Randoms - 5/16

[rubytue]

idahome, I’d call your doctor. Sudden vision changes are generally something they want to know about.

I really want to vent about my H. But, it’s soooo much and I just don’t want to type it all out. It’s a bunch of little things, and they are all adding up to a bad place. Basically, he’s been out of work for 18 months now, and has completely regressed to a teenager. And I’m at my wits end with it. This is everything from the hours her keeps, to evasiveness and inability to understand what he says is not what people think he means. For example, a couple weeks ago, he borrowed my car to “run a few errands.” 6 hours later, when he isn’t home, I find our his “errand” was in NEW JERSEY! We live in Maryland. In what world is it ok to drive through 3 states, and you know, never mention it?! Or yesterday, he told my friend he would be over “first thing tomorrow”. He left our house, 45 minutes away, just after noon. And said “well, it was the first place I went after I got up.”

Oh, I guess I did end up typing.

[idahome]

rubytue: I just messaged my doctor with the list of vision issues I’ve noticed. I felt extra doing that but figured it was the best course of action. Thanks for confirming that (the last week has been a lot of “I don’t want to bother doctors” so, you know).

[macmars45]

So I've had fluid in my ears and congestion in my nose since April 29th from a cold H shared with me on April 26th. All the antibiotics gave me was side effects. I had a bad reaction to Sudafed. I've been using the neti pot 3x/day, taking mucinex and taking flonase daily. I've been to the dr twice now. I'm going crazy.

[rubytue]

idahome, the past few years have taught me to advocate for myself and my health. I’m probably annoying, and I try to make up for it with jokes and a very friendly attitude. But most of my doctors are always telling me it’s ok. I’ve apologized for coming in to my PCP so many times, that we now just joke about my hypochondriac appointment (which was totally my last one). Just an FYI, if the vision issues are double vision, that is ER worthy. Is taken me 3 rounds of double vision to actually follow that, but it is.

I hope she gets back to you quickly 😘

[lilypad1126]

rubytue, all of that would drive me insane. And I’m extra side-eyeing the car trip evasiveness bc you are his wife! Omg I’d be so mad if my H did that! Not that I care that he’s driving that far, but tell me so I don’t worry!

I’m salty with my H about his lack of understanding time. When I say I’d like to eat between 6 and 6:30 (due to other plans we have) don’t start cooking a meal that takes hours at 6. Or when I say we need to leave by 10am and he starts to get ready at 10. He never used to be like this and I can’t figure out what’s going on. When I ask, he says I should just relax more, and doesn’t he deserve extra time to relax? Um he’s retired. Can’t he relax at a time that won’t make me late?

[rubytue]

lilypad1126, thank you for saying that. Logically, I know I wasn’t overreacting, but yet…. And let me tell you, when he mentioned he didn’t tell me beforehand because he “knew I’d be upset”. Lord have mercy, it did NOT go over well.

[babsbunny]

macmars45, I've noticed your posts because I cannot sleep without being able to easily breath through my nose, so your situation sounds like my hell. I am so sorry you have had this for so many weeks and can't get relief. I hope you feel better soon. Maybe some Colman's english mustard? That stuff can really do something to the sinuses. (Like wasabi.) (I say this in jest, but if you try it, please report back and tell me I'm an idiot.)

[rubytue]

On the messaging your doctor thing… I’ve had an exchange with mine over the past couple days. Basically, my usual wanting to scare goat my thyroid for some issues I’m having (it’s be consistently well medicated every time we check). And then, some other minor, but weird things. And, everything came be explained by perimenopause. On the one hand, yay? On the other, it’s gonna really piss me off if it actually is something and we wrote it off as peri. But, I do have my annual cardiologist appointment coming up, to discuss the heart racing/palpitations thing. And, both oncologists later this summer. So….

[eponinepontmercy]

My grandmother passed away today. My uncle was with her and holding her hand.


She was my last living grandparent and my favorite. I'm glad she's not suffering anymore and she can be with my grandpa again.

Now I need to find a neon green or pink outfit for her funeral. She was very clear that she didn't want people in black.

[wawa]

eponinepontmercy, I'm so sorry. And happy for you that you got that last visit in.

[rubytue]

((((( eponinepontmercy,)))))

[aurora]

I'm so sorry, eponinepontmercy.

[aurora]

I just went out to cover some of my new garden plants for the snow that started mid-day. Will be interesting to see what survives.

[mbcdefg]

Birds plus travel - I’m looking forward to this:

Christian Cooper, the bird-watching Black man who was the target of false accusations during an encounter in New York City's Central Park in 2020, has a new TV show airing on National Geographic.

The channel announced this week that Cooper, a lifelong bird-watcher, will host a series called Extraordinary Birder. In the series, Cooper will take viewers into the "wild, wonderful and unpredictable world of birds," according to National Geographic.

"Whether braving stormy seas in Alaska for puffins, trekking into rainforests in Puerto Rico for parrots, or scaling a bridge in Manhattan for a peregrine falcon, he does whatever it takes to learn about these extraordinary feathered creatures and show us the remarkable world in the sky above," the network said in a statement.

The channel has yet to announce a premier date for the show.

www.npr.org/2022/05/19/1100203220/christian-cooper-bird-watcher-national-geographic-tv-show

[mrsukyankee]

eponinepontmercy, so sorry for your loss.

[rubytue]

It’s 95 degrees. I’m planning to spend the afternoon at a park for an outdoor show with some friends. Man, the things I do for this artist 😂

[Jalapeñomel]

I do not understand why we have to go back to in-person meetings.

[cattledogkisses]

It hit 100 degrees here in New England today, on May 22.

[erbear]

eponinepontmercy , hugs. I'm sorry for your loss and I'm glad you got that visit in.

[mrsukyankee]

cattledogkisses, holy cow.

[ssmjlm]

eponinepontmercy, so sorry for your loss. Those colors sound fantastic for celebrating her life.


I have a coworker who really seems to be unable to read situations/people and how to respond. It's very frustrating because after several years with our organization, they have not learned how to address and react in workplace situations. I thought maybe the new boss was working with them as its extremely problematic in some cases, but an email exchange this morning once again proves they are same old same old.