I saw people posting in the Friday threat but figured why not start a Monday one.
We are driving home from all of our holiday travels. Had a fabulous time on all parts of our trip (Disney cruise, Legoland FL, and Universal). It seemed ambitious to do all that at once but we felt strongly that if we were driving to FL anyway to do it all in one swoop. If we do another cruise based out of FL I’d like to leave from Tampa and also wrap a day at Busch Gardens and maybe also the Everglades into one road trip. I’d also consider a day at just Epcot.
MIL got COVID while we were away and so our actual plans for 12/25 shifted some. This led to us going to SIL/BIL/niece’s home on 12/24 for a few hours for our Christmas exchange. All was so great and pleasant…I personally much prefer to see them separate from MIL/FIL, but alas, it’s not My family and of course ILs enjoy being under one roof.
Anyway, after gifts were opened my SIL asked DH and I to step into another room for private conversation. It turns out she has just been diagnosed with thyroid cancer. As soon as she said it we both noticed swelling in her thyroid area (throat). Evidently she went to a PCP for what she thought were panic attacks but a blood draw led to an ultrasound, which in turn led to a biopsy.
She has her first appointment with an Oncologist on 1/11.
Obviously that put a damper on things. She is only 44.
vasc, I’m sorry to hear about your SIL. A friend/acquaintance of ours (a 40ish mom with two little boys) was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and treated within the past year, and all is well now. I hope your SIL’s is able to be successfully treated, too. Let me know if you want me to try to put them in touch.
My 3 older kids are doing ymca camps (cooking and skateboarding) tomorrow through a half day Friday. I’ve texted a few babysitters to get some help here and there with my toddler this week. I don’t have any scheduled meetings but do need to do some work so clients have it in their inboxes when they come back to work 1/3. This afternoon I’m taking all the kids to legoland (it’s 20 minutes away and we have passes).
vasc, hopefully your SIL’s thyroid cancer was caught early, can be treated and hasn’t spread yet. The fact that they’re not seeing her until 1/11 gives me hope. As we learned with DD and our most recent experience with DS, when the process NEEDS to move FAST, it generally does. I can kind of imagine what they’re going through and wishing her the best.
Well DH was sick alm through Christmas. I think I willed myself well and held off sickness until Christmas is over and started last night with bad cold symptoms. Still sick today.
The kids were happy with all of their gifts and happy, so that's all that counts.
I am continuing my annoyance with Dh. He got me a wine rack. After me telling him multiple times my mom was getting one. Then went out and got a carpet shampooer after he figured out I spent more money. I mean I need one, but? All this adds up to more than the wedding band I showed him, had on my Amazon wish list, correct size and everything. This again proves he doesn't listen to a damn thing I say and doesn't care in the least.
I’m absolutely exhausted. The days leading up to Christmas were full of crazy errands and prep. Then Christmas Eve was late trying to settle the kids down, and Christmas was an early morning. I had prepped dinner for 15, and 6 adults dropped out on Christmas Eve, after everything was prepped, just because they decided they didn’t want to come.
BIL, SIL and family are here for a few days and I’m like the worst hostess ever. I made a wonderful Christmas dinner all by myself (DH mashed the potatoes and sliced the meat, but I did all appetizers, dinner, and a thousand cookies for dessert). Now I’m all done cooking - we are foraging or ordering.
I just never really recovered from being sick last weekend. I
mae0111, this year, I literally put out a sliced ham and some slider buns and told people to make their own sandwiches. I don’t feel even a tiny bit bad. We had other cheese and stuff on the table. But no actual meal.
SIL said that of all the cancers that exist, thyroid cancer is the “good cancer” because of its easy treatability. Evidently between now and 1/11 she is also getting a mammogram to ensure there’s no concerns of it spreading to breasts.
I realize it's not Monday anymore, but I had yesterday off so today is my "Monday" back to work. Thankfully it's a WFH day today. Tomorrow I'll go to the office and spend the day cleaning with my coworker. The marketing department tends to explode this time of year. We have promo, gift wrap, shipping supplies, party decor, just general stuff everywhere. We're actually both looking forward to a quiet day reorganizing and hanging out. Her kids are 1 and 2 years older than the girls, so I think we're both excited for mom hang out time after the holiday craziness.
Beau drank a bunch of wine on Christmas Day with his family and almost spilled the beans on the engagement. LOL He had to physically leave the dining room to prevent himself from sharing our news at one point. I was cracking up. We just really want to make sure the kids are the first to know.
