DS (5) had his first day of camp yesterday and it did not go well. He was SO excited to go and came home so sad and defeated. He said the other kids were mean to him and the grown-ups weren't paying attention, he made no friends, and that they just sat around a lot. He is so go with the flow, makes friends wherever he goes, and has fun everywhere so I know it must have really sucked for him to say that. MY HEART. I'm really hoping today goes better otherwise I might just pull him. Its a random YMCA camp in a suburb about 15 minutes out that we're using as a filler before our city's rec camp starts next week, so thankfully its not all summer.
I don't know how I'm going to handle the more complex problems of older kids. My anxiety is bubbling and I'm resisting the urge to go do a driveby.
Post by countthestars on Jun 22, 2022 9:04:07 GMT -5
Oh man, I'm sorry! My DD felt the same way at our first camp. Change is hard. I hope he has a better day today!
I worked from home yesterday so I could take my dog to the vet for two vaccines that they didn't give her at her previous visit because she was sad after they poked her with the rabies one. Fine. This place is Fear Free trained and everyone is so very sweet and people rave about them. Anyway, we got back to the vet for the two more shots and Piper looks nervous and is trying to hide under my legs. They work on coaxing her out with cheese and she won't come, so they sent us home without poking her and I have to come back AGAIN NEXT WEEK after giving her anxiety medicine. I get it but also OMG we don't even treat my kids this nicely when they don't want to get a shot!
scm1011 this older age is so hard. DS1 is also at camp, and most days are good, but last week he told me he has to go on a diet and exercise because the other kids don’t want to play with him since he isn’t fast enough. My heart felt like it was shattering.
So sorry to read that kids are having a hard time at camp.
My 9 year old was so excited to go back to a camp that he hadn’t been to in a couple years because before the pandemic he met a little boy there and they bonded. We lost touch with the family after that summer, but he was sure that the kid was going to be there because the camp is associated with this kid’s school. It turns out that the kid is at another camp that shares the campus. My kid is so disappointed and wishing he was at this other camp. I’m kicking myself that I didn’t sign him up for the other camp, not only because of the friend, but a bunch of other kids he knows are at the other camp, and frankly the other camp looks more fun.
Oh man, I'm sorry! My DD felt the same way at our first camp. Change is hard. I hope he has a better day today!
I worked from home yesterday so I could take my dog to the vet for two vaccines that they didn't give her at her previous visit because she was sad after they poked her with the rabies one. Fine. This place is Fear Free trained and everyone is so very sweet and people rave about them. Anyway, we got back to the vet for the two more shots and Piper looks nervous and is trying to hide under my legs. They work on coaxing her out with cheese and she won't come, so they sent us home without poking her and I have to come back AGAIN NEXT WEEK after giving her anxiety medicine. I get it but also OMG we don't even treat my kids this nicely when they don't want to get a shot!
Damn. One of my dogs would never have any work done if our vet was like this. And my kid was definitely crying over her shot yesterday and still forced her to do it. I can't imagine going through all of that for my dogs 😂 (who I must say I love very much and are spoiled, but who has time for that??)
ny96 - can you try to switch him? I just did that this week when we realized a friend was doing the other half of the same camp. We would have stayed the course if the organizers said no but they had no problem with the switch.
Our trip last week to Universal was amazing. My kid was so good, loved everything, and generally went with the flow. I made sure we had a good balance of park time and down time so she could just have some fun at the pool/water slide.
We're kid free until Friday! Yay for summer camps that are 10-2, LOL, but thankful the grandparents are watching her. She's having a blast at horseback riding camp.
For once my child actually asked to do a repeat activity next school year. She wants to do dance again and add another class.
- my dad was hospitalized for a stroke while we were on vacation - we got Covid on vacation - I had just been diagnosed with gestational diabetes and my blood sugar was all over the place with Covid. Lots of dr appointments as a result. - made a major mistake at work the first day back from vacation. And I’ve only been at the job 3 months so not a great look. - found out on social media that my OBGYN of 8 years is leaving the practice this week. Maybe he forgot he’s supposed to deliver my baby in August?! Still waiting to see what will happen to my care. This is the thing that made me cry the most. - was put in the jury pool during maternity leave. One more thing to deal with.
