Twerks, Randoms, Vents

[twinmomma]

How's everyone holding up this week? 

[twinmomma]

Vent: Beau's mom is a very sweet lady and I do genuinely enjoy her. But I swear she has zero sense of normal social behaviors sometimes. She just showed up at our house. She lives an hour away. We didn't even know she was back from visiting beau's sister a plane ride away. She just wanted to say hi and take beau's son out to shop for a Christmas present? Except he just got home from school and he has taekwondo tonight. Beau is trying to convince her that she needs to take him shopping after Christmas, not right this second. I just closed the office door and am continuing to work. I can't entertain her because I'm busy with work projects and I have homework to finish tonight. I also have to go pick up the girls from after school care and they have homework to do. Couldn't she have just checked in before showing up on our doorstep? And she keeps lecturing beau's son on grammar lessons with every sentence that he says. He's losing his mind. I feel bad that beau is just stuck out in the living room dealing with her. But, it's his mom!

Random: I'm really proud of the girls. They're struggling with a friend at school. They hang in a group of four that are really close friends. One friend is taking her joking too far and crossing over into just being mean/teasing territory lately and it's bugging the other three. The other three went to see the school guidance counselor and asked her to help them navigate this situation and requested that she set up meetings between them so they can all talk it out. I'm honestly blown away at how mature that is and that they handled it all on their own! I'm also really grateful that they've attended a school that offers that level of support where the kids feel comfortable doing that.

Update: Beau's son just popped into my office and was like "Grandma is trying to read me a story.... like I'm a baby.... Save me...." LOL I love that kid!

[mommyatty]

I think I’m getting a stomach virus. I patently do not have time this week for a stomach virus, but my insomniac self just sacked out for 2 hrs on my couch wrapped in a quilt. FYI it’s 80 degrees outside so the quilt is significant. I’m freezing.

So I have a couple of more meetings but am really trying to mostly have a sick afternoon.

[186momx]

Had PTC conferences last night. But DD led the conference not the teacher. Normally DD doesn't attend but we came straight from the gym. DD gave me a great spiel on each of her core classes and showed me different works. It was very rehearsed to my ear. When I got to ask questions, I got the "we can't offer that, she can do advance math in iready". Speech pathologist was there, and DD graduated speech. I figured this was coming as our old person said she was just keeping DD in it so she could attend in person vs zoom to make sure everything was good. Her homeroom teacher did say that DD is very independent and doesn't ask for help even when she needs it. Laying awake last night I realized that why should DD ask for help because each time she has asked for help the last few years she has been told I'm sorry we can't help you. I think I'm going to contact her counselor at school and see if there is a way for her to get help with above grade level stuff. She has a 4. GPA but the LA individual sections had C-, B-, A+ (reading logs).

Covid and flu shots tomorrow for both DD and myself. We have a busy weekend planned for once so I hope we don't have a reaction this time.

[rere]

Vent. For the love of all... I wish one damn time in my life, Dh would decide on what to flipping do or eat. I'm tired. My brain is tired. I just want to be told where to go or when the food is coming, and I will eat it.

Update. Ds will be here on the 16th fir the holidays. It will be good having the family under one roof. Im sure he will drive me nuts, but I don't care.

[supertrooper1]

Beau's mom had to call 911 last night because someone kept knocking on her windows and doors. She's in her 70's and technically lives on her own, except Beau's brother (who has his own house) usually stays with her. But he's in Hawaii for 2 weeks on vacation. Beau's brother has said in the past that their mom was afraid to be by herself and Beau always thought it was exaggerated because there was no reason for her to be afraid. Until last night. I checked the jail logs and the guy is being held without bail for burglary and obstructing police officers. I'm so glad she is safe.

I'm still a little hoarse after having strep, but at least I can talk now. It was difficult trying to train via zoom without much of a voice.

[waverly]

I have a UTI got meds and now can feel it returning after finishing the antibiotic. Argh.

Question for y’all even though I know you’ll say I don’t have to go.