Yesterday beau and I went to the mall. I realized after that I probably shouldn't have gone with him because he wanted to ring shop. He must have offered to go without me 10 times. But I had to pick up a couple last minute gifts (my grandmother called me and asked me to get something from her for the kids before we see her on the 1st) and I just wanted to get out of the house. I offered to leave him alone to shop solo but he didn't take me up on it.
vasc wishing your sister and family the best of luck!
Christmas Eve and Christmas were good here! My parents were supposed to arrive Friday for the week. They were two of the 7000+ travellers whose flights were cancelled last week. They now arrive later this morning.
While Christmas may have been more festive with them here, it was nice for both me and my sister not to host. Instead we took our kids ice skating Christmas Eve. The weather was beautiful and we ran into a few other families which made it even better. We went out for sushi Christmas Eve. Christmas Day was sleeping in, opening presents and having a chill dinner.
Another storm system came to our area over night. Weather is shitty, so I'm hoping my girls entertain themselves with their Christmas presents until my parents arrive later today.
DS doesn't have mono. Still trying to figure out why the rest of his bloodwork is wonky. Hopefully his pediatrician will finally stop ignoring my emails?
Post by mustardseed2007 on Dec 27, 2022 16:56:07 GMT -5
We had a very very long Christmas day since BILs asked that we move his and DH's family's celebration to the evening of Christmas to accommodate the fact that his GF's family gets together on Christmas eve. Since my family has to meet on Christmas day because my sister is a minister and is preaching all day Christmas Eve, this really means that even if it was the most pleasant of visits, I was going to run out of energy and so were the kids.
THEN GF's mom came to his family's christmas evening party (why when we are having to all meet up on Christmas to give you guys family time??). It would be fine but she's obnoxious. Like she passed the bar and worked as an attorney years and years ago (like 50 years ago) but then decided to stop being an attorney and become a color therapist and does holistic medicine instead. She's got all kinds of solutions for nephew's drinking and drug addiction. GF is also 2 years older than said nephew and 22 years younger than BIL. Also GF and BIL were vaping in the kitchen at MIL/FILs house and no one said anything, which is weird because ILs are not the type to not say anything about vaping in the house. But whatever it's their house I guess.
It was just a super weird and super long visit.
I spent all of monday not talking to anyone and watched Glass Onion and other fun TV shows. It was great!
Vent.. DS doesn't currently have mono. But may have in the past, which would explain all of his messed up labwork. They do a PCR to confirm if he currently has mono (which came back negative) and an antibody test to determine if he'd had it in the past. The nurse at the hospital did covid & MRSA tests for admission, and drew blood for the EVB tests. And mislabeled all three, so they all had to be thrown out. She redrew blood for EVB before we left.
His pediatrician called today to ask about the rash.. lady, I don't care about the rash anymore, I care about the blood work. First she tells me the EVB antibody test couldn't be run because they didn't draw enough blood.. but it isn't important because most people get mono at some point in their life. When I explained to her that the test was taken to figure out why his other levels, particularly liver, were off she admitted that she hadn't looked at any of his bloodwork. That should be like.. step one, right? Then she only focused on the liver tests only. When I asked about the other stuff, she said they indicate that maybe he developed anemia from an illness. I asked her if that would be weird to be anemic when we've been supplementing him with more than an entire day's worth of iron every day for 8+ months.. then she asks.. why did you start supplementing? Most kids don't need a supplement. BECAUSE SHE TOLD ME TO 8+ MONTHS AGO.
k3am I would be beyond irate if I were you! I’m so sorry you are dealing with all of this stress and your poor son is still just not feeling well!
Is there anyone you can escalate to and put in more complaints about the whole process? It seems like you need to almost start all the testing over again without all the screw ups. Ugh.
twinmomma we filed a grievance regarding the first lab screwup. I’m not sure what we do beyond that.
I basically told her all the tests to put in. She’s reaching out to dermatology and allergy to see if there’s anything else they want to add in, but the existing allergy requests combined with these results will be likely more than they want to take with one draw. I have a spreadsheet tracking it all.
DH and I have decided that after all this lab work is coordinated and we have results back, we’ll be switching PCPs. The doctor that we really liked isn’t taking new patients, but one of the others who was less approachable/friendly but seemed to be on top of everything else was accepting new patients again, so we’ll likely try to move to him.
Someone on the other board (pre when we migrated here) has a career that focuses on labwork and I sent all our results to her, and she was nice enough to confirm today that while the labwork is out of range, there’s nothing as big/scary that we need to be worried about. Which our PCP should have lead the call with today but didn’t. (Honestly, if the PCP had started out the call saying that some of the labwork was out of range, but nothing that she was too concerned about, I would feel entirely different.)
