I have a busy three days and then vacation until after the 4th of July. I cannot wait. But omg I’m so anxious. I’m worried our Level 1 Clinger Cats are going to freak out even though my BFF is going to take care of them every day. I’m worried I will forget something and with supply chain nonsense we won’t be able to get it there. I am really worried about my poor kids having to share a room with their grandma who snores like a freight train and sounds like she’s gagging and dying all night. (Yes, it’s clearly sleep apnea. No, she won’t do anything about it.)
It's nice having DS home, and we got to spend a lot of time with him yesterday. Dh was nervous going off to his new job, so I hope he has a good day.
My boss is on vacation, so I am working from home most the week to be around as Ds wanders through the house periodically, except for a few in person meetings.
Post by mustardseed2007 on Jun 20, 2022 9:21:54 GMT -5
We dropped DS at sleep away camp yesterday. At his camp you rank activities in order of your preference and then you get your assignment when you arrive. Last year DS did enjoy himself but also was assigned basketball which was no place on his list of preferences. This year when they handed me his list I was confident he would really love everything on it. Rifelry, horseback riding, board games, arts and crafts, drama, dog training -- a few other things too but all of them all things he is super excited to do!
This morning I dropped DD off at dance day camp and she was super excited too. She's doing this one with her BFF so it's sure to be a good experience.
I have a busy three days and then vacation until after the 4th of July. I cannot wait. But omg I’m so anxious. I’m worried our Level 1 Clinger Cats are going to freak out even though my BFF is going to take care of them every day. I’m worried I will forget something and with supply chain nonsense we won’t be able to get it there. I am really worried about my poor kids having to share a room with their grandma who snores like a freight train and sounds like she’s gagging and dying all night. (Yes, it’s clearly sleep apnea. No, she won’t do anything about it.)
I worried about our cat the entire vacation. We sent 3 different people to check on her and she hid from them all. As soon as we got back, we called for her and out she came.
Dh and the kids are on their way home from camping. I had a weekend that was a mix of productive and relaxing. DD2's room needed a purging - she had clothes and shoes that didn't fit her, summer things put away, winter things still accessible. I swapped things out, pulled out 2 huge bags to donate, a third bag of clothes to recycle, and 2 bags of trash. Also a huge box of books to donate. She was so excited when I told her - she doesn't like the clutter.
I cleaned my office, which was staging for camp packing. I had dinner with friends. I saw my parents for Father's Day. I went on a long walk with my neighbor. I went through a mound of paperwork. I got a FULL DAY of uninterrupted work in. I watched the Downton Abbey movie and binged Below Deck. I ate the meals that I wanted to eat and didn't worry about feeding anyone else. It was the first weekend that I've been able to just worry about myself since August.
It was glorious.
Today my office is closed, so I'm just wrapping up laundry before DH come home with a pile of muddy, smelly camping clothes. I'm going to take the dog for a long walk and then just hang out until they get home in a few hours.
This week is a bit of a mess. It's the first week of summer vacation. I need to work, DD1 and DD2 have appointments, DD2 has one half-day of camp. I put together a list of things that I expect to be completed each day of summer vacation. The children will not be pleased. DH and I drive DD1 to camp on Sunday, so hoping we can spend some family time together on Saturday. DD2 is hanging with my mom since it's a 3 hour ride and we aren't allowed to walk around the camp.
I'm tired. After DH fixed the faucets, we headed home. It's a 2.5 hour drive and usually the way I do it no big deal. But he wanted to stop for a sit down dinner. I hate doing that while driving, but he LOVES it apparently, and it was fathers day and he spent all day working. We were going to bring the dog to the patio, but they said no dogs, so I put the dog back in the car. We have DOG MODE AC, so don't worry about heat plus dog in the car. So anyway, DH orders me a hard cider, and 3/4 of the way through the drink he tells me oh I'm tired so you can drive. WTF, why did you order me a drink then? So then I ordered a coke to help me be more alert, but it's like 5pm at this time. It's bottled coke, so more caffeine than a fountain drink, so I was probably still up until midnight. I was super irritated all day, but it was Father's day, so tried hard to stay out of his way and be supportive of his work. But he was just very very grumpy about his faucet situation. And we had to replace the well pump too today at least with a contractor this time.
Post by traveltheworld on Jun 20, 2022 11:02:33 GMT -5
After a disastrous start to Father's Day, we had friends over for dinner and DS behaved himself, so we all got to relax. It was also comforting to hear from our friends how their kids have been constantly fighting and generally just acting like little monsters...maybe it's an end of the school year thing?
This week is going to be insanely busy - we have a lot of work events; and the kids have a lot of "end of the year" celebrations for their extracurricular activities. I'm bracing myself
Grand. We had a nice weekend with very little to do. We spent all day yesterday at outdoor breweries with the kids and everyone had fun. We are on summer break and DH has today off for Juneteenth. We’re getting ready to go on a big European trip Thursday night!
"Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It's hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It's round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you've got a hundred years here. There's only one rule that I know of, babies-"God damn it, you've got to be kind.”
1st day of summer break here. DD stayed home and I am working without a child for the first time in a long time. The office is very quiet especially for a Monday.
We got the camper pulled out and trip checked Saturday. All is good and it doesn't need new tires. DH has it hogging the driveway so it could get cleaned inside and out. The camper is no longer green on the outside with moss/algae. DD cleaned up the inside and got all the dust. It needs to be aired out but since we did all this in spotty showers we need to wait until the weather clears up. DD says the bedding was smelly so I will be doing extra wash this week to freshen everything up.
DD and I will be only in it for 2 nights while DH will be gone for 8 nights. I'm really looking forward to having a break from DH he is leaving June 30th and won't come home with the camper until July 9th!
rere- our cats are super social. But one of them loves to dart out the door as soon as you open it, and my BFF is pretty heavy and not speedy. I’m also worried they’ll start peeing where they shouldn’t because they’re mad. They really are the clingiest cats I have ever seen.
Spent the last 10 days in Hawaii. It was a great trip. But now I’m exhausted- both 5 year olds slept on me on the red eye home so I didn’t get any rest.
Saturday was great. For Father's Day, we went mini-golfing with FIL and went to dinner after. The weather was perfect and dinner was great. On Sunday, the kids gave DH his gifts and then we visited with my dad for a few hours. After that, it was all downhill. By the time we got home, I was pretty miserable with a sinus headache and no energy. This is usually how my sinus infections start. So I headed to urgent care this morning and got some antibiotics. They also swabbed me for Covid. It should come back negative since I haven't been anywhere and the kids are done with school. I will be so angry if it comes back positive. There is so much going on this week - I'm trying to wrap up a software release while my boss is out of town. Also, DS1 and I are testing for our next belts in taekwondo. So fingers crossed that my Covid PCR test is negative and this infection goes away pronto!
After our rocky Saturday night fight, beau and I were able to work it out and have a good Sunday together. I clearly touched a nerve when I told him to be the grown up and make his own choices and honestly I need to know when to keep my mouth shut vs. trying to "help." I've been reading a lot about how stepmoms can "disengage" from the parenting and I'm trying really hard to do that. Basically, my role as a stepmom is to back up and support beau, while he makes the actual parenting choices for his son. It's definitely not easy for me, but when I'm able to do it our lives are definitely calmer. He is going to make different choices than I would and that's ok because overall our big picture parenting views are the same. I just have to not be such a control freak and try to fix everything all the time. It's something I work on with my therapist constantly. He finally came home last night after almost a week away, the kids switched houses, and we had some time to ourselves to just regroup and relax, which was very much needed. And, he didn't admit it to me, but he did say to his friend on the phone that he tried to cram in too much stuff in too short a time while his sister was here. So deep down, I think he does realize what he's doing too. We're all just a work in progress.
I'm really struggling with DH. He is too busy to talk, so we are all supposed to read his mind. When I ask him a question, he can't answer. So I say, hey its 6:30 what do you want to do for dinner? Hey it's 7, what do you want to do? He WANTS to be in control, so I can't just decide dinner is X and do it, typically. Sometimes I will but, usually I ask.
So he's like oh whatever, so I start to order take out. He comes out mumbles something angrily and goes to the grocery store. Starts the grill and then mows the lawn? What about the grilling? So I grill- GRILL FIRE. Yup, so I turn off everything get him and he tamps it out. But dude, if you had told me 3 hours ago that you wanted to grill I could have cleaned the grill and bought the burgers 3 hours ago. I was home early for GS camp pick up.
Then he's like where are the kids, why aren't they helping? Help with what a GRILL FIRE? Like they would be helpful. He says no plates, PLATES, are we eating outside because this is the first I've heard of it. So we get plates.
Then more lawn mowing, but because he is working we all have to weed after dinner. Maybe it was a better time because it was hot, but really weeding at 8pm on a Monday night?
My Monday started with the toddler's daycare provider texting that she and her husband just tested positive for COVID. They're in their 70s, so of course my first concern is for their health, but I was so looking forward to a normal week. All-star softball is over, so it's the first time we don't have to pick up DD every day at 3:15 pm for the past 6 weeks, and last week was so nuts with end of school year stuff. We go on vacation in two weeks, and then daycare provider goes on vacation the week after that. So in a scenario where daycare provider isn't feeling up to working next week, we won't have daycare for a full month. I worked with the moms of the other two kids who go there to piece together some babysitting for this week, but it is a lot of juggling.