delivery with my first was very routine, 45 minutes of pushing, second degree tear. This time I pushed for under a minute and still had a second degree tear, I think because she came so fast. That said, my recovery was very easy this time. I was back to taking multi-mile walks by three weeks postpartum.
It took us fifteen months to conceive our first and one time to conceive our second. I started charting a few months before we conceived our second so I guess we did better at timing things.
Post by Patsy Baloney on Oct 12, 2021 22:48:10 GMT -5
2 kids is great fun. I have 6 years between mine. My 1st (now 8) was a great baby and is a stellar kid. My 2nd (now 2) is rough and tumble and often referred to as, “Bad Baby,” but I assume we’ll get through this or I’ll die. Either way, I’ll be out 😂 but it’s a wonderful life, and I have a beautiful daughter and son who really are the lights of my life. My favorite part of the day is right before bedtime when we tell my son to go say goodnight to his sister. He bolts out of his room, belly laughing, knocks on his sister’s bedroom door, bursts in and giggled, “Night night, G! Bye byeee!” and she giggles back, “Night niiiight! Sweet dreams, Bad Baby!” gives him a great big hug, and sends him on his way. I hope they will always be friends.
Mine don’t share a room, and I’ll be honest, it would not have flown. My son was born with a cleft in his soft palate, so he wasn’t really able to soothe himself as a baby - bad eater, no pacifier, etc. He screamed a lot. I think if we had to have them share a room, we probably would have kept him in our room until he was closer to a year, which was when he mercifully started getting himself to sleep and staying asleep. Not impossible, but not as easy as having a bedroom each for the kids.
I had a terrible delivery/recovery with my first. I hemorrhaged, needed transfusions, etc. My 2nd had some shenanigans when he was born and fought the doctor so hard she injured her shoulder getting him out!!! However, my recovery was fine! I expected to be a mess, but I was good. Up and going the next day, ready to face my demon spawn. Son. My son. Lol.
We were so, so lucky in that TTC didnt take long at all for either kid. My daughter was a surprise and my son was a well-tracked and well-timed cycle. I hope the same for anyone trying to get pregnant!
We have two boys, 6 years and 7.5 months. They basically adore each other, and while it’s been challenging to go back to the baby stage it’s been amazing to see the nurturing side of DS1 come alive. DS2 is the classic easy going/happy to watch what’s going on around him second baby. He’s in a damn hurry to keep up with his brother and is huge, meeting milestones early, and about to have 8 teeth. He’s also been a unicorn sleeper which was the opposite of DS1. He was born with a bad tongue tie which we had revised. Nursing got better around 5 months, but is still not the easy feeding relationship I had with DS1. I nearly lost my mind around 3.5-4 months and I was about to quit breastfeeding cold Turkey. Had it gone on like that another week I would have been done (in hindsight I probably should have quit back then, I still don’t love nursing this time but I’m sticking it out for now).
They don’t room share so I don’t have any insight to offer there.
Delivery with DS1 was rough - induction, artificial rupture of membranes, 24 hour labour, stuck at 9 cm, c-section which got infected and then my back completely seized. Two ER trips in a week. Delivery with DS2 was a scheduled c-section. Surgery was textbook but I ended up hemorrhaging in recovery. Needed a blood and iron transfusion. Despite that, recovery was basically a breeze and by 3 weeks postpartum I basically felt totally normal. At my 6 week checkup I told the OB it was like I never had surgery I felt so good. It was like night and day.
We struggled with secondary infertility/repeat losses the second time. It took 7 months of TTC for DS1, and 7 months to conceive our first loss. Got pregnant again immediately after the first loss, and it was another loss. Moved over to an OB that specialized in IF and ended up with a hormonal PCOS diagnosis. Went on a bunch of meds and did a medicated cycle which resulted in a 3rd loss. More testing, increased my meds and wound up with DS2. We are done now. We never wanted more than 2, but no way I could go through all that again.
