I love having sleepover for my kids. They get to be entertained by someone else and we get to know their friends.
We did a sleepover last weekend with our kids and their friends who are siblings. It shocked me how much easier 4 kids were than 2.
This is part of it too. Most of DS1's friends are fantastic and include DS2 when they're here, which makes my life easier. But DS1 has a friend who lives down the street and it's nothing but drama when he comes over. They exclude DS2 and just generally aren't great together. (I'm not a fan of this kid.) As a result, DS1 goes to this kid's house far more often than I invite him to ours. I'm happy to let DS1 go over there, and will be fine with him sleeping over when he's ready, but I don't invite kids to my house that make my life harder.
My dad is such a typical dad. My sister is staying at their house for a few days to take care of my parents dogs while they’re out of town. My dad left a FULL page of written instructions, including “let the kids out as soon as you wake up and right before bed.” My sister said he also gave her all the same instructions over the phone. My sister and her h have two dogs of their own, so like, she knows how to take care of pets. Lol.
We don’t do sleepovers and it always surprises people.
What are your primary concerns with them?
I wouldn’t call it a concern. It’s just not something we care for as a family. My kids have never asked for a sleepover so I don’t think they’re missing out on anything.
Are most parents opposed to sleepovers? I stumbled across a FB group for my county, and the amount of people who are adamantly opposed to sleepovers surprised me.
Sleepover are great! The only time I pause is when the family/friend has an older brother. I have yet to say no, but I do think about it and make sure I know the family and the sleeping situation. fwiw, I have 2 daughters.
We encourage DD to have sleepovers at our house or at our family’s lake house. She is an only child and we love having a friend for her. It gets a bit much when 2+ kids stay over but that is rare. It’s even much for her. So, having a friend sleepover is pretty constant in our home.
Now that she’s a teenager, we don’t know the friend’s parents and if I think about it hard, it is weird that we pick-up the teen and they stay the weekend and we never meet/see the parent. But it’s also 100% the norm for us.
And no one ever reciprocates with us. When DD was younger she had a neighborhood BFF who stayed over all the time (and vacationed with us) and DD never stayed over at her home. Nowadays, she has a handful of friends who sleepover and she never gets an invitation back. That is just normal for us.
I wouldn’t call it a concern. It’s just not something we care for as a family. My kids have never asked for a sleepover so I don’t think they’re missing out on anything.
If they asked would you be fine with it? The way you phrased it made me think you don’t allow it, as opposed to it just being a thing that hasn’t really come up before.
My dad is such a typical dad. My sister is staying at their house for a few days to take care of my parents dogs while they’re out of town. My dad left a FULL page of written instructions, including “let the kids out as soon as you wake up and right before bed.” My sister said he also gave her all the same instructions over the phone. My sister and her h have two dogs of their own, so like, she knows how to take care of pets. Lol.
The last iteration of dogsitter notes for our two beagles was three pages long. 😬
The one for our kids when my mom/MIL watched them last year was at least 6. But in fairness, that one had maps and instructions to get them to/from their respective schools.
Post by mysteriouswife on Jul 3, 2022 12:49:38 GMT -5
Only 3 hours in on the car ride. It’s going smoothly in our car. SIL’s car no so much. Nephew keeps getting out of his car seat and screaming. MIL keeps asking me to swap spots. NOPE!
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Jul 3, 2022 13:01:54 GMT -5
I freakin WISH my kids wanted to sleep anywhere on earth rather than straight up my ass. I am not that great- which you guys constantly tell me! Go away!
We are with friends this weekend. The place we are renting is apparently the owner's primary residence, and my H and I are sleeping in the primary bedroom. Omg, I love the bed! Usually I sleep poorly when I travel but I seriously am going to message the host and find out what kind of mattress it is. It doesn't shake at all when we move around and it's a good balance of firm and squishy. They also have blackout curtains so it's 9am and I only just woke up a little while ago.
We have a couple of sightseeing things to do today and a birthday dinner scheduled. I have no idea what we are going to do tomorrow other than dinner, though. The house we are renting has a rooftop deck with views of the city skyline, so it's entirely possible we will mostly just hang out here.
Oooh maybe you’ll have a good view of the fireworks! If so I’m crashing!
Post by pierogigirl on Jul 3, 2022 13:23:49 GMT -5
The only sleepovers we have had are camping ones in our backyard or our neighbors' yards. I don't like them because no one sleeps. I want to go to bed and they are noisy or DS2 gets scared and comes inside after I am asleep and wakes me up to tell me.
We don’t do sleepovers and it always surprises people.
What are your primary concerns with them?
I don't really enjoy making friends with other parents, LOL.
But I also don't want to do sleepovers at grandparents houses or family either. Just not my thing for a lot of reasons. I can't undo him becoming exposed to something he's not ready for and I can't control other people's homes.
If he wanted a friend to sleepover here, that would be ok. Him somewhere else is a no for me.
We got our water bill about a week ago, and it was strangely high for the billing cycle. My H had been doing a bunch of power washing, and we also thought that maybe our yard guy had rinsed off his tools and didn't get the hose shut off all the way, because that has happened before. But then this morning my H got a message from the water company saying we'd had two days of continuous water usage.
