Sad Mom News

[niq]

Since there are folks on here who follow this and I'm not FB friends with them I figured I should post here.

A few weeks ago, mom slipped in the shower and broke her upper arm. At the emergency room everything looked manageable -- she was in a lot of pain but other than rest and painkillers there wasn't much to be done. However, she couldn't move on her own, so she was admitted for observation.

Elderly adults are higher risk of blood clots, and mom had several other risk factors. In the hospital she developed a pulmonary embolism and collapsed and died. She was 71 years old. That's a long life span for a Type 1 diabetic, but we thought with her lifestyle choices (not smoking, rarely drinking, social & family support) she'd probably make it another decade and see at least one kid graduate high school.

This was all sudden and unexpected -- all of the doctors and her PCP were very surprised -- but it's not a "struck by lightning" freak occurrence. It's more like "landing on 00 on the roulette wheel" -- you wouldn't bet on it, but it's a thing that happens.

It was a hard week or so, but since mom management has been going on a decade, I think I had done a certain amount of "pre-grieving". Cleaning out her apartment is hard but everything else is okay.

I really appreciate everyone on MM who's been a financial and emotional sounding board. <3 everybody.

[pumpkin]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

She was very lucky to have you.

[Deleted]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[tacokick]

I’m so sorry! I know you have posted about her a lot of over the years. She was lucky to have you.

[georgeharrison]

Super sorry for your loss. ❤️

[dr.girlfriend]

I am so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you guys.

[janegold]

I'm so sorry to hear this.

[goldengirlz]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[sadlebred]

I am so sorry for your loss and am thinking of your family.

[melmel48]

I am very sorry for your loss.

[shopgirl07]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[mx27]

So sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.

[minzy]

Oh no, I’m so sorry to see this. ☹️ My condolences for your loss.

[ny96]

Sorry for your loss

[wildrice]

Oh no, I am so sorry. A sudden loss like that is really hard.

[tcu2003]

I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking about you and your family.

[Pilsy]

I'm so incredibly sorry, niq. My heart goes out to you all.

[chpmnk1015]

So sorry for your loss. Sending lots of vibes

[heygrey]

I am so sorry niq.

[ssmjlm]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[scout8]

I'm so sorry.

[ellipses84]

I’m sorry for your sudden loss, niq. My thoughts are with you and your family.

[kershnic]

I'm so sorry for your loss, niq.

[konapoppy]

I am so sorry, niq. It has been a long journey, and even with the pre-grieving and the possibility in the back of your mind, I can’t imagine anyone ever truly expects something like this to happen. You have been an amazing son to her. You will be in my thoughts.

[RockNVoll]

Oh, niq, I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your wife took such amazing care of her. What a shock. Sending hugs.

[VillainV]

I’m so sorry for your loss [mention]niq [/mention] . Sudden and unexpected losses are hard, even if you know they’re possible, or even imminent. I hope for strength and healing for you and your family.

[simpsongal]

I’m so sorry, niq. Thank you for letting us know. You were so good to her. When I lost my dad unexpectedly, I found the book “healing after loss” very helpful for guided reflection and short meditations. Wishing you peace and rest.

[brooke77]

I’m so sorry for your loss.

[sent]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts.

[flygirl]

I’m sorry for your loss