1. My first and second hate each other. Honestly, I don't know where I went wrong. It's awful. 2&3 are great. 1&3 are great. so yeah, I don't know. 2. 2&3 share a room. 1 has his own. When we have guests, 1 goes in with the other two or sleeps with me. 3. Delivery for #1 was pure hell and I almost died. Delivery for #2 was a VBAC. It was cathartic and healing.
I have three kids. 2 would be great too!! As an only child myself I wish wish wish I had a sibling. Someone to share the load with and have connected memories.
Two of my kids room share. We started when the baby was sleeping consistently and before that we had the baby in our room. They have their ups and downs with sharing and often say they wish they had their own rooms. But whenever we travel and they have the option of their own room they always choose to share!
All three of my deliveries were very different but specifically in regards to tearing my first was the worst. Bad tear snd a very long and complicated healing process which included several follow up procedures. Second and third deliveries I did tear but nothing like the first time and quick and easy healing.
As for time to conception it was the same for all three of my kids.
Post by Velar Fricative on Oct 13, 2021 5:46:36 GMT -5
1. We have two girls, 8 and 4. They have a love/hate relationship similar to what my siblings and I had growing up and we are very close as adults. I can’t imagine them not having each other.
2. They have their own rooms but I do want them to share for as long as they want to. DD1’s room is much bigger and I’d love to use the 3rd bedroom for other things. DH doesn’t want to bother, so it probably won’t happen.
3. Recovery wasn’t rough, but I had a long uncomfortable induction both times.
4. DD1 was unplanned, DD2 was conceived on the first cycle after we waited a full cycle post-miscarriage.
1. My two are 2 years 3 months apart. They play well but also do things to purposely annoy each other. They are 5 and 2.5 right now.
2. They do not share a room. Ds2 has a tiny room without a closet, so all his clothes are in his brothers closet. We intend to move in the next two years so that DS2 can have a bigger room. If that doesn’t happen, they might need to share for a bit.
3. Deliveries were relatively the same. I ended up with a spinal headache after my 2nd which made caring for both of them very difficult for the week after delivery until I got a blood patch.
4. It took me 14 months to conceive DS1. I assumed it would take some time to conceive ago so we started trying early to try and get a 3ish year age difference. I got pregnant the first month with DS2 so that didn’t happen.
1. First, if you have two kids tell me how awesome it is please I have four kids. It's crazy busy, but I wouldn't change anything. I love to see the ways they all interact with each other, and watch each unique personality and strengths develop. ETA: All about 2 years apart. 22.5 months apart, nearly 2 years EXACTLY, and then 25 months.
2. Do your kids room share? How did that work? I kept babies in my room with me for a long time in a pack-n-play. For various reasons, it worked well for me. Then when kids did room share, they were old enough to STTN. I never had to have a baby room share, but my two youngest (now 6 and 8) room share now and it works fine.
3. If you had a rough delivery for your first kid, how did #2 go? H keeps telling me I should opt for a CS (an option given to me from my Obgyn based on bad tearing). I really don't want a CS though, that freaks me out. Rough delivery with #1 I think due to induction/not really being ready. #2 was much better. #3 was a c-section b/c she was breech and #4 was a repeat C. I think anything can happen, so this is pretty hard to "plan" for.
4. Was the time it took to TTC #2 similar to #1? Yes. We were very lucky and it was easy for us to conceive each time.
Thanks so much for all of the responses! I love hearing about all of the sibling love even with some bigger age gaps. My brother is 8 years older and useless/mostly estranged so I'm really hoping for a closer relationship between DD and a second kid. If all goes according to plan they would be about 3.5 years apart.
Also love to hear about easy second babies! DD was a very difficult baby for a long time, and a second one like that might break us 😅
1. My kids are 8 (boy) and 2 (girl). Little is obsessed with big, and big loves little but does not love when she gets into his stuff. He can be rough with her at times but she's pretty rough and tumble so it doesn't bug her. One of her nicknames is Honey Badger and a joke on vacation was that she chooses violence and/or danger daily Big was a busy kid but mostly kept his feet on the ground, Little sees any vertical surface as something to be climbed. Big was a super easy baby and a unicorn sleeper, Little was less easy but not too bad overall but a crappy sleeper until we sleep trained.