After scrambling around the inside of the house checking for leaks, we went outside and we did some stuff to check the water meter outside -- turning the hose on to make sure he was looking at our meter, not the neighbors, then shutting off the water at the house - we're pretty sure we have an outside leak in one of the pipes supplying water to the house.
:: sobs in homeowner ::
This going to be so expensive to find and fix. My H found a company that does leak detection, but they didn't answer the phone (probably because it's a holiday weekend), and now he's searching for plumbers.
We are with friends this weekend. The place we are renting is apparently the owner's primary residence, and my H and I are sleeping in the primary bedroom. Omg, I love the bed! Usually I sleep poorly when I travel but I seriously am going to message the host and find out what kind of mattress it is. It doesn't shake at all when we move around and it's a good balance of firm and squishy. They also have blackout curtains so it's 9am and I only just woke up a little while ago.
We have a couple of sightseeing things to do today and a birthday dinner scheduled. I have no idea what we are going to do tomorrow other than dinner, though. The house we are renting has a rooftop deck with views of the city skyline, so it's entirely possible we will mostly just hang out here.
Oooh maybe you’ll have a good view of the fireworks! If so I’m crashing!
I think we might! We are in the Point Breeze neighborhood so not too far from most things. I need to actually look up where we are in relation to the fireworks though.
My kids have also slept at their grandparents since they were babies and the bring friends to stay the night at my parents as well. We actually had most of our friends that were invited to the lake party yesterday go even though we weren’t there!
Our town does a really great fireworks display that we can see from our driveway. My next door neighbor has started having a party on the day of the fireworks and it is the easiest holiday in my life. I made a watermelon salad, we'll fill a cooler and just walk outside.
Are most parents opposed to sleepovers? I stumbled across a FB group for my county, and the amount of people who are adamantly opposed to sleepovers surprised me.
My kids love sleepovers! They stay up late playing video games, eat junk food, have lots of soda and laugh with their buddies. what's not to love? haha.
Nonny, you can shut off water coming into the house at all through the city shut off valve. On our property, it’s next to our driveway under a metal plate. Can you at least get the water shut off for now and then go from there. That sounds super frustrating. I’m sorry.
The concert was so fun last night. Only a partial negative that BNL played too many new songs. Toad and Gin Blossoms gave us what we came for. The new BNL songs were good, but wish they'd done 3 instead of 5 or 6.
Don't drink and watch Stranger Things. DD loves this show and has watched the previous seasons multiple times, please don't mention Bob, she has many thoughts. Anyhow her bday is always over fall break and I may have booked an overnight stay at a hotel with a Stranger Things suite. She is going to love it. One room is the Byers' living room with Christmas lights etc and the other room is Mike's basement. The boys love the show too, so will be a fun night in October.
that's sounds awesome although my kid wouldn't sleep. 🤣
We have nothing going on this weekend, so I tried to think of some fun things to do. everyone was on board, but now my H doesn't want to do them bc it's too expensive, or too late, or he doesn't want to leave the dog. So I told them all that I'm tired of making decisions and they could come up with something.
H just called me with an idea to ride bikes somewhere. As soon as I said yes, he said it's too hot.
I think I'm just going to run away.
My family is boring now. My 15 and 13yo just want to sleep. They don't want to do fireworks. They don't want to play outside. Which granted it is hot out but they don't even want to watch anything indoors in AC. It legit took them 2 hours to get ready to go to my sisters yesterday which was totally a casual visit. I just wanted to go see my niece and her baby who're visiting from FL. Just throw some clothes on and lets go.
I survived a week along with my moody almost teen daughter who actually was rather nice for the week until the last day. DH and DS got home on Saturday from his first boy scout week long summer camp. DS had a lot of fun although it started off a little rough. I am taking it easy this weekend and working slowly on house work. Debating on going to a cookout we were invited to tomorrow. It's one of the boy scout parents and I know we should probably go just to get to know them but I'm also shy as hell. We will see what I have the energy for tomorrow.
cjcouple my kids will take a hundred photos I am sure. Here are a few pictures.
Where is this? My daughter would love it! We are going to the Stranger Things Experience at the end of July and she is so excited.
My kids love sleepovers and I have no issues hosting them or letting them go to one.
I did something to my neck? shoulder? and can not turn my head without pain. I have used the massage gun, heating pad and aspercream and nothing is helping. Ugh.
Nonny similar situation happened to us last week. Didn’t end up being as expensive as we expected so I hope you’re able to have yours fixed once the holiday is up. We have a water shut off in our garage so we left the water off except when we needed to use it (which is kinda horrible but better than no water).
Good luck! In our experience, the leak detection guy came out the first day and then the plumbers came out like 3 days later. All in all it was like 8-10 hours of labor oof.
Man, my kid basically living with my parents this summer. Everyone loves it. Sure they’re more lax on stuff, but it’s so good for my mom’s mental health and I know their time together is important.
As for non-family she did one birthday sleepover at a friend’s house we trust. There were 5 girls total.
And eventually we plan to invite friends to the beach with us. I need someone else to entertain her.