All my typical ways of dealing with stress are out due to the heat/pregnancy/GD so I’m just suffering through this. Ugh.
scm1011 My DD is in a different camp each week and she didn’t love the first day of her current camp. A girl was mean and told her to shut up. But she came home last night and she the girl apologized. She also said that she would do this camp again! I hope it turns around for him too! It’s so hard to see them unhappy.
moonpie, that's a lot - I'm sorry. I hope things get less stressful and you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I'm glad to hear things turned around for your DD at camp - fingers crossed I get a similar report today!
ny96 - can you try to switch him? I just did that this week when we realized a friend was doing the other half of the same camp. We would have stayed the course if the organizers said no but they had no problem with the switch.
I wish, the camp he is attending is very clear about no refunds, and the 2 camps are not associated with each other. He’s only there for 2 weeks before he starts attending a camp he has been going to for years and loves, so it’s not terrible.
scm1011, this would break my heart too. I hope your little guy has a better day today. My DS is going to an "outer space camp" next week and I have similar fears that he'll hate it. He's pretty comfortable with his friends at the daycare hes been at for 5 years, but throwing him into an entirely new group makes me nervous.
Oh man, I'm sorry! My DD felt the same way at our first camp. Change is hard. I hope he has a better day today!
I worked from home yesterday so I could take my dog to the vet for two vaccines that they didn't give her at her previous visit because she was sad after they poked her with the rabies one. Fine. This place is Fear Free trained and everyone is so very sweet and people rave about them. Anyway, we got back to the vet for the two more shots and Piper looks nervous and is trying to hide under my legs. They work on coaxing her out with cheese and she won't come, so they sent us home without poking her and I have to come back AGAIN NEXT WEEK after giving her anxiety medicine. I get it but also OMG we don't even treat my kids this nicely when they don't want to get a shot!
Damn. One of my dogs would never have any work done if our vet was like this. And my kid was definitely crying over her shot yesterday and still forced her to do it. I can't imagine going through all of that for my dogs 😂 (who I must say I love very much and are spoiled, but who has time for that??)
I shit you not, this woman was like "one thing we encourage our patients to do is drive over here every couple of weeks and walk their dogs around the parking lot, giving treats but not coming inside so they have a positive association with the place". Meanwhile I can't even keep up with my laundry
Damn. One of my dogs would never have any work done if our vet was like this. And my kid was definitely crying over her shot yesterday and still forced her to do it. I can't imagine going through all of that for my dogs 😂 (who I must say I love very much and are spoiled, but who has time for that??)
I shit you not, this woman was like "one thing we encourage our patients to do is drive over here every couple of weeks and walk their dogs around the parking lot, giving treats but not coming inside so they have a positive association with the place". Meanwhile I can't even keep up with my laundryÂ
Who are these people?? 🤣 I can assure you, when I manage to take the dogs in the car somewhere for a walk I'm not going to spend my time in the vet parking lot.
scm1011, I hope he has a better day today! #1 is usually like that the first couple days at a new camp too. The soccer camp he did before our vacation and the camp he's doing this week have been marginally better only because he knew a couple of his teammates were also doing the soccer camp and a kid he knows from soccer (different age groups but friends in common so they knew each other's names/faces) is in this week's camp. There's usually a ton of complaining though...Monday was his first day at this new camp plus we got back from vacation on Sunday so I was expecting a lot of angst.
Awww, that's so hard scm1011! Hope he has a better day today.
Last year we kept DD1 in the camp run by the afterschool program all summer. It was fine, but she said it was boring after a while (which I can see since they didn't do a lot of their normal fun stuff due to Covid). This year I overcorrected and signed her up for a whole bunch of different camps. I'm totally regretting it since the logistics are going to be a nightmare. I hope she enjoys them though and that way we will know what she likes for next year. She can be a sensitive kid too, so I'm hoping she has fun and doesn't come back unhappy. She has at least 1 friend at each camp except 1. Hopefully this will be a good experience for her.
She's home tomorrow all day though (no camp while H and I WFH) and I really wish I could just take the day off and hang out with her.
We were supposed to go to Iceland without the kids next week but I realized at the last minute my passport expires in less than 3 months. It’s so not me to do something like that - just shows how much stress I’ve been under.
We did re book a trip to Alaska instead but I wanted to bring the kids there, so now both my in-laws and husband are mad at me. (It’s a cruise and the kids only cost $99 for 7 days!) Apparently there’s no other week my in-laws can take the kids and they’re sad about missing the time with them, and my husband didn’t want to vacation with the kids.