2. No, they're in separate rooms but are right next to each other (smallish house). Big has slept with a white noise machine since he was 2 months old and that helped drown out a lot of new baby noise.
3. Big's labor and delivery wasn't rough necessarily, just long-29 hours beginning to end and I pushed for 2.5 of that before vaccuum assist finally got his big headed self out. I was induced with Little at 37w since my blood pressure would not stay down and had a whole lot of minimal progress before she up and decided she was ready to vacate the premises, then I went from 5cm to 10cm in less than 45 minutes and she was out after 20ish minutes of pushing. So she definitely got her act together faster than her brother did.
4. Was the time it took to TTC #2 similar to #1? Fairly similar-it took maybe two more months than getting pregnant with Big.
Thanks so much for all of the responses! I love hearing about all of the sibling love even with some bigger age gaps. My brother is 8 years older and useless/mostly estranged so I'm really hoping for a closer relationship between DD and a second kid. If all goes according to plan they would be about 3.5 years apart.
Also love to hear about easy second babies! DD was a very difficult baby for a long time, and a second one like that might break us 😅
FWIW, I'm one of 4 and there's an 11-year spread between the oldest and the youngest. We are all very close with each other despite the big age differences (my brother and I are the oldest two and only 16 months apart, then it was 5 years and 4.5 years between me and my sister and then between my sister and other sister). DH is the oldest of 5 and is 8 years older than the youngest brother and he's close with all of his siblings too. Sibling relationships don't stay the same throughout lifetimes but I think age gaps are overrated as a challenge because there are pros and cons to all gaps, so we just went with what DH and I wanted - my girls are 3y8m and I'm happy with that.
Who ever really responds here that they regret their second kid or their kid spacing, lol.
Lol, I was considering being this person!
For real though, two kids is rough for me. I'll admit it. We have two boys, 6 and 3. The spacing isn't an issue one way or the other... our older son is just hands down the best big brother. Exceedingly patient and loving and all of that. I mean, sure, moments of squabbling over a toy or rough-housing gone awry, and DS1 is not a perfect angel, but he's pretty great in the big brothering department.
Our 2nd was an easy baby... great sleeper and eater and not fussy. Everything that was hard with DS1 was easy with DS2 in terms of babying. Then DS2 hit toddler years and fucking watch out. He's a real handful plus pepper in some speech delays and sensory issues and it's just a lot. Then DS1 gets an ADHD dx and is having reading issues. Juggling that with autism spectrum testing and special ed testing for DS2. And it's just a very intense time of parenting and juggling all the things. And DH is super hands on and engaged and even with him being a great dad it still feels like I do all the research and decision-making in the kid department.
And having two kids, one of them a wild toddler, during quarantine times has not brought out the best in me as a person or parent.
I was on the fence about having 2 kids TBH, and like the OP's husband kind of came around to it. And I won't say I regret it, bc you can't say that, right? I love DS2 completely and there are for sure moments that I can't imagine life without him because he's hilarious or sweet or just like, chill and not making me want to tear my hair out. But two is a ton of work... I feel like one kid didn't really take over my whole life, but two kind of did. I had a high-stress leadership job that I decided to take a step back from (sort of demoted myself to a staff-level position) after DS2. And that's all good and fine and I'm overall happy with the choices we've made and I see the light at the end of the tunnel... but also, it's a lot.
So I've wanted a second kid for a while now, and H just got on board (mostly), which I thought would never happen. So of course now I'm freaking out 😂 These questions are all premature given that I'm not pregnant yet, but my brain is currently on overdrive.
1. First, if you have two kids tell me how awesome it is please It's a handful, but honestly it's the cutest thing ever. My kids adore each other (I know I'm lucky in that and not all siblings do). They're 5 and 2 now.
