Monday after the holiday weekend

[waverly]

We are back to work after the holiday weekend.  How is everyone?  How did the weekend go?

Like I posted, my weekend was super relaxing/ like a vacation and wonderful.  Except for the attack on my sinuses.  Work is going OK today.

[rere]

I am still battling to get my package that FedEx assures me was right on my doorstep. It is not. They should be shut down for incompetence.

The weekend was good, except I got smacked in the eye at volleyball. I had to wake up DH to ask where his eyedrops were. It was 10:30.He proceeds to stomp around looking for his eyedrops and being a complete ass. He did seem to realize his behavior, and was contrite Saturday, but I was mad and told him I was taking him off all my emergency contacts and would rather fend for myself before every asking for help again. Which I am still standing by.

Super busy week with lots of meetings and grants to write.

[mommyatty]

I’m watching the rail strike stuff very carefully. It affects my immediate life, but just as an fyi, if you’re ordering stuff online, do it this week. Starting Friday, they’re going to start winding down rail traffic so trains aren’t stuck on the tracks somewhere in the event of a strike or lockout. And that means delays in shipping. I’m hoping Congress steps in the day the strike is supposed to happen and immediately passes legislation. But it’s by no means a certainty.

It’s been a rough week. DS started an antidepressant almost 2 weeks ago. We can’t tell if it’s not doing anything yet (likely since it takes up to 6 weeks to work), it’s helping some, or it’s hurting. We ended up taking him to the ER about a week ago because he said he was thinking about hurting himself. They told us we are doing everything right, he has a great support system, and we should stick to the antidepressant. But now I’m depressed too, pretty sure at this point clinically.

[sdlaura]

I started my morning by running the risk of being a "karen" - sorry to anyone whose name that is. I go to drop off DS2 at pre-k and they're preparing the parking lot 5 feet from the door of his classroom for resurfacing. There's a giant cloud of dust and dirt and pieces of asphalt being swept around, and I got it in my eye by walking by and it's still there. Meanwhile there are lots of parents with infants in tow trying to drop off their kids as well. The program is closed for 3+ weeks out of this month and next month - I think this project could have been timed better. At the very least, have people enter and exit through the back door. This can't possibly be healthy for the kids of their teachers to have the door of their classroom opened into that all day. I sent an email to the education directors and left a voicemail for the executive director of the YMCA (who I know socially). The preschool director did get back to me right away to say that she was escalating my concern, so I appreciate that. I'm normally not a complainer because I figure I'm busy and someone else will end up doing it anyway, but I'm concerned about this.

ETA - I just got a call from the assistant director and they came up with a great solution - there's a classroom in the main preschool building, away from the resurfacing project, that is currently not in use - so they're going to move the class over there after their rest time so that the kids can play outside away from the parking lot project. I was careful to emphasize that I didn't want the teachers to have a harder time (like having to keep the kids inside all day) because of my concern, but it sounds like everyone is happy with the new plan. 

Anyway, our break was good and fun with my extended family all visiting for Thanksgiving, but I am SO glad to be back in my normal routine for a few weeks now. We don't travel for Christmas, so the main thing I need to focus on in the next few weeks is getting all gifts figured out and ordered and sent. Thanks for the tip on doing online shopping now mommyatty .

[k3am]

We over committed this weekend. The kids had a "big" week from Saturday of last week with family visitors, the holiday, etc, with schedules thrown out the window. Saturday was supposed to be a busy morning with skating and then laying low the rest of the day. Which somehow turned into a play date for each kid, with one of the kids, her mom, and their dog spending the night (long/boring story) that I should have said no to but didn't (also for long/boring reasons). Needless to say both kids didn't get nearly enough sleep and yesterday was one meltdown after another.

I put both kids to bed at 7, and they were out almost immediately. And today DD even mentioned that she hopes Santa (who she doesn't believe in) looks at the "average" of her behavior and doesn't judge her based on one really bad day and that she needs to learn when to say she's had enough. It's weird to see her growing up like that.

DS has had a pertty bad rash for... a really long time. At least since 11/7. 11/7 was also the day that his cold that he'd had since AUGUST finally started to improve. This kid can't catch a break.

