Ms. Petty McPetty

[rere]

So...I had a bout of petty, and I am pretty darn happy about it.

My old boss was the queen of....sporadic micromanaging. For example, she was more than happy to let me do all the things during the last year or so, except every once and a while, I would get a call about communication because people were going around her to ask me questions because she didn't know or made things way harder than needed.

One of her staff is off on leave, so a couple of my staff have helped her about 4 days over the last month. I get off a call to an email asking one of my staff for another day. Now 2 of my staff would have no problem telling her they don't have time. But this particular staff cannot say no and will drive himself into the ground first. He was booked on the day needed, so she was asking if he could do another day.So I sent her an email that from now on, she is to contact me before asking my staff for help and if he could not help that day, she should throw it back to her other staff. I get, well I copied you. Well from now on, you check with me first.

Man that felt good.

Feel free to bring in your petty.

[mommyatty]

There’s a group in my company working on a project that will involve my old employer. Old employer is very verrrrry slow about the kinds of requests this group is going to make. A year ago I offered to contact the right people to get things moving, but nope, they weren’t ready. They just asked me who to get in touch with. I sent them a link with the names and numbers to call, but ain’t no way I’m pulling a sparkly unicorn out of my butt to get my old employer to move quickly when I told them to start this process a full year ago.

[twinmomma]

I'm genuinely relieved that beau's son got covid while with his mom, directly after a flight with her. Not because he has covid - obviously I'm not happy about that. But it feels like the universe/karma got her when it swept her whole household immediately after masks went away on planes and she insisted on still traveling. I know that if he had tested positive under our roof, she would have lost her damn mind. So I'm happy/relieved it happened "on her watch" instead. And another layer - she's a pack a day smoker and is freaking out that she has covid. She's convinced she has long haul already, even though it's been less than a week. I don't feel bad at all. That's your own damn fault to make yourself higher risk.

[mommyatty]

twinmomma- she’s a pack a day smoker and constantly freaks out about her asthmatic kid being exposed to KIDS??? I mean, even third hand smoke clinging to clothes affects my asthma. As it does most people with asthma. God, she’s a piece of work.

[mustardseed2007]

Maybe the fact that he has asthma has something to do with her smoking? Just a thought.

Also who is a pack a day smoker anymore?

[waverly]

Anytime I set up a doctor appointment for DH or one he takes the kids to he angrily texts me everything that went wrong. A minute by minute play by play of his wait time and more!

So I told him I’m no longer booking medical appointments for him and oh well if he has issues. I don’t care anymore and am planning to throw it in his face every time he brings up a medical issue. Oh well, guess you better book yourself an appointment then … or not…. Not my problem.

[k3am]

I mean.. one of the best things you can do to protect yourself against covid complications (and a ton of other things) is... stop smoking.

mustardseed2007, my sister was a pack a day smoker. Now she's a pack a day smoker who vapes in between cigarettes. It's disgusting.

[twinmomma]

I seriously can't make this stuff up! You'd think if she was *that* concerned about her son, she'd take that very basic step. But nope. She always claims he's super wheezy and sick but he's completely fine here. He's probably miserable at her house vs. here. They have two dogs and she smokes!

[mae0111]

I have a lot to say about the smoker comments. But I will keep it to myself.

Signed,

Wife, sister, and good friend to current and former smokers/vapers who have tried everything in the world to quit and always relapse

[twinmomma]

mae0111, If she weren't so self-righteous about the "risky behaviors" that could cause their asthmatic son to have a flare up or get COVID, I wouldn't care that she smokes. But if she's going to act like she's doing everything she can "save" her son, including pulling him from school constantly and making him paranoid about going in public while she turns around and directly contradicts it with a behavior that is known to have a direct negative impact on her son's health, then I will trash talk the smoking all day long. It's not smoking in general - it's her smoking as a major hypocrite.

[mae0111]

rere, I don't think what you did was petty. I think you're protecting your staff from someone who doesn't care if they're overworked... because they're not her staff. You did the right thing!

#notpetty

[mae0111]

twinmomma, I completely understand your POV, and I would probably feel the same way as you. She's a total hypocrite and I don't know how you handle it day in and day out. Truly. You're a good person and your beau's DS is so, so lucky to have you.

[rere]

May 10, 2022 12:58:04 GMT -5 mae0111 said:

rere, I don't think what you did was petty. I think you're protecting your staff from someone who doesn't care if they're overworked... because they're not her staff. You did the right thing!

#notpetty

Maybe the petty part was the pure glee I got from doing it:)

[sdlaura]

The person who was supposed to organize a room block for an out of town softball tournament dropped the ball and didn't. So I had to try to find a room block of 50 rooms with less than two weeks notice. I wasn't able to get quite as many rooms as needed, so I sent out the booking info to my team before the person who was supposed to do it sent it to the others, to give them a head start on booking. I think we'll ultimately end up with enough rooms for everyone who wants one, but I felt justified in making sure our team got to be together after all the last-minute work.

[vasc]

Today was day 1 of state testing for elementary kids. 5,000 technology problems from iPads, most of which could have been solved if people read their emails. Would love to send out an email referencing a different email from last Friday where all
Technology prep was spelled out.