How to help my kid wake up

[namasteak]

Oct 18, 2021 9:07:23 GMT -5 redheadk said:

I wonder if there is some way you can figure out when she's in REM sleep and try to wake her up before she enters that? I agree with nicolewi that you should try waking her up a little earlier to see if that helps.

It’s expensive but an OURA ring tracks that.

[namasteak]

Oct 18, 2021 18:22:33 GMT -5 joy said:

Hitting the snooze button is the greatest part of my morning. “Eff, I have to get up. Oh, but I can sleep for nine more minutes!”

I intentionally set my alarm 10min early so I can always have a snooze.

[namasteak]

af1212 What time does she take her meds? If I take my lunchtime ones too late it makes my sleep lower quality even if I manage to fall asleep at a good time.

[sparkythelawyer]

Oct 18, 2021 16:24:37 GMT -5 goldengirlz said:

Oct 18, 2021 8:32:44 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

I still might wonder about sleep apnea, so she's getting "a lot" of sleep, but maybe not the quality she needs.

Once she's up and moving, how is she?  Is her energy level ok?

I think these are fair questions. It would drive me crazy if my DD snoozed her alarm and then made ME be the alarm. If she physically CAN’T get out of bed because she’s in such a deep sleep, perhaps it’s worth raising the issue with her pediatrician. But otherwise, as someone who HATES getting up early, I’ll say that hitting the snooze button is counterproductive. What you’re describing, OP, sounds almost like a power struggle. Between the Alexa and her mom coming in, I doubt she’s sleeping that deeply after her alarm goes off. So she just needs to start with step 1: no snoozing.

I'm 42 and I can't manage that step 1 - no snoozing.  In fact, I've learned I need thirty minutes of snooze button hitting in order to be awake "enough" to get my ass out of bed.  So I se my alarm at 6, and then it goes off at 6, 610, 620 and then at about 630 I'm finally up.    It's just what my body does.

[sparkythelawyer]

Oct 18, 2021 19:03:42 GMT -5 casacasa said:

I am just like her. I can have conversations, get up and turn my Alarm off and go back to bed and fall right asleep. I’ve slept through fire alarms, security alarms, etc. my problem is that I do my heavy sleeping from like 5am-9am. It’s hard to wake my body up before then and yet I do it everyday. It doesn’t matter what time I go to bed. Even if I fall asleep early I never get good sleep and then I fall into a deep sleep around 5am.

For me, the only thing that has helped in bringing in something I want to stay awake for. So DH will bring me coffee or turn the tv on so I start trying to watch it. I have to actively WAKE myself up. I cannot rely on my sleep just being interrupted. This has been an issue my entire life.

My deep sleeper friends resorted to an old school coffee pot with an alarm that started making coffee at the same time each morning, placed IN their bedroom.  That way, the smell of fresh coffee woke them up each day :-)

[luckydog]

Other subtle sleep apnea clues are sleeping with the mouth open or waking with a dry mouth or waking up to pee at night/bedwetting at an older age. Sleep apnea usually is associated with snoring but it also can be very quiet sleeping. If it is apnea, the issue could be nasal or could be lower in the mouth/jaw/throat, so the final solution will depend on the cause. A good ENT would be a decent start, I’d specifically request a sleep study if they don’t offer one and if they don’t mention any obvious causes like tonsils. Primary docs and dentists can also order sleep studies but with kiddos they might prefer them to see someone that specializes in sleep, and ENTs could help with this if not a typical sleep doctor.

[lolanjoe]

I also get hate getting up in the mornings, and my solution has always been alarms that go off way before I need to actually be up so I can enjoy laying in bed and hitting snooze. After about 20-30 minutes (alarm goes off every 8) I haul myself out of bed ready to get going.

[Roc A Bee]

I’m much more pleasant if I wake up not to an alarm. Can you go wake her up gently 10 minutes prior to the alarm. Then the alarm is her last call?

Also I feel much more awake and better if I take a shower. So even a quick body shower in the morning helps wake me up.

[bunnies]

Ugh, she sounds exactly like me. And I still struggle at 40 years old.   Sorry, not helpful.


ETA: For the majority of my adult life, I've worked afternoon/evening jobs because of this.

[gummy]

You just described me as a teen and adult and I'm almost 40 years old. My circadian rhythm is just not aligned with others. I easily wake up to alarms and even tried putting it across my room but I'd basically sleep walk & turn it off and fall right back to sleep. I even got fired from my first job for being chronically late on AM shifts. The only thing that has worked is waking up at least 30 min earlier and just sitting on the couch mindlessly watching anything. I cannot roll out of bed and do things. I just can't. In high school I'd sit at the kitchen counter and watch the news but I needed at least 30min to just sit before getting ready. These days I've stretched it to an hour 😴