I’m feeling a little bit ageist. Our old PCP retired because of covid, but we knew that at his age, he wouldn’t be the kids doctor forever… there are only a handful of doctors at our practice left who aren’t very young. Which isn’t to say that you get doctors aren’t capable (DD’s second surgeon was SO YOUNG but he was absolutely amazing), but I think there’s just some bedside manner that comes with having done something for a long time.
k3am, at our pediatrician group, the oldest doctor has the worst bedside manner and our normal pediatrician (who is my age or younger) has the best. But I’m glad that the younger doctors have some older doctors to consult when there’s a tough question.
I am normally a very kind, easygoing person, but I would be so beyond angry about your situation and probably would have camped out in the office by now and told everyone who came in how incompetent the medical group is and how unresponsive the pediatrician was until they switched me to the person I liked who was no longer taking new patients. I’m only half kidding.
At the very least, I would be putting the details of your experience in a letter and sending it to the pediatrician and copying everyone I could find - medical group CEO, board members, etc. Someone in the medical group really messed up, and they should all be going out of their way to confirm what is going on with your DS and get you answers to as many questions as you have - quickly.
As expected, DH and BIL drank a ton over the last few days. DH simply could not resist getting jabs in about my family - just shitty little comments where he could. I’m not speaking to him. He doesn’t remember saying anything.
We’ve discussed this before. My fault for not reminding him not to be an asshole, I guess.
EXH got married yesterday apparently. It was supposed to be in May. I think it was to claim married in 2022 taxes and not have to wait till May to put the kids on his insurance (which is against the agreement.)
Beau's ex just tried to refuse to fly back with their son for our scheduled time with him. She was blaming the Southwest debacle and claiming she couldn't get him back to us until Saturday or Sunday. I immediately googled flights and found multiple options for tonight on another airline. She refused to book it because then she wouldn't be able to get a return flight back out. Beau and I told her we will pay for the flight, he better be on the plane tonight because she's already violating the parenting plan since he was supposed to be back this afternoon. So we just dropped $1000 to get him back here. I'm assuming she's flying with him and not sending him unaccompanied, but who knows at this point. And beau talked to a lawyer and put a retainer down today so we can take her back to court. So I guess I'm not getting an actual ring anytime soon... I hate her so much.
Post by sandandsea on Dec 28, 2022 16:16:37 GMT -5
Our flight home on southwest is Friday but we just booked a back up flight for Sunday on United as SW has already cancelled every flight tomorrow from the airport we are leaving from. Based on the news reports we aren’t counting on getting home on southwest.
twinmomma, I'm so happy beau stuck up to his X and demanded his son be returned home. I hope he has a really great lawyer, and he gets some of this crap resolved.
WPs... does anyone know how to make BBQ chicken pizza? Our friends are visiting this weekend and DD and I are making homemade pizza. DD asked what they wanted for toppings, and this was their answer. Our pizza normally contains Canadian bacon, veggies, bacon, with homemade red pizza sauce and a mixed cheese.
sandandsea yesterday she told us she knew her flight would be messed up and she had several options that she was getting ready to book. We thought she did book one. She had sent us details. Today she decided she wasn’t doing that unless we paid for it and we just wouldn’t get him back until she got around to figuring out a southwest option. And she knows that now she will be stuck here and not able to go back easily and she didn’t want to miss New Year’s with her husband. Which is not our problem even a little. She’s playing really shady games.
186momx- yes! Just put barbecue sauce instead of red sauce, mozzarella mixed with a little bit of cheddar cheese, cooked chicken breast cut into cubes, and red onions. Cook like a regular pizza.
186momx- yes! Just put barbecue sauce instead of red sauce, mozzarella mixed with a little bit of cheddar cheese, cooked chicken breast cut into cubes, and red onions. Cook like a regular pizza.
Took DS for more blood work today.. 11 vials. We have to go back for more on Friday since they didn’t want to draw enough to fill 41 labs.. yeesh. Today was the first time we’ve ever had to hold him for a blood draw. He’s usually so good at it, but his bad experience with an IV is still top of mind for him. I’m just glad it’s DS and not DD because I’d be dead and have some broken bones if it were her.
Took DS for more blood work today.. 11 vials. We have to go back for more on Friday since they didn’t want to draw enough to fill 41 labs.. yeesh. Today was the first time we’ve ever had to hold him for a blood draw. He’s usually so good at it, but his bad experience with an IV is still top of mind for him. I’m just glad it’s DS and not DD because I’d be dead and have some broken bones if it were her.