Moms of 6-9 year old girls come in

[pinkyp]

DD is 7 and is currently upstairs sobbing in bed because earlier today she lost a plastic Halloween ring given to her by one of her teachers. She was inconsolable after the fact, and I'm completely dumbfounded that such a random little trinket was so important to her. She's not particularly close to this teacher, although she does like her, so I don't think that was the reason.

Any survival tips/commiseration for navigating this age to share? The hormone surge is no joke. Lord have mercy 🥺

[sillygoosegirl]

Right there with you.

[expectantsteelerfan]

My dd cried for a good part of the night because she was looking for her shoes outside (that she took off to go on neighbor's trampoline and then left outside) when ds had brought them inside and put them away for her.

My only advice is don't try to apply logic. I just say, I'm sorry you're feeling big emotions over this. I'm here if you want to talk or cuddle (or if I'm busy at the time I'd say I need to do x and then I can listen) but usually she just needs time and distraction to calm down.

[kershnic]

You mean the hysterical sobbing because a parent cracked her glow stick after the event it was intended for ended, because she liked how it looked uncracked?

Or the sobbing about the horrors of being forced to wear a pink shirt for family pictures?

[abs]

It’s not any better at 10.

Signed, a mom not expecting 11 to be less emotional either.

[tcu2003]

Oh, this does not give me hope and warm fuzzies for the emotional drama in my house over the next few years.

-mom of a 5yo daughter who was sobbing earlier today because we didn’t move her car seat from the back row of the minivan to the middle captain’s chair row because she asked us not to

[pugz]

This is my oldest.

[countthestars]

Solidarity

[lillaguma]

This both makes me feel a little better about some of the issues my 6.5-year-old has been having (it's normal! we're not alone!) and also terrified that this is going to go on for quite a long time.

Right now every time she plays with a friend or a group at some point she starts sulking and "nobody likes me" because something didn't go exactly her way. I am so. over. it.

[aspentosh]

Oh yes. Most recently she's broken down because she lost her favorite backpack keychain (pink fluffy ball).


I have a feeling 10 is going to be even more emotional. As others said, I don't try to apply logic. I try to hold her through it (she likes physical touch and affirmations) and let her know we can replace the keychain, or do X instead, or whatever. It helps, but honestly she usually just needs time

[abs]

I will say at 10/11 DD hardly ever cries anymore. Like I can't remember the last time she cried actually. So from that aspect it gets better.

Tween attitude though? Eesh.

[twinmomma]

I have 9 year old identical twin girls who share a room. So, I have zero advice but ALL the commiseration. If we make it through to the teenage years, it will be a miracle.

[numbers]

Yep. Newly 7 and the emotional outbursts are intense...

[ssmjlm]

One night my kid was sobbing in the shower and I just said "sweetie, this is the first of many times you'll probably break down in the shower." And then when she got out, I gave her a big hug.

I don't even know what set it off. I just try and help her with whatever method she wants.

[aspentosh]

Oct 18, 2021 7:08:40 GMT -5 abs said:

I will say at 10/11 DD hardly ever cries anymore. Like I can't remember the last time she cried actually. So from that aspect it gets better.

Tween attitude though? Eesh.

We've definitely hit the tween attitude and crying emotional stuff in the last year, so if it doesn't kill me, it's good to know it might get better. Maybe, lol.

[Susie]

Yep. Turning 6 next month. Team #solidarity

[Blue Moon]

I have a 7 year old DD who also sobbed about a lost plastic ring a few weeks ago, so 100% solidarity.

[raangoli]

Oh dear God. I never put this together - BB will be turning 6 in Jan, so she still has some time but whoa have the feelings been BIG lately. And the boundary pushing. She's an emotional kid to begin with but I see that I am not alone.

Solidarity elbow/fist bumps for all in here.

[Pilsy]

I've been blaming it on my daughter's diagnoses, but maybe it really is the age - or at least a combo. Regardless, heaven help me. So many big emotions and so much attitude.

[CloudBee]

My 8 year old boy is more emotional at age 8 than he was as a toddler. I keep talking to my friends and they all say the same. They cry at the drop of a hat and it goes in waves.

[picksthemusic]

Yeah, it's probably just ramping up. Sorry.

DD is 10 and while it's better, she is still quite emotional. We just have to let them be emotional and help them work through it.

[186momx]

I got the tween attitude at 10.5. I will say the emotional outburst came in waves. It would be really rough for a couple weeks or longer and then we had a peaceful stretch of time. I tried to make sure DD got enough sleep and ate because I found the emotional regularity was way worse when she was overtired or hangry. She is also better now at knowing when she just needs to go to bed because everything is going wrong and knows that tomorrow will be better.

[starburst604]

DD is 6.5 and we’ve been seeing this lately. She’s overall pretty even keeled but there have been some BIG emotions over small (to me) things. She’ll just stomp up to her bedroom and cry it out there. After a while I’ll go up and talk with her. H is definitely the most startled by these outbursts and I’m trying to get across to him this is a normal thing and probably going to get more frequent. He always wants to blame it on our next door neighbor’s behavior. 🙄

[lo]

My 7 year is having her moments for sure, but her four year old sister is just… beyond. She’s going to be a holy terror at 6-9, I fear.

[noodleoo]

This is both reassuring me about my 6.5 year olds behavior and scaring me for what’s to come at the same time! 😂😭 DD1 has always been a sensitive kid and more prone to tantrums and crying than her friends. She’s been extra emotional lately but I figured it was due to all the changes with starting school, etc. Please don’t tell me it’s hormones already, I am not ready for that!

[aprilsails]

Oh no. DD just turned 6 and in the past couple of weeks has started in with these screaming fits where she can’t use her words and gets really worked up and is absolutely shrieking. I was blaming it on the newly 2 year old just starting in with the terrible twos and thinking she was emulating his tantrum behaviour.

We’ve been talking about big feelings and taking a big breath to calm down, but I’m guessing we’re just in for the long haul. She really upset one of her friends who is sound sensitive over the weekend when she started shrieking. Ugh.

[bcv513]

Mine is only five but she was hysterical last night because her favorite team didn’t win Supermarket Sweep. The emotions are rough.

[Blue Moon]

Today’s sobfest was because it was “wear red” day at school and I only laid out a red shirt for DD and did not also have red pants, red shoes, and a red mask for her to wear with it.