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[librarychica]

Put your whines and rants here!

[librarychica]

Complaint one: I have to work some on vacation next week bc I am still fairly new. I don’t miss my old job (though I do miss my coworkers) but I do miss the PTO bank I had accumulated over ten years.

Complaint two: I am trying to get a dozen experts in a room together for 4 hours over 2 days for a project kickoff, half the people’s calendars don’t reflect actual availability, and we’re spread out over 5 time zones. I feel like I am stuck in a word problem.

[mustardseed2007]

My world is collapsing. Our nanny just told me that her old boss called her and offered her 9 dollars an hour more than she's being paid working for me plus health benefits but she has to start Monday.

She gave me the name of two friends. Told them to reach out to me. One did, but her phone went straight to voice mail when I called her at our agreed upon time and now it's 25 minutes later and I haven't heard from her. The other hasn't reached out at all. I'm trying to get my niece to help me but she has a lead on a job at an ice cream parlor....

I'm f$!@ guys. 

[mustardseed2007]

Also my idiot husband said "we'll just do what we normally do".

FFS man, what we "normally do" is book an intricately planned compilation of camps. Which I didn't do this year because we had a nanny. Worse! I booked a couple "classes". 2 hour classes.

FML.

[mae0111]

mustardseed2007, omg that's so stressful. I've been through that and I'm really sorry. My first nanny told me she was "f-ing done" and threw a car seat at me when I refused to give her a 3rd raise in 18 months. DH had just started a new job, the nanny had been out a ton, I was afraid I was going to lose my job. But we did find our awesome nanny that was with us for 5 years after that, and she still sees us and the kids when we can make it work. Don't lose hope!!

I'm over my kids just not listening. I know there are some factors at play - ADHD specifically - but if I tell you to take your meds, just TAKE YOUR MEDS. If I tell you to put your book report and speech in your bag, PUT IT IN YOUR BAG. And neither of those things happened (2 different kids). So, no, child who chose to ignore me, I shall not be racing back to school with page 5 of your speech. Figure it out.

Also, I'm old and just had to schedule my first colonoscopy. The paperwork says 5 days before I have to stop eating all raw vegetables, seeds, corn, nuts, popcorn and all thick-skinned fruits and vegetables like tomatoes and strawberries. WTF that's like 90% of my diet.

[librarychica]

Jun 1, 2022 9:59:29 GMT -5 mustardseed2007 said:

Also my idiot husband said "we'll just do what we normally do".

FFS man, what we "normally do" is book an intricately planned compilation of camps. Which I didn't do this year because we had a nanny. Worse! I booked a couple "classes". 2 hour classes.

FML.

OMFG I am so sorry. Do you work on site? I have my 10 and 7 year olds sort of free floating this week. I give them a to-do list and make them lunch and otherwise they’re just sort of around watching way too much YouTube and bickering. It’s working …. fine.

[rere]

mae0111 I'm old too. I scheduled mine for September. Not looking forward to it at all. I feel like I spend a lot of time these days trying to prevent things.

My only vent is I am ready for vacation. soooo ready. I have no motivation for anything right now. Friday can't get here fast enough.

[sdlaura]

Preschool has gone back to normal drop offs where you have to go in the building, put your kid’s stuff away in their classroom, take them out to the playground and find the sign in sheet there. Compared to during the past two years where you walk 30 feet from your car to an outdoor table and hand them off. So now my drop off takes way longer, especially since I can’t leave baby in the car when I can no longer see the car from where I’m dropping the preschooler.

mustardseed2007 OMG I'm sorry. I've had good luck with the UrbanSitter app, but it seems like it's not active in every area. Are there any camps that still have availability? What about at the kids' school?

[twinmomma]

ExH is just so dumb. He didn't bother to come see the girls on their actual birthday because he was "too busy" to drive over. We live five minutes apart. Then at the birthday party on Sunday he and his fiancee wandered away and didn't socialize with anyone so they ended up completely missing cake and singing. It just blows my mind how ridiculously oblivious he is. DD1 asked if they had to even bother going back to his house this week or if they could just stay with me.

[186momx]

Vet office. The text reminder said our dental surgery appointment was today at 7:45 and please arrive 15 minutes before your appointment. We show up at 7:38 and I call the office and get transferred to the e-vet as you don't open until 8am. I text reply to your multiple reminder texts stating we were there. Don't yell at me not to check in by text. I had a stressed-out dog sitting in the car for almost 30 minutes. The poor vet tech, DD, and I had to man handle my 68lb senior lab out of the car. Thank goodness the vet tech was still in street clothes otherwise I don't think my old lady would have gone with her as I couldn't walk her into the office. Also don't add a bunch of extra charges to my visit that is already sticker shocked. I scratched off all the flea, tick, and heartworm crap that my poor girl is allergic too.
Worrying dog mom who had to sign a DNR for a dental cleaning/tooth removal.

[traveltheworld]

DD has this weird skin thing on the side of her head. She complained about it a few days ago and I thought it was just a mosquito bite; then promptly forgot about it. This morning I looked and the skin looked raw and almost oozy? I called our family doctor but he can't see her till tomorrow. Now I feel like the worst mom in the world because this would have never happened with DS. The slightest ailment on DS would have sent me into a panic. I once took him to see our family doctor because I thought one of his bruises looked funny. But because DD never had any health issues, I tend to ignore her more.