Nephew is turning 18 and I’m invited to the party. They haven’t visited since 2019. My sister did come this summer but nephew didn’t come basically because he didn’t feel like it. No one is visiting for Christmas. It’s a 5 hour drive and the weather will be iffy for driving with possible ice, freezing rain and snow. I could fly but they got rid of the regional airport flights. So even flying is a 1.5 hour drive from my mom’s house and she would have to pick me up and drop me off. I could rent a car but that seems like too much to spend for his event. I have a flight credit. Mostly the guest list is BIL’s family and they aren’t the greatest. Not terrible I guess. Many are right wing nutty. But no one I want to spend time with. Do I need to attend this event? I would totally go if it were summer and no weather issues and/ or if it weren’t these people. I have zero desire to see them and only care about seeing my sister and nephews. Plus if I don’t go I could have DD’s friend birthday party that weekend. Nephews 18th birthday is way later in the month but they planned a vacation so the party is super early. I’ve stopped attending their birthdays but only considering it because it’s a milestone, 18th.

[sandandsea]

We are in a drought. Last weekend we had a soccer tournament and it poured. This weekend we have dss bday party (planned for outdoors) and it’s going to pour so we have to reschedule. DS was devastated but knew it was a possibility. I’m crazy and decided to have all the boys over to watch elf and get in the hot tub while it rains if they want so they could still get together Saturday since everyone had already planned for it. We rescheduled the outdoor party to just be a play date/party part 2 with the nerf party company for after school the last day of school before winter break and so far it seems like most kids can do both. So now I have to clean our house so 18 eleven year old boys can come eat Cheetos and sour straws in our living room. I’m kinda in freak out I’m not ready for this at all mode now, fully brought this on myself but you’re welcome for the rain Bay Area.

[shakinros]

waverly there is no need for you to attend that! 5hrs is too far to travel for an 18yo birthday unless you’re really close.

[shakinros]

This whole semester has been exhausting. I took tomorrow off to get all the work done for my final presentation in class on Saturday. DH is all “I can’t wait for us to spend the day together!” That’s nice but no dude. I am using my vacation day to do my homework and prep for class. Back off. You can have the weekend after classes are done.

[rere]

waverly I would just let them know you already have something planned. Then maybe schedule a visit another time and give him a gift when you can actually spend time with just your family.

[waverly]

Dec 9, 2022 9:16:19 GMT -5 rere said:

waverly I would just let them know you already have something planned. Then maybe schedule a visit another time and give him a gift when you can actually spend time with just your family.

Since they are teens I normally just send money anyway. But maybe we can plan a visit for spring break.

[mommyatty]

waverly, I’m assuming he’s also graduating this year? If so, I would plan to try to attend that instead if I had to choose between the two. And yeah, just send money and a card.

[waverly]

mommyatty, he is graduating. I was thinking I might not get tickets because I know they are usually limited in quantity, and the Grandma's will want them etc. But good point, that they would most likely have a graduation party that we can attend when the weather is better than ice/ snow possibilities. January and part of February is by far the worst month for traveling.

[cjcouple]

I'm scared!!! It's been confirmed 1/3 of my son's school is out sick.  Mostly the flu.  I don't want the flu in my house!!!

[cjcouple]

waverly, I would not attend that birthday party.

[mommyatty]

Dec 9, 2022 13:18:50 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

I'm scared!!! It's been confirmed 1/3 of my son's school is out sick.  Mostly the flu.  I don't want the flu in my house!!!

The headmaster of my kids’ school told us at a party last week that 47% of the little kid school (preschool, pre-k, and kindergarten) were out sick that day. It’s insane! Lots of kids are out sick right now.

[k3am]

sandandsea, all but one of the big birthday parties I've planned at home in our drought have ended up not just with a light sprinkle, but with huge downpours. And I still continue to plan them whenever possible... just have a nice glass of moscato once the kids are gone!

[waverly]

When y'all need rain just plan an outdoor party. It rained during mine, but we get rain a lot more often so I didn't think much of it except to tell myself hmm I'm giving up on outdoor BBQs now. I've officially decided than indoors is easier.  I always thought outdoors was more romantic and it is nice, which is true, but the reality is more like stressing about the weather and carrying my kitchen outside.  Much easier to just have the food, plates, cups in my kitchen and/ or dining room.  

