GTKY: 2023 Goals

[186momx]

Are you making any goals for 2023?

[mustardseed2007]

I've been loosing weight until the holidays I just need to get back on track. We need to be better about saving too and that's my main goal.

[mae0111]

1. Get moving and eat better. I would like to lose 10lbs, slowly and by just changing my eating and workout habits, but not really "dieting".

2. Stop the ridiculous mindless spending that DH and I have been doing. It's so dumb.

3. Try to be more patient, especially with my kids. I escalate to yelling a lot, and I'd like to stop that.

4. Get a handle on my mental health. I had some momentum but I fired my therapist in early December because I felt like she wasn't listening. Also she was extremely disorganized and since I have ADHD and am in perimenopause which exacerbates ADHD symptoms and am solely responsible for managing two kids with ADHD, I couldn't handle a disorganized mental health professional. But it took a LOT to get me to actually start going back to therapy, and I just couldn't make myself start over in December. Hoping I can push myself in Jan.

5. Work harder at staying organized. Everything from managing schedules to reducing food waste because I forgot I bought something... I'm off to a good start but it's hard for me to keep up!

[twinmomma]

1. Get back into the groove with my Peloton rides. It's been a year since I got Covid and I'm fully cleared to exercise like normal again. I feel so out of shape and like a sloth, it's going to take some work to get back into an exercise routine.

2. Get this house sold and find a new, bigger house for our family. I'm really going to crack down on decluttering and packing now that the holidays are over. We boxed up a ton of stuff in the girls' room yesterday already.

3. Try not to over-exert myself and stress myself out with grad school. I start a new class literally the day I leave for my massive work trip. It's going to be tough, but I'm determined to not take time off if I don't absolutely have to. I want to finish on time!

[waverly]

1. I've been struggling with finding time to work out. I have recently settled on 10 minute walking classes. If I let it go too late sometimes I am too tired, but 20 minutes is too hard to find in my morning routine. I think I could squeeze a 15 minute walk in there also, so having both the 10 and 15 minute classes gives me a few more options. These might turn into run/ walk or run classes, but walking for now.

2. Stretching for my plantar fasciitis.

3. I signed up for a online friendship retreat, and I have been watching her video's, and I think it is bringing me peace as friendships around me ebb and flow. No one on either side did anything really blatantly wrong, just dealing with the ebbs and flows of life and still some lingering pandemic issues (from that one friend).

4. I need to get one last immunization for the family, and then we are all caught up. And I need to get the new medical insurance cards for the kids and start scheduling them for eye, dental, and check ups.

[librarychica]

1. Cook and eat more vegetables

2. Short daily cardio exercises and a hike or kayak every weekend. I put this in the other thread, but I am focusing on exercising for enjoyment to try and set a good example for my daughter, who has asked a lot of questions about diet and health lately. I want to promote the idea that one can just exercise for fun, because it makes you feel good, though in my own head I would not mind toning up some before our spring cruise vacation.

3. No more weekday wine for a bit.

4. I am going to try setting a strict bedtime of 11 pm for a month and see how that goes.

[madringal]

1) My health is just a mess. My MG is pretty well controlled, but the meds I take for it have all kinds of other things out of whack. And the steriods have caused me to gain 40 lbs in the past year. So this year is all just about focusing on my health and understanding that being thin is not the only measure of being healthy. So my goals are to just do the behaviors I need to and to worry less about the weight. Walk 3 mi a day, hit my macros goals, drink the water, take the supplements, rest when I need to rest, etc.

2) I have got to get my spending under control. We will need to replace DHs car this year and we want to do it in cash, so goal is to just keep throwing money in the savings.

3) Read a book a week = less time on my phone I am excited about this one. I love to read and spend so much time just scrolling on my phone, should be an simple swap. This should be easy peasy!

[sdlaura]

My health-related ones I set with my friends are to lose 10 pounds (this is the first time I've ever set a diet-related new year goal, but I guess now is as good a time as any), set new PRs in my 30- and 45-minute Peloton rides, do Orangetheory at least 3 times a week (I've been at 2x/week since going back recently, but I really enjoy it and feel great on the days I do it), and have lights out by 11 pm 5 nights a week.

I'd like to be better about being on time/leaving earlier for things. I'm usually on time to things, but feel like I'm always rushing to get there. It can be very tough getting out of the house with 4 little kids, but now that the toddler is getting older, this should be more achievable.

Every year I have the goal that I want to get ahead/feel more on top of work stuff. Somehow things end up coming together and everyone else thinks I'm on top of things, but I'd like to feel more productive.

[186momx]

Normally my goal is just to survive tax season and then I will do XYZ but that just doesn't seem to happen.

I need to lose weight but if I tell anyone that they look and me and say no you don't you are so skinny. I weigh more now than when I was pregnant with DD. I don't look good at 120lbs but would like to get back to the 130 range. At my last physical the scale said close to 150 and i have no idea how it got like that. My goal is to tone up and loose the flab. I'm just not sure how to do that.

I've been really into doing my nails the last few months and I want to keep that up. It is a good 20 minutes of "me time" every 10 days or so.

[mommyatty]

DD at dinner said she had read that having a theme was better than a resolution because once you break your resolution, you just quit. So if you say “I’m going to exercise 3x per week,” when you miss 2 weeks in a row, you’re more likely to just declare it a failure. But if you set your theme as “Move”, then you get to figure out what that means to you and how to achieve it.