[186momx]

The weekend was very long and I'm very happy to be back at work and have DH be back to work. We are planning on being closed for a long 5-day weekend over Christmas. Right now, if DH is off any of those days other than Sat/Sun I may go to work just to escape his moods. The thing is I really could use that time to rest and prep for tax season.

Yesterday I felt what DD calls MEH. Where you just feel off but have no signs of sickness but just feel MEH. DH totally didn't get it and was really pissed that I had zero energy and just wanted to lounge on the couch with a book or binge watch TV. So instead of doing that I made us all deep clean the house which wore me out even more.

mommyatty, the like was for the shipping tip. Giant HUGS to your DS and you. I'm waiting for congress to pass something that funks up the tax laws over the next few months.

[rere]

So I ordered a new snowboard at 11am. FedEx dropped off the package they assured me was dropped off last Tuesday at noon today. Nice. Its a 6 ft snowboard for a week. Off to cancel my order and refund.

[mustardseed2007]

Ending thanksgiving break 1 day late due to school cancellation due to a boil water notice-hoorah.
We had a good break but my kids were nipping at each other so much that I was READY for them to go back. At least we have confirmation that they can go back tomorrow. 2 large school districts will remain closed so I’m glad we caught a break.

[mae0111]

We had a really nice weekend at MILs house. BIL's COVID timeline was different than I had initially heard, so he was feeling better and actually ended up cooking the whole dinner. He kept asking everyone to taste it because he totally lost his smell and taste, but he did a great job.

The last couple of days have been verrrry Monday. Yesterday everyone was just exhausted. I let DD1 skip basketball and she went to bed early.

This morning, DD1 woke up in a mood, fighting about everything. At one point, she screamed at me for not buying her tights for her uniform. She has a literal shopping bag full of tights, but "doesn't like them". So I didn't buy her anymore. But I'm really mean for buying them for DD2 (who ASKED FOR THEM), and not for her (WHO TOLD ME SHE HATES THEM AND NOT TO BUY THEM).

It ended with her losing all electronics for the day. So much screaming.

Then I got an email from the principal announcing this year's play. They start rehearsing in January, every Monday and some Thursdays for 90 mins after school. But the kids have piano and DD1 has therapy, and it's impossible to change. So I'm gearing up for that fight this afternoon.

[waverly]

Hugs, mommyatty.

[k3am]

mae0111, do you uniform tights get destroyed? We can't find leggings that fit DD anymore, and she's been going to school bare legged. It was 37 when I dropped her off this morning, which I'm sure is balmy for most of the country, but our CA blood isn't prepared for these temps.

[mae0111]

k3am, I found fleece lined tights on Amazon that were a little bit baggy (which DD2 liked). But the feet were flimsy - not the thick fleece lined material that the legs were made of - and she put her foot through them pretty quickly.

So I bought some footless fleece lined tights, and she wears black ankle socks.

www.amazon.com/dp/B0BCKYKGZH?psc=1&ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_product_details

Until this year, the principal let them get away with wearing leggings and socks. But 4th grade and up they enforce tights or knee socks. DD1 just wears the knee socks. They'll have to look closely to see that they're not full tights with feet so I'm hoping she can get away with them.

It was 29 degrees when we left this morning and DD1 still refuses tights. Or I guess she wants them now? I don't know.

[waverly]

k3am, I'm not Mae, but we've started buying Woman's XS leggings for DD. DD is a size 14 and going into a size 16, and size 16 doesn't really have many options. Justice has size 16, but DD mostly just wants black leggings.

[k3am]

waverly, DD needs a M or 7/8 for the waist and width, but a L or XL for length. She's definitely prepared for a flood when she's wearing pants.

Buuuuuut I'm guessing now that might be an issue for tights too. Maybe knee socks are the answer. Luckily is public school, so they're not super picky on the uniform accessories. Either way, I need more caffeine.

[twinmomma]

mommyatty, Sending you so much support and hugs. Please make sure you're taking care of yourself too!

We're all home and recovering from a crazy vacation. Had a great time despite some kids with fevers and subsequent ex drama for beau. We dropped all the kids off yesterday afternoon at their other houses, came home and ordered pizza, and watched TV in bed until we both crashed at 8 PM.