[twinmomma]

DD2 is obsessed with puberty. She grills me on it all the time. I love that we have such an open relationship about it. But apparently, I left out a very important detail in all of these ongoing discussions. This week she was like "Do you really have to change your pad every few hours?" and I said "Yes, that's how that works." And she responded with "Every two hours for the REST OF MY LIFE?!" Because I had failed to mention in all of our talks that a period is once a month, not every day for the rest of eternity once it starts. I was cracking up. She was horrified. Now we are all on the same page.

[mae0111]

Dec 9, 2022 13:24:45 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

Dec 9, 2022 13:18:50 GMT -5 cjcouple said:

I'm scared!!! It's been confirmed 1/3 of my son's school is out sick.  Mostly the flu.  I don't want the flu in my house!!!

The headmaster of my kids’ school told us at a party last week that 47% of the little kid school (preschool, pre-k, and kindergarten) were out sick that day. It’s insane! Lots of kids are out sick right now.

Another parochial school near us closed today.  It's about the same size as my kids' school - 200 kids, maybe less.  70 of the kids were out with various illnesses.  I'm kind of waiting for that to happen at our school.  I wouldn't be shocked if they closed early for the holidays.

[186momx]

One of our local elementary schools closes kindergarten and first classes only this week due to 75% of the classes being sick.

My arm is killing me from my covid booster.

[waverly]

Since we all had influenza already I’m assuming our school district got hit early.

Who knows if it will hit again though.

[erbear]

Awful. I’m hoping that the universe gets its shit together like now.

[waverly]

Stressing out today.

It goes back to many things but wouldn’t it be great if someone invited my kids over but they never do. I help out others and it never gets reciprocated. And yes I know I can help out less and do the effort I am comfortable with, but sometimes it would just be nice that instead of me pulling back some one else pushes forward. And yes I realize that not everyone can host. But I’ve hosted 5 times for different kids and they’ve all hosted zero times. If it were just DS I’d understand but DD is popular and has several friend groups.

[mae0111]

waverly, could you kind of propose the reciprocity? "Hey! It's such a crazy time of year... feel like trading off days so we can each get something accomplished? I can take little Timmy for the day this Saturday if you could take my DS on Sunday?" I feel like any parent would appreciate that at this time of year.

But I hear you. DD2 is waiting for a friend to come over right now. I've known her dad since I was 14 years old (not great friends, but we're pretty friendly now), and I have invited her over so many times over the years. DD2 has NEVER been invited to her house. It happens a lot with her school friends too. We are kind of out of the way so people don't think of her, but she seems to get along with almost everyone.

DD1 is a different story. She has 3 friends. 2 are super busy with sports and activities in the winter, so she doesn't see them much. One plays on 2 hockey teams and 2-3 basketball teams, so her weekends are totally booked up. The 3rd friend lives about 30 mins away, so it's just not conducive to a quick drop-in. 30 mins away means 2 hours of driving so it really has to be planned.

I'm hoping that she can get into this new school and open things up a bit for herself.

[waverly]

DH took them for a few and had them clean the house so that’s good.

On the flip side though I needed conditioner so he offered to buy it and came home with 4 shampoos. Why?

@mae I like your idea of proposing reciprocity. It’s a polite way of saying hey don’t pawn your kids off on me all the time. For example I know I mentioned before about the neighbor kids constantly being sent over to play outside. Outside is the neighbors way of not being a burden which I get but they were young enough that they did need multiple interventions so there was still a workload. They bragged they turned a basement room into a Lego room. Hmm where’s our invite for the kids to play in the Lego room? Although in fairness we were invited once which I appreciate! But it was once in 6-8 months.

[shakinros]

twinmomma same! 😂 cracks me up that in all the period talk, neither i nor anyone else had ever said a period lasts a few days. Not forever. Poor kid seemed relieved!

[mustardseed2007]

Well DD has the flu and DS has an ear infection. Everyone is now on meds - tamiflu and cold meds for dd and antibiotic and drops for DS, so I’m just waiting for the kids to start feeling better…although my throat is scratchy and I’m convinced I’m getting the flu…

Since DS only has a non contagious ear infection he went ahead and performed in his Christmas recital-he sang and it was really good?! Plus he got a 97 on his math test. So proud of him! His birthday is Monday so we’re picking up a treat for him to take to his class. No party planned because we are going to NYC for his birthday on Friday. Fingers crossed illness has come and gone by then!

[campermom]

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