I’m going with “serenity” as my theme. To me that means:
- saying no and feeling ok about saying no, especially to volunteering
- working on my mental health/anxiety
- trying to use Headspace more and generally meditate because I feel so much better when I do
- don’t push so hard at work and learn to just let things be.

[k3am]

Jan 3, 2023 17:56:29 GMT -5 mommyatty said:

DD at dinner said she had read that having a theme was better than a resolution because once you break your resolution, you just quit. 

I agree with her. I'm very annoyed that my phone alerted me that I didn't close my ring for the first time in 29 days because yesterday I was feeling lazy and it was raining. Missing one day is not the end of the world, but my phone sure wants me to think it is. And today when it was cold and gloomy and things got busy, I thought.. what's the point, I've already broken my streak.. I need to just delete the fitness app, I prefer the old health app that just shows trends vs. daily goals. 

Things I need to work on this year.. 
1. Not buying all the things on Amazon as soon as I decide I need/want them. 
2. Get rid of the things I/we don't use. Half my closet is full of clothing that I bought thinking I would like it and didn't. If I haven't liked it yet, I'm not going to like it in the future. My kids have an abundance of toys that only get used when DS's bestie is over, our kitchen drawers are overflowing with stuff we don't need, etc. And our hall closet.. just how many black jackets/coats do two adults need? 

[sandandsea]

I already had to submit my annual work goals so those are done. Unofficially my goal is to work less as I’m on the cusp of burnout though no one knows. Officially it’s called “leverage more”.

For home goals I think they are pretty similar to the past but include
1. Getting the boys to and from school and their sporting activities - this takes a lot of effort so I like including it in my goals because of the effort it takes
2. Saving and giving x% of our income or $x
3. Get a new front door, back door and garage doors
4. Consider a new car for me while used prices are high
5. Purge more stuff and get closets organized
6. Figure out what’s going on with my thyroid/meds/etc. I recently (October) switched types and it’s been bad but takes time to figure out.

[rere]

I have a couple of things. I pledged a certain amount of money to our church for a new hall. I am behind on what I said i would do, but I set it up to pay online, so hopefully that will be done this year. I also want to do a dance fitness class during the winter when it's too cold outside. I found one, now just to get motivated by next Tuesday. I want to get the director title by summer. Ive had the conversation, so I guess I just need to keep it going.

[186momx]

k3am, I live in Oregon we have all the jackets and actually rotate through 90% of them during the year. Even old jackets are kept because they turn into great yard work coats.

mommyatty, your DD comment is perfect!

My theme for 2023 is more ME TIME.
-cooking my favorite foods even though DH doesn't like them more often
-taking time to read
-setting up boundaries with clients
-friend time

[supertrooper1]

I agree with the idea of having a theme instead of firm goals. I am the type that would give up if I missed my goals so I have broad goals I would like to reach. I mentioned my fitness goals in another post. The scale has been moving slowly, but at least it's been in the right direction. I'm seeing progress at the gym. Beau and I have been eating out too much and we've decided to cook more at home which will help with fewer calories and portion control.

Eating out less should help with our goals to get our spending under control. I know what I spend each month but haven't been able to save much because of attorney bills. Those should come to an end soon. But Beau is terrible with his money so he's working to come up with a plan to be better at knowing where his money is going.

I need to declutter. I haven't figured out how to make this happen so I don't give up.

[supertrooper1]

186momx, I would meal prep my lunches and overtime dinners on Sundays for the week for my old job and this is when I would make foods that ex-H didn't like. It worked great for me except for hearing him complain that the house would smell like tikka masala lol.

[186momx]

supertrooper1, I really love meat, mashed potatoes, and gravy. DH says I'm killing myself when I cook these meals. I always make extra, so I have leftovers for a couple days. DH would prefer if we ate pasta and breads day in and day out and I just can't do it.

[sdlaura]

186momx, he's probably killing himself more with all the carbs than you are with more varied food

[sandandsea]

I’m checking off boxes. Just set up my new dentist appt and thyroid follow up appt. I’ve been meaning to switch dentists for 2 years and one never called me back so it fell off the list and now it’s gotten to the embarrassing point where I haven’t been in almost 2 years because I’ve been busy. Somehow I managed to take the kids to theirs every 6 months but never found time for me.

[erbear]

Not return to my shitty administration gig until my boss admits I was right

For real though: no drinking on weeknights, walk every day, start a weight training routine, stretch every morning, schedule the five doctors appointments I’ve been putting off.

[erbear]

Jan 4, 2023 21:16:01 GMT -5 erbear said:

Not return to my shitty administration gig until my boss admits I was right

For real though: no drinking on weeknights, walk every day, start a weight training routine, stretch every morning, schedule the five doctors appointments I’ve been putting off.

We did the one word project at school today and I settled on BREATHE

[dglvrk2]

I love the idea of a theme instead of new tasks too.

With that in mind, I'm hoping to generate more positivity this year. Under this, I'm hoping to:
- not trash talk politicians or a certain party in front of my children. They don't have the context to understand I'm being sarcastic and this is otherwise inappropriate for their ages.
- praise my children more for their actions and efforts, that deserve this recognition
- recognize my own parents' efforts more
- look for what I do right. I tend to dwell on what I do or say that *may be* not perfect. It's dragging me down and I worry it could do the same for my family.

H switched to working part time as of January 1 to save his company money. We are fortunate to be in a position to afford this as long as we don't impulse buy stuff. Hence, I'm going to be more careful about personal purchases this year.