2. Do your kids room share? How did that work? Our house set up is pretty crappy for two kids and I'm trying to figure out how to make it work. No, I have a boy and a girl, and they have their own rooms. When they share on vacation it's madness. They stay up and babble for hours because it's new. We have two bedrooms upstairs and one downstairs. The downstairs bedroom is the guest room, which I'd like to keep. I don't want the kids on a different floor than me either. I'm not sure how to deal with the kids potentially sharing a room especially if kid #2 takes a long time to STTN.
3. If you had a rough delivery for your first kid, how did #2 go? H keeps telling me I should opt for a CS (an option given to me from my Obgyn based on bad tearing). I really don't want a CS though, that freaks me out. I had a spontaneous labor the first time and an induction the second, but they were both pain med-free, fast, and "easy" (lolol). BFing was definitely easier the 2nd time.
4. Was the time it took to TTC #2 similar to #1? For us, yes. About 6 months both times.
1. First, if you have two kids tell me how awesome it is please It is awesome! They are best friends, but it's also challenging in that they fight a lot too. They are also very different kids and what worked/works with one of them doesn't necessarily work with the other. It can be hard to know what is fair and I find myself embracing the motto that "fair isn't everybody getting the same, fair is everybody getting what they need" a lot.
2. Do your kids room share? How did that work? Yes, they do, though we are remodeling the house right now so that they can move into separate bedrooms. They are ages 8 and 5 and boy/girl. They haven't really asked for separate rooms, but we feel that it's time for each of them to have a separate space. We had DS sleep in our room until he was a couple of months old and mostly sleeping at night (though waking to feed 1-2x's per night) and then we moved him into the room with DD. When DS was a baby, his night wakings did not wake DD at all. We actually have more sleep issues with DS waking us all up way too often now then we did when he was a baby.
By the way, our house is set up so kids sleep upstairs and our master is downstairs and I absolutely love this layout. I love putting the kids to bed, coming downstairs and having an adult zone. It's the best!
3. If you had a rough delivery for your first kid, how did #2 go? My delivery with #2 was soooooo much easier than #1. I was induced for both, but it went loads more smoothly the second time around. I did, however, get postpartum pre-ecampsia with both, which was scary and required hospitalization both times.
4. Was the time it took to TTC #2 similar to #1? It was faster the second time. I think it took like 9 months the first time and 3 the second.
Who ever really responds here that they regret their second kid or their kid spacing, lol.
I'll join lessel, and like her do NOT regret my second kid, but in our case I don't love the spacing. Mine are 2.5 years almost exactly, but 3 years in school and it's a much bigger gap than I would have preferred. Also, they fight all the time. They do absolutely love each other, but the fighting and competition drives me nuts.
1. But it is awesome. I don't regret anybody. I do wish they were closer together in age. 2. N/A 3. I had a TERRIBLE delivery with number 1, but an amazing OB who saved me from a C-section with his skill at using forceps. But everything about the labor, delivery, and recovery was AWFUL. AWFUL. Let me say it again - it was awful. Number 2 was the opposite in every regard. The delivery experience was night and day and I am very glad that I had the opportunity to experience a not awful birth. 4. Was the time it took to TTC #2 similar to #1? DS1 came before we were technically trying. I had *just* stopped the pill and was told I should expect it to take a couple months for my body to get back to normal, but we got pregnant immediately. (In fact, it was "too early" in that I'm a teacher and ended up with a January baby while I was hoping for spring or summer so mat leave would join summer vacation.) DS2 took closer to a year.
Here's the biggest thing to know, your second child is likely to be very different from your first child. For me, that is wonderful, TBH. My first child is just more demanding in terms of time, emotional energy, etc. I have a mom friend who has two kids the same age as mine and it was the opposite for her; her second is her "wild child" and it was a bit of a rude awakening for her. In our case, if it had taken much longer to conceive DS2, we may not have gone ahead because DS1 got harder and harder as he got older. and I felt like I didn't want to do that again. I'm thrilled we have DS2 because he is easy and wonderful and a total joy. Obviously, I ADORE both of my children, but having "two DS1's" would be challenging for me, personally. And like with the first child, (or any child), you don't know who they will be until they arrive and you just have to love and accept who they are. Which is why none of us say we regret any of our children.