Now I'm diving headfirst into my busiest time of year. It's always insane with annual budgets, annual planning meetings, handling all the holiday gifts for the entire company, and trip planning is kicking into high gear. And this year I get to add on a layer of additional fun - I'm going to be part of a court case we're dealing with at work! So I'm prepping a ton of info for the lawyers and getting ready for deposition.

One really nice thing while we were gone - beau's mom talked to us about how she'd like to help us with buying a new house this spring. As she phrased it, she can give us the money now so we can enjoy it with her around, or we'll just get it later when she "kicks the bucket." So do we want our bucket money now or later? LOL It made me feel like I'm officially family now, even though we're not married, since she talked about it all for "our future" not just beau's future.

[polecat8]

The holiday was packed for us.
Thursday was Thanksgiving dinner at my parents' place with my brothers and their families.
Friday was massive clean-up of my house to get ready to host the in-laws.
Saturday morning was Turkey burn boot camp at taekwondo with DD and DS1. We had so much fun jumping around together. Then we had Thanksgiving with the in-laws at my house.
Sunday we decorated for Christmas and was lazy for the rest of the day.
Yesterday I spent the day at the hospital keeping my mom company while my dad had spinal surgery. My dad has been having a ton of pain in his lower back and hip and the dr recommended inserting some hardware for spinal stenosis and disc compression. Everything went really well and my dad seems in pretty good spirits even though he will be in the hospital until at least Friday. PT will be around to try to get him to sit in a chair later. I really hope this surgery ends his pain and he can get around better.
My week will be busy with my class ending tomorrow and visiting my dad in the hospital when I can. I also have some work projects that I would like to wrap up sooner rather than later so I can take some extra days off for the holidays.

[186momx]

k3am, DD is a 7/8 in the waist, but those pants maybe get over her knees. We've switched to the juniors XS. JCP athletic legging have worked well. She still has to pull them up but at least the 7/8 length are full length leggings. When we first switched over, we did capri leggings which were perfect 7/8 length. They are now true capris since the kid just can't stop growing. Would your DD wear tall boots to school? That has helped with the too short pant saga too.

Last night DD's old private lesson instructor H came over to surprise DD for dinner. She moved to the east coast in June and said she wasn't ever going to return. I've known since October she was coming but she wanted to surprise DD. Total surprise and I caught DD's reaction on video, and it is worth a million words. We had a great 3 hour visit last night. I have a feeling H may be moving back to the west coast. She moved to gain residency so she could attend law school. Got a job in a law firm and hates it so now isn't going to go to school. She is at a huge crossroads and completely alone right now.

[waverly]

When I was a kid my mom took in all the waists on my pants. I don't sew, and my kids seem more proportional than I was. I don't have that problem anymore unfortunately. Whomp whomp.

[k3am]

It still feels like a Monday. I've been listening to Reel Big Fish - Nothing on repeat and I just want to be home and snuggling with my dog.

[mommyatty]

Oh! We recently found Amazon Essentials Skinny jeans! They are the first jeans that aren’t high waters on DD. She normally gets a 12 in jeans, which are a little big in the waist and too short. We got a 14 slim and they are perfect ankle length skinny jeans.

[waverly]

Christmas drama with SIL is back. We’ve literally not said 1 thing to her about anything except to invite to Thanksgiving which she declined. She is a 10 hour drive away.

Recap: She then announced she was coming to Christmas (not the exact day), but refused to say when. Then announced she was not buying presents except kids.

The latest announcement is that she is not coming to our state for Christmas but instead is cooking dinner with her brother for their parents in another state (and we are not invited- heavily implied).

Then she may or may not come to our state to pick up her stepson per DH which makes no sense, are they abandoning stepson on Christmas with his grandparents or maybe one spouse in one state and one in another?

So we are back to she may or may not stop by with every proclamation delivered super rudely. Ugh.

I should add this is her first holiday with family after Covid. But the last one she planned in 2019 to have her in-laws go to her parents and then she “accidentally” missed her flight and never showed up.

[supertrooper1]

The flu hit me hard this year. Today is my first day back to work after not getting out of bed for 2 days. DS came home Friday still a little sick. He was feverless on Saturday and we celebrated Thanksgiving with my family on Sunday. I woke up Monday unable to do much of anything. DS still had a bad cough and was tired so he stayed home from school. Somehow Beau has managed to stay healthy.

We got a couple inches of snow last night and DS has a late start for school today.