I just need to get this off my chest so that I can try to stop stewing about it. I'm SO annoyed by the way beau is handling his son's health right now. His son has a cough. He has asthma and pollen and allergies are in full swing here. The kid is otherwise entirely fine. He ran around all weekend with friends, needed his inhaler more than usual, and beau took him to urgent care for steroids on Sunday afternoon just to be safe. Cough was still there on Monday, so he got to stay home from school. All freaking day the kid was bugging beau to play with him, wrestle with him, basically entertain him 24/7. (This is already a pet peeve for me. Kids don't die of boredom. He'll figure it out) Beau was trying to work since Monday is his main admin day for restaurant stuff. And his son would not let up. Finally he moped so much that he facetimed his mom and then she started freaking out that beau isn't taking good care of him and texting like a maniac. And now guess who is home again today because they made him a mid-day doctor's appointment?! If your kid is gloating about not having to go to school and demanding to be entertained all day, he can be sitting in the classroom coughing just like he can be sitting in our house coughing! It is very much NOT covid or a contagious illness and that is well documented. But I can't say any of this because beau takes it personally and thinks I'm not being understanding of his son's health issues. He claims I don't get it because I didn't see how sick his son was as a toddler and needing nebulizers all the time. I realize that's true and I have an outside perspective. I love them both, but I swear sometimes they treat him like that invalid kid in The Secret Garden and it drives me absolutely insane!
twinmomma , My kids both had viral induced asthma, sooo much nebulizing. But, luckily they outgrew it, finally. I never kept them home, I sent the nebulizer to daycare with them.
twinmomma, they’re raising a hypochondriac. He thinks what makes him special is his condition, which is just sad. Six million kids in the United States have asthma. They aren’t all staying home during allergy season.
My vent is that DD1 has been extremely difficult for the past couple of days. She gets an idea in her head about how things are going to go, and then positively loses her mind when things don't go her way.
Yesterday was absolutely beautiful outside. About 70 degrees, sunny. I informed both kids that they would not be retreating to their rooms with devices that afternoon - that they would finish homework and their piano lesson, and they would head outside and move their bodies in some way. Walk the dog, play soccer, basketball, ride bikes... whatever. DD1 insisted on swimming. I had to finish the laundry that I didn't get to over the weekend, since I was running to sporting events and supervising friends at the pool. So I said she couldn't swim. She immediately grabbed her phone and ipad and tried to head to her room. I said no.
What followed was an epic meltdown for the ages. Screaming, slamming doors. I had to summon DH from the basement. She called me a jerk, so I took her devices for the day. Then she called us both jerks, so we took them for the next day as well (so today). She continued and we warned her that we would take them for Wednesday as well... and she screamed that we never took them away for yesterday or today...
The gaslighting is exhausting.
Today didn't start off any better. She overslept again (I don't wake her because that causes epic tantrums). She wouldn't get ready, kept trying to play with the dog. Ultimately we got in the car without her brushing her teeth or hair.
Her behavior has improved, and these tantrums don't happen every day, but I'm so tired of tiptoeing around her and giving in to keep the peace. She's ungrateful and she lashes out a lot. I'm sad to say it, but I'm counting the days until she goes to camp. Even though DD2 is entering that annoying eyerolling tween phase, she's still 100x easier.
I can't wait to watch The Disruptors. I'm hoping to gain some insight into her brain.
mommyatty, Thank you. Sometimes I feel like I'm being a bitch for having little to no sympathy for him. But he is totally playing them! Beau is also stuck between a rock and a hard place with it, because if he doesn't go overboard and do things like keep him home, his ex threatens him as being negligent. That said, beau is 100% also part of the problem and gives in to plenty without that added stress. Last night we got in a fight about it all, so yet again I told him I just need to remove myself from those parenting decisions because I strongly disagree with what they're doing. It's so tough to be supportive and be there for beau but also have to bite my tongue because I would be doing the exact opposite. #BlendedFamilyFun