Post by donutsmakemegonuts on Jun 14, 2022 18:38:06 GMT -5
I also loved this book.
I wonder what would have happened if I had gone to my local community college instead of straight to a university. I had a scholarship to play field hockey for my local cc but I thought it was lame at the time because all my friends were going to 4 year colleges.
Not sure if this is the same or not, but I always wonder how my life/personality be different if I had just relaxed and loosened up in high school. I was such a goodie goodie always worried about what others thought of me and I wish I would have done more "bad" stuff lol.
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Jun 14, 2022 20:00:44 GMT -5
I wouldn’t have my kids, but I should’ve left my H when he was unemployed and not at all looking for the first year plus of our marriage. I’d be so much better off, financially, if I’d just believed that chronically underemployed/underperforming was who he is.
I wonder what my life had been like if I went to the boarding school I received an offer to my sophmore year of high school. I decided against it because I wanted to stay close to my POS, abusive boyfriend.
Given my student loan burden, I wonder if I had chosen a different school, or no college at all. I seriously considered no college and instead moving to Chicago and taking improv classes to see where that went. I initially only went to college because my parents have it in their will that I get nothing if I didn't graduate college. Given their finances, that's not a huge sell now that I know more.
I sometimes regret not having children sooner, but given my shitty care in the city I used to live in, I'm not confident things would have gone well.
I definitely regret not going on anti-depressants and going to therapy sooner, but especially the anti-depressants. I had grown so used to feeling the way I did, I thought that was just...life.
I wish I had gotten a nose piercing when I was younger. Of course I *can* do it now, but it seems like a mid-life crisis move.
Post by litskispeciality on Jun 15, 2022 15:01:50 GMT -5
I often wonder what would have happened if I did more research on colleges? I loved my experience, but the debt could have been a lot better.
I have a lot of I should be further in my career, and wonder if any of that could be different if I had gone a different direction...but also there's the whole I gotta work to eat so just take a job thing.
There are times I look back at stuff with DH and I and wonder if I should have left. More so when we were dating. Things are a lot better now, but even when he finally got his now career job, if I had really known how much it would hold me back in life, would it have been better to start all over and not get married pretty much right after he started?
Finally, I weirdly still think about this guy I was friends with in college. We had true chemistry and a good friendship. We both worked for the same office, and our boss would nudge us both privately about the other. Instead I kept going back to the same ex, and this (good) guy was so good he just stayed away as he didn't want to get invovled with someone with one foot out the door. He and I much later said sorry we didn't make a move. Just curious how far that relationship could have gone?
I'm hesitant to wish for do-overs because I like my life and feel like all the shit I went through helped make me who I am. That being said, I wish I had been more self confident to tell MIL to fuck off early on in our marriage. It would have saved us both a lot of heartache. I also wish I'd been able to establish better boundaries with my mom before she died. I think we would have had a better relationship if I had. My biggest do-over though is I wish DH and I had eloped. Haha!
Post by litskispeciality on Jun 15, 2022 20:15:07 GMT -5
Yes I regret DH and I not pulling the plug and eloping, although he just would not do it. Now he's a jerk and laughs "guess we should have eloped tee hee"
I really wouldn't change anything that would take me away from meeting H and having DS but I do sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if my mom had have married a colonel she dated right before my stepdad. He had two daughters I got along with and got transferred to Hawaii. He wanted us to go with him (we lived in Missouri) and my mom wouldn't without being engaged and he wasn't ready and that was that. I was 12 so I imagine that would have changed my life pretty dramatically to grow up in Hawaii instead. I wouldn't have my dad though so 🤷.