Weekend GTKY

[k3am]

This post brought to you by a conversation with DH..

Do you and your SO still make out solely for the purpose of making out?

[mustardseed2007]

Kiss just to kiss for sure, but we don't really make out. And I did realize that until you asked.

[sandandsea]

No. We don’t make out just to make out.

[librarychica]

I mean I’m not going to claim we’ve never gone “it’s late, maybe let’s just sleep” but not intentionally.

[twinmomma]

Yes, but we are still very much in the honeymoon stage when it comes to stuff like that compared to most on here.

[sdlaura]

No, if we’re kissing a lot it’s during sex. Otherwise just occasional kissing - no making out.

[supertrooper1]

May 7, 2022 17:29:34 GMT -5 twinmomma said:

Yes, but we are still very much in the honeymoon stage when it comes to stuff like that compared to most on here.

Same here. It's a version of foreplay for us usually.

[k3am]

So.. the two people who I thought would vote yes did.

DH randomly asked why we don't make out. Because.. we're old married people with access to a private room with a lock. He was adamant that "most people" still make out.

[twinmomma]

k3am, LOL I'm not at all surprised by the answers either. When we make out, it's usually on days when the kids are here and we're trying to sneak in a little something. We save the other stuff for the half of the week when we have the house to ourselves.

[mae0111]

I would love a little more making out, cuddling, etc. But if DH gets like one unexpected kiss, he's then expects all the things and acts all mad when things don't go further.

It's just easier to just... not.

[waverly]

I mean we might make out for about a minute / 2 minutes. But that is the extent, so I didn't figure that counted.

[supertrooper1]

May 9, 2022 12:17:50 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

I would love a little more making out, cuddling, etc. But if DH gets like one unexpected kiss, he's then expects all the things and acts all mad when things don't go further.

It's just easier to just... not.

This must be a common issue because I see it on Tiktok a lot. The husband or wife complain that they don't touch/kiss/etc outside the bedroom, but the one spouse feels like if they just kiss or touch it will lead to more when they don't want more at that moment.

I actually don't see this changing much in the future for us even as we become the "old married couple".  We're almost 3 years into our relationship and if making out was just a honeymoon phase, I think it would be gone by now.  Studies show that couples are happier when there is more intimacy in a relationship.  But I don't think one causes the other-you need both.  Happiness will lead to more intimacy and more intimacy will lead to a happier relationship... if that makes sense...

[mustardseed2007]

supertrooper1, it totally makes sense. I'm definitely in the same boat as mae0111. We do not make out because then he's like - why are we making out if we're not going to...."

Yeah ok bud.