[waverly]

Not really a complaint. The ABNB is gorgeous, but I am tired from all the work and wondering how much DH spent on furnishings. Since it is now under his side business account, I am not included in the discussion like I am in personal finance. But yet I am helping him with forced labor ha ha. I just want them to do the professional pictures and start promoting it. DH is in the weeds still a little. He needs to come back up to the big picture stuff.

My other complaint is also DH related, he doesn't want the kids going back to the Park District camp. He says they are old enough to stay home which OK sort of true ish. But the idea was to stay at home while he works from home. It doesn't work as well if he is off galivanting. I mean he hasn't yet, but there are times that he is leaving them longer than I would be comfortable with. So he better not complain to me about them if he is home with them because I suggested camp and he said no. So enjoy your summer with crazy kids while trying to work, DH.

[mustardseed2007]

I probably can find some camp some place with openings. The kids school doesn't have camp over the summer at all.

The girl who ghosted me got in touch half an hour late. I talked to her and she sounds sweet but I'm terrified of her flaking on me. My niece is over here right now trying to figure out if she can handle watching the kids. And DH's co workers daughter is interested in the job too. Right now it looks promising but I'm so tired and mad.

[erbear]

I might delete this. It’s all work related.

1. Graduation is next week. I’m in charge. One thing we do is read a little tribute to each kid. We are supposed to write them for our advisees. I wrote my 10. I’m also supposed to edit and distribute them and make a certificate for each kid. This is probably 8 hours of work. Literally, not a single other person on my team has started theirs yet so I’m shitting around doing nothing this week when I have time (students are working on a project) but will then be crazy next week when the ceremony is and I have to grade everything and it’s the last week of school so there is no time. I’m so annoyed — they were due yesterday.

2. I have a trans boy in my class whose parents suck. They won’t use his name or pronouns. So my choices are to either deadname him in this ceremony (I am really against this) or use his name and risk his parents making a fuss in the middle of the ceremony. So that’s fun.

3. I have a meeting Monday to talk about a kid I will have next year. He’s…really hard. Undiagnosed ED, probably ODD, very tough. He’s been allowed to do whatever he wants this year bc he has a teacher who just protects him (in a weird and inappropriate way, imo) so I’m either going to have to say he can’t be at the school (and risk her hating me - which is tough bc she teaches my kids) or push him through and deal with this shit all year next year.

[sdlaura]

erbear can you talk to the trans boy and ask what he would prefer? Since he will have to deal with any parental consequences.

[erbear]

Jun 1, 2022 17:17:49 GMT -5 sdlaura said:

erbear can you talk to the trans boy and ask what he would prefer? Since he will have to deal with any parental consequences.

Of course. He would like to use his name. The one he’s been using all year.

[waverly]

Do you think they would scream and yell in the middle if the ceremony? Could someone be stationed near where they are sitting? I’d be inclined to use his name if they just sit there looking mad.

[sdlaura]

erbear then I would definitely do that!

[erbear]

Jun 1, 2022 17:38:09 GMT -5 waverly said:

Do you think they would scream and yell in the middle if the ceremony? Could someone be stationed near where they are sitting? I’d be inclined to use his name if they just sit there looking mad.

I have no idea. They are pretty unhinged and they hate me (because apparently I “turned their daughter trans”. So ridiculous. If I felt like I had the full support of my boss and that he will step in, that’s my plan.

[twinmomma]

Whhhhyyyy does the IT team have to make everything SO complicated?! I am losing my mind. My request was "Add an additional field to the database to show this number." Did he do that? No. He took an existing database field, changed all the values in it to match the numbers I requested and domino effect messed up a whole bunch of stuff because he thought it would be better that way. No. It's not. Just do exactly what I told you to do and don't try to get creative and problem solve. This guy is on a "process improvement" kick and I swear every process he's tried to fix for me has been worse than before he did anything. I'm losing my mind and it's such a waste of time.

[mae0111]

twinmomma, add me to the IT frustration list today...

We are upgrading our systems, and there have been a million red flags through the process that I tried to ignore in favor of keeping the peace... but so many problems... everything that gets "fixed" breaks something else...

Also a vent about a consultant that I hired... they told me I needed special fonts. I said I didn't want to buy the fonts unless I could use them everywhere. They said no problem. Tried to use the fonts in print. Ohhh you didn't pay for print. You only paid for digital. If you want print, we you have to pay an addition charge that is FIVE TIMES what we told you! WTF I specifically asked you this question!!!

[mustardseed2007]

Jun 1, 2022 17:52:38 GMT -5 erbear said:

Jun 1, 2022 17:38:09 GMT -5 waverly said:

Do you think they would scream and yell in the middle if the ceremony? Could someone be stationed near where they are sitting? I’d be inclined to use his name if they just sit there looking mad.

I have no idea. They are pretty unhinged and they hate me (because apparently I “turned their daughter trans”. So ridiculous. If I felt like I had the full support of my boss and that he will step in, that’s my plan.

I would definitely engage your boss but I hope you are allowed to use his preferred name. <3 And shame on parents like that!!