We’re still going to go to Iceland alone, but next year. The whole situation just sucks. Hopefully everyone will cheer up when we’re on the trip.
We didn’t sign up for camps this year and I’m really regretting it. We are moving in a couple weeks and we had no idea of our moving timeline when camp registration began. Now everything is full and DS is home and super bored. I’m going to try to get him into camp for a couple weeks after our move. Luckily school starts really early in August, so he won’t have too many weeks of downtime.
My kids were up from 1:30a-4:30a until I gave up and got up for the day at 4:30. It is only 9:30a now but I'm done for the day. My oldest is on her third hour of screen time and second bag of chips while the youngest hasn't napped yet and is screaming. I'm working on Friday and can not wait lol.
scm1011 , poor little guy! i hope things improve for your son at camp. it's such a horrible feeling when you know your kid is struggling (no matter how big or small the issue might be). hugs!
This past weekend H mentioned he had been having weird eye symptoms for weeks now, that he thought were an infection. Monday AM I urged him to call to get it seen, and gave him a big wtf to waiting "weeks." He was dx'ed today with a detached retina, 3 days before we're supposed to leave on vacation.
I am not sure whether we're now layering a whole bunch of complications into pre-vacation prep, or if our vacation is scrapped. I have been working so hard for this vacation, and needed it so badly! And now either it won't happen, or if it does happen, it's going to be way more work on me than anticipated. I'll have to solo the road trip driving, do the heavy lifting to pack, load, unload... all of it.
I am sure it's not fun for him either, but right now I need to vent because I am really frustrated. This apparently could and should have been addressed weeks ago!
I think if his eye is going to impact the trip you should go do something on your own, Susie , and let him handle the kids. He's been fine this whole time apparently, so there's no reason he can't take care of the kids during planned time off. I would be really pissed.
Damn. One of my dogs would never have any work done if our vet was like this. And my kid was definitely crying over her shot yesterday and still forced her to do it. I can't imagine going through all of that for my dogs 😂 (who I must say I love very much and are spoiled, but who has time for that??)
I shit you not, this woman was like "one thing we encourage our patients to do is drive over here every couple of weeks and walk their dogs around the parking lot, giving treats but not coming inside so they have a positive association with the place". Meanwhile I can't even keep up with my laundry
I am guessing this vet is geared toward upper middle class millennials who don't have kids, lol. Which FWIW, is a group I am a part of but I am also lazy so I'm not even sure I'd do that. Hating the vet is part of being a pet. It's lovely that they care, but I don't think this sounds realistic at all!
I think if his eye is going to impact the trip you should go do something on your own, Susie , and let him handle the kids. He's been fine this whole time apparently, so there's no reason he can't take care of the kids during planned time off. I would be really pissed.
I feel this vibe, but I'd feel really bad bailing on my kids, who are also looking forward to this vacay. Plus H is functionally fine right now, but he likely won't be able to drive for a bit after the repair is done, and I'm not comfortable leaving him with the kids if he can't safely drive.
He has a consult with the retina surgeon tomorrow at 8am and we will know a lot more after that.
Susie, ugh, that is so frustrating (and so something my DH would do). I hope you got good news at the appt and that your vacation isn't impacting too much.
UGH, Susie, that sucks so much! I hope the consult goes well. Men, what would they do without us? My eye dr has always warned me about detached retina (my RX makes it more likely or something) and he has made it sound very serious! He always tells me if I ever see flashing lights in a certain way to go to the emergency eye hospital immediately.
I'm really sorry about your vacation. I can imagine how much you need it. I'm not sure where you are going, but if it won't be the same due to his restrictions, would it be worth doing a staycation and rescheduling? Either way the situation sucks.
Post by ellipses84 on Jun 23, 2022 10:14:03 GMT -5
I always say parenting the younger years are physically hard and the older years are mentally difficult. The good thing is they start out tiny with basic needs and the challenges come one at a time as you become a more experienced parent. My kids range from 6-22 so surviving the teen years has given me perspective.
I’d probably tell the counselors how he’s feeling and see if they can watch out for him more and facilitate some fun small group activities where kids get to know each other. We’ve been to camps at 3 different Ys and they are not created equal.
DS (6) started camp this week and has been begging not to go every night and morning, and was so upset for DH the first day (even though it’s at his school so nothing that new). He struggles with change. At the end of the day he says he has fun.