My second interview for an epidemiologist is today. Yesterday I had a good candidate, so I am hopeful.
Today is my birthday. DH is working. Dd is being sweet and is going to the Downton Abbey movie with me this afternoon, even though she will not have a clue what's going on. I don't go to the movies for myself ever, but this is my all time favorite show. We are then going out to dinner and maybe shopping.
Small vent. Dh pouted a bit that he won't see me on my birthday. I asked how is me doing something that I want to do and making the best of my day about him. He is working tonight. He shut it after that.
I’m trying to stay off social media because it’s not healthy for me to think too much about the school shooting Tuesday. And so incredibly frustrating that politicians are unwilling to take even the simplest measures to try to help the issue. So I need to accept that I’ve done what I personally can (votes, donations, marching in protests with my kids after past mass casualty events in schools) and it’s healthier for me to try not to think about it other times.
Yesterday I had an in person meeting with a client that I used to see in person every month pre pandemic, but they’ve been meeting on zoom for the past 2+ years. It’s crazy to think that the last time I saw them I was pregnant and 38 years old. Now I’m 41 years old and have a 2-year-old. So weird.
Happy birthday rere! Going to the movies by myself is one of my favorite self care activities. It's nice that your daughter will go with you!
It's my girls' birthday today! They were begging for us to pick them up as car riders today instead of going to after school care. Instead, beau is surprising them by dismissing them a little early, since his son has an early release today for teacher workshops.
I invited exH and his fiancee over tonight to do a quick little cake celebration, but he's not coming. He's in a wedding this weekend and claimed he's too busy to stop by. Such a lame excuse, we live 5 minutes apart, he can't swing by to see his kids on their actual birthday? ExH bought the girls an oculus for their birthday. Which then prompted beau to buy them one too, so we can have one at each house. I think they're both insane and there's definitely some male posturing going on here with these gifts. Neither of them has that kind of disposable income. I told beau we should wait to give the one from him until after they get the one from their dad, so we don't steal his thunder. But now that exH can't be bothered to show up tonight, I might change my mind on that one.
My in-laws are on day 7 of their visit with us and I'm slowly losing my mind. They are lovely people, but probably the most inefficient and disorganized people you'd encounter, and just polar opposites of us. 5 more days to go!
My MIL also drives me crazy by always lamenting that DS is not "utilizing his full potential". She thinks the world of him and seem constantly surprised that he's not working harder on any of his many talents. While I share the same frustration from time to time, I also recognize that he's 9; and that not every child excels at something - that's why not everyone grows up to be the best hockey player / Nobel peace prize winner / billionaire. And that should be ok.
sdlaura I have to avoid media now too. I dwell on it and go down all the rabbit holes and feel so hopeless. So it’s been a hard week.
The eval I wrote Monday went over like a lead balloon to the individual and he’s reacted exactly as expected, backing out of a big project, requesting 2 more weeks of PTO and sulking/complaining to anyone who will listen. Basically exhibiting the exact behavior that proves why my eval was fair and honest. So it’s made this week way more stressful than needed.
I too am trying to avoid the news. It still pops up though. In our Girl Scout group, which I thought would be safe, they posted that one of the kids was a Girl Scout, and I lost it for a few minutes. My kids have not heard the news, and when I ask them about the news they mentioned a different news story, and didn't say anything about the shooting. So I'm not bringing it up because they have 2.5 days left.
What good does it do if I spend all day crying? Nothing changes, nothing. It feels so hopeless and then the politicians. Ugh so much ugh.
DS is home today because school is closed after the hours long lockdown yesterday. I'm glad I picked him up because we saw the bus go by our house at 7:45pm last night and we were home at 6:30. So far all the school has said is that it was a threatening text which lead staff to believe there were weapons in one of the buildings. But there were also rumors that the threat was mitigated by 3:15, so I don't know why kids were kept in lockdown so long. I guess I'll wait and see what the school says instead of following the rumor mill.
My attorney sent me her draft proposal, so I hope she can finish it and send it to my ex's attorney soon!
I'm also avoiding social media and the news. There was a local school shooting at a neighboring high school when I was a freshman. It will be 25 years in the fall since it happened. Whenever there is a school shooting the local news does a recap on that shooting and where things are at. I pretty sure the kid is up for parole this fall.
We've been doing lots of middle school prep here. Did a tour of the school she got in on Tuesday. DD asked lots of questions and most of them the 8th grade teacher giving us the tour couldn't answer. We are meeting the SPED teacher over zoom on the 13th with our current SPED teacher. She wants DD to meet this teacher and go over how things will look in the fall. DD took her math diagnostic test Tuesday. Her teacher let her out of zoom class yesterday as the class was just using that time to finish the test but she congratulated DD on her excellent growth. She said she had a growth burst/stretch and totally left her growth chart.
June is starting to look super crazy between DD's birthday, doctors, dentist, gymnastics, school stuff, and work continuing ed I don't have one week that looks calm.
k3am, my grandma used to say “there’s a lid for every pot,” meaning even the weirdest or most miserable among us generally found their other half. Every time I watch those two, half of me thinks “that was clearly the right lid for the right pot because they are both so insane that dayum, who else could deal with that literal shit the bed level of crazy” and the other half thinks “man, that was just the wrong lid on so many levels.”